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I need people to know that I know what
I'm doing. You're an authority. Yeah.
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They're looking to me. Everybody's
looking at me for where's the answers?
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And so I liked when I
can tell myself, look,
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you don't know what to do
in this position right now.
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You've never done this before. You need
to ask some questions and when I can.
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Finally,
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it's almost like you've taken this
weight off of your shoulders and allowed
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yourself to be in that position,
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because I think that one of the best
things a leader can do is ask a lot of
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questions.
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No. Oh, that's better. Right, babe?
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Yeah.
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Yeah. She founded an
architectural concrete company.
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He founded a hundred million
dollars clothing company.
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She took the world by storm
as a social media star.
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He took the world by storm as
a famous serial entrepreneur.
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Together we started a business.
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And had babies.
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Now we're figuring out
the best ways to do both.
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Join us as we learn from other
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As they share their life,
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There's only one way to see
things until someone shows us
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how to look at them different eyes.
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Quote by Pablo pco,
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Welcome to the Pretty and Punk podcast.
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My name is Dan Caldwell and I'm
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Beautiful wife.
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Is that what you didn't.
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See? You wanted to hear the beautiful,
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you weren't going to say anything
until I said beautiful. Yes.
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I was just trying to change
up the words a little bit,
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trying to make a difference.
So say something. You.
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Need to say it more. You need to say it.
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More. Okay. Give us some knowledge. Say
something of knowledge. Go ahead. Of.
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Knowledge. Oh my gosh.
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We're running in a late podcast. It's.
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A tonight late podcast. It's a late one.
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We are talking this week about
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mentorship and consultants,
coaches. Well, just that.
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Everybody needs a coach. I mean,
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there's so many people out there trying
to achieve things that we understand.
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You don't know. You don't
know what you don't know.
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You don't have all the answers yet.
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And there's people out there just
when I started my journey there,
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no, there weren't a lot of
coaches out there, right?
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There wasn't anybody
to lean into. You want.
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To learn everything you can about
whatever you are getting into,
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Whatever you're going into,
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you need to have the most
knowledge that you can get.
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And wouldn't you say
that with our children,
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we encourage them to ask
questions and to learn there is no
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failure or you were wrong, none of that.
It is all a lesson,
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and I feel that it was so valuable to be
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able to watch my mom
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function from that kind of
environment where she never felt
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embarrassed or I don't
want to say the S word,
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but silly asking people for advice or
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asking who could help her.
She started the jewelry.
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She had no experience
with a jewelry store.
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She had no experience
with an antique store.
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She had to make friends,
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surround herself with people
in those environments and
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learn from scratch, and I love
that. I was brought up like that.
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I wasn't an expert actor.
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I surrounded myself with the best coaches.
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I surrounded myself with the best mentors,
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and I wasn't afraid to
try different people
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audit different things. When I
had the construction company,
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I had no idea. I mean, we flipped houses.
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I knew how to do that at 15, 16,
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watching my mom as a little girl,
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helping her paint and whatever
else went into flipping a home.
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So I felt comfortable
being in that environment,
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but it was a totally different thing.
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We were doing architectural
concrete and I was dealing with
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incredibly intelligent people,
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and I knew I had to learn very quickly,
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especially when we started
moving to civil jobs and
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commercial jobs. You weren't just
dealing with residential anymore.
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That's what I grew up in, residential,
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but we had to learn quickly, wouldn't you.
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Say? Yeah. I mean,
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I think the great point that you made
was that we have to be able to ask
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questions. We have to be willing to
put ourselves in a place of listening.
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It's like so many people want to
talk and shoot. I'm guilty of it too.
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Sometimes I get in a situation where
everybody's always looking at me to
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have all the answers,
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and so I tend to sometimes get
into a situation where I don't
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ask questions because I need people
to know that I know what I'm doing.
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You're an authority. Yeah,
they're looking to me.
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Everybody's looking at me
for where's the answers.
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And so I liked when I
can tell myself, look,
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you don't know what to do
in this position right now.
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You've never done this before. You need
to ask some questions and when I can.
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Finally,
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it's almost like you've taken this
weight off of your shoulders and allowed
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yourself to be in that position
because I think that one of the
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best things a leader can do
is ask a lot of questions
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and ask the questions. Even sometimes
just to hear your subordinates or
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whoever's working for you or the people
that you're put into this position,
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these people that are
looking to you for knowledge,
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you're asking them the question because
you want to hear them their way of you
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may have a better answer,
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but you want to hear their
understanding of the situation.
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And when you get around a mentor,
you have to ask these questions,
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be prepared. I remember
when I was in high school,
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I ditched classes so I could go up
to this guy that owned a subway,
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and I just wanted, because I knew I
wanted to be before I wanted to be a cop,
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I wanted to be an entrepreneur,
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and I knew this guy owned this subway
and he didn't know me and I didn't know
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him,
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but I'd asked him if I
could come up here one day
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and meet with him and ask him some
questions. And he said, sure, yeah,
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come up anytime. Well, no, actually
he didn't say come up anytime.
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He told me what time to come up,
and that just happened to be,
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I was in school at the time
I was in high school. Oh boy.
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So I had to go and I
sat down with him and I
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wouldn't have known.
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Susie told me I own five subways
and there's no way to really
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get rich unless you own like 20
or so. I was like, okay, well,
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I don't really want to own 20 subways,
so I'm going to find something else.
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To do. Isn't that funny?
When you're a kid,
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you think that owning a
franchise meant that, oh,
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they're rich because they own.
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Burger King or White. Yeah.
One Subway. Oh, burger King.
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You might be doing a little bit better.
I dunno. The one Subway, he said,
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oh yeah, I can't remember what he said
you'd make, but he said something like,
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I don't know, $3 a month
or something. I was like, oh,
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that's not what I was thinking.
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I was thinking you could become a
millionaire if you owned a subway.
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Right. Anyway, yeah, no, I love that.
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And I love that were brave enough
to go ask for guidance and I
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feel that as entrepreneurs,
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once we've accomplished
and made it to a certain
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level, and this is why
I love our community,
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because when we were going through stuff,
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I feel like I was following
still the grinders
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and getting that advice from those single
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women and the single men
that didn't have families.
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I feel like as soon as we
started building our family,
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I had to learn from different people
and lean into different people,
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and I didn't know who
to really lean into and
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that's why we started this
community. Yeah, exactly.
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And I love this community because
there's these people that have
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accomplished so much in life,
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but then it's so refreshing
and beautiful to see them
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struggling with things that
feel simple to you and I now.
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Right, right. But I remember
it being so big and hard,
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and I even remember feeling
shame becoming a first time
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mom because I didn't know certain things,
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and I should know this.
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I felt like everybody's looking
at me, you should know this.
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You're a mom now. But I'm still so new.
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I was such a go-getter and I never
thought I'd have children holding
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my baby was because my brothers
were older. There were no,
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this is the first time,
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I don't think anybody on this podcast
or listening to this podcast can relate,
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but I've never held a baby.
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My baby was the first baby that I held,
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and I remember being scared
to hold my own baby because
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he was five pounds, nine ounces.
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He was the teeniest, tiniest
little thing I've ever felt,
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and I knew that I had to take,
I was so scared you were.
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Great at it, but you're right. It
doesn't come with an instruction.
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Manual. It looked natural.
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But inside I had all these fears and
I just knew nothing is going to hurt
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this baby. And even nursing. Oh
yeah, three months of nursing. Well,
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when I went down the rabbit
hole and I learned, no,
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it's not three months or
six months of nursing. Well,
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if I wanted to dedicate the health,
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when I started learning, I wanted to learn
about everything when I was pregnant.
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I learned everything I could
about how to build this baby in my
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stomach, how to make sure that
it was going to be healthy.
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And everybody's giving me cupcakes and No
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thank you. No thank you.
No, thank you. That was it.
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I've never had takeout.
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Yeah, you were strong
during your pregnancy.
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Nothing bad. Of course.
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It was strong with you.
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I thought for sure we were going
to eat all the good stuff. No.
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No, no, no. We didn't get nothing.
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And it was great because I
had my cousin who is a mentor,
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she's had what,
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nine children and she's
lean and her daughter
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too. Her daughter has five babies
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and she's lean and strong and she said,
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ideally,
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you should only gain this much
weight and don't eat for two,
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don't eat for two and eat
healthy things, lamb, organ,
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all the stuff that our European
family eats. Don't eat the garbage.
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You're building a baby and you want that
baby to be strong and healthy and have
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the best start.
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And I used to sometimes
chips and stuff like that.
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I don't now that I know what
I know after getting sick,
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and I know that this dedication
to the gym and to health,
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it really helped my healing
process when I did get sick.
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So thank you God for that.
And thank you God for that.
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I feel like when you become just
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this,
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when you go to the gym and you dedicate
yourself to the gym and you do all that,
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it all helped my mindset
to build this baby,
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but I was new now even with the nursing,
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when I learned what I needed
to learn about nursing,
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I felt like something was wrong
and the doctors were telling me,
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some people just can't nurse.
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I just started reading and
asking questions and I felt
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so silly because I should just give up.
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Everybody's telling me, just, you are
the mom that needs to go on formula.
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I went into that doctor and I said,
no, I need to talk to a special,
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what's the special? What is it called?
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I don't even remember, but
a lactation consultant.
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So I met with her. I knew that
Daniel wasn't getting enough milk.
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I met with her.
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I never would have known that he
had a tongue tie. Do you remember?
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Yeah. Do you remember?
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I think we clicked it right on
the spot there, didn't we? Yeah.
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She weighed him. She.
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So a tongue tie is underneath
your tongue, that little piece.
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Of it's connected and.
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Connective tissue underneath your tongue.
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His was too far up towards the
front of his tongue and they
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clipped it.
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They clipped it right in front of me.
But she opened his mouth and she said,
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I know the problem. She weighed
him. She checked the mill,
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they really worked with you.
And she said, you're right.
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He's not getting the milk that
he should get. I've never.
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Done this before's. The thing is you
thought you were doing something wrong.
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I it. And it turned out
that he just had this issue.
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He wasn't able.
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To properly, that's the
reason we all have coaches.
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So that was your coach
and there's a coach.
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The craziest thing is when
quick, there was no coaches.
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Back, but real, what's the miracle?
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The miracle said the miracle in this
thing was she said he wouldn't be able to
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speak properly and stuff because of this.
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So she discovered this thing that the
doctors didn't even discover when they
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were checking him out.
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Right? Yeah. Because you know why?
Because she was a specialist. Exactly.
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And so when you have a.
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Specialist and now he's speaking
on stages, he speaks perfect. He's.
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Amazing.
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So when you have the specialist who
knows what they're doing in that field,
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so whether it's for your business or
whether it's for your marriage or whether
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it's for your kids or your
sport or whatever it might.
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Be, and if it's for your business.
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My son has a chess coach,
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those are the things you got to find.
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There's people out there who
can help you get further faster.
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And don't get so. That's right. Sorry,
keep going. But I was just going to say,
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Don, just by bringing them up, don't
get stuck in your pride of not, Hey, no,
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I want to coach my son.
You're a great chess player.
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Well, I think a lot of people,
I'm not a great chess player. No.
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But you're a.
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Great chess. I'm an okay chess.
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Player. You're not a champion.
You're not competing.
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But it's nice to be able to have
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someone that has dedicated
their life to that and learn
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from them, even if it's just a hobby.
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I think even if I were to learn pickleball
or tennis, I would like to, what.
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Is pickleball? Why is everybody talking
about pickleball? What the heck?
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We haven't done it yet,
but we will. We will.
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We're going to hire who.
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Says we're going to hire
pickleball coaches? Come on now.
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Addicted. The reason I don't want to do
it is because people say if you do it,
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you're going to get.
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Addicted and then you won't want to do
anything else. That's okay. It won't be.
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The pickleball family. But again,
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I just want to bring it back to I love
that we have this community that are
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asking us questions
that seem big and scary
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and embarrassing and silly.
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We've been there and we're able to
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help them not only in their business
but in their family, in their marriage.
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I mean, if you have marriage questions,
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don't call up your single buddy
or your single girlfriend.
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I know it's tempting because
you have a connection with them.
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I actually don't have any
single girlfriends anymore.
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But you want to talk to somebody.
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But you want to talk to someone but don't.
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Knows where you've been.
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Yes.
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Don't ask your single buddies for
a marriage advice. Don't do. Don't,
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don't do it. It's not going to
turn out. Well, we think we did.
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An episode on this. It's.
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Contagious. Yeah, it's not good for you.
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But the thing is,
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is that there's a coach out there for
everything in your life and not that you
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can't still,
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YouTube is great and there's so much
free stuff out there. We're so lucky.
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The truth is you have
to invest in yourself.
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You have to put that money where your
mouth is. If you want to be the best,
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if you want to create a living out of
something or if it's a part of your life
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or it's important to you like your
marriage or you're building a business and
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you want this thing to
sustain your family,
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you got to go out there and look
for the best. Look for people.
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Expert guidance have been where you
want to go and find them and hire
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them and bring them in and they will
teach you how to get there. Because
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sometimes it's just a little, I mean,
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what I've seen more often than not is
that people will pay a little bit of money
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and not always a little
bit good mentorships.
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They'll come a point true where you're
going to pay $20 a year or a
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month maybe for certain
type of mentorship.
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I've spent a lot.
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But the reason you're doing it is because
you're going to get tenfold out of it.
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That's right.
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So when you get 10 x out of when that
mentor tells you one thing or that
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coach tells you one thing that causes
you to change something in your
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business or be a better husband or be
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better to your kids or be a better
chess player and whatever it
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is,
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it should equal the value that you're
paying or it should be 10 x the value that
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you're paying. So if you're
paying X amount of dollars,
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whatever you're getting out,
it should be 10 x from that.
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So just make sure,
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you should bet the people that
you want to work with too,
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because there's so many people
out there. What about the people.
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That are teaching business, but
they're in their parents basement.
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They live in your basement. Well,
00:19:48
they've never run a business before and
nothing against because there's some
00:19:52
great coaches out there that have
only built a coaching business.
00:19:57
So if you're building a
coaching business, that's.
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Great. They haven't that tap out or they.
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Haven't had Well, yeah,
00:20:01
they haven't built a physical products
business if they're trying to build a
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worldwide brand sometimes. Not that.
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There's some very,
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very smart guys out there that I've
seen and I've talked to and they could
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probably do it,
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but you might be better served finding
somebody who's actually done that if
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that's what you're trying.
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To do. Yes, exactly. I think that's
the important thing to hang on to.
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And don't cut corners. I mean with you,
00:20:29
you had the mentors when you were
building tapout and what did you
00:20:34
do?
00:20:35
I paid some very, very expensive
consultants. Exactly. Back,
00:20:39
we called them business consultants
to come in. I was never the smart.
00:20:44
I was most.
00:20:45
Likely. Well, you became.
00:20:46
No, in the rooms that I
was in. We'll, somewhere.
00:20:49
I was the dumbest guy in
the room every time. Oh.
00:20:51
Don't say that, please.
00:20:53
That's bad. I'm not saying I know.
I won't say in front of say that.
00:20:55
Don't use my words. I'm
just saying he's grounded.
00:20:57
Everybody in the room was
smarter than I was and by design.
00:21:02
But that's the best.
00:21:03
To surround yourself in. I don't want
to be the smartest person in the room.
00:21:07
I really don't because then I'm
not going to learn anything.
00:21:11
I'm not going to take away anything,
00:21:13
and I'm not going to peel the layers
of the onion and get to the nugget
00:21:18
inside. There's a.
00:21:18
Lot of pressure being the
smartest guy in the room.
00:21:21
When you come into a room and everybody's
looking at you to deliver answers
00:21:26
and everybody's looking to
you to give them the fix.
00:21:33
There's a lot of pressure. A lot
of pressure that comes with that.
00:21:35
And so when you can get into
a room where you're learning
00:21:41
and you learn the things that you don't
know and then you can bring them back to
00:21:45
your people and deliver those answers.
00:21:47
Exactly. I guess what I mean is
00:21:51
I know that I've learned a lot.
I know you've learned a lot,
00:21:54
but I am not saying by any
means you're very intelligent,
00:21:59
man. I'm an intelligent woman. We
have a lot to offer. Say it again,
00:22:04
other people. Go ahead. I'm just
saying that we have a lot to offer.
00:22:08
People. You can say that to me
anytime you want. I just dunno.
00:22:11
I've ever heard you.
00:22:11
Say that to me. I love to go into
rooms where people know other things.
00:22:16
And I think that's the beautiful thing
about community and surrounding yourself
00:22:21
with other entrepreneurs that
are on. And it's very important,
00:22:24
and I'm going to say it again, surrounding
yourself with the same like-minded
00:22:30
individuals. For us, our
journey is different.
00:22:34
Before when we're single and go-getters,
00:22:36
we weren't surrounding ourselves with
people that are raising future leaders.
00:22:41
Well, today, that's one of the keys.
00:22:44
That is one of our most important things.
00:22:46
It's a requirement that
is important to them,
00:22:51
that they are
00:22:53
raising future leaders and that they.
00:22:57
Strong marriages.
00:22:59
Strong marriages. Not
like my wife's at home.
00:23:05
No, they're connected. They're strong.
00:23:07
Most of the couples work together.
00:23:10
Most of them build together.
It's not a requirement,
00:23:14
but they're building together
whatever their vision is.
00:23:19
Maybe it's a little different sometimes.
00:23:21
Together all the.
00:23:22
Time. Got to start with around
you. Sometimes they're together.
00:23:24
Most I would say they're
together most or all of the time.
00:23:28
The people that we surround ourselves.
00:23:29
With. Well,
00:23:30
I think you got to start with the people
around you because it's one thing to
00:23:35
get mentors,
00:23:35
but I think the first move is start
with the people around you because those
00:23:40
people are going to affect you. So
if you can start with your immediate.
00:23:44
Creating the community, your.
00:23:45
Community, your crowd, your people,
00:23:48
and now they call it your village
too. They have all these names for it.
00:23:53
Now it's true. Those people
are going to influence.
00:23:56
You got to have people that
will call you out on things.
00:23:59
You got to have people that will. Yes.
00:24:00
Accountability and support. We need.
00:24:02
That. If you're not being the
husband you're supposed to be.
00:24:08
If you got people around you that are
talking about their wives that are
00:24:13
talking about.
00:24:16
We don't know anybody that.
00:24:17
Around them.
00:24:19
Complain.
00:24:20
Saying, talking about
girls, walking by 'em,
00:24:22
then those are the people that you
got. Those are the first people.
00:24:27
You're never going to grow as a.
00:24:28
Person. You're going to.
00:24:29
Cut the string. Yeah.
00:24:29
You're never going to grow as a person
if you have those type of people around
00:24:32
you and you're most likely going to
sink to their level. Yeah. I don't.
00:24:36
Do girls GOs. I don't do goyle trips. I
just don't. Girls trip. I don't girls,
00:24:42
you're my best bro.
00:24:43
You do a girls trip to
Vegas, I'll lock the door.
00:24:45
You won't be able to get back in.
00:24:46
No, I just, honestly, I.
00:24:47
Know what happens in Vegas.
00:24:48
I have no desire. You're my best friend.
00:24:52
My kids are my best
friends. My I loved it.
00:24:57
And that's not for everybody. If
you don't, that's not my community.
00:25:01
And it's nothing to feel
bad about. It's nothing to,
00:25:05
oh, she loves her kids and
wants to hang out with her.
00:25:09
And that's not my cup of tea. That's
fine. I love to hang out with my kids.
00:25:15
I love it. I love to hang out
with you. Those are my people.
00:25:18
I love to build my
business with my family.
00:25:22
I love it when the kids are learning.
I love it when they're included.
00:25:25
I love it when you and I
are doing something exciting
together because nothing
00:25:30
is more, I would say sad. Say safe.
00:25:35
I was the one going out
and doing amazing things.
00:25:40
And I know this isn't the typical thing
because it would be you going out and
00:25:45
accomplishing great things
and somehow you to be left
00:25:50
behind.
00:25:51
I mean, I would be happy for you, but I.
00:25:54
Think that it's just more of a thing
when we accomplish things together.
00:25:58
Together. It's.
00:25:59
Living two separate lives.
If you're doing that and.
00:26:01
You grow apart or I would feel
that we would grow apart. Well,
00:26:06
I feel like I want to.
00:26:07
We're supposed to be on a
journey together. We're supposed.
00:26:09
To be.
00:26:09
Building something together.
00:26:10
Yeah.
00:26:11
Enjoy. And not only our
marriage, but building something,
00:26:15
building something that supports
our marriage that we can do
00:26:19
together. It's almost like business is
almost like a hobby in some ways. It is.
00:26:23
It is. And when you can do it together,
it's like you're doing a hobby together.
00:26:27
I love more fun that way.
Love it. I love it. I love it.
00:26:29
And it doesn't business.
00:26:31
It sounds so formal and
it's whatever you love.
00:26:35
So if you have a farm, my
grandmother and my grandfather,
00:26:39
they had a farm and everybody helped.
00:26:42
Of course the children went
off and did their own thing,
00:26:46
but they were all employees and
they all worked together and
00:26:51
it was just awesome.
00:26:52
And my grandparents were so
in love and the way that my
00:26:56
mom would talk about them, my grandmother,
00:27:01
she died
00:27:04
suddenly something happened
and my grandfather didn't live
00:27:09
very much longer because they were
so in love and so connected that
00:27:14
he honestly, I think his desire to live.
00:27:17
Just lost the will to live.
00:27:18
He didn't want to live without
her. That's right. So anyway,
00:27:21
they had a beautiful marriage
and my mom and dad the same.
00:27:26
They had a beautiful marriage
and then things fell apart,
00:27:28
but they built their little
empire together. And I
love that we're doing that.
00:27:33
And I love the people that are around us
are doing that. Everybody in different,
00:27:38
because they have different businesses.
00:27:40
We have this podcast and
we're helping people.
00:27:42
And I feels we're very passionate
now about giving back that way,
00:27:47
helping people and being that
community that we didn't have.
00:27:51
So I think that's why this whole
conversation came up because where that
00:27:55
community.
00:27:56
So maybe you'll take up chess with
me. So you're saying there's a chance,
00:28:00
so we can play chess together. You.
00:28:02
Want to play chess?
00:28:03
Dad, how about metal detecting? Yeah.
00:28:06
That would be fun. My mom used.
00:28:08
To take us. So you treasure
hunting. I know. I want to go find.
00:28:11
Treasure. If my mom would be
here going, let's go you to go.
00:28:15
We would be collecting when we would
go to Harrison Hot Springs or on
00:28:20
vacations,
00:28:21
we'd be looking for jade or stones or
00:28:26
gold. And she was just always
so fun. Yeah, I would love that.
00:28:30
I loved it when I was a kid.
00:28:31
Let's go treasures. Let's go. I
haven't used my metal detector forever,
00:28:36
just sitting there collecting
dust. Yeah, I think.
00:28:38
The kids would like that. Go find.
00:28:39
Trash. So anyways, we're
way off track here.
00:28:41
We are talking about mentors somewhere
and somehow we're talking about metal
00:28:45
detecting and chess. So you guys, I mean,
00:28:49
I don't know what you guys
are trying to do your life.
00:28:52
Right now. Wait, want to add this?
I want to add some biblical backup.
00:28:55
Oh my gosh. So plans
fail for lack of counsel,
00:29:00
but with many advisors, they succeed.
00:29:03
Proverbs 1522.
00:29:06
And this just reminds us of
the importance of seeking wise
00:29:11
counsels.
00:29:11
Yes. Because we always wise council,
00:29:14
if you surround yourself with
people that are better than you,
00:29:17
if you surround yourself with.
00:29:19
Like-minded, minded, minded.
00:29:20
People like yes. And when I mean surround
yourself with people that are better,
00:29:25
you sometimes that needs to be a
mentor or a coach and you know.
00:29:28
What? But your community needs to be.
00:29:30
Like that. There's people.
00:29:31
Because they'll turn into them.
00:29:32
You'll find that are around you
that you may not pay money to.
00:29:38
They may not be a coach because for
whatever reason, they're not coaches.
00:29:41
But there are people out there
who have wisdom because they've
00:29:46
traveled through life,
they've lived a long life,
00:29:50
they've been married wherever their
expertise is that you're looking for.
00:29:55
And you can simply go up there
and ask them, ask questions,
00:29:58
just ask a question to,
00:30:00
do you think I could come to you if
I ever have a question about this?
00:30:03
And you seem so smart, and you
always have the right answers.
00:30:06
And I'm struggling a little
bit in that area right now,
00:30:09
and I would love to be able to come to
you and ask a question here and there.
00:30:13
I don't want to take up too much of your
time, dude, every people, I just said,
00:30:17
dude, you did. I said, I don't know
why I said that either. But people,
00:30:22
they will give you their knowledge for.
00:30:24
Free.
00:30:25
But also I really think that
you should dig into your
00:30:30
pockets and hire a coach
in whatever area that
00:30:35
you're lacking expertise
because you'll never
00:30:39
respect that more than when you
pay for it. Yeah, that's a fact.
00:30:43
And when you bring them.
00:30:44
That's a psychological.
00:30:45
Proven,
00:30:45
they will help you save the money that
you are paying or they should help you
00:30:50
save the money that you're
paying for that coach.
00:30:53
And it will get you to
where you're going faster.
00:30:56
So don't discount getting a coach.
It's important. We've had coaches.
00:31:01
I paid a lot of money, a lot of
money for coaches over the years.
00:31:04
Hundreds of thousands of dollars
in different areas of my life
00:31:09
and important. And I
know. And the thing is,
00:31:13
there are coaches out there for everything
and you don't need to pay that much
00:31:16
anymore.
00:31:16
I promise Everything. Just don't.
The reason why I know so much about,
00:31:22
I feel like I have a lot of
information. I can't say what is right,
00:31:27
what is wrong.
00:31:28
But even when I was dealing
with fighting for my life,
00:31:32
I didn't just say, okay,
00:31:36
and take the doctor's advice.
00:31:38
But when I went to talk
to the oncologist and she
00:31:42
was listening to my
conversations and she was so
00:31:47
interested in some of the things that
I was doing and implementing into my
00:31:51
life because they too,
00:31:54
it's not stuff that they
are doing yet in western
00:31:59
medicine, but they are studying it
themselves and they're hearing about it.
00:32:03
So it is just interesting
to get don't just.
00:32:08
You mean because your natural
medicine coaches, your.
00:32:11
Well and biohackers and all that stuff
I don't agree with because there's so
00:32:16
much information out there.
You can get lost in it.
00:32:20
And especially when
you need quick answers,
00:32:24
the best thing you can do is pray.
The best thing you can do is pray.
00:32:27
Because even today I can
fall down a spiral and
00:32:32
start worrying, oh, I should
be doing this treatment.
00:32:35
I'm here and I can't do
this or I can't do that.
00:32:39
You can't worry about that stuff.
But definitely inform yourself.
00:32:43
Learn about as much as you can,
wherever it is, whatever it is.
00:32:48
Do you need to help your baby
sleep? Go get a consultant.
00:32:52
You need to heal from a certain diagnosis.
00:32:55
Go find as much information as you can
00:33:00
from the doctors. And then
outside of the doctors,
00:33:03
there's so much information and sometimes
when you throw everything at it,
00:33:09
it may work.
00:33:10
Guys, go get yourself a
coach. Don't be cheap.
00:33:15
And I mistakenly said, don't, deep,
deep, I mistakenly kind of said that.
00:33:19
You don't need to pay that much
anymore. Now listen along your journey,
00:33:25
pay what you can and dig deep
because, and find the right coach.
00:33:30
Vet them, obviously. Yeah. I am
not speaking for all coaches here.
00:33:33
There's probably, there's imperfect
coaches out there. I know for sure.
00:33:37
But if you vet that person but you feel.
00:33:39
It, listen.
00:33:39
To their feedback, there's always
feedback from these coaches.
00:33:42
There's a lot of platforms where
they have third party feedback.
00:33:46
So you get good feedback and a good
understanding of how good the coach is
00:33:50
and utilize that stuff to find
the person that's perfect for you
00:33:55
because they're out there.
And when you get that person,
00:33:58
you're going to get further, faster.
00:34:01
And that's all I got when it comes
to country. I'm excited for you guys.
00:34:05
And if you guys ever have a
question, come to us. Yeah.
00:34:07
Come to us. We love you guys.
Ask us a question on the podcast.
00:34:09
We'd love to answer it
for you over the podcast.
00:34:11
We keep saying we're going to answer
questions on the podcast. I'm.
00:34:14
Always in the DM with all the moms.
00:34:16
It's just that we respond. It's
so easy to respond directly.
00:34:19
To people.
00:34:20
We're so blessed.
00:34:20
But we should actually read some
of those questions on the podcast.
00:34:23
We did a couple before would.
00:34:24
Be.
00:34:24
Helpful for sure.
00:34:25
And we should do it again because I know
people will find themselves in those.
00:34:29
Questions. A lot of the same stuff.
00:34:31
The questions that we pick are all this,
00:34:34
it's all the same stuff almost over
and over again. And I feel like the.
00:34:38
Struggle, the juggle, most.
00:34:39
Of, we've been through that stuff.
We've dealt with that stuff before.
00:34:43
Not only in our marriage, people
asked us marriage questions,
00:34:46
but business questions.
00:34:47
Raising our kids. We both.
00:34:49
Built multi million dollar
companies, all of it.
00:34:52
And so we've seen a lot and we'd love
to be able to answer those questions for
00:34:56
you.
00:34:56
We love you guys so much.
You guys are amazing.
00:34:59
Thank you guys for tuning in this week
to the T Punk podcast and we will see you
00:35:04
guys next week. God.
00:35:05
Bless.
00:35:06
Have a good day.
00:35:07
Thank you so much for listening
to our episodes of the put
00:35:12
punk podcast. We thank you so much.
00:35:15
Make sure to subscribe and
I hope this changed your
00:35:20
life. You can't stop. Thank
you. God bless. God bless.
00:35:25
Have a great week. See you.
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