EP 158 How Hard Can You Get Hit and Keep Moving Forward
In this inspiring episode of the Pretty and Punk podcast, hosts Dan Caldwell and Ildiko Ferenczi delve deep into the theme of resilience in the face of life's toughest challenges. They open up about their personal journeys, sharing intimate stories of hardship, loss, and the daunting task of rising back up when life knocks you down.
Dan and Ildiko discuss the crucial role of self-belief and purpose in overcoming adversity, drawing from their experiences of business struggles, personal losses, and life-altering diagnoses. They touch upon the importance of finding strength in grief, the power of reframing setbacks as stepping stones to greater things, and the necessity of maintaining hope and faith through it all.
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Well, now I look back and go, was God,
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when you're questioning and
why is this thing happening?
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Is it happening to me or for
me? And now without a doubt,
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it's happen for you a hundred
percent without a doubt.
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I know it was happening for me.
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And that's the thing that if
you can frame that when things
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happen to you, is this
happening to me or for me?
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And I believe everything
is happening for you.
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No, that's better, right, babe?
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Yeah.
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Yeah. She founded an
architectural concrete company.
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He.
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Founded a hundred million
dollars clothing company.
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She took the world by storm
as a social media star. He.
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Took the world by storm as a
famous serial entrepreneur.
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Together we started a business.
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And had babies.
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Now we're figuring out
the best ways to do both.
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Join us as we learn from other
entrepreneurs going through the same life
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struggles.
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As they share their life.
Hacks about success, love.
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Kids, and everything in between.
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It ain't about how hard you can hit,
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it's about how hard you can get
hit and keep moving forward by
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Sylvester Stallone. Get
knocked down by Get Up again.
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Never going to keep me down by Timba.
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Welcome to the Pretty Punk podcast.
I'm your host, Dan Caldwell,
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and I'm here with my beautiful wife.
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Zi.
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Welcome to another great podcast.
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And today we want to
talk about how do you get
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back up after you've been
knocked down to your knees?
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How do you find your
way back up to your feet
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after you've been knocked down and you're
just in the worst place of your life?
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How do you pull yourself
up by your bootstrap?
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And everybody has been there on different
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I mean, imagine the guy when
you think about people who have
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lost their job or lost a family member
and then just over and over all these
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things that have happened. I
think you get better at it.
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You get better at how to recover.
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You understand how bad things can get,
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back up. And once you've got back up,
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How do you find your way back up
after you've been knocked down to your
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knees?
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How do you pull yourself up by
your bootstraps and get going?
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Again,
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guys like Steve Jobs
who were fired from his
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own company, they call
him the comeback kid.
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How do you get fired from your own company
and come back to do the things that
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he did?
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And he takes Apple to new heights
and is just found himself.
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I want to say I think a lot of
that comes from just believing in
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yourself, knowing that
you can get knocked down.
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He probably got knocked down at
some point and then found his way
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back up through,
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I don't know if it was the Pixar
deal or something before that,
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but how did he find himself
back up and then fix it
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or fix his state of mind
so that he could make this
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big comeback of his?
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What's a time you've been
knocked down and got up better?
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Well, I mean, I think I've
been knocked down a lot,
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but I think probably, and
when Charles passed away,
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that was really hard,
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but I was at this point already
where I had dealt with so much in our
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business that even though it was probably
one of my worst times of my life,
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I was in a better place.
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But the one time that I felt like
that I was really distraught that I
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didn't feel like I was going
to come back was when I got
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released from the police department
Because I
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had always believed this
was going to be my career.
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And so there was no plan B. This was it.
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This was all I was going to do. I
was going to become a police officer.
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I was going to go out there and save
lives and I would do that for the rest of
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my life. I hadn't thought
of anything different.
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And when all of a sudden that
rug is pulled out from under you
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when the city was getting annexed and
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they told me that I wasn't going to be
a part of that hiring and that I was
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being let go, I just had no plan B.
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And it literally felt like
I was crushed if there
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was ever,
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that was probably the lowest
part of my life because
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not only did I feel crushed, but I
didn't feel like there was any way out.
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Right.
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That's so interesting
because that low part of your
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life was just, when you
look back on it now,
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it's so small.
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I wouldn't say small,
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but the things that
have come into your life
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and your life purpose,
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it's so much different than what
you thought the picture would.
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Be. Well, now I look back and go was
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God, when you're questioning
and why is this thing happening?
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Is it happening to me or for me?
And now it's happening doubt.
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It's for you a hundred percent. Without
a doubt. I know it was happening for me.
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And that's the thing that if
you can frame that when things
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happen to you, is this
happening to me or for me?
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And I believe everything
is happening for you,
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there's nothing happening in your
life that is not happening for you.
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It might be hard to see that.
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In and understand it because some
things are the middle of moment,
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so traumatic that happened to people.
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Mean when your brother
passed away. I mean,
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I'm sure that wasn't like how could
anything positive come out of this?
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Nothing made sense. You're
right. You're right.
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And when my mom, it's so funny.
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I took the day off because my
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mom and I were running the
jewelry store and I also had my
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own business, a party
shop. I was 13 years old,
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but my mom was preparing just
in case if something happened,
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she wanted me to be able to
support myself. Back in Europe,
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kids were in apprenticeships between
13 to 16 and then you do your
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career. So she wanted me
to be ready for life and
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she wasn't going to let me stay home.
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I was sick. And I said, mom, I'm sick.
I don't want to go to school. She said,
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then you got to come into work. Well,
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that very day that I went into work,
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I had unpacked all the jewelry.
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This is what if you are in
the jewelry store business,
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you have to unpack and then pack up the
jewelry at night. I unpacked everything.
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A client or customer came in
and then a customer went into my
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store. We would run between the stores
or I would run between the stores.
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The party shop had nothing to do with her.
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And during that time that I was helping
a customer, she got robbed at gunpoint.
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That was another trauma. And
I just couldn't understand.
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There was all these things
happening in our lives.
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Life was very, very good.
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But we had the most
traumatic situations happen.
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Even when I was in the concrete
business, I was in a restaurant,
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we're just having,
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I finally felt like nothing bad
can ever happen in this business.
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But these two guys came in,
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there was a gangsters against
gangsters, and there was an armed,
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an armed, what is it called?
Robbery. Not a robbery,
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but it's like a gang war.
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They all over the restaurant.
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And the loudest guy who
happened to be my partner
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knocked me down under the table. And
it's interesting in those situations too,
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I know you would be one of
the guys that would be get
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down. But I remember everybody,
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it was slow motion and
everybody just paused and
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there's this, what is it,
an automatic rifle? Yeah,
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it sounded like this. And
then he goes, get down.
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And then he pushed all of us under
the table and I kept thinking,
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why is this stuff happening?
But then as you were saying,
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so your moment that you got fired
and then you had other traumatic
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experiences, it's almost
like God is giving you this
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iron warrior, this strength within you.
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You had to go through all these
little things because when I had the
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babies and I had the newborn
and a doctor decided,
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well, not decided, but the test,
he gave me the diagnosis, which
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nobody's ready for that. Nobody's ready
to tell you that when you think you are
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at the peak healthiest of your life
and you have two little babies,
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and they say that life is not guaranteed,
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they give you a death sentence.
You're not ready for that.
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You have to have a very, mentally,
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this is stuff that they
prepare you in the military.
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This is not something that
a new mom is prepared to
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face that she's going to
have to fight for her life.
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And she's got two little
babies and they're trying
to tell her that tomorrow is
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not promised because of this
diagnosis and this stuff on the paper.
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I feel that you're right. God
gives you things in your life.
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And I understood my brother's life.
He was healthy, he was strong.
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He took a job to help us.
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And by freak accident, he died.
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And how many times did I come
so close? I watched my mom,
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she had her head pouring with
blood and just all these close
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brushes,
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and then they tell me that
this is going to happen.
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I understood how precious life
was, and I know that parents say,
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I will die for my children.
And without a doubt,
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I would if I needed to,
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and I will fight for
my kill for your kids,
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but nobody really talks about
I will live for my kids.
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That's a totally different fight
than nobody really thinks about.
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It might be the hardest fight
because it's easy to get out.
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There's a lot of people who take the
easy way out and don't think about
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how that's going to affect
the people around them.
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And I think that we all that you're
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right in the way that maybe some of
those things that you went through early
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on in life prepared you for
what was going to happen. The.
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Biggest fight of my life.
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Because in a lot of ways,
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you were the strongest person in
the room when it came to those.
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You were the person who
you faced that giant.
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And I could say what I could,
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but I always felt like whatever I said
always was falling on kind of like, man,
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I can't. Well.
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It was interesting too there a
magnitude how God made it happen.
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I thought I was just going in
to get some standard results,
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and when the doctor said, you need to
sit down, I said, no, I'd rather stand.
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I in a place where there's
sick people sitting on the
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chairs. I don't want to get any
cooties. I got a newborn in the car.
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I'll just leave my newborn in the car,
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my other little baby in the car and my
husband. I don't want to, as a mother,
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you don't want to risk
anybody else getting sick,
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going into the hospital environment.
I always went in there by myself.
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I mean afterwards, afterwards,
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I already knew I had to go into
the cancer hospital and stuff.
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And it was interesting because you see
all these families and they have these
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big support systems,
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and I'm going in by myself. I don't want
the kids to get sick. I don't want my,
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it's just my husband and I
don't want him to get sick.
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And I had to deal with all
this bad news by myself,
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this little petite mama.
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But I'll never forget the doctor.
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I don't know what's the standard
way for a doctor to act.
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But he asked me to sit down and I said,
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I don't want to catch anything from
the chair. I got the babies in the car.
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And he said, well, do you want to ask
your husband to come in? I said, no,
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we're just going to be quick. And at
that point he was up against the wall.
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I'm looking around,
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I could see he has a daughter
probably the same age as me with
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little babies. And all of a
sudden his eyes were just red.
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They're tearing up. And he
tells me the news and I said,
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I can't have that. I got two
babies. I got two babies.
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And he's just like,
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he starts crying and I'm
not because he probably
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sees his daughter and
he knows he's done this,
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hopefully not often, but
he's done this before.
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So he knows that whoever he is giving
the news to usually has a support
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system.
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But I think everybody, and
it prepared you for that.
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And I know that dealing with Charles's
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passing when he passed away
in 2009 in his car accident,
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I knew that you were prepared. I mean,
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I was forged already.
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I was forged through the
fires of being fired,
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dealing with things in the
business every day. The.
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Trauma prepared you for.
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That. Yeah, I mean, even though
awful, awful, awful moment,
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the trauma was nowhere near that level.
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I think it was just little
pieces along the way,
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dealing with the business up and down,
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ups and downs and money
issues and just everything and
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everything up to that
point brought me to that
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moment and allowed me to have to at
least put the face on even though
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I was still hurting.
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Also, I just see a parallel right
now, and you can speak for it,
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but I want to bring it
up before we passed.
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The moment is that your business
at the time was your baby and
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your clients were the baby.
So you had to be strong.
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I had to be strong and
all that work and stuff,
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losing things, fighting
for things, trauma,
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all that stuff prepared you for that
leadership role that you had to be
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in and what I had to be in.
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And I think that putting that face on,
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so that was the part that didn't even
allow you to fall to your knees because
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you have to stand up and
take it at that moment.
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But I think when I was just
going back to when I was let
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go from the police department,
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I am trying to think of what
pulled me back out of that moment.
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And I think there was some
piece of belief in myself.
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It was very small at that point because
I felt really battered and taken
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down and just loss of
self-esteem. Right? That.
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Happens with a lot of
injured athletes too.
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Oh, I could totally see it. The
same thing where that's hard.
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Your identity is this badge.
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Is in that. Yeah.
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Or an athlete,
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your identity as a football player
or basketball player or a runner,
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whatever you are. And that's
where your identity is held.
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And when that identity is taken
away, when that badge was taken away,
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just you weren't ready.
I wasn't ready for that,
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but I knew there were parts of me
that had been so strong for so long
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becoming a police officer, that
moments of dealing with danger,
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running into the face of danger,
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bullets whizzing by your
head in foot chases and car
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chases and all these things
that I'd gone through,
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I'd been a police officer for around
seven years and going through all
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those moments forged me a little bit.
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I didn't feel strong at the moment,
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but I always felt like something
in my gut said I had something
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better for me, something
that I'm supposed to do. God,
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that's promise.
When Charles came to me that day,
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he was also a police officer at the
time. He came to me that day and said,
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Hey, I have this idea for
this clothing company.
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You want to start this clothing company
together and it'll be about mixed
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martial arts and we'll sell,
we'll make these T-shirts.
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And we'd never printed
a shirt in our life.
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But the challenge in front of me just
felt right and it felt like I was at a
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moment of crossroads in my life
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and rather than trying to fix what
this thing that had been broken
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to tackle this new thing
that I wanted to do,
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and it felt like I just wanted to
give a thousand percent of me to it,
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and so maybe I found a
new mountain to climb.
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That makes sense.
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Maybe that's what it was.
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Because we're all
guaranteed that if you're at
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the top of a mountain somewhere, if
you're feeling like everything is perfect,
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like you said you did before
in your concrete business
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and the shooting happens,
or before your brothers,
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you're really close and everything's
great and your mom has this jewelry shop,
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and then your brother is
killed. So all these things,
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I think in that moment, if you're at
the top of some mountain somewhere,
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you can pretty much guarantee there's
a peak coming. I mean, there's
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comeback. There's a bottom of
the mountain coming. There's.
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Something good coming.
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And that's the thing is
you have to sometimes
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embrace the fall, right? Don't you agree?
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Yeah, I, and you.
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Can't dwell on the failures and
you can't get stuck in the grief.
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You have to move through it.
You have to find the good thing,
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whatever it is that carries you
through. If you're going through grief,
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remember the memories, the
lessons, the beautiful things.
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You have to focus on those
things. Don't blame yourself.
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Don't get stuck in this
trap that you could be stuck
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in. I mean, I know that's very
hard because there's nothing,
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if you're going through grief right now,
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there's nothing you can say
that will make someone feel
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better or take the pain away.
The pain will always be there,
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but you have to let it ignite
some kind of hope and goodness
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within you. Otherwise you can be so lost.
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I was listening to, excuse me,
00:20:57
Granger's last name. Oh my gosh. Yeah.
00:20:59
Granger speaking about
the loss of his son,
00:21:03
and he was talking
about how grief can just
00:21:08
snatch the joy out of everything
in your life. That's right.
00:21:13
And
00:21:16
it is so true that it's hard to
find bright spots when you're
00:21:20
in those moments. When you're
going through that're in the thick,
00:21:23
you can definitely spiral. I
was trying to think of valleys.
00:21:27
I was trying to think of the
word peaks and valleys. Peaks.
00:21:29
If you're at the top of this
peak, there's a valley coming
00:21:34
and it's just inevitable. And so you
have to have this growth mindset,
00:21:39
I think, where you feel like, Hey,
00:21:43
if this happens, or if I'm
going through this right now,
00:21:47
or I'm in the middle of something that
I'm meant to learn something here,
00:21:52
and you just have to find
the lessons in it, I think.
00:21:54
Right? I mean, you're going to
feel the pain. It's the hardest,
00:21:58
hardest thing losing a loved one,
00:22:00
and I've gone through it twice now, but
00:22:06
you have to be open to the
positive things, the good things.
00:22:11
That's the only thing that's.
00:22:12
Going to carry through. Even the
smaller things. Smaller, losing a job.
00:22:15
Well, if you lose a child,
00:22:16
you have to be so careful because
you have and you have more than one.
00:22:21
You can't get lost in the
grief because you have
00:22:26
this other beauty around
you. And I saw that.
00:22:29
I could imagine the struggle
that he had probably for, I mean,
00:22:34
maybe he still has a struggle, but
my mom went through that struggle.
00:22:39
But your mom, like your
mom, he had other kids.
00:22:41
Your mom had other kids that she
had to be there for. Yeah, exactly.
00:22:45
And she had to go on living and
do what I think is the hard thing,
00:22:50
which is get back up and go
on living because you have to
00:22:55
do it for other people
because it's not just for
00:22:59
yourself anymore. It's
not a selfish thing.
00:23:02
You're getting up and
pulling your bootstraps up
because you have to do it for
00:23:06
other people.
00:23:07
And there's a type of grief
after you losing your job.
00:23:12
There's a type of grief in there too.
00:23:15
A type of grief when you're
told that you are given some
00:23:20
kind of whatever.
00:23:23
Diagnosis. Diagnosis.
We're both. We have an and.
00:23:28
You got to find the
empowerment in it, right?
00:23:30
Just like you found the empowerment
in it. I found the empowerment in it.
00:23:34
It's a blessing. It really,
00:23:37
really makes me even more so.
00:23:40
I already know how precious life is,
00:23:42
but it makes me that much more just
00:23:47
stress to people. Do not
wait for the diagnosis.
00:23:51
Don't wait for the bad news. Don't
wait for this, that, and the other.
00:23:55
Live today,
00:23:56
every day is such an
incredibly precious gift.
00:24:00
And even if you're on one path
00:24:05
just for fun, believe that
00:24:10
it's part of God's plan.
00:24:11
Don't doubt that it's
all part of God's plan.
00:24:16
He knows how strong you
personally are compared to other
00:24:21
people, and that you can
handle more than some people.
00:24:25
So he has a very, sometimes it sucks,
00:24:30
but he knows what he's doing. And you
just have to trust. You just have to.
00:24:35
Trust, trust that this is
happening for you and not to you.
00:24:38
Not to you.
00:24:40
Yeah. I think that everybody
who's listening right now,
00:24:43
we all have it in ourselves
to get past these things that
00:24:48
happened in your life that might
take you down for a minute and.
00:24:52
It may actually save your life
so that you could set new goals
00:24:57
to lead you to your
absolute best assignment,
00:25:01
to your greatness.
00:25:02
Sometimes something feel.
00:25:03
Tragic. It's tragic, right?
And sometimes tragic.
00:25:06
I know I've heard so many
people talk about this too,
00:25:10
when I'm talking to them and they say
that this tragedy or that tragedy,
00:25:14
it was so dark and it was so bad,
00:25:16
but it actually saved my
life in one way or another.
00:25:20
Right? Oh, I believe that.
00:25:23
I mean right down to why. I mean,
00:25:27
look at what happened for me.
Look what happened for me.
00:25:31
I lose this job to find out
that I fall into my business.
00:25:36
That turns out to be
00:25:39
something that changed my life,
00:25:41
something that changed a lot of people's
lives around me, my parents' lives,
00:25:45
my brother's lives, my
family's life, your life.
00:25:48
All of our lives changed all of our lives
and set me on a different trajectory
00:25:52
we probably wouldn't have met. There's
things that are happening in your lives,
00:25:55
these different chapters that happen
in your life, and sometimes chapter,
00:25:59
that door has to fully close
so that a new door can open.
00:26:03
Yeah, that's true, that's true.
00:26:07
Or you might just be on the total wrong
path and you've had the warnings and the
00:26:11
warnings and he is like, I don't want
to have to do this to you, sweetheart,
00:26:15
but we're going to have
to learn the wrong way.
00:26:18
You got to pull the rug down
so you can rise from the ashes.
00:26:20
And then you fall on your face dear,
00:26:22
and you have a bloody
nose and a broken arm.
00:26:24
But you figure your way out
of that. I think we're so.
00:26:27
Strong, you can always rebuild.
00:26:28
We're all so strong as
people and we're resilient.
00:26:31
And I think that we all have it in
us to get back up off of our knees.
00:26:35
We just have to decide
that we're going to,
00:26:38
we have to feel a little
bit of sense of purpose.
00:26:42
What is that purpose for your mom? It
was that she had other kids. For me,
00:26:45
it was that I just saw
something better for my life,
00:26:50
something greater. It actually opened
my mind up to a little bit like, okay,
00:26:54
if I'm not a police
officer, what could I be do?
00:26:58
And then this opportunity
comes up and it feels like, oh,
00:27:00
this is happening at the same
time I'm thinking about this.
00:27:03
Maybe I need to go down this path.
And so we all have those things,
00:27:07
stepping stones for sure.
00:27:08
We have to be open to those new directions
that we might take and be open to
00:27:13
the fact that we're going
to be better because of it.
00:27:17
And also prepare yourself to rise
higher than you've ever been.
00:27:21
And that's exactly what
we should all be doing.
00:27:25
And I hope that you guys,
if you're listening,
00:27:29
if that means learning in those moments,
00:27:34
if that means reading the right books
so that you can find the meaning of that
00:27:38
moment, I think we've all done
that, and I know we've done that.
00:27:43
Both of us have done that.
And sometimes little things,
00:27:46
it doesn't always have
to be a big tragedy,
00:27:48
but sometimes you're just depressed
a little bit and trying to find a new
00:27:53
purpose in your life,
00:27:54
and you find yourself trying to grow by
00:27:59
reading or listening or looking for that
new purpose that you might have in your
00:28:04
life. So if you're going
through something like that,
00:28:07
I hope that you guys can all
find where you need to be.
00:28:11
Keep your eyes open.
00:28:12
Be looking for that next
opportunity or that next sense of
00:28:16
purpose or for who you want
to have in your life at that
00:28:21
time. Who is that person who can
pull you in that new purpose,
00:28:24
in that new direction and pray about it?
00:28:27
Because I think we firmly
find so much in prayer
00:28:32
when we pray every morning.
00:28:34
And I think there's moments I
have told you before where I said,
00:28:38
did you see that idea that just kind
of came up in the middle? I mean,
00:28:42
probably I feel almost guilty sometimes
because I come up with something like
00:28:47
that in the middle of
a prayer and I'm like,
00:28:50
my mind should have been totally clear
and only be thinking about one thing.
00:28:53
But then I sit back and I think maybe
that's why I was meant to come up
00:28:58
with that in the middle of a prayer.
00:29:00
And sometimes if you don't feel like
praying, who wants you not to pray? Pray.
00:29:06
Especially in those times when you're
too tired or you don't feel like it
00:29:09
because there's something out there
that doesn't want you to pray.
00:29:13
So pray on it and let your
comeback be a testament to your
00:29:18
unwavering faith and God's grace. Rise,
00:29:21
strong for you are destined for greatness.
00:29:24
And on that note, we hope that you guys
got something from today's podcast.
00:29:29
I know we've all been
through stuff like this,
00:29:31
and we want you to know that we've
been through that at some of its worst
00:29:36
levels. And we know you guys have too.
00:29:37
Everybody has dealt with stuff in
their life, some more than others,
00:29:41
but we all have the capabilities
to find our way out of that.
00:29:46
We were never given
more than we can handle.
00:29:48
And just know that there is a support
system out there, and if you need help,
00:29:53
find it and ask for.
00:29:54
It. Come out as a victim or not a victim.
00:29:57
Absolutely. Thank you guys for tuning
into this week's Pretty and punk podcast,
00:30:01
and we will catch you guys next week.
00:30:03
God bless. Have the best week ever.
00:30:06
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