EP 151 How Top Entrepreneurs are Using Gratitude: A Special Christmas Episode
In this heartwarming Christmas special of the Pretty and Punk Podcast, hosts Dan Caldwell and Ildiko Ferenczi dive deep into the theme of gratitude amidst life's challenges. As the holiday season approaches, they reflect on the struggles many face in today's unpredictable economy and the importance of maintaining a grateful mindset. This episode is not just about the festivities; it's a profound exploration of finding joy and appreciation in both the highs and lows of life.
Dan and Ildiko share personal stories and insights, emphasizing the transformative power of gratitude in overcoming adversity. From discussing their daily gratitude practices to touching on deeply personal experiences, including health challenges and family losses, they provide a raw and honest perspective on the strength found in thankfulness.
Listeners will be moved by the couple's authenticity and vulnerability as they discuss the impact of gratitude on their lives, parenting, and business. The episode also includes practical tips on cultivating a gratitude mindset, which Dan and Ildiko believe is crucial for mental and emotional well-being.
Join Dan and Ildiko in this special episode as they remind us of the true spirit of the holiday season and the unyielding power of gratitude to change our lives. Whether you're going through a tough time or just need a gentle reminder of life's blessings, this episode is a beacon of hope and inspiration.
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When you feel gratitude,
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you can't feel any other emotion.
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And the best time to do
gratitude is first thing in
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the morning. And even better is
closing your night with gratitude.
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Because what it does to your
mind is while you sleep,
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you're in that state of gratitude
and you wake up with gratitude.
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No. Oh, that's better, right, babe?
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Yeah.
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Yeah. She founded an
architectural concrete company.
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He founded a hundred
million dollars clothing.
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Company. She took the world by
storm as a social media star. He.
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Took the world by storm as a
famous serial entrepreneur.
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Together we started a business.
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And had babies.
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Now we're figuring out
the best ways to do both.
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Join us as we learn from other
entrepreneurs going through the same life
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struggles.
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As they share their life,
hacks about success, love.
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Kids, and everything in.
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Between.
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The more you practice out of gratitude,
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the more you'll have to be grateful
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by Norman Vincent Peel.
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The best Christmas gift is to be
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realize how much you already have.
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Welcome to the Pretty Punk podcast.
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My name is Dan Caldwell and I'm
here with my beautiful wife,
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And we have an important subject. We're
getting really close to Christmas,
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and we were just talking about what
do we want to do on this podcast?
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And we wanted to do something
about Christmas or presents.
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But you know what? We know that there's
so many people struggling right now,
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so many people that are going
through different things,
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and the economy's kind of up and down
and they're trying to figure things out,
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but they're going through so much,
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and it's just a time that
we all need to find and be
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grateful and have gratitude.
Because when you have gratitude,
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it's hard to complain.
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When you feel gratitude,
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you can't feel any other emotion.
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And the best time to do
gratitude is first thing in
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the morning. And even better is
closing your night with gratitude.
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Because what it does to your
mind is while you sleep,
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you're in that state of gratitude
and you wake up with gratitude.
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So it just cycle cycles
you through the day.
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So that's why I feel that we do our
prayers and our gratitude in the
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morning, and then at night
we close with the prayers.
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And when we say we do
this, we actually do it.
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Sometimes I feel like when I'm watching
people speak about certain subjects,
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I feel like they're saying it,
but they really don't do it.
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I heard somebody yesterday
saying, when he's in the shower,
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he speaks about something,
a certain subject,
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and he speaks to himself
and to motivate himself.
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And I just have a little piece
of me said, you know what?
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I'm.
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Not sure. I believe he actually does that.
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Right? We never miss a day.
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We never miss a day.
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Never, ever, ever, ever.
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Ever.
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And not just because part of it is for us,
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we need to say it out loud.
We need to feel that because
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the truth is, it's always
we're up and down too.
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We go through stuff too, and there's a
lot of things going on in our family,
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and sometimes you can't just
be grateful when you're up.
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You have to find ways to be
grateful when you're down.
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Can I add to that?
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I feel you need to be so strong with your
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gratitude routine. And for
me, my gratitude journey,
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I would pray, but I
wouldn't really focus on it.
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But when I was blessed with
that baby, with Daniel,
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I started speaking gratitude
and strength into him and love.
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But every day I would
be so grateful and pray,
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and that routine was so strong,
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and it needs to be so strong in
your life that you are able to lean
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into it when your life is falling apart.
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Well, that's why I think to me, I know
you went to that moment, but for me,
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I think
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what was compelling and
what was more important was
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the time when you went
through surgery and seeing how
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grateful you were coming
out of that surgery.
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But not only because you really
were still in a state of,
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you weren't perfect, you weren't
great. Coming out of that surgery,
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and I know I hate to take you to
that moment, I'm sorry, but to me,
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to see the gratitude that you
had coming out of the surgery,
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not only because the surgery
went well for the moment,
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but just knowing that everything was
against you at that time. I mean,
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I can remember before we went to
the doctor's office, you literally,
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you were broken and you didn't
want to go to the hospital.
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You knew it was the level of
surgery. It's a surgery. It's eight,
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nine hour surgery that you don't come
out of, that people don't live through.
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They kept telling me that I might not
make it through, and I'm just crying,
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not because I'm sad, I'm so happy.
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I actually spent last night till five
in the morning looking at pictures
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Of me with the babies,
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and I looked so happy if you
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Didn't know the battle that
we were fighting as a family.
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And the kids,
They knew, but they weren't worried.
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And I remember the morning that
we said I was going to go down,
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I was going to do an
alternative treatment,
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and I wasn't going to go in for surgery
and we'll talk about the whole journey
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another time. But there was
something said, and I just said,
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I don't want to spend
time away from the babies.
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And if that other alternative didn't work,
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then I wouldn't be here today.
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So I wanted to just
throw everything at it.
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And I went in and you
guys weren't even with me.
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I didn't even get to hold a loved one's
hand because I was going to walk out of
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the hospital, but just
something said, just do it.
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Just go in and do it.
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And surgery scares the crap out of me.
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And I remember even a week
before when I was getting iv,
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I was already preparing my
body for the natural therapy,
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and I feel like God brought this
angel into my life. This other
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doctor, she just started
talking to me and she said,
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you are terrified. And it was my secret.
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Nobody could tell I was really, really
happy, but secretly scared. And she said,
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I worked in a hospital for many years,
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and if you do go through
with that surgery,
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you have to be so,
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your mind has to be in a different
state of gratitude and love
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and just trust in God.
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Because when you are terrified
and you go into surgery,
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I've seen so many people not wake
up and she said, this is a big one.
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I remember you walking out of
that office telling me that. Yeah.
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And I said.
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I didn't even know what to tell you
because I didn't really have a response.
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It was crazy. I mean, what do you say
when somebody says that There's no,
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the facts. I mean, I wanted to say, I
know you're going to come out. And I did.
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I believed that in my heart. I believed
everything was going to be okay,
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but still, it was looming
and it was coming.
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And we knew the surgery was coming and
it just didn't feel like a good time to
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say anything.
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Tried walk out, tried to walk out.
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But can I just tell you that I had
to say goodbye to my family over
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FaceTime? And I said, I'm doing it.
And they're all looking at me in shock,
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but you have a flight
tomorrow to another country.
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And I just thought about it and the
love and the support from my family,
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maybe that natural therapy,
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it does work and it's
worked for many people,
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but I couldn't imagine being away
from my newborn baby and my little
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baby. I knew that they wanted
to put me in for the chemo,
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but in my heart of hearts,
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I knew that we could do everything that
needed to be done and I wouldn't have to
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do. And they looked at me like I
was nuts, but I felt this calm,
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this hug,
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this vision of me with
the kids in the future.
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And I am telling you,
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I should have been so
scared and I was so calm,
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and so I felt so loved and so
warm. And it was the weirdest,
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craziest, most beautiful feeling
before I went into that surgery.
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And I know a hundred percent my
gratitude and my connectiveness to
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God that was there. This is
why I'm getting emotional.
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I felt horrible because I had
dropped you off and I was looking,
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I trying to race back, pick up.
You were going to pick me up. Well,
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I was trying to race back
before you went into surgery,
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and I couldn't make it back in
time. And so by the time I got back,
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they said she's already in there. So
when I said bye to you before that,
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it was kind of a casual bite. I.
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Didn't think you were going to.
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I was like, I'll be right back, because
I knew I was basically telling you,
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I'll be right back.
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You know what the hardest thing
to do is if you're grateful
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for life, if you're just
grateful for your life,
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you have to be grateful for
both the good and the bad.
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You can't have one without the other.
There's no lightness, without darkness.
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That's right. It can't happen.
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So you have to be grateful for
all those periods in your life.
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If you're going into the holiday
and you're complaining and
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you've got to just find that place, you.
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Have to yes.
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Of gratitude so that it can
take you out of that because
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you can't have both
states at the same time.
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And if you go into the holidays,
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we're talking about why
we celebrate the holidays.
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You got to be grateful for
everything that not only the holiday,
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but if you have your family or
you're having a roof over your head,
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find things to be grateful
for. I'm grateful every day,
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and we say it every single day, we're
grateful for the roof over our head.
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We're grateful for our kids.
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We're grateful for the things
that we have in our life.
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And we've said that,
and we need to say that.
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And we should always say that in
both the good times and the bad.
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And a lot of people, they say, I mean,
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you just have to switch
that little, just click it.
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I have to clean my house today.
No, you get to clean your house.
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You have a roof over your.
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House. Okay, I'm going to work on that
one. Get to op. I'm working on that one.
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You.
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Get to help me. That.
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Human M, it's, I've been
avoiding that whole op for
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It's okay, two weeks, three weeks now.
It's okay. No, we actually, I get to mop.
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To mop. He's never mopped. I've never,
But I'm just saying,
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I take pride in taking care of my
home and it really doesn't take
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long. And I just have a hard time
being someone a hundred. I do know in,
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I'm really good at cleaning and I'm
like, Hey, can you maybe mo today?
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Or you do other things. And just sometimes
when my back is sore, I'm like, Hey,
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can you help me do this?
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And I hope you don't feel like
I'm trying to gang up on you
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and make you do something you don't want
to do. But I guess a little the other,
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well, I hope not. Sometimes
when I'm hurting, I'm just,
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I need a little help.
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I do help in other areas.
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Maybe I don't know how to mop.
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Okay, well, the kids will
help me. It doesn't. Okay.
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We'll talk offline.
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About it. It's not a big deal.
But what was I going to say? Oh,
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and then how they say, oh, I have
to pick up the kids at school.
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We don't do that because we homeschool,
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but you get to pick up your children.
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People are still praying
to have babies. Babies.
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I could never imagine
complaining about my babies.
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Not one time because how long
did it take for me? I mean,
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you don't know the journey,
but it took me a long,
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long time to get pregnant and I was just,
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I couldn't imagine throwing that in.
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Hold on. I'm lost. I
didn't know the journey.
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But it took you a long time to
get pregnant. What do you mean?
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I was in the journey. I was on the
journey. What are you talking about?
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I was totally confused. Anyways,
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and I've heard that this
from somebody a while ago,
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and I'm probably going to.
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Butcher. I guess women,
they blame themselves.
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I'm going to butcher this,
but the more you're grateful,
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the more you'll have to
be grateful for the more.
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That's.
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True. Have you heard
that before? Yeah. Yeah.
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If you're grateful.
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For the little, I'm sure
butcher that somehow.
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But no, no. If you're grateful for the
littlest things, which we should be,
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then it's like, God,
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we'll see how grateful you are for
the little things, and then he'll see.
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Wait till you see what
I have planned for you.
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True. And I believe that too. That
too. Because there were so many times,
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it's the one thing that I think
I've always been pretty good at.
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There's a lot of things I'm
horrible at, but I've always been,
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I remember in the journey
of building our company
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along the way, horrible moments,
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not being able to pay rent,
losing things, being repossessed,
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all kinds of things going
on. And during that journey,
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I've always found a way to be grateful.
I was always grateful along those stuff.
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And I honestly believe,
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I honestly believe with every bone
in my body that that's the reason
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why we were given.
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Oh 100%.
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Because I wasn't as close to God as
I should have been in some of those.
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But I was always grateful.
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I had always found a place to be grateful
for everything that we did have and
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what was going right for us on
our journey and understanding
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what was going wrong and not
complaining and just being grateful.
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I'd never complain. That's
one thing I try never to do.
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Yeah. That's how I grew up too.
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And it was scary to complain
because I knew and I understood
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how hard our family worked
to put bread on the table.
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So we were grateful for everything.
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And that's another thing I love
about our family tradition,
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is that our kids have a strict rule
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of three presents.
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And maybe that sounds awful
because I know as parents we.
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Do maximum three presents.
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Did I say minimum?
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No, no, no. But you did when we remember.
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Remember I'm tired.
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We were talking about it a
couple of weeks ago and you said,
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we remember she was put me on notice.
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Remember we have a minimum of three
presents. And I was like, okay,
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hold on, hold on. I'm confused. It's a
mommy bird. Say it again. What'd you say?
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And she goes, A minimum of three
presents Max. And I'm like,
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so you want me to go in and
tell all my family members?
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Remember there's a minimum of three
presents if you're going to be family,
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it's a minimum of three
presents. And you're like, no,
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tell your family. It's a maximum
of three presents. Anyways,
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it was a funny moment. I.
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Guess it's good. I guess it
good. We're the cheap family.
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You don't really have to.
But it's not about that.
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They have so much joy. They're
not like, oh, what's next?
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They're so grateful for the
three presents. And I don't want,
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when they have too much,
they have toys. I mean,
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we get toys and it adds up
and there's this clutter.
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And I watched these reels
of these parents that
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they buy tons and tons and tons of toys,
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and it's just this overwhelming
clutter of stress and
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hoarding. Yeah.
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What do you do with it.
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All?
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I think the dad got so mad that he scooped
everything up with a shovel and threw
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it in the trash can. And I was like,
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I want my kids to truly appreciate every
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single thing that they get. And they
do. And I'm so grateful for that,
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that they understand the
work and the investment
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that goes into having
toys or whatever they
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have their clothes take.
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Good.
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And that's something that everybody
needs to think about during the holidays.
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I hate to see,
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and I wouldn't want to give
my kids so many presents
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that they literally don't
appreciate 'em anymore. Yeah.
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They're looking their appreciation,
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they're opening them up and they're
kind like, ah, another present,
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another present. And they just
opening 'em as fast as they can go.
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They can't sit there and just open.
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We want them to open a present and
appreciate that present and go.
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And one thing's for sure that we
absolutely need to make sure happens,
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and that I believe we make
sure this happens every year,
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is that when they get presents
before they open a second present,
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they go up and thank that person for
that present. Yeah, a hundred percent.
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And be appreciative
right there on the spot.
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Because I hate to have kids
just ripping over presents and
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no gratitude going on. We got
to balance that with gratitude.
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I think that's always important.
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Yeah. I really do love,
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we didn't have an excessive
presence when I was a child either,
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but I know how excited I was that my mom
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was able to do this for me.
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And I remember there was a few times
when I got the replica of something
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and in my head I was a
little bit disappointed,
00:19:53
but then I changed it to
gratitude because I knew that
00:19:58
she worked so hard to get that for me.
00:20:02
I don't know if I could
put that into words.
00:20:05
I know exactly what you're speaking
about because, and you know what?
00:20:08
I don't know if my parents were
struggling during that time,
00:20:12
but I never knew it
because I never felt that.
00:20:17
They never let me feel that. So when
00:20:21
they always made sure that there was
something under the tree, something. Yeah.
00:20:24
And there was always, if I was
asking for a bike, I got a bike.
00:20:28
It may not have been the
exact bike that I wanted,
00:20:30
but I got a bike and I was excited about
that and I always wanted that for my
00:20:35
kids.
00:20:35
But then balancing it so easy
when you start to have money to
00:20:40
just spoil them, to just buy
everything that you always wanted.
00:20:44
And I think that's so damaging to
It's dangerous. It's dangerous.
00:20:49
So I try.
00:20:50
Not to get, and then we
have our traditions that
they're really excited about.
00:20:54
The dinner, the movies,
the music, the dancing.
00:20:58
And I want them to just
be engaged and connect.
00:21:02
We don't really do a lot of devices,
but we have all the things we do.
00:21:07
It's a party. It's a good atmosphere.
00:21:10
And let me tell you that our heart still,
00:21:16
for me, my brother, he passed in December.
00:21:21
So December was always really hard.
00:21:24
But I had to dig in to the blessing.
00:21:27
The blessing of being able to have him.
00:21:29
So I know that there's a lot of people
out there that are going through where
00:21:35
it's like they're full of gratitude,
full of joy, and that's okay.
00:21:39
But then a part of your heart
has that empty chair in the
00:21:44
empty setting.
00:21:45
Yeah. It's all, and you can
always, and we talked about this,
00:21:49
when you're on the ditch,
your rather passed.
00:21:53
And now my mom, so there's two and the
little ones are going through it too.
00:21:57
So I just really want to quickly say,
00:22:00
so we have a couple little ornaments
on the tree and we talk about them.
00:22:04
And this is healing for us.
Don't try not whatever. I mean,
00:22:09
follow your emotions and your heart,
00:22:13
what makes you feel
good. But for my babies,
00:22:15
they love to talk about grandma
and they never met Uncle David,
00:22:19
but they talk about him
and they pray for him.
00:22:23
And it's just this, I'm already smiling.
00:22:27
That's what it does,
00:22:28
is you're grateful for the legacy and the
00:22:33
joy and the lessons that they brought
into your life. And now think about this,
00:22:38
how God has a God-given
purpose for everybody and
00:22:44
my brother, my mother,
00:22:46
they weren't able to finish everything
that God had planned for them.
00:22:51
They have your ancestors.
00:22:54
Maybe your meant to be the
chain breaker of poverty
00:22:59
or addiction or whatever else you may be
00:23:03
facing, or you have some
kind of other special
00:23:10
mission in life, A God given.
00:23:12
Mission.
00:23:13
Focus on those.
00:23:13
Things. Is that what we
talked about on that day,
00:23:17
was that having the gratitude to go,
00:23:20
we were lucky enough to
spend 18 years with him. Yes.
00:23:23
Always.
00:23:24
Always.
00:23:24
And that's what got you through Christmas
is a hundred percent that every year,
00:23:29
your mom who had to be reminded of that
00:23:34
had to find not necessarily
the goodness in it,
00:23:38
but just had to find something
to be grateful for. Exactly.
00:23:42
And that was it.
00:23:44
That's what you to sometimes be grateful
for is I have to be grateful for that.
00:23:48
I got 18 years for them.
00:23:50
Exactly.
00:23:50
Exactly. And that's hard to do. It's
not easy to do. So we know everybody.
00:23:56
It's easy enough now with
the internet to go, Hey,
00:23:57
you want to find something
to be grateful for.
00:23:59
I looked at some pictures
yesterday of some people in Africa,
00:24:02
and they were some people who
00:24:06
we had given to who sent
over some pictures of
00:24:11
them wearing shirts and things
and clothing and other stuff,
00:24:15
and just looking at them going, wow.
00:24:20
So they might be sleeping on dirt floors.
00:24:22
They're.
00:24:22
Happy and they're happy and they're happy.
00:24:25
And yet we're complaining about because
we don't have this or we don't have
00:24:29
that. Or the lines are too
long in target or whatever.
00:24:34
That is that.
00:24:35
Wet. No, I can't complain about
stuff. My mom was a child of war,
00:24:40
so I understood and I understood
her. Please never waste food.
00:24:44
We didn't have anything to eat.
00:24:46
And she was just so grateful
to come to a country of
00:24:51
opportunity and freedom.
00:24:55
How amazing is that? How amazing is that?
00:24:59
Yeah, I heard this so lucky.
00:25:01
I heard this story of Ed Millet
that he was talking about.
00:25:06
He was in a restaurant
with a friend of his,
00:25:08
and his business was collapsing
or something was going on in his
00:25:13
business. And his friend asked him,
00:25:19
what in your life do you have to be
grateful for right now? And he goes,
00:25:22
nothing. I have nothing to be
grateful for. Right. Nothing is going,
00:25:26
not necessarily just
grateful, but he said,
00:25:28
nothing is going right in my life
right now. Nothing. And he goes,
00:25:33
as if God teed it up,
00:25:35
these two gentlemen walk
in both going through
00:25:40
cancer treatments, obviously.
Yeah, I've heard this.
00:25:43
And it's powerful. And
he just had to, I mean,
00:25:48
it just gripped his
heart with feeling that,
00:25:52
how could I be saying this?
00:25:55
It's.
00:25:55
Dangerous. It's scary when people are
coming through on the edge of death.
00:25:58
And I'm talking about losing a
few things here or there. No,
00:26:03
but I still have my health.
00:26:05
It's when it's in those moments that
you have to find so much gratitude.
00:26:10
You just in the hardest moments,
00:26:11
which is the hardest time to find
gratitude is in the hardest moment.
00:26:15
Dang. He must. But you have to find it.
00:26:16
He must felt so much guilt because
when you're going through that fight,
00:26:21
you really are not guaranteed.
00:26:25
And I feel like people going
through the fight are so
00:26:30
grateful because they
understand that concept of
00:26:34
every second is a blessing. It's a gift.
00:26:39
It's a gift.
00:26:40
That you don't understand.
00:26:43
And I understood it already
with my brother passing.
00:26:47
He wasn't sick. He was
the strongest, healthiest,
00:26:50
most handsome teenager in the world,
00:26:54
and he just died in a tragic
death. These things can happen.
00:26:58
So maybe you're not taking
care of your health. Maybe.
00:27:04
Of course, it's almost
expected things can happen,
00:27:07
but it can also happen to the best
and youngest, just a tragic accident.
00:27:12
So you better believe,
we've got to be grateful.
00:27:15
And people are talking about these
little things during Christmas.
00:27:18
I think there's a real
connection between gratitude and
00:27:23
happiness.
00:27:24
Oh yeah. As I said,
00:27:25
you can't feel any other emotion
if you're truly grateful.
00:27:29
But I think it leads into,
yeah, it stops the complaining,
00:27:34
I think, when you feel
gratitude. But there's,
00:27:37
there's this part where
you flip the switch,
00:27:41
you're grateful, and then all
of a sudden as that starts to
00:27:47
pass, you're still grateful.
00:27:49
But then it turns to happiness
and all of a sudden you're like,
00:27:52
why am I so happy here? Why am
in such a good mood right now?
00:27:55
Yeah, yeah. No, I get it.
00:27:58
And I feel as a mother, oh.
00:28:01
God, I'm so grateful to be a mom.
00:28:05
I'm so grateful because it's the
best thing that ever happened to me.
00:28:09
I hope that they know that and
they remember that forever.
00:28:12
But they're just something so
special about being a parent and
00:28:17
having that opportunity to
raise and pour into someone. And
00:28:24
they're just so innocent and so.
00:28:27
Loving.
00:28:28
And so wonderful. I mean, thank
God we're talking to parents,
00:28:33
because.
00:28:34
If we weren't.
00:28:35
They wouldn't get it. But
especially if you had a hard time.
00:28:40
Conceiving.
00:28:42
And.
00:28:44
Getting to the spot of having the miracle,
00:28:47
you just feel that much more blessed to
00:28:52
be a parent. Wow. Why am
I getting so emotional?
00:28:56
It's just when I truly feel gratitude,
00:29:00
this is what happens to me.
00:29:01
Well, it's the happiness cry.
The happiness cry. Okay. Okay.
00:29:06
Oh boy.
00:29:07
So I mean, what are some of the things
that we do to stay grateful? Well,
00:29:12
we talked about in the
morning, we always do.
00:29:16
We have the kids speak
about gratitude and.
00:29:18
What they're grateful for.
00:29:19
We have them to name the things
that they're grateful for.
00:29:23
We do a morning prayer and
we do a morning prayer,
00:29:26
but then we also do extra gratitude,
and then we do it at night.
00:29:30
And I feel like just really
being connected to the things
00:29:35
around you, the people
around you. And for me,
00:29:40
it's my children do it every time.
00:29:42
They're just little angels
and blessings. And I am. So.
00:29:47
I think if you sit down also
too, there's an exercise,
00:29:51
somebody maybe Tony Robbins or somebody
tells you to go through to sit down and
00:29:56
just write down as many things
as you can about what you're
00:30:01
grateful for. And he says,
00:30:04
you'll be surprised how long
you continue writing for.
00:30:07
Yeah. I have a gratitude journal. I mean,
00:30:09
I should say that it's
a gratitude journal.
00:30:12
Right? That's truly what it is, I guess.
00:30:15
And if we can all just be
intentional about that, I mean,
00:30:19
you have to be intentional because
if you let your minds wander,
00:30:24
it's easy to wander into this complaining,
00:30:28
thoughtful attitude.
00:30:31
And someone out there might be saying,
listen, I'm going through this,
00:30:34
that and the other, and
believe me, we can relate.
00:30:37
But just try to think about this,
00:30:41
that God has a plan and he wouldn't
give you anything that you can't handle.
00:30:45
And sometimes even the bad
things that happen in your life,
00:30:50
if you allow, God will make you better.
00:30:54
And you can be grateful about that.
00:30:56
Because suffering produces perseverance.
00:30:59
Perseverance produces character,
and character produces hope.
00:31:03
Now that we have overcome that journey,
00:31:07
we are the voice for the people that
are struggling. We are an example.
00:31:12
We are the hope through
God's blessing to help
00:31:16
someone out there. For me, even for me,
00:31:19
I was searching for that one.
00:31:23
I was looking for people
online. Let me find a survivor,
00:31:26
let me find a survivor. Let me connect
with someone that's been through it.
00:31:31
And I just kind of felt like I just gave
up because I'm following their story
00:31:36
and then they don't make it.
And that's hard to follow.
00:31:40
I just needed one person. And then God,
00:31:46
I think when we're going
through the whole thing,
00:31:49
we had connected to Joel Stein,
00:31:52
but I didn't know until later
that his mother survived
00:31:56
cancer without treatment
and she's still alive.
00:32:00
What did she just turn?
00:32:01
92 3. I dunno.
00:32:05
Summarize. I want to say 93. I could
be wrong. Please don't penalize me.
00:32:08
But she's alive and she's
healthy. And her head,
00:32:13
her mind is right. Everything is
perfect. And that's all I need.
00:32:17
I just needed that one
person to look up to.
00:32:20
So when you overcome whatever
it is that you're meant to
00:32:24
overcome, be grateful because
you now are the example.
00:32:28
You now are the voice,
00:32:30
and you now are the inspiration
for someone suffering.
00:32:34
That's awesome. So if you guys
are going through anything,
00:32:39
and we all have bad
moments, I promise you,
00:32:42
if you're watching Instagram
or TikTok and thinking that
00:32:47
people are without bad
moments in their life,
00:32:49
I don't care what they have or more
money or whatever that might be.
00:32:54
Everybody's going through.
00:32:55
Something for sure. Everybody
goes through this stuff.
00:32:57
Absolutely know that
you're in good company.
00:33:00
And if you can just be intentional
about gratitude during the season
00:33:05
and during all your, it'll help.
00:33:06
You. It's like medicine. It really truly.
00:33:08
Is. And if you know anybody
who this might help,
00:33:12
if you know anybody that you can share
this with that is maybe going through
00:33:15
something right now and you'd like to
share this with him, please do that.
00:33:19
And if you have a.
00:33:20
Story or you're just getting more
intentional about your gratitude.
00:33:23
And if you're getting intentional and
you're practicing it and you have a story
00:33:27
and you want to share it
with us, share it with us.
00:33:30
And we'd love to read your story and
understand what's going on in your life.
00:33:33
Because it helps us,
00:33:35
because we read other people's
stories and it helps us as people.
00:33:39
We find other people are going through
different things, different than us.
00:33:42
Everybody's going through stuff,
00:33:44
and that's why reading and
watching what other people are
00:33:48
doing, sometimes when you learn
those lessons from other people,
00:33:53
we're all constantly learning. So if you
know anybody, you can share this with,
00:33:58
we appreciate you tuning in,
and we appreciate you sharing,
00:34:01
and we'll catch you next week.
00:34:04
One more thing, I don't know, I just
felt called to share this little thing.
00:34:07
I've been noticing this more and
more through social media is people
00:34:12
are actually sharing their
hard times on social media.
00:34:17
And I know that I was hiding everything,
00:34:19
but they're asking for prayer
for themselves or their children.
00:34:23
Maybe they're going through
an illness or something,
00:34:25
but they're actually asking for prayers.
00:34:27
I do love this trend because if I see it,
00:34:32
I feel like I was meant to see this,
and I will pray. If Daniel's near me,
00:34:36
I'm like, let's pray for this person
because their daughter is going through,
00:34:41
what is it Rs that that breathing,
oh my goodness, I can't even believe.
00:34:45
I can't think of it. But that breathing,
00:34:48
that contagious breathing thing that the
little babies are going through right
00:34:51
now. So Daniel's like,
okay, I'll pray with you.
00:34:55
So I just have the courage.
00:34:58
The more people praying for you,
the more powerful the healing.
00:35:02
And I truly believe in the power
of prayer. So God bless you guys.
00:35:06
It was so good to talk to you guys this
week, and we'll see you again next.
00:35:09
Week. Absolutely. See you guys next week.
00:35:12
You've been listening to this
episode of the Pre podcast.
00:35:17
We have more, so much more.
Make sure to listen to them.
00:35:22
Make sure to subscribe.
00:35:24
Thank you for listening to the and punk
00:35:29
podcasts. I see
00:35:34
God.
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