EP 222: The Mothers in the Trenches: Raising the Future
Entrepreneur Parents Pretty and Punk Podcast
Hosted by Dan Caldwell & Ildiko Ferenczi
In this powerful tribute to moms everywhere, Dan and Ildiko pull back the curtain on the emotional and identity-shifting journey many mothers face, especially those who’ve stepped away from the workforce to raise their children.
This episode dives deep into what it means to be a mother “in the trenches,” doing the unseen, uncelebrated work of shaping the next generation. Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or juggling both worlds, this conversation honors your strength, sacrifice, and silent battles.
Dan shares a personal tribute to Ildiko and the extraordinary mothers who give their all, despite the challenges no one sees. Together, they explore the beauty, purpose, and unmatched value of motherhood in today’s world.
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[00:00:00] Sometimes we don't acknowledge our spouses when they're going through stuff because we think that they know, you know, they know that we appreciate them or they know that, you know, we're thinking about them or they know that we're thankful for them, but we don't say it and we don't say it enough and we should. Yes. So I think that... Why'd you look at me and say that? I say it all the time. What are you talking about?
[00:00:28] Yeah. Well, I mean, I'm sure I could say it more, but okay. What's it to look for? Like you can say something now. I'm just looking at you. Okay. Don't look at me like that. I say it a lot. I say it. Do you feel guilty about something? No, but I'm wondering why you're calling me out here on air in front of like thousands of people here. Uh, no.
[00:00:58] Ooh, that's better, right, babe? Yeah! Yeah. She founded an architectural concrete company. He founded a hundred million dollar clothing company. She took the world by storm as a social media star. He took the world by storm as a famous serial entrepreneur. Together we started a business. And had babies. Now we're figuring out the best ways to do both. Join us as we learn from other entrepreneurs going through the same life struggles.
[00:01:28] As they share their life hacks about success, love, kids. And everything in between. Thank you for being such an amazing mommy Ildico. I know you're powering through more than most people will ever know with your health. And still our kids get your very best every single day. I couldn't ask for a better mother for our children. This is to my beautiful mommy. You're the best mommy ever. And you're always here for me when I need you.
[00:01:57] You're always so nice to me. And I love you forever. I love you, mama. You're my best friend. Let's change the world together. Welcome to this week's Entrepreneur Parents Pretty and Punk Podcast. My name is Dan Caldwell. And I'm here with my beautiful wife and co-host. Ildico Ferenzi. Hi guys. And we have a great podcast for you guys today.
[00:02:23] And that podcast, and even though we've, uh, were a couple days past, we didn't release a Mother's Day podcast. So we wanted to do. Before. Yeah, before. Before. After. So, you know, when you release time release podcasts, sometimes you forget what's running where. And so now we're doing one after. So we're doing an after one. And it's really about, it's a tribute to mothers who are in the trenches because they are not just raising children. They are raising our future. Yes.
[00:02:53] And so, uh, we are excited about that. But before we jump into that. Hey guys, we hope you're enjoying today's episode of the Pretty and Punk Podcast. And if you are, and you haven't already hit that like, then subscribe button. It just takes a second. It means so much to us because it really helps the podcast get out there to more listeners like you guys. And if you know anybody, it might help and you can send it to them. And we really appreciate that too. We also love and appreciate your reviews. Even the babies look forward to them every day.
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[00:03:50] And we're so proud and grateful to have you a part of this family. So don't forget the sh, all the links are below in the show notes. And thank you again. And let's get back to the show. They told you motherhood would slow you down. But what if I told you mothers like you are the ones raising leaders and changing the future.
[00:04:16] So this episode today that Dan and I are doing is for mothers building empires and bedtime routines for the women becoming one flesh with their husbands, breaking generational curses and saying no to distractions, trying to divide the legacy. Today's episode is a tribute, not a title, but to a mission to the women in the trenches right now.
[00:04:47] And I know moms that this is something that's really viral as in being a negative thing, that you're losing your identity and you're losing your best you. And I feel, I really truly feel like that's the, that's the enemy talking because the truth is
[00:05:13] while you're wiping the noses and launching the business and druggling and you're holding down the home or building the business with your husband while raising these future leaders. And you're doing it all with elegance and maybe an elegance that you don't really notice or see, but there's this grit and this grace and it's mixed up and it's a, just a different season.
[00:05:38] And if we could just see it as that, that it's just a different season and every season changes. So we have to look at the blessing within that and understand that we were chosen. We were anointed for this and we have everything within us, no matter what we feel, because our mind will try to play tricks on us saying that we're not good enough or we can't do this.
[00:06:04] We have to just shoot those shots out of our head or those thoughts, not shots. No shooting shots. No shooting shots. No shooting shots. It's a children's show. Yeah. Yeah. Shoot those, shoot those thoughts out of your head because that's just the enemy talking because they know that you were anointed and chosen for this. Yeah. My, I, I think, you know, I don't know.
[00:06:30] I think it's, I think sometimes people like are worried about what people are worried, thinking from the outside, looking in, you know, looking at them on their social media and they're worried that their friends are saying that they've, you know, they're, they're just a stay at home mom. They're not that person anymore that they used to be.
[00:06:51] And they're not, rather than embracing it, like it, to me, it sounds like such a noble cause that I, my mom was an amazing stay at home mom. And I, I mean, I think I would, I know I wouldn't be the person who I am without her. And I, as much as I might not have thought about it back then, I, I, today I, I'm, I feel so blessed that my mom was that person. And, and she did go to work too.
[00:07:20] There were times when, you know, times in our life that she had to go back to work. Um, but, uh, but many times she went to work at our school. I remember being, she, she, she needed a little extra money and she, she was a yard duty, you know, the, in, at our lunchtimes and, and worked at our school a little bit for some extra money. And that was, to me, that was just so, to have her there, it just always felt like when I look back, I think about my mom is always there for me.
[00:07:47] And maybe I'm a little bit of a mama's boy, but I, but I, I love the moms embrace that when they embrace that, when they really just sit back in it. And rather than being worried about it, embrace the fact that this is a calling, this is a calling to a purpose. Before you reach for that coffee, consider this. What if the energy boost you're looking for isn't in your cup, but in your cells? I challenge you to swap your morning coffee for Sheila J by Symbiotica.
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[00:09:03] Click the link below down in the bio and get your Sheila J today. Yeah. I, I, I, that, I mean, there's no shame in that. If you decide to be a stay at home, of course, that's wonderful. And today's, when we're, we're talking about that, about just being a mother and you're no longer able to walk into that boardroom and you had to pause your platform.
[00:09:28] Not because we have given up as mothers, but because we've chosen something greater. Now that we have our children, it's, I'm not just staying home. I'm creating a legacy here with my children. I'm not just sitting and playing with them and entertaining them. Maybe I didn't use strong enough words. We are creating this legacy and that's what you and I are doing.
[00:09:56] And it's not your traditional mother role. It's not like, okay, I'm going to make them lunch. We're going to play. We're going to, yes, we do all those things, but we incorporate our children. And I think that's kind of where I opened your eyes as to the way that I was raised. And that's why there are such a huge movement right now where I was, I was, I was in my mom's first, my mother and my father, their first business.
[00:10:26] They had the, they had the transmission shop and they had a gas station, but I was in a little basket behind the counter. Then it went to the transmission shop and I was in a basket in the office. I was in, what is it called?
[00:10:42] In, in, in this mood, uh, uh, in the entrepreneur world as a little baby, but it was fun and we had fun building and we understood what it was like to build something together as a family. And you also have to be so careful to not let the enemy come in and divide you guys.
[00:11:07] Because if the enemy gets a foot in to divide you guys, then that whole thing that you built could potentially fall apart. And that fell apart for my family. And this is a great example. It fell apart. My dad started going one way and then my mom was left another way and it fell apart. And here's the beautiful thing though. Like, I really want you guys to understand something.
[00:11:33] Somebody said to me the other day of, oh, I, I feel so bad for you because, you know, your dad abandoned you guys and that must affect you now. And, and, uh, it must've affected you so badly when you were a child. But I have to say my mother's strength and her love and my brother being the father figure. I know Brett was talking about it.
[00:11:59] I, I can't remember her last name, but she kind of went through the same thing that I did where we didn't, I didn't really notice that my dad was, was gone because I had so much love and I was included in everything. So I wasn't lonely. And then when I grew up, we had a great heart to heart.
[00:12:19] And he explained to me that, you know, I had to, I messed up in my first relationship. I made big mistakes, but now I have to give it my all. I have to give it my all. I am one flesh with my wife and she comes first and this new family comes first. And I understood that so well.
[00:12:46] And as a child, young, young child, it, it, I didn't understand it. But as an adult now I could cheer him on and just respect him for doing it right. Why? Because you don't always get a second chance and you can't dwell on it. And you can't, if you've gone through divorce, if you're a child of divorce, you cannot blame your.
[00:13:15] Unsuccess or your problems in life on your parents. You have to pull up your, your, what is it called? Big boy's pants. Your big boy, big girl's pants. Big girl pants. And you have to take the lesson and you have to change your life. What happened? For my family, they went in different directions. Sometimes people don't understand what they're, they don't understand that they should be dating to marry.
[00:13:42] They're just dating for fun and they may get together with the wrong person and things happen. And then later after children happen, they're like, oh my gosh, I would never even have a conversation with this person on the street. Well, these are conversations that we need to teach our children. What are you looking for in a spouse? What kind of person do you want to end up with?
[00:14:07] Because in all fairness, you need to have that conversation to be able to lead these children, to raise these children. And it's so important as a mother, when you're raising the children to have these conversations. And also like you and I, we're building something together. We're not the, we're, we're back to the traditional, traditional. Because there was a traditional where you build together as a family. Yeah.
[00:14:35] And then that got lost in, in the new, the new age of modern where the man. Modern families. The modern family. In the 50s. The man goes to work, the woman comes home. Well, how many affairs happened from that and the loneliness and resentment? And then there was the enmeshment issues where daddy was at work all day and mommy had to bounce her emotions and her love off the children, off the sons or daughters.
[00:15:04] And then that causes enmeshment in right now that we're dealing with our, a lot of men have enmeshment. And then there's also just these, this, this toxicity, which we have to be so careful to have that balance of the mother and father at home with the children.
[00:15:24] If you can, if you can build that way, because you don't want to be growing apart from your, your wife, especially while she's going through all this postpartum. And you want to have that balance, which I don't mean balances. There is a perfect balance because there really, really isn't. There will never be a perfect balance. There will never be. Yeah. But you can find where it works and it works for, it works in different places. That's right. Different people.
[00:15:53] And I'm saying, I'm not saying that there is the, the man that works nine to five or whatever his hours are. He can shave them down some days or maybe some days they're longer, but he definitely connects to the date night. And when the babies are young and you're in that season, you may not have date night. Remember? Like it's not, it's not always, oh, we get to go out because you may not have the community or the babysitter. There's so much crazy stuff going on right now.
[00:16:21] I don't think I'd leave my kids with anyone either, but you can have a nice dinner at home. And even if you don't have time to run out and buy a card, use a kid's crayons, fold the paper in half, just make some efforts, whatever it is. You know, you know, your wife the best, right?
[00:16:38] You know, I mean, there's, you know, there's a lot of responsibility that comes with being a mother and the time and effort and the things that they put into, you know, lots of times us as men, we, we, we show up, we, you know, play a game or something, you know, throw it, throw out a board game, play a game of Monopoly. And, you know, we feel like we've done our job or take them out camping and we feel like we've done our job.
[00:17:06] But there's so much more to raising children, so much more to, to, to running a household. And we, I think we really have to respect and understand what the efforts that women are putting into being mothers and wives. And that's where we get this one day a week or one day a year. And we really need to remember it throughout the year.
[00:17:28] I think we need to make sure that we're, that we're respecting that and seeing where our moms need help or we can contribute and help cleaning around the house or helping with other things and other chores that, that, that moms are doing and the responsibilities that they take on sometimes because it can be unfair.
[00:17:49] I've seen, you know, have you seen these fathers that are, that are, these, how do I say fathers, these husbands that are, that their wives work and their, and the husbands work. But when the husbands come home, it's like they're, they just sit down and watch, watch television or, you know, throw, throw a movie on or take a nap. But, but the wives are working too. They're at work all day too.
[00:18:14] But when they come home, they're expected to wash the dishes, take care of the kids, make dinner. I mean, I couldn't, I would, yeah. Like you can't, I mean, you can't call yourself a man if you're not, if you're not being a part of, of helping your wife get through that. We're, you know, sharing in a lot of these responsibilities, 50, 50, or at least picking responsibilities that you can take on to make her life a little bit easier. Listen up friends.
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[00:20:23] Or even sometimes it's the conversations and the connections. Because it gets really lonely, especially as a mother in the trenches or a first-time mother. Well, that's why we're supposed to be a team. It does get lonely. Yeah, it gets very lonely if you have no one to connect with. And it's just you have to remember that. And those fathers that do the nine-to-five alongside with the wives, which is happening so often.
[00:20:52] And I feel like when we've been discussing it with our community, it's a little bit of a trap because you're working. And then you're paying someone else to raise your babies. And then there's that mental load and the thought for the mother and hopefully the father too.
[00:21:08] And is there a different, is there anything that you can do to try to break that momentum of the best? I mean, in these core years especially, if you could try to figure out something to do together where you're able to pour into your children.
[00:21:34] Not have them in, because we all know now with the statistics and the research that daycare and even schooling, it really affects children negatively. And it's so sad because those guys are at work and they're doing their best. But they're just, oh, sending their kids off to school. I hope the kids, or I hope the schools teach them well. I hope the schools teach them well.
[00:22:04] It's a choice. I hope. We've chosen not to send our kids to school off like that. But it's a choice that everybody has to make. And they have to make that. That's a personal choice. But it's hard. And I was just listening to someone saying, no, as men, we need to be the leaders. We need to bring them in and incorporate them into our worlds because we need to be the examples.
[00:22:25] And as mothers, I feel that a lot of moms, mothers are banding together right now to, yes, I don't want them to learn those bad habits. I want them to be in close proximity within me and my husband doing and being included. And I want to be giving them the lessons.
[00:22:47] I want to be giving them the example so that it's not a coin toss and you're hoping it turns out well because you never know. Well, that's odd. I'm hoping that women, you know, not, and I think a lot of women do.
[00:23:05] But I think there's, you know, unfortunately, there's a lot of women, too, that don't embrace that, that don't, you know, that are trying to separate their lives in some way. And I think that kids, they really need their moms. They just really do. There's something that moms bring to the table that is really hard for. And fathers, too. And, of course, they need a father. Of course, that's a whole other, that's next month.
[00:23:32] But there's something that mothers bring to the table that kids just need and they need to be around their moms. They need to have their moms. It's that nurturing and that, you know, and then there's obviously what men are there for is balance. You know, we balance it. We bring the balance. There's a part that women bring and there's a part that men bring. And there's an equal balance that really helps. But, I mean, of course, we're talking about moms this week.
[00:24:00] Having everybody there is such a security. And when someone's missing, mother or father, it causes an anxiety and it causes this type of perhaps trauma. But then here's the thing. Is it possible, say you're facing some of those things, either say you're a newly single mother or your husband's working a lot.
[00:24:27] Are you able to bring in father figures? I feel like that was so, so important for us. Because my mom, she was a single mom. But she didn't hang out with a bunch of stay-at-home moms. Okay. We were in the business and we had father figures like the mayor, powerful attorneys, doctors. My godfather was an incredibly successful entrepreneur.
[00:24:56] So these are the males that we had in our lives. They would come over, watch the ball game with my brother. They would have conversations about politics. So we had a lot, we had a great community. And I think that that's what we're building too, even though our audience is, most of them are still married. But I feel like they still need that variety of powerful entrepreneurs.
[00:25:26] Yes, absolutely. Just powerful male figures. Right. You can't, I say this with love, not that you can't, but I feel like you really need to have good examples around you. Because you become what you surround yourself with. I mean, Dan and I were kind of joking about it. He went away. He had to leave. And he was looking so good and so fit before he left.
[00:25:53] And then he goes away for 10 days and he comes back and he's pudgy again. Like, dude, what are you doing? You're all swollen. I was eating well. Anyway, this is a different topic. And I know if you fall off, you become, you become who you're swollen. You become who you surround yourself with. But we'll fix that. I'll make you nice homemade food. You become who you surround yourself with.
[00:26:21] So if you have these powerful forces around you as father figures, or even say the mother's working, do you have your sisters or cousins or someone that is really the kind of person that you would like to have around your daughters and sons? You have to be so calculated about this. You really do.
[00:26:46] And even though Dan and I are together, Daniel is always, always surrounding himself with uncles that aren't blood. Some of the, many of them, but they are incredibly powerful entrepreneurs. Incredibly powerful in the world where he wants to be in. And he keeps these, he nurtures these relationships.
[00:27:14] And I think that our children need that. Yeah. I mean, it was, it was good that, you know, and it's not, it's not what we want for, for families. You know, we want families to be together, to stay together, to do it right. That's what we call doing it right. Well, not break up, but definitely, I guess what I'm trying to say. Not end up in divorce, but sometimes it happens and it happens. And, you know, how do you fix that? And moms take on this double load. Now they're left working, trying to support a family. It's hard.
[00:27:44] And, and they're raising kids, raising their children. And it's, I, it's must be really, really hard work. Yeah. It was, it was hard. I, I think about it a lot. And they don't get their due. They don't get their due. Yeah. I think about it a lot where my mom, it seemed so easy for her.
[00:28:09] And I was saying my mom, she never had, she never had a handout. No, no, nothing came easy. She worked so hard for it, but I kind of, I feel like it just felt natural. Like my mom was a superhero where she would work in the day and at night. And then we were going to Europe every year. She made that happen.
[00:28:36] And I think about it now saying, one, I wouldn't want to work that hard because now I realize how hard she really worked. And, um, two, I don't think a woman should ever have to work that hard, which I feel like this is why I'm so strong. And I feel like women like that raise strong, confident, successful leaders. But at the same time, that was because of a lot of the people she surrounded herself with.
[00:29:04] But I don't wish that life on anyone. So if there are the single moms, because it's Mother's Day and as a tribute, try to think of creative ways that you could be some kind of asset to them. Yeah. You know, some kind of mentor for their children. Well, yeah. I mean, obviously your own children first.
[00:29:27] How do you be, how do you be that person that appreciates your wife today? What can you do in your family? What can you do on a regular basis? What can you add to your routine? So if you're this husband that comes home every day and maybe has kind of a little bit of a routine of what they do, what you do, you know, how can you add to your routine that something
[00:29:56] that might help your wife in her day-to-day life? Because she has a lot on her plate. And sometimes we don't acknowledge our spouses when they're going through stuff because we think that they know, you know, they know that we appreciate them or they know that, you know, we're thinking about them or they know that we're thankful for them, but we don't say it and we don't say it enough and we should. Yes.
[00:30:23] So I think that, why'd you look at me? Like, I say it all the time. What are you talking about? Well, I mean, I'm sure I could say it more, but okay. What's it to look for? Like you can say something out. I'm just looking at you. Okay. Don't look at me like that. I say it. I say it a lot. I say it. Do you feel guilty about something? No, but I'm wondering why you're calling me out here on air in front of like thousands of people here. Okay.
[00:30:52] Therapist. Therapist. We need a therapist right now. So I'm just saying like, what can we do to remind our wives what, you know, that we appreciate them? So guys, call to action. If you, if you haven't do it, if you haven't done it and you're not doing it now, try to remember to do that, you know, just surprise them with something. Maybe bring them home some flowers, you know, as a surprise or just say thank you or say something about some appreciation.
[00:31:20] You know, you appreciate the work that they put into the kids every day or whatever it might be, but just show them that you appreciate them. Let them know that you appreciate their hard work and all the time and effort and that they put into, you know, being a mom and, and being a mom to you too. Hopefully, hopefully they're not too much of a mom to you. Yeah. I, I, one of my, one of my girlfriends just was saying that last year her husband started
[00:31:50] writing in this journal every day, something that he appreciated about his, about her and, um, and she got it for Mother's Day and she, he also included the children. She said that this cost nothing, but it was the most valuable thing that is now going to be an heirloom probably, but just little things like that.
[00:32:15] Get creative and just do something out of the ordinary that she would appreciate. And just, it, not only she said, was it the most thoughtful, amazing gift that she received, but it really helped their relationship because she started going through this and reading what her husband wrote and the children wrote. And it was just this emotionally beautiful rollercoaster for her.
[00:32:43] And moms, just remember, you haven't lost your value. You're, you multiplied it. And I know sometimes we have this hard time claiming who we are right now, but we were, as I said, we're anointed for this. We were chosen for this and we know our children the best. We're able to observe them. We're able to spend that time with them and pour into it, into them because no children, no child is the same.
[00:33:12] My, my son and my daughter are just like your children. I'm sure they're listening. Your children are completely different. My son loves to speak on stages and, and change the world. And my daughter likes to be behind the mic and doing, and doing different things to change the world and, and bring positivity and inspiration to people. And it may be something else.
[00:33:40] You just need to be connected with them and see where you want or where you need to pour into them because it's not our journey that we're living through them. It's not our second chance of, oh, it didn't work out with cheerleading. So I'm going to put my daughter in cheerleading. No, you need to watch and, and, and, and instinctually search for those little signs.
[00:34:07] And that's what you were anointed to do to bring life and, and, and bring out their God-given destiny. That's what I'm trying to say here. Bring out their God-given destiny. Just like we all have a God-given destiny. And sometimes there's pivots around the way to figure out who we are. Like, I really feel like this, this podcast is such a gift because we're really speaking
[00:34:31] to the, the parents that didn't have a community for so long. And now there's other people that are doing the same, that are in this movement to create better men and better marriages and better women and leaders, children that have the, the, the, the confidence to be leaders. And it needs to start young. And Daniel talks about it too. How can you lead your family?
[00:35:01] How can you lead a team? And how can you lead a business? And especially most importantly, what you're anointed to do as a husband, how do you lead your wife? Nothing else really matters because as you're supposed to leave and cleave and then you become one flesh with your spouse, if you can't lead her in the right direction and every woman is different, some are more emotional, or even we go through seasons after the baby, as
[00:35:27] we're talking about women in the trenches, they're a little bit more emotional, perhaps not always, but perhaps even through pregnancy, we need to figure out how to be that leader. So we are blessed with that. And you wanted to say something? Well, I just want to say, you know, I think the best thing we can do for our children guys is showing them how much we love their moms. Oh yeah. That's huge. Because it's something that will be imprinted on them and they will take with them and,
[00:35:57] you know, as they grow up and find a spouse, there's something that comes from that. And they're going to gravitate to the type of person that you are. Yeah. And yeah. So the type of relationship that you have. Yeah. Yeah. That's good. Because if you don't like, and listen, go in the mirror tonight, look at yourself in the mirror. Are you yelling too much? Do you lose your temper? Are there things? I'm sure everybody can be guilty of this.
[00:36:25] You look at yourself in the mirror and you analyze, you take inventory of where can I, where can I be better? How can I be different? Do you like the person you are? Because if you don't, then it's time to make changes right now because your daughter is going to end up with a man exactly like you. Exactly the way you talk to your wife. Exactly the way you resolve conflict. Exactly the way that you are building a business.
[00:36:52] Your daughter is going to end up exactly with that man in those core years of their, of their childhood because they don't really, as I said, when I was a child and I was talking to you that I, I kind of went after some guys that I probably shouldn't have gone after for a minute there until I really got into my Bible and understood what kind of, of man that I really should be with.
[00:37:21] And I was almost attracted to someone that would maybe kind of abandon me or something for a minute, but here's the thing. Your daughter is going to be attracted to that and your sons are going to be you. So if you feel called in your heart to change who you are, today's the day. And there's no shame in it because we are flawed.
[00:37:49] We're born flawed, but we have the power of prayer, the power of words, the power of thought, and we can become the man that we want to have our children turn into and end up with. Right? Absolutely. I hope you guys celebrated your wives and the moms out there. And don't stop. Very well this weekend. We're starting to release this after Mother's Day. No, we're not sorry because it's a tribute. It was supposed to be before Mother's Day, but... But someone was gone. Yes.
[00:38:20] So here it is. Okay, mothers, we appreciate you out there. We love you. Thank you so much for changing the world, for raising the world, for doing things that most of us men probably couldn't do or would want to do or have the ability to do. So we thank you guys for your service. We thank you for doing such a great job for putting in that extra effort. And if you don't think no one's looking, we are watching.
[00:38:50] And husbands, be sure to let your wives know what a great job they're doing. Aw. Thank you guys for listening to this episode of the Entrepreneur Parents Pretty and Punk Podcast. And we'll catch you guys next week. God bless you. Thank you so much for listening to this special episode of the Entrepreneur Parents Pretty and Punk Podcast. And we really hope you had a great Mother's Day. We love you, mothers.
[00:39:19] You're doing amazing. And I love you too. God bless. We hope to see you next week. Thank you for listening. Please leave a kind comment, a five-star review, and share this with five of your friends. We love you. Have a blessed week. Eat your vegetables.