EP 174 Why You Need to Reignite Your Drive and How!
Welcome to the Pretty and Punk Podcast, where hosts Dan Caldwell and Ildiko Ferenczi share their journey of balancing entrepreneurship and family life. In this episode, we tackle the critical issue of reigniting your drive when you're in a rut, whether it's due to business challenges, personal overwhelm, or burnout.
Dan and Ildiko open up about their personal experiences, from facing business uncertainties to dealing with serious illness. They emphasize the importance of finding your purpose, reassessing priorities, and the power of prayer and reflection in overcoming obstacles. Through their stories and practical advice, they highlight the significance of family support and the strength found in faith.
Join us as we explore strategies to regain your energy and motivation, including the impact of small wins, changing your environment, and integrating your children into your entrepreneurial journey. This episode also features inspiring insights from their son, Daniel, who reminds us that everyone has a God-given purpose and the potential to achieve great things.
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The solution is if you
have God in your life,
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if God is with you in your life,
things get very clear in some ways.
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And when you ask to find your purpose,
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when you ask to find what you should
be doing, when you ask those questions,
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you'll get answers.
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No. Oh, that's better, right.
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Babe?
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Yeah.
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Yeah. She founded an
architectural concrete company.
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He founded a hundred million
dollars clothing company.
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She took the world by storm
as a social media star. He.
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Took the world by storm as a
famous serial entrepreneur.
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Together we started a.
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Business and had babies.
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Now we're figuring out
the best ways to do both.
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Join us as we learn from other
entrepreneurs going through the same life
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struggles.
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As they share their life,
hacks about success, love kids.
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And everything in between. It's.
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Not whether you get knocked down.
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It's whether you get up
pulled by Vince Lombardi.
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If you know you can do better,
do better. You got this.
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Welcome to the Pretty and Punk podcast.
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I'm Dan Caldwell and I'm here with
my beautiful wife and cohost Ilko.
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I want to say it today. And we have
another great podcast for you guys today.
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Something that's important for if you're
an entrepreneur and a parent and a
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business person and any part of your life,
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this could happen in just
about any part of your life.
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How do we get our drive
back when we're in a rut
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or something's happened in our
life, like our business is failing,
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or we just are just
overwhelmed with our business?
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So much is coming at us and we're
dealing with so much every day,
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and maybe we're just burnout. Maybe we're
burnout in life and we're just like,
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I need a break.
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Here, right?
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Or something happens at
home and we forgot the CEO.
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The CEO of the home,
the woman, the mom, the.
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CEO. What are you talking about.
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The CEO O of the home. Let's not
forget about that. That is a big job.
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Yeah, when you got sick, I mean, if
something happens with your wife,
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that's your partner, you're coming home,
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you're almost feeling like I can't even
deal with all everything that's going on
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in my life right now.
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There's so many spinning place. But
before we get into this exciting episode.
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How do you get your drive back
when everything is coming at
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you and you just don't even want
to crawl out of bed? As I said,
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even when things happen
at home, for example,
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one of you can get the worst
diagnosis. You can get sick,
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there's a death in the family.
Your parents are elderly.
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You get the news that you
have to take care of them.
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There's so much that could come
at you that pulls from you,
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and how do you turn that around and
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use it to become a victor, not a victim,
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to not let it eat away at you
so you can create something new
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out of that pain, out of that obstacle,
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out of those challenges. That's
what we're focusing on today.
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Yeah, how do you get that
purpose back in your life?
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And I think that's really the answer.
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My best answer to that is you
have to find your purpose again.
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What is that?
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If you're struggling to remember
why you are doing what you're doing
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and you got to create something
bigger than just money,
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it can't just be about
money. It has to be about,
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have you ever heard that? Seven Questions?
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I think Dean Graziosi tells the story
real good. I remember sitting down with,
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I went to dinner with him one time
and he tells me this story of how,
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and it's actually in his book too,
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but he talks about how he had this
mentor and coach. You asked him,
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so why are you doing what
you're doing right now?
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Why are you trying to build this
business? And he goes, well,
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I want to make a lot of money.
And he goes, no.
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So why do you want to make a
lot of money? He goes, well,
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because I want to be able to
have freedom. He goes, well,
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why do you want to have freedom? And he
would just go down seven levels deep.
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Why do you want to have freedom? Well,
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because I want to be able
to have choices in my life.
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Well, why do you want to
have choices in your life?
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Because I want to be able to
be with my kids and my family,
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and he would just go, he went seven levels
deep on him, and I think a good way,
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you almost have to do that
to yourself, right? Yeah.
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Well, that's the thing. You need to
reassess and realign your priorities,
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and that's a really good way to do it
because sometimes it's in front of you and
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that's a great process to really
cut through the fat and get
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into what you are really after.
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So reassessing and realigning your
priorities, you need to do that often.
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And I suggest you sit down with your
partner, your husband, your wife,
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and do that annually
so you're on the same.
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Page and hopefully you're able to lean
into each other. And if that's married,
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of course, and you have a spouse,
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and I know that we have people that
aren't married who listen to this podcast,
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but even though we are aimed at trying to
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bring the family unit
together, but it also.
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Be prepared.
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Before you get married. I mean, this
stuff could happen before you're married.
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These are things that happen to you.
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You can be burnt out
when you're not married,
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even though that can add a whole
nother layer to everything. I mean,
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if something you were saying, if
something happens in your family,
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what if something happens in your family
and you're dealing with something at
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home like an illness or
something when you got sick?
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It was really hard to deal with so much
that we were going through at that time,
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and it's just a lot of different
things that are running through you.
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But I know when,
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back when in 2015 when I
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left Tapout,
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I remember how I had kind of gone
through this point in my life where I
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was just in a bad place in my life.
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I was feeling kind of confused
and that was my purpose at
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that time. I'd been building this
company for over 15 years and all of a
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sudden I sell the company and now
I'm wondering what do I do next?
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And where's my purpose gone?
Who am I supposed to be?
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And even though I was a little
burnout, I was ready to do other stuff,
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I had lost my identity.
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And there's something about when you
lose your identity and you're trying to
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find it again, that just,
it'll take a lot out of you.
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And I think what I needed to do,
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I think there was a few things that
kind of helped me at that time,
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if I just kind of self-analyze
what I was going through is one,
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we were together. I think we were
married yet, but we were together.
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And I think our relationship
helped me a lot. I think too,
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we went on a couple trips.
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We went to Spain and we were in
Spain for a month and we were in
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France for a month.
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And Monaco just being out
of the country and just
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clearing my head for a minute and being
able to get my head straight again and
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start to figure out
what is my new purpose.
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And surround ourselves with other
people. And this is the crazy,
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it's almost like a divine intervention
where we didn't have our own
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children together, but we
kept seeing, for example,
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family,
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we'd go out to eat at a very beautiful
restaurant and we'd see families there
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with their kids or at the red carpet,
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we'd see families with their children,
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we'd see entrepreneurs with
their children. And for me,
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it brought back beautiful
memories of my mother and us
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traveling the world together.
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And we were very well behaved too.
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And I kind of in the back of my head and
I would share some conversations with
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you and say,
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how isn't it interesting
how well behaved these kids
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are?
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They remind me a lot of when I was
a child and it's a different kind of
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life, but we didn't think because I
couldn't get pregnant for so long,
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I didn't think that this was
going to happen. And then.
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Yeah, we weren't really,
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I remember we were sitting
in a restaurant in cons
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and cans, cons,
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and it was right this time of
year because it was my birthday,
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it was maybe a day after, a day before
my birthday, and we were staying there.
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And I remember you had brought up,
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there was a Zorro standup photo
op thing you could take a picture
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with outside and you were talking
about your brother and we were
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talking about let's start a business.
We should do a business together.
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Together. And we were talking about
how do we start a business together,
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but we didn't have kids at the time.
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And then the conversation of
having kids came up and how do we
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implement this family thing and
how do we do this thing together?
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And that's kind of where it
all evolved from that moment.
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And we kept having that conversation.
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But I think that's when that was me
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refining, I guess if that's
the word, refining my purpose.
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Yeah, redefining, of.
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Course, redefining my
purpose is a better term,
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redefining my purpose on what
I was going to do in life
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and getting very clear about that again
and trying to find what that purpose was
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going to be.
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That's right. Daniel just
walked in and he is so excited.
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He's listening to our
conversation and what happened
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after me praying, praying,
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I just started praying for a
child after I was inspired,
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I went to a Tony Robbins. That was
one of our date nights together,
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our date experience. That was a really.
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Cool, the second time we went to Tony,
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we went to Tony right around
that time too. That's.
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Right. And
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he asked the audience to challenge
yourself to go for something
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that was impossible.
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And I remember writing this
down to my future child,
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you are going to change the world. We're
going to change the world together.
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We're going to do great things.
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And just a couple years later, mom was.
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Pregnant with me.
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That's right.
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After they had the talk and all that,
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I was born and after the talk of
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starting a business just a
few years later, I came in.
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You came into our world
and that just started.
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I had a very successful
swimwear line and Dan and I had
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come up with, I didn't want to do that,
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just be about red carpets
and flashy and nice
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cars. And it just,
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everything shifted in my mindset.
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When you become a parent,
things change. Things.
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Change. And that I realized
immediately that's not success.
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Success is equipping these
babies because now I have two.
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But at that moment,
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equipping this baby with the mindset
to be able to do anything because
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obstacles will come in life.
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And I know that you can lose
everything in a heartbeat.
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And if you don't have the mental strength
to be able to work to get it back.
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And I saw my mom lose everything
first she came to the country,
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so I know the story. She came
to the country with nothing.
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She left everything behind. They built
something very successful. And sadly,
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the devil came in, split up the marriage,
and she had to start with nothing.
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Well, she worked very hard,
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but she couldn't have done
it without mental strength.
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And I knew that God forbid,
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parents aren't going to be around forever,
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but if he has the mental strength and
we surround him with the right people,
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the right things,
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and also the business knowledge to be able
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to accomplish anything in
life, nothing is impossible.
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So things started changing.
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We started this business and then
when the diagnosis came in and
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I had to fight for my life again,
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that business turned into the podcast
because we couldn't travel as much
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anymore. And I said,
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everybody thinks we
have this perfect life.
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Another thing.
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Not.
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It's hard had to, you have an illness
in the family can't leave. It takes you,
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it changes everything.
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You cannot.
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Leave. You redefine what's important
in your life and it starts to go, okay,
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things that you thought were I.
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Important, thank you for waking
up important this morning.
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Thank you for giving me, I had this
newborn baby, I was excited. I mean,
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after Daniel, I was sprung
back into action. I'm fit.
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I'm doing all these things. But
it just, God had a different plan.
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God had a different plan
after this newborn baby.
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I thought we're going to get on the
road, travel all over the world,
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build this business
that we had even bigger,
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but all of a sudden that went away in a
blink of an eye because, and most moms.
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Aren't strong. They
just can't deal with it.
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Well,
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there's a lot of moms that are going
through a lot of other things in their
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life, and sometimes it's like we're
very fortunate in a lot of ways,
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and I think we have a great little family
and it's like people have different
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challenges. Obviously we're in
a different place financially,
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but still What do mean?
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What do you mean? I.
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Mean,
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most moms aren't strong like you
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each time they go through a struggle,
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they don't be strong.
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They don't believe in themselves as much.
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So what do you think that they would
need to do? Because in my head,
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I was worried that I wouldn't be
strong enough to get through it either.
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But I just remember for myself
choice. Well, sometimes mom.
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Shows you strength.
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Danielle mom, mom always tries
to figure everything out.
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I feel like I have an answer. If
there's a problem, I'll figure it out.
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I'll figure it out. But
when they told me, listen,
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you only have this and that much
time, I didn't know what to do.
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I had to give myself completely to
God. And do you know what else help me,
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Daniel? What? And I just want to cry.
Looking at you in the eyes, you would say,
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mommy, you got this. You are so strong.
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You kept telling me that I was strong,
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which made me believe that I was
so strong that I was Wonder Woman.
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And a lot of you telling me that.
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Mommy actually did play Wonder
Woman in a movie. I think.
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I couldn't have done.
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It without Daniel.
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Your mom shows you that
she's strong all the time,
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Daniel, and lots of times she's being
strong for you. She need you to see that,
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that she can deal with the
things that she's dealing with so
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that you can see her strength.
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And obviously you have seen the
strength in mommy and she wants that
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to inspire you.
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Yeah, a hundred percent.
But here is the God,
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the God, God's truth.
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May I be struck down tomorrow?
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I was obviously scared.
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I was confused when I gave
myself to God. I said,
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I can't fight this one on my own.
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And maybe because I always had a solution
like, oh, I could make more money.
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I could do this, I could do
that. I could do anything.
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Maybe he just wanted to show me,
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how are you going to get
yourself out of this one?
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Because you heard what the doctor said.
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You won't be here in whatever they said.
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Maybe like a month or something.
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Well, well, God.
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Had his own plan.
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The doctor was crying. He didn't know.
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And I didn't want to keep
the secrets from you,
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but I was very honest
with you guys and you kept
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telling me I could do it.
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I knew God has the final say.
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And when I gave myself
completely believe in him or not,
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when I gave myself to him completely,
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I am telling you that I
began living my happiest
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life. There was no anxiety attacks,
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there was no anxiety attacks
at all. I was so happy.
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But yet when I would think about it,
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obviously I would cry because I
never wanted to lose these moments.
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But every moment I woke up
became different and still
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is different. For me it, I
need a break from my children.
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I needed to be with my
family every and to this
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day. For me it's a little bit different.
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Our life is different where I want
everybody together all the time.
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And I feel like you feel the same way
because you know how precious life is.
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You've lost a dear friend,
like a brother to you, and
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these children are everything to me.
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Well, I think that's actually one
of the solutions. It's a solution.
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The solution is if you
have God in your life,
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if God is with you in your life,
things get very clear in some ways.
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And they tend, when you
ask to find your purpose,
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when you ask to find what you should
be doing, when you ask those questions,
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you'll get answers. You'll
get the answers that you need.
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And I think that's a lot of
what happened with us when were,
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I think we were kind of going through
this refresh in our life and I think we
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were praying a lot and finding answers
a lot and things got very clear
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for us.
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And so I think that's a
great answer to one of
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the solutions to when you get in
this rut and you're trying to find,
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how do I get my drive back?
That's one of the great solutions.
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Prayer, speaking to God. That's right.
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In reflection that you're.
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Meditating on God's.
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Word, looking inside of
yourself and going, okay,
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who does God want me to be?
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And what do I not need
in my life at this point?
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How do I clear my life out? Because we
did a lot of clearing at that time too.
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We did. Yes. People things.
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Exactly. And we got on a
new, everything got clear.
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We got a new clear
direction. I don't know.
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And I can't even put it all into words.
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I'm just saying that with prayer and
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reflection and conversations
that we would have together late
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night conversations and we should
do this and we can do that.
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And those conversations that you have,
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and I know every entrepreneur is
listening has had these conversations,
00:20:17
those conversations where you can't sleep
and you just talk till four or five in
00:20:21
the morning.
00:20:22
You see the sun coming up and we're
having these conversations still and we're
00:20:25
trying to talk about, oh yeah, we
should do this and we can do that.
00:20:28
And those are the things that let you
know you're on the right path. But.
00:20:32
How good did your heart feel?
00:20:34
Because I know you and I
both had a little show them,
00:20:38
I'll show them kind of
success before kids.
00:20:42
I'm going to have the nice car,
I'm going to have the best house.
00:20:45
I'm going to have a full account.
00:20:48
And then all of a sudden
it's like a wake up. That's.
00:20:52
Not what it's about. Yeah,
00:20:53
that didn't make you happy when
it did make you happy. But.
00:20:55
What makes us so happy
is lifting other people,
00:20:58
helping other people that are struggling.
00:21:01
The struggles that we've gone
through as heavy or not as heavy.
00:21:05
Sometimes the load is
different for other people.
00:21:09
Maybe it's just the stress of work, but
that's enough. And that is enough of a,
00:21:14
what is it? A weight on your back where
you feel like you're about to go under.
00:21:20
There's nobody to turn to. I know
when we were going through this,
00:21:23
there was nobody to turn to.
And that's when God said,
00:21:27
you guys be the ones. Now
there's other people out there,
00:21:32
other people, other families that
have the same type of mindset,
00:21:37
the same type of maybe even
podcasts or businesses as.
00:21:43
Speakers. I'd like to feel
like we inspire, we see some
of these other podcasts.
00:21:48
But that's the thing
is God is saying, Hey,
00:21:50
we need more of these people to inspire
the people that are drowning that
00:21:55
nobody sees, they have nobody to turn to.
00:21:58
They just need some inspiration
to see that it is possible
00:22:03
to keep these families together.
00:22:05
Because there's a lot of talk
about how easy it is to get
00:22:10
divorced,
00:22:11
how easy and how great even
sensationalizing that you get
00:22:16
to spend time away from
your kids. I am sorry,
00:22:20
but there is scientific proof,
00:22:25
scientific proof. There's proof
now that that is not the way.
00:22:29
And I remember the doctor
talking about it saying,
00:22:32
there's a lot of people glamorizing
this divorce stuff. It is toxic.
00:22:37
It is bad. And I will never agree with.
00:22:41
It. Yeah, you won't live as long. Yeah.
00:22:43
You don't live as long. There's.
00:22:45
Children.
00:22:45
There's all kinds.
00:22:46
Of great reasons to say why it's not good.
00:22:48
A list of all the things your children.
00:22:49
Have to anybody listens to our podcast
and I like to feel like we were like the
00:22:52
first podcast you talking, talking
about parenting entrepreneurs and
00:22:58
we're proud to be those.
00:23:00
And that was the calling that we
had when we found that purpose.
00:23:03
When you find a direction,
something that's new,
00:23:05
something that you want to bring into
the world that might be a different
00:23:08
business, whatever that
business is for you,
00:23:11
your business may not be
this type of business.
00:23:13
We still believe you can
introduce your kids to whatever
00:23:18
you're doing that can still
be a part of their life.
00:23:21
It doesn't mean your business has to
be working with your kids and your kids
00:23:24
don't have to be an every
single day part of it. But they,
00:23:29
you can introduce them
to business early on.
00:23:32
You can introduce them to what
it takes to start a business.
00:23:35
Give them some financial literacy
so all that can work together.
00:23:39
But it doesn't have to be about a podcast.
00:23:42
It doesn't have to be about necessarily
telling people that was what was for us.
00:23:47
For us. That's what worked.
00:23:48
Yeah. Create family work, integration,
whatever your business is.
00:23:53
For example, my mom had the jewelry store.
00:23:56
We all worked in it when my brother
and I and when we had the antique shop,
00:24:01
we both worked in.
00:24:02
There. There's a certain amount of
fulfillment that we feel comes with that.
00:24:06
And unless you've experienced that.
00:24:08
You learned, you learn to speak to adults.
00:24:10
You and the satisfaction of
passing this on to your kids,
00:24:13
your children is hard to explain.
00:24:15
But it really is something that we feel
is important for both our family and
00:24:21
we hope it's important
for your family too.
00:24:23
I think one of the other things you have
to do is try to get a win under your
00:24:26
belt. If you're coming off of this,
00:24:28
there's ways to get a small
win under your belt. That's.
00:24:31
Exactly what I was talking about.
00:24:35
Those small wins under
your belt can turn into big
00:24:40
each time you get that small win turn,
00:24:45
that's just a setup for
your bigger wins, guys,
00:24:50
those small wins can help you a lot
00:24:56
to achieve your bigger wins.
00:24:58
Like those huge wins that you are really,
00:25:02
really active for.
00:25:06
The small wins set you up for the
big wins and then you can complete
00:25:11
the big wins.
00:25:13
They make you feel better about
yourself. Once you get those small wins,
00:25:17
you start to feel better about yourself
and then it makes the big wins possible.
00:25:21
And do you feel that everybody
has what within them?
00:25:28
Oh yeah. Okay. I think I know
what you're talking about.
00:25:33
Everybody has a purpose,
00:25:35
a god-given purpose inside
them that they need to
00:25:40
find.
00:25:41
That's right.
00:25:42
And they just need to
realign their mission with
00:25:46
what they're going after.
And as you were saying,
00:25:49
the small wins lead to big wins.
00:25:52
And once you're really focused
on what you need to accomplish,
00:25:56
it makes it easier because you know
that you were chosen for this. Right.
00:26:02
Exactly. I mean, Daniel, that
was a great point because,
00:26:05
and that was the point
I was trying to make,
00:26:07
but you even said it more
eloquently than I could have.
00:26:10
I think that we all have it in us to have
00:26:15
these small wins and as we start to get
the confidence from having those small
00:26:20
wins, we can start to create bigger
wins in our life. And I think too,
00:26:24
Daniel, you were saying,
00:26:26
I heard you off mic talking about
how that people should go take
00:26:31
a vacation. And really,
that's actually a good idea.
00:26:38
If you get a different scenery
in life, find a different place.
00:26:42
Maybe you go live
somewhere else for a while,
00:26:46
like go to Italy or go to
Japan or wherever you like to
00:26:50
go to Hungary and you go spend some
time there and just get a different
00:26:55
scenery and a different
surrounding around yourself.
00:27:00
It is something like what I
needed when I left Tapout and
00:27:05
when me and Mommy left for a little
while and were able to get that different
00:27:10
scenery,
00:27:10
I just felt different for a while and I
was able to get this kind of confidence
00:27:15
back and start to create, yeah, new
energy. That's really what it was,
00:27:18
a new energy back and it made me feel
like a different person and it made me
00:27:23
start to get clear on my goals.
00:27:26
And when we start to talk about
our goals, Daniel, we do this.
00:27:30
We talk about our goals. We talk
about what we want to do in life.
00:27:33
We talk about what you are going to do
one day. We talk about your speeches,
00:27:38
you get really clear on what you
want to do with your life by talking
00:27:43
about it.
00:27:46
And even those big wins
can be that God-given
00:27:51
destiny, finding that God-given destiny,
00:27:54
that you want the people,
00:27:56
all the people that don't have
the God-given destiny first.
00:28:01
Try that small win about finding your
00:28:09
what the purpose of
your business could be.
00:28:12
And then you'll find maybe,
and this is just an example,
00:28:17
find out the purpose of what
your business could be and then
00:28:23
the purpose of your business could be
changing people's lives like we are.
00:28:28
And then you are like, oh,
00:28:30
I have a business and the purpose of
my business is changing people's lives.
00:28:35
My God given purpose is changing
people's lives on my business.
00:28:40
And when you get excited like that,
when you get excited like that,
00:28:45
all of a sudden you get that
energy back and that drive back.
00:28:48
And that's the whole purpose for this
podcast is that you get that energy and
00:28:53
that drive back and you
become this new person and
00:28:58
you feel like getting up every single day.
00:29:01
You're excited to get up every
single day to go attack your business
00:29:06
and that drive is back and you're
ready to take on the world again.
00:29:10
Yes.
00:29:11
I just thank you Daniel so much
for being a part of the show.
00:29:15
Thank you for throwing in your advice.
00:29:18
I know that that touched someone that
needed to hear it on the other side of
00:29:23
this. And that honestly,
that's our purpose.
00:29:26
That is our assignment and
that's what we are called to do
00:29:31
right now is just to touch those people,
00:29:34
to ignite what they
already have within you
00:29:38
guys. I was going to say them,
but you we're talking to you guys.
00:29:42
You have it within you and
you just need that push.
00:29:45
You need that community. You need
those people that we didn't have,
00:29:50
that we didn't have when
we needed someone the most.
00:29:54
And that's how we found out
our calling, that this is it.
00:29:58
This is what we're meant to
do right now in our lives.
00:30:01
Guys, keep that drive. Yes, I know you
have it in you. You have what it takes.
00:30:06
Absolutely. And if you're going through
something right now, talk to somebody.
00:30:10
Talk to people that are going
to get your energy up again.
00:30:12
Don't talk to the people that
are going to drag you down.
00:30:15
Talk to the people that are
going to get your energy up.
00:30:18
Listen to the podcasts that are
going to get your energy up.
00:30:22
Read the books that are
going to get your energy up.
00:30:25
Find that drive again to your purpose.
00:30:28
Reevaluate where you're going in life
and find that drive that gets you
00:30:33
up every single day on fire
because you have to find that fire.
00:30:37
When you've got that fire in your belly
and you are ready to go and you're
00:30:40
excited about getting up every day.
It's hard to fall asleep. I mean,
00:30:43
I get that right now lately it's
been hard for me to go to sleep.
00:30:48
I've been telling you it's
hard for me to fall asleep.
00:30:50
I'll lay in bed because I'm thinking
about things and all these things are
00:30:53
running through my mind. I'm
excited about life right now.
00:30:56
And you have to find ways to
be excited about your life.
00:30:59
Life. Yes. Life is so
precious. You need to,
00:31:02
especially if you're going through
something, you need to find,
00:31:06
sorry Daniel sitting right in front
of me. So I hope that you can hear me,
00:31:10
but you need to find that
thing that ignites you to go
00:31:15
on. As I was saying, when I
was going through my stuff,
00:31:18
I gave myself completely to
God and I knew that I had to
00:31:23
fight not only for myself, but
for these little ones around me.
00:31:27
And again,
00:31:28
when I went through this second
hardest thing was the loss of my sweet
00:31:33
mother. That it just was so unexpected.
00:31:36
I know that I need to live on, her
legacy needs to live within me.
00:31:41
And I felt that peace and grief is
00:31:46
hard because it comes in waves.
00:31:49
But I know that she wants
me to be the best mother.
00:31:54
She doesn't want me to get lost in grief.
She doesn't want me to
00:31:59
fall back into illness or whatever could
happen through grief because grief is
00:32:04
very serious and a lot
of people get sick after
00:32:08
grief and I'm healing.
00:32:10
So you need to know that whatever,
00:32:14
if it's grief that you're going through,
00:32:15
live harder for the ones that are on the
other side that are up there in heaven.
00:32:20
And I do believe that
they're cheering you on.
00:32:23
They want you to live your best life.
And these are happy tears right now.
00:32:27
I could just see my brother and my mom
just cheering me on and my grandparents
00:32:31
and my entire ancestors
up there cheering us on.
00:32:36
We're all cheering you guys
on. We're all cheering. Yeah,
00:32:39
that whatever you guys are going through,
00:32:42
if you're going through
something right now,
00:32:43
if you know somebody who's going through
something, you can send this to them.
00:32:47
Yes. If you're going through something,
00:32:48
you have what it takes
to turn this around.
00:32:52
I've been thinking
about this with Destiny.
00:32:55
I haven't talked to her about
this, but I feel this about her.
00:33:00
She's not like my best friend.
A best friend is somebody.
00:33:05
You like them and you love them,
00:33:07
but a sister, it's more
than a best friend.
00:33:12
It's like an ultimate best friend.
00:33:16
That's pretty much what
sister or cousin or brother
00:33:21
means. I.
00:33:21
Love that. My brother.
00:33:23
Was or father or mother or mommy or daddy,
00:33:26
Papa or any of them.
00:33:29
More than a best friend.
00:33:31
Yes. That's exactly what
all those names means.
00:33:34
Destiny wanted to tell
everybody something too.
00:33:37
Okay. You.
00:33:38
Could do anything for life. Yes.
00:33:42
Yes they can.
00:33:43
Baby.
00:33:47
That's exactly the truth. Destiny. That.
00:33:50
Is the truth. Do you have.
00:33:54
Anything else to inspire the people? No.
00:34:00
Okay, guys, that's for now. Yeah.
We're going downhill quick. Okay.
00:34:03
We thank you guys. We're going
uphill. We're going up always.
00:34:05
Uphill.
00:34:05
Uphill. Thank you guys for tuning
in to the Pretty and Punk podcast.
00:34:10
We appreciate you guys listening.
00:34:12
We appreciate you guys sharing this with
anybody who might need it right now.
00:34:15
And we thank you so much for
your views and all your ratings.
00:34:19
Those that catapulted us
to the top of the parenting
00:34:23
division in Apple Podcasts
and it's huge. You bet.
00:34:27
We're really excited about that.
00:34:29
So thank you guys for that and
we'll catch you guys next week.
00:34:32
God bless.
00:34:36
Always set up a picnic.
00:34:38
Always set up a picnic. That's important.
00:34:42
There's your inspiration of the
day. Always set up a picnic.
00:34:47
See you guys next.
00:34:48
Week. God bless.
00:34:50
Thank you so much for listening
to the Pretty Punk Podcast
00:34:55
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00:35:00
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00:35:05
I hope this changed your
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00:35:12
that. Your life. God bless.
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