EP 169 The Power of Self-Talk: What You Need to Know About the Words You Tell Yourself!
Welcome to another empowering episode of the Pretty and Punk Podcast with your hosts, power couple Ildiko Ferenczi and Dan Caldwell.
In this session, we jump into the crucial topic of how we speak to ourselves and its profound impact on mindset and success. Drawing from their own rich experiences as entrepreneurs and parents, Dan and Ildiko share personal stories and experiences on nurturing a positive internal dialogue.
They emphasize the significance of surrounding oneself with uplifting influences and provide practical advice on using resources like books, podcasts, and coaching to foster a healthier mindset.
Whether you're navigating the complexities of entrepreneurship, parenting, or striving for personal growth, this episode offers guidance on speaking to yourself with kindness and intention. Tune in to learn how to transform your thoughts and take charge of your destiny, all while managing the dynamic challenges of business and family life.
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I was able to go to my core group and just
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really bounce it off the
people that would lift me up.
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And I didn't have a lot
of people like that,
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but I knew who I could
trust and who I could go to,
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and they would always give
me really good advice. Now,
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if you don't have that, what are
some things that we could do?
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The things that we listen to,
even the music we listen to.
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No. Oh, that's better, right.
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Babe?
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Yeah.
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Yeah. She founded an
architectural concrete company.
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He founded a hundred million
dollars clothing company.
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She took the world by storm
as a social media star. He.
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Took the world by storm as a
famous serial entrepreneur.
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Together we started a business.
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And had.
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All what you say you are. So
choose your words carefully.
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Don't become what you're,
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what you believe. Quote by Oprah Winfrey.
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Welcome to the Pretty and Punk podcast.
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My name is Dan Caldwell and
I'm here again once again.
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Once again with my
beautiful wife and co-host.
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And thank you guys for joining us today.
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We have another great
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Not that everything we do or talk
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so funny, but this is really important
for us and it's something that is
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near and dear to both of
us because when I think,
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well probably closer more to me because
I felt like I struggled with this a
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little bit when early
on in my entrepreneurial
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career.
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I think everybody struggles with this.
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How you speak to yourself
determines where you are
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going in life,
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and it's just something that is
so true and you don't realize
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sometimes how important it is.
I think my TED Talk was somewhat
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about something like this.
It wasn't this exactly,
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but I had always struggled with
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kind of negative or these
insecurities that I had for myself.
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And so it was like something I had
to get past because I struggled with
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that.
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I always felt like that I was
going to have problems in life
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trying to get what I really wanted in
life because I was dealing with that.
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But you're never like that, were you?
Because? Because when you come at me,
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I always feel like.
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I know what it was. You
didn't have these problems.
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I feel like I know what
it was. But before that.
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But I feel we all struggle
with this at one point or
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another in our lives,
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and what we need is
the people around us to
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kick those ridiculous ideas out of
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your head. Now,
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I feel like when you tell me
the stories of what you went
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through,
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I really feel when you talk
about the people around you,
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you didn't have the people that you needed
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to lean into that were
supposed to lift you up.
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They were almost questioning the things
that you were going into and giving you
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anxiety about the
decisions you were making.
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That's not a good feeling. Well.
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I mean, I think even before that,
I didn't have anybody to talk.
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To. And then you met Charles,
and that was your guy.
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That was the person that would lift
you up and you can bounce these
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ideas off of and come up with solutions.
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So rather than having people
around you going, this is never,
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you do know that this isn't going
to work, right? This is like,
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I don't even like to say
the S word or the D word,
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but people will say that this is
not a good idea, and they'll put it
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into such negative sentences that
it's painful and it makes you
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question yourself.
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So I feel I didn't have a lot of that,
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and when I did have that,
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I was able to go to my core group and just
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really bounce it off the
people that would lift me up.
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And I didn't have a lot
of people like that,
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but I knew who I could
trust and who I could go to,
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and they would always give
me really good advice. Now,
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if you don't have that, what are
some things that we could do?
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The things that we listen to,
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even the music we listen to.
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I think the intake. I mean, we all have
these voices inside of our head do that,
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narrate our lives and take
us in different directions.
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And the thing about that voice is that
sometimes that voice can be negative and
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that kind of inner dialogue that
we have with ourselves, that
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have with ourselves lot, it can have
this profound impact on our motivation.
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And I think that that's what I was going
through all the time because it wasn't
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necessarily the outside forces. I mean,
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they might say a little
something here and there,
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but nobody was telling me like, you're
never going to be able to do this.
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This is never going to work. They didn't
say that. They didn't have to say that.
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Well see people, because I
had filled those in myself.
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I filled in all that
information for myself.
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I was telling myself that, oh
my gosh, somebody would say,
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well, what are you going to do about this?
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And then I would blow that up
in my head like, whoa, my gosh,
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what am I going to do about
that? It's probably not.
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Going to work. A few that you said,
were trying to rip down the ideas,
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and that was really negative for you,
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but I could see how you
would build to the story
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that was being said and you would
blow it up to be something else.
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And that is something we all have
to be very careful with because
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you could potentially spiral
and you could blow your
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God given destiny or a
really great business
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idea.
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Well, I think self-talk is so
important a hundred percent.
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When I learned to control those
thoughts, I mean, now I feel so powerful.
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I never questioned anything that's
going through my head when I, not.
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In a.
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Negative way, not in a negative way
now. So I've learned to control it,
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and I think that's how I know that it's
powerful because when you can control
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it, you can do anything. I mean,
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not that I haven't had failures because
there's things that haven't worked,
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worked out for me,
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but I always feel like
I am going to blow the
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doors off of this thing. I'm going
to break through these walls.
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We're going to kill this.
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And sometimes there's some of the
things I spoke about in my TED talk
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was that I'll have these insecurities,
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but when I feel that I
overcompensate for it by
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working out all those
problems ahead of time,
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by figuring out overcompensating
for it so that it fixes
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itself,
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that I know that if I'm going to go
into this situation and I'm not sure how
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this is going to work
out, then I overstudy.
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I look up every possibility
and I am looking for every
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contingency. And so I'm
prepared when I go into it.
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And by the time I get to that point now,
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there's no chance that this isn't working.
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I'm always believing that I'm going
to kill this thing, whatever it is.
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Well, and that's the important thing,
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is that you have to believe
in yourself first and
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foremost,
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and know that you have the God-given
ability and the God-given gift to go
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after anything in the world you can
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accomplish. You just have to commit.
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You just totally have to
commit a hundred percent.
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When Charles first came to me,
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I just lost my job as a police officer,
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and I was hired on this other
department that I didn't want to be at.
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And I remember him coming to my department
and asking me if I wanted to start a
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T-shirt company. And I was thinking,
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I don't know anything
about printing T-shirts.
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I've never printed a T-shirt in my life.
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But I loved the idea of back
then what was called no holds
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bard or Juujitsu,
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and I loved Juujitsu. He loved Juujitsu,
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and we just wanted to do
something in and around that.
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And we knew that this sport was blowing
up. We knew that it was growing,
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and we knew that there was something
here. There was something special here.
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And I think when you start talking
about the things that you really know
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about, that you're confident about,
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I wasn't confident. If somebody
would asked me about printing shirts,
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I'd been like, oh my
gosh, yeah, we're done.
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So we don't know anything
about T-shirt business.
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We don't really know too
much about marketing,
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although that became our strong point.
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But what we did know
was that this sport was
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growing quickly and that it was going to
be big. I wouldn't say growing quickly,
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that's probably the wrong words,
because that time it was illegal.
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But we did know that there was something
here that everybody we showed it
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to was excited about it.
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Everybody that we talked about
it with was excited about it.
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And if they happen to watch a
UFC or they happen to watch start
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training in Jiujitsu,
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that they were addicted to it
and there was something there.
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So when you're talking about things
that you feel more comfortable about,
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that you feel confident about and that
you're confident about your subject
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matter, whatever that is, you tend
to be more in a positive place.
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And I guess the reaction,
obviously not I guess,
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but for sure if you have that
positive reaction from people,
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then it helps you. It gives you the
signals that you're on the right track.
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So again,
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you're surrounding yourself on the second
half of that journey with people that
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are excited for you. So
that's a good feeling,
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and that gives you the
fuel to push forward.
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So whatever industry you are in or
whatever business you're trying to build,
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surround yourself with the people
that can cause that momentum,
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that will push that momentum
into you going forward.
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That gives you the confidence to know
that you are on the right track and that
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it is possible.
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Yeah,
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I think I'm sure you probably went through
something like that in acting like if
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you had a good response from
people about your acting,
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then you felt very confident about it.
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But how did it feel when
you got a negative response?
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Did you ever feel like somebody
was coming down on you because you.
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Didn't, maybe.
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You didn't get a part or something? I.
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Had really good coaches
that really helped me
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prepare my mindset.
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And I think one of the reasons I stepped
into that industry is because it was so
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challenging,
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and I'm telling you it's not for everyone
because they really do cut you down.
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But I am the kind of person
that I really love to challenge
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myself. I don't know, because
there is a lot of rejection,
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but I don't know why.
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There's just this part
of me that enjoyed the
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challenge. I don't know
if I think about it now,
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that must've been really tough.
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And I saw a lot of people
break down and turn to
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things that I know little
ones are listening,
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but they would get lost in a world
of you could get lost in a world of
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darkness, depression, is it
me? Is it personally me? Well,
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I was able to disconnect from that.
It is just a role,
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but what I would find joy in knowing
that I'm probably not going to
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get this role,
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I'm going to think outside of the
box and try to make them fall.
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The coaches would say,
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make them fall in love with
you when you go into that room.
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And it just taught me so
much about business and
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public speaking,
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and you just have these
things that you learn so that
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people cannot look away
from you. So for me,
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I enjoyed acting. I loved it. I
loved taking on the challenge,
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but there were some roles
that I really, really wanted,
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that I really wanted, and I could
feel a part of. My heart broke.
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I'm like, they couldn't have
said no, I was perfect for this.
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I was perfect for this. So yeah, I
did have a little bit of heartbreak,
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but I never took it personal.
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And I had such great coaches
that just poured into me in that
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sense.
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Hi, baby. Yeah, I think your
thoughts have such incredible power.
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That never take it.
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Personal, and you have
to not take it personal.
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And the good news about that is
that is because those have so much
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power that you also have the
power of your own thoughts.
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So if you control your own thoughts, they
can take you in a different direction.
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And you have to be conscious of it
because if you're not conscious of
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the power that you have
over your own thoughts,
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then those thoughts can just go wild.
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And so you have to control those thoughts
when they start getting wild like
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that. And I think part of that is just
the intake is thinking about the positive
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things, being grateful for what
you have and what you can do. And.
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The lesson, I think, for and for yourself,
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I think that you can relate to this
when you have a failure or you don't get
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something,
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it teaches you a lesson so
that the next time you go
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into, for example, a role,
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you've learned your lesson and
you tactically go at it in another
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way and then you win,
and then it's awesome.
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Yeah, I mean, it's so easy. I think every.
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Business, everybody.
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Walt Disney was fired from his first job
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for not being creative enough,
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and those are examples of
people who probably could
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have took those things to heart but didn't
get deterred because they've reframed
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it in their mind,
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however they did to get back on track
so that they could accomplish what they
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were looking to because they knew in
themselves is how somehow he must have
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said, how could he say, I'm not
creative enough if you reframe it,
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he must not have understood what I had
running through my brain because I have
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so much bigger picture that he
just doesn't even understand.
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The one thing that my mom was
really good at when she was
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raising us was talking
power and confidence,
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and she just chose her
words. Now that I think back,
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she chose her words so wisely
about the way she spoke
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about us. And I feel like
the way she talked to us,
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we truly believed that
anything was possible. I mean,
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from the second I knew that
I was pregnant with Daniel,
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the words were very carefully
chosen that I spoke,
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even the thoughts that I took,
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because I don't know how
they say that your baby can
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read your thoughts.
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I just was so careful
with everything I took in
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everything I put out the words.
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I invite you guys to prime
your children because
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what you say, they will believe
what you say about yourself.
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They will believe. My mom was very
careful the way she talked about herself.
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I'm sure she had moments where she
wasn't sure because she prayed.
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She prayed a lot for answers.
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But the way you talk about yourself
and the way you talk about those
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children, and you got to speak about
your children as if they are the wisest,
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kindest, smartest,
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most beautiful and
talented humans on earth,
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what they believe is
what they will become.
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I think when me and Charles
were starting tap out,
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and it was early on, we're
both ex-police officers,
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or I was probably still police officer
at the time coming from San Bernardino
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and just not having, we didn't
have a business background,
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didn't really have anybody to look
up to. I was looking up to him.
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He was like eight years older than I
was, so I was somewhat looking to him,
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your father here, but he was still,
he's not a business guy either.
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And he's kind of looking at me for some
of those things because I had started a
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small business before,
so he's looking at me,
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but neither of us really
knowing what we're doing,
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but what I needed to see
that other people could make.
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I needed to see that
somebody like me could create
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something. And once I understood that,
I had read books on, or not books,
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but articles on Daymond John,
later we became friends,
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but reading his article,
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an article on him about
how he had started fubu,
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and I realized that he was just a
regular guy too. A guy who just hustled,
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had great ideas, and how can
he get his name out there?
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He was in this almost, even though
hip hop was a different thing,
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it was growing.
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He was at that same ground floor
level when he started fubu,
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and he was able to grow this company
into this a hundred million dollar,
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multi hundred million dollar company,
or now maybe a billion dollar company.
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I love that. And we were
kind of in the same place.
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So we were at that place at that time
when we're at these beginning stages,
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didn't know a lot about the business,
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but we believed that we could create
something big because the sport was
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growing so fast and.
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The stories, that's exactly what
happened you had around you.
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I think that that was.
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A huge, I influence, yeah, I need
just see that that was possible.
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And then when I realized
that was possible,
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that self-talk change because I
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became this police
officer and me came out,
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if they could do it, I can
do it. I'm not going to lose.
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I'm not going to die here on the floor.
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I can agree with that a hundred
percent. And growing up,
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being in business,
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that I feel was such a gift
because the conversations that were
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had in the store, in the antique
store, in the jewelry store,
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especially the jewelry store, because
those were the successful entrepreneurs,
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attorneys, doctors, buying gifts,
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and my mom was really
great at opening them up
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to conversations and she
would share her struggle of
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coming to the country as an immigrant,
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and they would open up and share their
stories of failures and sometimes
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bankruptcies, but then here
they are back on their feet.
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I would have that in my back pocket
as a child. And then growing up,
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as you were saying, looking
up to these entrepreneurs,
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and for me, quotes were
really big as yourself.
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So that was something
we would either, for me,
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I would stick these quotes all over
my walls of different entrepreneurs.
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And I love the fact that yes,
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they're all just normal
human beings that have
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failed once, twice, sometimes, many times.
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And then here they are back on
their feet and they made it.
00:21:15
I love those stories.
00:21:17
Almost more times the better when you
hear about, inspire their failures.
00:21:22
Realize.
00:21:23
How much is possible. Yes,
00:21:25
I needed to see that these people were
just like me and they were able to make
00:21:29
it. I think that's what made,
00:21:31
I've told the story before about Tony
Robbins and how just watching his
00:21:35
infomercial and him highlighting the
fact that certain people were just
00:21:40
normal people and that they were
through their mindset, able to make it,
00:21:46
I realized how important the
mindset was at that time.
00:21:50
That really played a part in ultimately,
00:21:53
and I think I had told the story
that ultimately 10 years later,
00:21:56
I had ran into Tony Robbins
in a hotel and told him about
00:22:01
how he had changed my
life. Yeah, that's so cool.
00:22:02
And told him about how his teachings
on mindset and being able to
00:22:07
control the way you think
changed the way I was thinking,
00:22:11
and I think played a huge part
in our success. And ultimately,
00:22:17
he put me on his infomercial.
I mean, that just, yeah.
00:22:20
That's so fun is just the craziness,
how this can come full circle.
00:22:23
And again, just speak into your
children because I said, oh,
00:22:28
because it reminded me the story
when you were talking of Thomas
00:22:33
Edison.
00:22:34
I love his story of how his teacher
sent him home because do you know
00:22:39
this story.
00:22:39
About the letter that she had sent
home with him? And I don't think he.
00:22:43
Did read at the time the teacher sent
him home saying that he was mentally
00:22:47
deficient, basically, that he
wasn't smart enough to be in school.
00:22:52
So his mother told him
that he was so smart.
00:22:56
I don't know exactly. She.
00:22:57
Read the letter. I think she had read
the letter to him and said, held.
00:23:02
Back her tears as a
strong mama bear. Mama.
00:23:05
Put her own twist of words on it.
00:23:06
And told him he was the most
beautiful and smartest child,
00:23:11
and that this school isn't good
enough. So she had to homeschool him,
00:23:15
and he became the genius of the
century because he believed.
00:23:19
It. Yeah, because she had
instilled that belief it in him.
00:23:24
That just popped into my
head. I love that story.
00:23:26
And imagine how that could have affected
him because he took that with him. God.
00:23:29
Exactly. And it just changed. It
may have changed his whole mindset.
00:23:33
Absolutely. 100%.
00:23:36
And that's what we all need to
be doing. I read somewhere that,
00:23:40
because I believe the
reason why a lot of us fail,
00:23:45
if we fail or have these
setbacks is because they're.
00:23:49
Lessons. They lessons. The enemy.
00:23:50
Is putting these negative
thoughts in our head,
00:23:55
and we really have to be careful
about those things because.
00:23:59
Yes, it's all a lie. He, it's a lie.
00:24:01
I read exactly that,
00:24:03
that Satan's best lies is
that that will never happen.
00:24:08
Whatever you're thinking about,
whatever you're trying to do,
00:24:11
I could hear him whispering in the back
of my head, and if you're listening,
00:24:14
he's probably whispered in your ear
a few times. That will never happen.
00:24:20
Whatever you're thinking
about, that will never happen.
00:24:23
Well, he can't read your thoughts. So
never talk about these things out loud.
00:24:28
Never say,
00:24:30
never commit to the negative thought You
00:24:34
could train yourself
to dodge the thoughts,
00:24:38
turn it into something else.
Acknowledge that that is the devil.
00:24:42
That is the devil. Don't say it
out loud. Do not commit to it.
00:24:47
Just don't.
00:24:48
Never commit it.
00:24:49
Refuse to.
00:24:49
Believe it. Nope. Never commit
to it. I love kids. So what.
00:24:52
Are the fixes that we can do? What
are some of the things that can change
00:24:58
the way they speak to themselves?
Because it's so, so important,
00:25:02
especially when you don't have a
lot of wins under your belt yet.
00:25:06
Because I think what gave
me self-confidence is as
you start to have these
00:25:11
little wins throughout your life,
00:25:12
throughout especially your business
career or whatever it might be,
00:25:16
is you start to have these
little wins throughout your life.
00:25:18
You start to gain self-Confidence.
00:25:21
Confidence, yes. And the momentum.
00:25:23
Yeah. And it gives you this momentum.
But before you get to that point,
00:25:29
there's a danger of believing the negative
00:25:33
around you. The people that
might either tell you, well,
00:25:38
that's probably impossible. You see some
YouTube star and you're thinking, oh,
00:25:43
I could never do that. Or
especially somebody will tell you,
00:25:47
that's not possible for us because
we come from here or because we're
00:25:52
this person. Oh gosh, that's terrible.
Or because we don't have the money.
00:25:55
Somebody will always give you a reason.
00:25:56
Why you can't. Let me just tell
you that anything is possible.
00:25:59
You just need to learn as much as you
can about the thing that you are going
00:26:04
after. I think one of the main things,
00:26:07
if you can surround yourself
with the people that
00:26:12
know more than you about the thing
that you're trying to go after,
00:26:16
surround yourself with people
that are going to build you up,
00:26:20
not pull you down the people
that you feel most confident
00:26:24
around
00:26:28
that don't make you second guess
yourself. If you don't have that,
00:26:32
listen to a podcast that is going
to uplift you to make you feel like
00:26:37
anything is possible.
Read books, books, books.
00:26:41
Most of people, four people,
there's so much more around you.
00:26:45
There's so much.
00:26:46
That you may not have had 20 years
ago that weren't available to you,
00:26:50
especially in the way that they are today.
00:26:52
But between podcasts and audio books and
00:26:56
coaching.
00:26:57
Consuming content coaching.
00:26:59
YouTube, there's no excuse
anymore. There's no excuse.
00:27:04
There's way too much out there to
help get your mindset straight so
00:27:09
that you don't have these types of issues.
00:27:11
And the words that you say, the words
that you think have immense power.
00:27:16
I would say, and this is something
that I learned as a little girl,
00:27:20
and I hope that I know that my kids,
00:27:23
when they get scared or something,
00:27:27
they don't ever have thoughts
of that. They can't do anything.
00:27:30
They truly believe anything is possible,
00:27:33
but they do have whispers of
fear. But my daughter yesterday,
00:27:37
she already said, I'm feeling scared,
00:27:41
but I know that that's a
lie. So can we pray together?
00:27:46
Because I do know that in the Bible that
00:27:51
God says to fear not. So let's
get this feeling out of my head.
00:27:56
This is something that I learned
when I was young. Whatever it is,
00:28:00
pray about it. Pray about it,
00:28:02
and thank God like it's already
happened. If thank you, God,
00:28:07
for bringing the right people into my
life and weeding out the wrong people,
00:28:11
whatever it is,
00:28:12
I'm just giving you a little example of
some of the things that I say when I'm
00:28:17
praying like it's already
happened. I'm not in a good spot.
00:28:21
Pray like it's already happened. Thank
God for the blessings that you do have.
00:28:28
You cannot be scared and
grateful at the same time.
00:28:32
Yes, prayer is so powerful.
00:28:34
You can't have negative
thoughts at the same.
00:28:36
Time. Once you.
00:28:37
Can't, you're grateful.
00:28:39
And our daughter.
00:28:41
I lost my thought, but
you know what I'm saying.
00:28:43
She's doing cartwheels and I've
got my weights around here.
00:28:46
So she's a little firecracker,
00:28:50
but she knows anything is possible.
00:28:53
I love what Joel Osteen says.
00:28:55
He says that when a negative
thought comes your, oh,
00:29:00
what does he say? I can't
remember the words Now,
00:29:02
when a negative thought comes into
your mind, erase it and replace it.
00:29:06
That's what he says.
00:29:06
Yes.
00:29:06
Erase it, erase it, and
replace it. And it's like,
00:29:09
because it's important to not only
get that negative thought out of your
00:29:14
mind, but then replace
it with something that.
00:29:17
You say it out loud because So you.
00:29:19
Change your whole mindset.
00:29:21
Exactly. Exactly.
00:29:23
The thought will come and then
say it out loud in a positive way,
00:29:28
and then you know who the
enemy, he'll run the other way.
00:29:33
If there's anything that
you're going through right now,
00:29:35
there's so much material out
there to just change everything.
00:29:38
Your whole mindset that were
not available 20 years ago,
00:29:43
30 years ago, we're so lucky. And
so we're so fortunate today in 2024.
00:29:48
So if you need to, whether that's
speak to somebody, get a coach,
00:29:53
get on YouTube, read the right book.
00:29:55
There's so many audio books and
regular reading books, however,
00:29:59
whatever type of intake
you like, and it just,
00:30:02
there's so much content out there
for you to be able to take in.
00:30:06
Did you just say that on our podcast? Did.
00:30:07
You really just say that I did,
because someone else may need it.
00:30:10
That you can take this information
in, get your head straight.
00:30:13
Self-talk is so important. I think
it's so important in a positive way,
00:30:18
but also to make sure you're
not doing it in a negative way.
00:30:22
Yes.
00:30:22
So thank you guys for listening to this
episode of the Pretty and Punk podcast.
00:30:26
Oh.
00:30:26
Real quick.
00:30:27
And.
00:30:28
Do the inventory, because the five
people that you surround yourself with,
00:30:32
you will become.
00:30:32
So make sure that they're thinking
positive and talking positive.
00:30:36
And thank you guys for tuning in. If
you know anybody who this can help,
00:30:40
anybody who's going through something
like this, who's starting a new business,
00:30:44
who's down on themselves a little
bit, not only help them out,
00:30:48
but maybe help them out by sending in
this podcast, let them know that we are,
00:30:53
everybody goes through this stuff,
00:30:55
and that's something that's so
important that they're not alone.
00:30:58
You're not alone in this journey,
00:31:01
that we've all gone through this. No
matter where you are on that journey,
00:31:05
that you can always be better and that
you should look back and try to help
00:31:09
other people that are behind you. So thank
you guys for tuning in our kids here,
00:31:13
and this whole podcast is
going to a whole nother place.
00:31:17
So thank you guys for tuning in and
we will catch you guys next week. God.
00:31:21
Bless.
00:31:22
Time for Jesus.
00:31:34
Aw, God bless you guys.
Thank you for teaming.
00:31:37
Go picnic. Go pick.
00:31:39
Go picnic. Go pick. We're going
to have a picnic tomorrow.
00:31:43
God bless you guys. Thank you guys.
00:31:46
For joining the podcast.
See you next week.
00:31:49
Enjoy this episode of the
Pretty and Punk Podcast.
00:31:53
Make sure to subscribe and like
we love you guys. God bless.
00:31:57
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00:32:02
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00:32:07
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