Who Told You That? Before You Believed it, Someone Whispered it!

[00:00:01] There's a question in Scripture that I don't think we spend nearly enough time thinking about. It's one of the very first questions God asks humanity. And I believe it's still one of the most important questions we can ask ourselves today.

[00:00:21] Adam and Eve had just eaten the fruit for the very first time they were hiding. For the very first time they were afraid. They were ashamed. And God comes looking for them. Not because He didn't know where they were, but because He wanted relationship before restoration.

[00:00:47] Adam says, I was afraid because I was naked. And then God asks one simple question. A question that echoes across generations. Who told you that? Just sit with that for a moment. He didn't ask, why are you hiding? He didn't ask, what's wrong with you?

[00:01:13] He didn't begin with condemnation. He began with curiosity. Who told you that? He genuinely cared like a loving father. And perhaps that's still one of the most healing questions we could ask ourselves today. Because many of us have spent years believing things about ourselves.

[00:01:41] Things that we never stopped to question. So settle in with me for a moment. Grab your favorite people, your favorite person. For me, it's my favorite people. Grab your healthy snack. Because I wonder what might change if we become curious about the voices we've been living under.

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[00:02:23] She founded an architectural concrete company. He founded a hundred million dollar clothing company. She took the world by storm as a social media star. He took the world by storm as a famous serial entrepreneur. Together we started a business. And had babies. Now we're figuring out the best ways to do both. Join us as we learn from other entrepreneurs going through the same life struggles. As they share their life hacks about success, love, kids.

[00:02:51] And everything in between. Hello, my friend, and welcome back to becoming unshakable the legacy conversations bonus series, a special edition brought to you by the entrepreneur parents podcast, a community of families building lives of faith, courage, and lasting legacy.

[00:03:12] I'm your host, Ildiko Ferenzi. And today, I don't want to talk about what you've accomplished or what you've overcome. I want to talk about something much quieter. The beliefs we carry about ourselves. Because sometimes the hardest battles we fight aren't happening around us. They're happening within us.

[00:03:40] The conversations we have with ourselves. In the labels we've accepted. In the stories we've believed. And sometimes those stories didn't begin with us. Last week, we talked about that fearless child. The little boy who believed he could be a superhero.

[00:04:06] A little girl who believed she could be a princess. Or an astronaut. A businesswoman. Children have this beautiful confidence that says, the world is full of possibility. And somewhere along the way, for many of us, something changed.

[00:04:30] Last week, we asked, what happened? What happened to that child? Right? But today, I want to ask a different question. A deeper question. Because perhaps confidence, it wasn't simply lost.

[00:04:50] Perhaps it was slowly buried beneath words, expectations, labels, and beliefs that were never meant to define us. Which brings us back to one of the most powerful questions in all of scripture. Who told you that?

[00:05:13] Now listen. One of the things we know from developmental psychology is that children don't simply experience life. They interpret it. Two children can live through similar circumstances and quietly walk away with completely different beliefs.

[00:05:33] One child thinks, one child thinks, I have to be perfect. Another thinks, I have to make everyone happy. Another quietly decides, my needs don't matter. And another begins believing, if I disappoint people, if I disappoint people, they won't love me.

[00:06:01] Those beliefs aren't usually chosen. They're absorbed, repeated, reinforced until eventually, they no longer feel like beliefs. They feel like it's your personality. They feel like your identity. They feel like this is just who I am. This is who I am.

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[00:07:49] Some quietly learned, I'm valuable when I achieve. So they spent their lives chasing accomplishment, hoping success will finally quiet the question of whether they're enough. Others learned, I'm valuable when I keep the peace. So they became experts at reading the room, managing everyone else's emotions while quietly ignoring their own.

[00:08:16] Others learned, I'm valuable when I take care of everyone else financially. So receiving help feels incredibly uncomfortable. Rest feels selfish. And saying no feels almost impossible. And some quietly learned, if I stop meeting everyone else's expectations, I might lose their love.

[00:08:45] Can you imagine carrying one of those sentences for decades? No wonder so many people feel exhausted or worse depressed because of these expectations that were put on them as children. That it's okay for others to need and want. But when it's your turn, when you're down and out, you better not ask.

[00:09:10] You better not even have, you better not even have any kind of need in the world. No wonder people struggle with guilt. Some people don't know who they are. Apart from what they do for others around them. Somewhere along the way, sadly, they confused being loved with being useful.

[00:09:37] But healthy love doesn't require you to constantly prove your worth. Healthy love allows you to receive without guilt. It allows you to give. But it cannot be a one-way street. That's toxic. Healthy love celebrates your growth. Not just your usefulness.

[00:10:04] Healthy love rejoices when you invest in your faith. When you invest in your holy covenant. In your babies. And the calling God has entrusted you. That has entrusted to your care. The people who truly love you don't only celebrate what you could do for them. Or give them.

[00:10:32] They celebrate who you're becoming. They don't ask you to neglect your holy covenant God has entrusted to your care. In order to preserve expectations that no longer belong to the season of your life. Healthy love celebrates when your marriage grows stronger. When your babies flourish. When your home becomes more peaceful. When your relationship with God grows deeper.

[00:11:04] Because love doesn't compete with your God-given calling. It rejoices in it. The interesting thing is beliefs don't stay in childhood. They quietly follow us into adulthood. They follow us into marriage. Into parenting. Into friendships. Even business. Sometimes the person who can't rest. They aren't lazy.

[00:11:35] They're carrying a belief. The person who can't say no. You know those people? They cannot say no. They're not weak. They're carrying a belief. Sometimes the person who constantly feels like they have to prove themselves. Isn't chasing success. They're chasing worth.

[00:12:03] And until we recognize the sentence we've been living under. We'll keep trying to solve the wrong problem. What I love about Genesis is that God never agrees with Adam's shame. He questions its source. Who told you that?

[00:12:31] Because not every voice deserves authority over your identity. Not every opinion deserves a permanent place in your heart. Not every sentence spoken over you came from God. Remember that. And perhaps healing begins when we stop asking, what's wrong with me?

[00:12:59] And start asking, who told me that? Because the loudest voice in your life should never be your deepest wound. It should be the God who created you. And I feel like today's aha moment is that you don't have to believe every thought simply because you've thought it for years.

[00:13:28] Free yourself. You don't have to keep repeating every sentence someone else spoke over you. Stop building a future around words that never came from God. Instead, you can begin asking a different question. Is this truly God's voice? Or is this an old wound trying to sound like the truth?

[00:13:55] Because one voice leads you toward fear, anxiety, depression. The other leads you towards freedom, love. One keeps you hiding. And the other keeps calling you out of hiding.

[00:14:18] And maybe today God is asking you the very same question he asked Adam. Who told you that? Grab your journals and something to write with. Take a moment to slow down and reflect. Don't judge any of this. Just write it down. You could talk about it with your spouse.

[00:14:48] What belief about myself have I expected without ever questioning its source? When did I first begin believing that? Is that belief drawing me closer to God? Or further away from who he created me to be?

[00:15:18] What truth from scripture do I need to replace that belief with? What would change if I started listening to God's voice? More than my deepest wound. Or the people that cause the most pressure and expectation around me? Let's come together in prayer, my friends. My prayer warriors. My prayer partners.

[00:15:48] As we always say, if two or more come together in prayer. Heavenly Father, thank you for being a God who comes looking for us. Even when we're hiding. Thank you for loving us enough to question the lies we believed. Give us wisdom to recognize the voices that have shaped us.

[00:16:16] Give us courage to realize beliefs that never came from you. Replace fear and anxiety with truth. Replace shame with grace. Replace striving with peace. Help us hear your voice above every other voice. And remind us that identity is not found in our performance.

[00:16:45] Or what we could do or give. Our past. Or others' opinions. It is found in you. In Jesus' name. Amen. Friends, if you've been carrying a sentence that has quietly shaped your life. Today doesn't have to be the end of your story. It could be the beginning of a new one.

[00:17:16] It's never too late to let those beliefs go. The moment you begin questioning a lie, truth finally has room to speak. Don't let the loudest voice in your life be your deepest wound. Let God's voice be the loud one. The God who has called you loved.

[00:17:46] Who has called you to greatness. Who has called you to create great things. To build something amazing with your family. He called you chosen, redeemed. And enough through Christ. Christ. The question that changes your life may not be, What's wrong with me? I hope not anyway. It may simply be, Who told me that?

[00:18:17] Who made me believe that? If this conversation encouraged you today, would you share it with someone you love? Because you never know who might be carrying a belief that they were never meant to carry alone. And if Becoming Unshakeable has been encouraging you every week, thank you for leaving a kind review and five stars.

[00:18:44] It helps these conversations reach more hearts, more homes, and more families. I truly, we truly love this community. And we're grateful for all the work that you put, not only in yourselves, but in your holy covenant. It's beautiful. And I also would love for you guys, I want to personally invite you

[00:19:12] to listen to the Entrepreneur Kids Legacy Show with Daniel and Destiny. They have such beautiful episodes that you could play in the background, screen free. And if you'd like to help support the show, you can do that. You can do that at buymehealthy.com backslash entrepreneur kids and keep the mission going of planting seeds for future leaders, future courageous leaders. If Daniel would have heard that, he would have been like,

[00:19:42] mommy, Destiny would have been like, mommy, courageous young, courageous young leaders of tomorrow. Friends, may you, may you have the courage to question every voice that has spoken fear over and into your life. May you have the wisdom to recognize the difference between old wounds and God's truth. May your heart become quieter

[00:20:11] so his voice becomes clearer. And may you walk forward this week not defined by what others have said about you, but by what your heavenly father has declared over you from the very beginning. God bless you. Glory to God always. We love you. And we're proud of you for showing up, for healing, for glow, growing,

[00:20:40] glowing and growing. How about that? And for continuing to build an unshakable legacy. This is becoming unshakable by the Entrepreneur Parents podcast. We can't wait to see you soon. Thank you, beautiful friends, for listening to this important message from Mama. They're with someone you love and care about. Oh, and we'd love to personally

[00:21:09] invite you to listen to our podcast. It's for young, future leaders ready to change the world and be a light in the dark. Listen together as a family. It's called the Entrepreneur.

[00:21:45] You're doing a remarkable job. You are the hero of your story. Because every legacy begins with a hero. And that hero is you. This podcast is for inspirational and educational purposes only, and it is not intended to replace professional advice, legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views expressed

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