EP 173 How Do We Help Our Kids Become Warriors.
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Welcome to another episode of the Pretty and Punk Podcast, hosted by Dan Caldwell and Ildiko Ferenczi. In today's episode, we dive into an important topic of cultivating mental toughness in our children. As parents and entrepreneurs, we share our personal strategies and the importance of allowing our children to face challenges and even fail, as a way to build resilience and self-confidence.
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We as parents like to
continuously challenge
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them constantly at things that
they could very easily fail
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because it's not going to hurt them.
They're not going to break their arm.
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I mean, even if they do break their arm,
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it's not going to end their life to
challenge them at things that they can
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fail. It's going to push them to
get outside of that safety net so
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that they can see and overcome
the expectations that they
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have for themselves to see what
they're actually capable of.
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message and how he didn't feel
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They talk about getting up on stage,
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how they'd rather die
and how easily he did it.
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And we just said, he's so mentally tough.
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to have to take on as an adult one
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day. And the thought came up,
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how do we help our kids
become warriors and not
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warriors in the sense of fighters?
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I want my kid to be able
to defend themselves,
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but not warriors in that sense of
the word warriors in the sense of
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how can they take on the world that
mental toughness that they need so
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that they can take on the world. But
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I love that our children
have this warrior mentality
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and the friends that we hang out their
children have this warrior mentality. And
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as Dan was saying,
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it is not a fighter type of vibe that they
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have,
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it's just that they are so
strong and convicted in their
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values and beliefs of who they
are already at a young age to
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be courageous and never let fear
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cripple them.
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And we as parents like to continuously
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challenge them constantly at
things that they could very
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easily fail at because it's
not going to hurt them.
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They're not going to break their arm. I
mean, even if they do break their arm,
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but it's not going to end
their life to challenge them
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at things that they can fail.
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It's going to push them to get
outside of that safety net so
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that they can see and
overcome the expectations
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that they have for themselves to
see what they're actually capable.
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Of. They need to feel, I mean, and guys,
we're not perfect at this. Believe me,
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there are things we check ourselves
on. We'll do something. We go, oh,
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we should have let him just do that
because he would've learned something from
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it. Even though we maybe
know somebody might,
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he might fail or he might not get the
job done the way he wants to get the job
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done, and we got to
stop. I think as parents,
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one of the big things I see
us do, we do too, we do,
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but a lot of parents do.
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This is we got to stop
clearing the way for our
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kids.
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We want to set the stage up
perfect so that they can succeed.
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And kids need, don't get me wrong,
kids need wins in their life.
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They do need wins, but we can't
clear the stage all the time.
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We need to let them do that,
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making it perfect for them so that they
can just breeze through and get it done.
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They need to be able to
go and make that happen.
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They need to.
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Feel,
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one of the things I love that we do is
what we do with Daniel in the restaurant
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when we walk into a restaurant and.
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Destiny.
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And Destiny, both of
them. I just say Daniel,
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because we've been doing
it with Daniel for so long
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since he could talk.
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Well, yeah.
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Both of them. Both of
them. She could talk too.
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They want something at the table when
we go into a restaurant. Recently,
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we went to Mastro in Los Angeles
before we went to, well, the BKFC.
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They've never asked us to
get something for them.
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They have a.
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Voice. They're very
capable. We tell them this,
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that you need to go ask. There's
the way to write over there.
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Go ask them if something didn't come
to the table or they want something a
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different way or they wanted
some more water or whatever,
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we'll just point them right in the
direction of the waiter or right in the
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direction that they might need to go.
And they'll sometimes be out. I mean,
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we're careful. We are still understanding
that they might be out of our site,
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but we'll send them that direction and
they're going to walk sometimes pretty
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far away from us. And I remember
Daniel being three years old,
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he walked into the, where was
he that he walked into the,
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he just walked right into the kitchen
everywhere into the back of the
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restaurant. In multiple occasions,
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he's walked right back into the back
of the restaurant and went to go find a
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waiter who could help him find whatever
he needed, his ketchup or something.
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And really that develops that,
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I want to say it's mental toughness,
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but it just develops
that muscle of getting
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what they need. And so it gives them that
mental strength to believe that, Hey,
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if I go figure it out for myself,
if I go ask or find this person,
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I'm going to get what I need.
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And they're very supportive
of children wherever we go.
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I remember in the Palisades when
we went to go have food there,
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I can't remember what Daniel needed,
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but of course we tell him and
Destiny to go get what they.
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Need at that Italian
restaurant there. Which.
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One was it? No, I can't
remember what it's called,
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but it's right there beside
the movie theater. And.
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Oh yeah.
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The server got Daniel dressed
up and they were taking
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orders together from other tables,
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and I just thought that was the
greatest thing that he offered
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to give Daniel his tips from that
table. But of course, he didn't.
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Take it. He wouldn't give a tip. He
did give him a tip from the table.
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He split the tip with him.
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But he gave it back. But
he said, I'll be back.
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I'm coming back to work tomorrow.
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And it's just these little
things that I feel are maybe
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divine interventions by God,
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just to let him get excited
about different things and let
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destiny get excited by different
things and to have that outside
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support when they see that your
children are going outside of the box
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to include them.
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I feel that that is just such a
blessing and I'm so grateful for
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people like that. Invest in your children.
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What do you think that, I mean,
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because trying to think of the words here,
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why do you think this mental
toughness or this warrior ability is
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so important for our children in
the future? What is something that,
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why do you think that they will
need it at some point in their.
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Life? I think need it. I
think they need it now.
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I think they need it
now for several reasons.
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Once while they're navigating
their way through life,
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but also when they come into
contact with something that they
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know is not parallel to their beliefs or
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they're able to speak up for themselves.
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They're not just going
along with something
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because someone else is doing
it and they're being nice.
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And I've heard Destiny stand
up for herself so many times
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where there's certain toys she just
won't play with because she doesn't
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feel that it's alignment
with her belief of God,
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or there's things that
they won't, oh, she was.
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In that class yesterday. Remember that
class yesterday? She was in a class,
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an online class,
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and the teacher brought up a TV show
that we don't allow her to watch.
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And the teacher said she was an actress,
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and she said that she had auditioned
for audition for this part
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in this TV show, and she mentioned
the TV show and Destiny said,
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that's not a good TV show for me.
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That's not a good TV show for me.
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And it was great because a
teacher really respected.
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She paused for a second and she
goes, yeah, you're probably right.
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And I just thought that was so
great because you should be able to
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express what you feel,
right, wrong, indifferent,
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express what you feel and
never feel bad about it.
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Or if you're in a bad situation,
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I always encourage them to
have that mental strength
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because you may be the one to say
maybe you're in an environment,
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people are talking about something
that at a young age you shouldn't be
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listening to and the other
kids are uncomfortable to
say something and you just
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say, my children are confident
enough to say, listen,
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I don't feel comfortable talking about
whatever you guys are talking about,
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or I don't feel comfortable with hugging
that person or kissing that person.
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They have the mental strength
to just say what they're
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not comfortable with. I know this
is going in a different direction,
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but your kids have to have that,
whether it's a relative, the thing,
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whether it's a family member,
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if they just don't feel comfortable with
hugging and kissing today, that's okay.
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Just say it. They're still
going to be loved. It's.
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Okay. But I think it's all
the same thing because I love,
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have you seen that video of that child
who's on a bus and the bus driver's
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driving and the bus driver, I
believe, goes into cardiac arrest?
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Oh yeah. The leader.
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Child. Yes. And the one
child runs up to the front,
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he starts trying to wake the guy up,
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and then when he realize that
he's not going to wake up,
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he starts stepping on the brake
and trying to steer the bus,
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and he literally saves
everybody on the bus's life.
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I have to reflect back and
I go, would my kids do that?
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I'd like to believe that they would,
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because Daniel has no problem
with stepping into a situation.
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You know what the truth is?
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I might probably not have
done that when I was little.
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That's the truth. When I think back,
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I think that I was always careful
about rules and things that
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were surrounding or getting
into trouble. Don't say the.
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Wrong, wrong.
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Thing.
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So I wanted to do the right thing because
I was always taught to do the right
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thing, and so I didn't want to step
outside of those boundaries. But
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I think we found a way to
cultivate this in Daniel that yes,
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you need to do the right thing, but
you can also step outside the box.
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Our children are respectful to adults,
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but at the same time,
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they have their values and their
beliefs where they're able to
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question,
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and we really encourage this.
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If we have a reason for something,
our children will ask questions, well,
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why can't I do this? Or
Why shouldn't I do this?
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They don't just back down because
they're afraid to ask the question,
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but they do ask a lot of questions,
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and I feel that's where children
learn so much rather than just
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trusting anyone you're
with and going with their.
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Lead. Yeah. How do we
get kids to do that more?
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Because I thought we're
bragging on our kids,
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but we don't think it's important
because we see our kids do it,
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and sometimes we have
to self-analyze and go,
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because it's not something
that you're born with.
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This mental toughness is something
that you have to develop in your kids.
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So what are some of the things
that we can do with our kids?
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And I think one of 'em just right off
the bat is letting your kids fail.
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Letting your kids and explore
their own voice, their own
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conversations.
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Send them into conversations that
might be uncomfortable for them.
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Force them to go, not push them,
but tell them that Well, fostering.
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Independence and resilience.
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Exactly. A hundred percent. You
obviously have the words for those.
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I'm expressing what I
see that works in Daniel,
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and sometimes I have to be
self-reflective. Like we,
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I know we do a lot of different things,
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and sometimes we're exploring
our own parenthood here and
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trying to figure out how can we
make Daniel stronger here or better
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there. And some of the things, just
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holding him to practicing his
speeches every day is important.
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He learns things from that.
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And we encourage them to make
mistakes, but in our family,
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we don't really call them that because
they're lessons. They're lessons.
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So whenever what other
people would call a mistake,
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we find those really important
because that's where the gold is.
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That's where
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I feel like they don't have that
embarrassment or that shame or
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that feeling of, oh, I made a
mistake. They don't have that.
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And hopefully I almost said yet,
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but I hope they never get that because
they understand that there's different
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ways to do things and
sometimes it doesn't work out.
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But how do we learn from that? Ask
your children, which is what we do.
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We ask them,
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how do we avoid that thing
that we didn't like the
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outcome of How do we avoid that next
time? What could we do differently?
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And that's also something that we do
when we close the day. What went great,
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what could have gone better?
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And I talk about the things
that maybe I got a little
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flustered and then I explained, well,
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I was feeling tired and this
happened and that happened.
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And I encourage them to
work through their day too.
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What went really great? Why
do you think it went great?
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What could we have done better?
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You know what? I think
that's another thing too,
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that the second thing I would say is one
of the things that I know we do every
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day is affirmations. I
know it's not even on
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the conversation that we had earlier
before we did the podcast. It's not even,
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but you bring that up.
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That's the biblical affirmations.
We're not really into the,
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but just affirming that
they're a child of God, I'm.
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That they're powerful. I can do anything
through God. It's like those things.
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We have a list when he believes that
because we, they're unstoppable.
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Sometimes we get off script a
little bit. We'll tell him, look,
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you can do anything you put your mind to.
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You've decided that you were
going to get up on that stage.
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We asked you if you could
get up on that stage.
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You got up on that stage and made every
single one of those people stand up and
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clap for you and cry for you. And
they pushed you and you pushed them.
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You changed people's lives that day.
That was through his affirmations.
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And I think sometimes they're
just a footnote in the day,
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but I really feel like that consistency
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of those affirmations.
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With him since he was in my belly,
yes, when destiny too, since he was.
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A little, little tiny one,
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that those help him a hundred
percent in this whole building,
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this mental toughness.
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Right? And prayer, prayer, prayer is
huge. We pray at the beginning of the day,
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at the end of the day,
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and if there's anything special
that they're going through
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or being challenged
with, sometimes Daniel,
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he'll wake up and he'll have
racing thoughts and he'll ask me,
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can you pray over me?
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Because I'm getting these thoughts
and I know that it is not from God,
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but can you pray over me?
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And he loves it when the whole family
prays over him and destiny too.
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So I feel like that is such a
powerful tool for our family
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to create that warrior mindset.
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I think given him responsibility
to use another one. I mean,
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we kind of touched on that for a second,
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but I didn't actually put it
on my phone. I mean him having.
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Sure his respons.
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Responsibility, responsibility him,
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making sure that he has his
work done before he's doing
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anything else. He's been
editing videos lately,
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which is his ability to
kind of work on stuff.
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And just his self-talk
I think is important.
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And how he's building his
own identity by working on
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things, building when he was doing
dominoes or when he plays chess.
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All these little things help him
build these abilities within himself,
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and it gives him confidence.
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I could see his confidence building
throughout the years just from
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playing chess, building
editing videos for us,
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all these different things that he's
doing when he finally is able to make it
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work. Like that last video he just
made yesterday where he's flying,
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he was so excited about it. He goes,
it is my favorite video, I think.
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But the fact that he was able to
edit that in a way that it worked
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gave him a lot of confidence, I
think it gives him mental toughness.
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Ultimately. Yeah,
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encouraging him to do his own
research to figure out how to
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figure out how to figure out these
things that he's interested in.
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I love his ability to do that.
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And that encourages his
sister to do the same thing.
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And I think very importantly,
leading by example,
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that's a priority. If I don't want my
kids, and this is for when they're older,
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drinking and smoking, well,
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I had to make the big decision
when I had a baby. I used to have,
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and this isn't for everybody,
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but it's a decision that I made
for myself once I had the babies,
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then also after having that devastating
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diagnosis that I
00:20:37
will fail to own that
till forever. Forever.
00:20:42
It's not mine,
00:20:43
but I started learning about the things
that I should and shouldn't be doing.
00:20:47
And even occasional drinks I learned
aren't really that great for me.
00:20:52
People ask me why I don't have
cellulite, why I look so fake,
00:20:56
because I learned all
these different things,
00:20:59
and I'm not shy to talk
about it with my children.
00:21:01
They know that I won't be
drinking. I won't guess,
00:21:05
won't be discipline me
smoking. Yes, they understand.
00:21:09
And that's the other thing.
00:21:12
I love that today we had
the conversation. He said,
00:21:16
I feel so bad when I was,
I think five, I had this,
00:21:21
that and the other. I tried
these things. I said, yeah,
00:21:24
but that's not something
you do all the time.
00:21:27
And I don't want to harp on
you and say, that's so bad.
00:21:31
We were, well, he made a
decision not to after that.
00:21:35
But once he started learning
the things that I was learning,
00:21:39
he starting to lead by example. I
will let him try things. I mean,
00:21:44
we were in a fancy hotel and they had,
00:21:47
what is it like a club level? And
they have all kinds of stuff there.
00:21:51
And the lady was so sweet.
She treated, where'd she give.
00:21:55
A chocolate or something? I was
it. I think it was a chocolate.
00:21:58
I can't, like a Twizzler or something.
A Twizzler and a quick kick.
00:22:03
Oh my gosh, we're kicking each
other. I was pinching Dan,
00:22:07
and he's pinching me and it's
like they don't eat those things.
00:22:10
What's going to happen? But he had a bite
and he didn't really finish the thing,
00:22:15
but she was so kind the lady,
and it was already too late.
00:22:20
The kids would run up and hug
her. And we were going through
00:22:27
Anyway, she was an angel and she didn't
know and he didn't know any better.
00:22:32
But I did educate him on what is in there.
00:22:35
And now with the people that
we surround ourselves with,
00:22:38
a lot of biohackers,
nutritionalists doctors,
00:22:43
and they're learning so much.
And I love that at a young age,
00:22:48
they're soaking all this stuff up and
I hope that they continue to make the
00:22:53
right decisions when they're older.
But I feel like if you have this
00:22:57
ammo in their toolbox and this
knowledge in their toolbox,
00:23:02
I hope that when I'm not there,
they can not around. I mean,
00:23:07
I'm going to always be here, but your
children are going to live their own life.
00:23:11
So if they see you drinking and
smoking and eating really bad,
00:23:14
chances are they probably will too.
00:23:17
But if you treat your
body like the temple,
00:23:19
that it is the precious gift that
God give you. You have one life,
00:23:24
you have one heart, you have one
liver, you have one of these things.
00:23:29
You have to cherish your
whole body and treat it like
00:23:33
gold. And they understand that. So
if I do that, I hope they do it too.
00:23:38
And your mind, your
eyes, what you take in.
00:23:41
I don't listen to the same
music that I used to listen to.
00:23:44
I don't watch the same
things that I used to.
00:23:46
I understand what it can do to me.
00:23:49
I don't surround myself with
a lot of the same people,
00:23:53
environments and things that I used to.
And I made a very conscious decision,
00:23:58
especially after having kids,
00:24:01
and I'm noticing that I am living
my best life. I am happier.
00:24:07
Everything is going in a good direction.
00:24:10
And if I can give that
gift to my children, why I.
00:24:16
Think that all that works
together in why this
00:24:21
is so important,
00:24:21
because we need our kids to one day
they're going to have to make these
00:24:25
decisions themselves. And if we don't
instill them with this stuff, one,
00:24:29
how are they going to be great?
00:24:32
Are they going to be mediocre? Well,
we don't want mediocrity in our family,
00:24:37
so we want them to be great. We
want them to change the world.
00:24:41
We tell them probably just about every
day of their life that they're going to
00:24:45
change the world. And so they believe
they're going to change the world.
00:24:49
That's always a part
of their affirmations,
00:24:51
is that their job for God is to
change the world and for the better.
00:24:56
And so that's why this stuff is so
important for them that we have to
00:25:01
instill this in them. I hate, I mean,
I don't want this. I don't hate it.
00:25:05
I don't want this to be the
go Daniel and Destiny show.
00:25:10
That's all. We just,
00:25:11
were showing examples of you
guys can do exactly what we're
00:25:16
doing. And.
00:25:16
All our friends have the
same, I feel mindset.
00:25:20
And they have same or different
results with their children
00:25:25
too. We don't allow,
00:25:29
I was called a mean mom for not giving
my kids McDonald's and junk food,
00:25:34
but I'm so glad that it's
more viral now. Well, now.
00:25:37
Everybody knows.
00:25:37
That they're exposing
what is in these foods.
00:25:40
And it was in a time when I
was searching and trying to
00:25:44
figure out what made me sick,
00:25:47
because I was on magazine covers and I
was living a little bit of a different
00:25:51
red carpet life at the time,
and I seemed so healthy.
00:25:55
I had an eight pack and
everything seemed so good,
00:26:00
but just the little things can add up.
00:26:03
And not that I did eat
junk food all the time,
00:26:06
but there was certain things that
I learned now that I wasn't doing.
00:26:09
I wasn't doing right.
So no, I'm not the mean,
00:26:12
my children are the happiest
little children in the world.
00:26:16
The happiest little souls. Yes. They
don't have a device on them all the time.
00:26:20
We've never, ever had a
device in a restaurant.
00:26:23
They don't watch devices
or shows in the car.
00:26:27
There's just a lot of things that
we just decided to do differently,
00:26:32
and it's really working
for us and our friends.
00:26:35
I think those are a lot of the
things that anybody can do. And guys,
00:26:37
by no means are we perfect. Okay? So no,
00:26:40
I want you to know that we
make mistakes with our kids.
00:26:43
We'll go back and analyze
things. The thing is just that.
00:26:47
Work and that's important. Thats important
to be able to go back and say, Hey,
00:26:51
maybe we should have done this
differently. Let's start now.
00:26:54
Always be open to learn different
things. Always have that.
00:26:59
The open mindset to learn new things.
00:27:02
Just because someone is doing something
differently, don't just hate on it.
00:27:06
And I've always learned this growing up,
00:27:08
my mom always wanted to be in a room
with the people that were smarter than
00:27:13
her, and I do too. I want
to learn as much as I can,
00:27:16
and I encourage that from my children.
00:27:18
I encourage them to ask
questions in you too.
00:27:22
Yeah. When we're studying for the,
I think that's one of the things,
00:27:25
one of the big advantages.
00:27:26
If you guys have a podcast or you're
building a social media in a good space,
00:27:31
in a space where
00:27:34
it is pushing you to grow as a person,
00:27:38
you learn stuff as you go. So
sometimes there are things,
00:27:41
I can't think of anything right off hand,
00:27:43
but we'll be going down a
certain path with our kids
00:27:48
with something and then realize that,
oh, maybe that wasn't the best for them.
00:27:52
Maybe we shouldn't have
been doing that with them.
00:27:54
Maybe it's better to do this this
way. And so you can always pivot.
00:27:59
We call it riding the
ship. You write the ship,
00:28:02
you could be doing something one
way today. It's time to change kids.
00:28:06
We're going to do it this way.
00:28:07
It's not always easy because
when you're steering the boat,
00:28:10
it's going to be the
hardest at that point.
00:28:11
But once that boat gets
going that direction,
00:28:14
it's going to be smooth sailing
you guys. Well, for the most part,
00:28:17
you guys will be able to figure it
out. So all these things in our kids,
00:28:22
we have to build tomorrow's
leaders. We keep saying that,
00:28:25
and it's a big part of what we talk about
between us is that it's so important
00:28:30
to raise kids a certain way because
the world is changing. I feel.
00:28:34
I don't know where we're going exactly,
but there's so many things happening.
00:28:38
And a lot of people.
00:28:39
AI and wars and all the,
00:28:45
I don't want, but just
the world, the way that.
00:28:47
Everybody has their own and in America and
00:28:51
Canada, and we have to have.
00:28:53
Strong kids to stand
up against this stuff,
00:28:57
the evil that's coming into this world.
00:28:59
There's a lot of evil
that is disguised as cute,
00:29:03
sparkly, fun things. And I'm telling you,
00:29:07
Dan and I try to screen
everything and sometimes our
00:29:12
kids will still run into
something and I'm so grateful
00:29:17
that they're able to
talk, discern about it,
00:29:20
and they turn it off right
away and they say, mommy,
00:29:23
I saw this and I don't feel good
about it. I don't believe in it. And
00:29:31
I am proud of those moments
because the older they get,
00:29:34
we're going to be around
them less and less,
00:29:37
and they need to be able to speak
up for themselves and again,
00:29:41
just stand up for what they truly
believe in their faith, their beliefs,
00:29:46
and in who they are.
00:29:47
And never let anybody convince
you that your purple if
00:29:52
you're yellow.
00:29:53
Yeah, let's just say that. I mean,
let's build tomorrow's warriors. Listen,
00:29:56
we're not talking about fighters
here now, not that, but you need.
00:30:01
To fight. We.
00:30:01
Want to build men tomorrow or women,
00:30:03
strong women to be able
to lead their families.
00:30:06
You need to be able to fight for your
family and fight for your beliefs,
00:30:09
and also the communication
skills are so important,
00:30:14
and that needs to start as a young age.
00:30:17
And you need to be able to ask
for the things that you need,
00:30:21
want and want.
00:30:25
And get it. Because if you don't ask,
you're not going to get it. Right.
00:30:29
Exactly. If you don't ask,
you're not going to get it.
00:30:30
Right. No is not a bad answer because
the kids know this. We know this.
00:30:35
You guys know this.
00:30:37
Many of the most successful
entrepreneurs have had no door
00:30:41
shut in their face. Never
let that discourage you.
00:30:45
Encourage them at a young age that
that's just one person's opinion.
00:30:51
Keep going, keep going.
00:30:53
Feel that it's truly teach a little,
teach about negotiating because yes,
00:30:56
I love that. My wife is
like the best negotiator.
00:30:58
I'll walk away from something like,
oh, we can't do it. Okay, I'm walking.
00:31:04
I'm coughing here. I'm walking
back to my seat. I'm dying.
00:31:10
Take a.
00:31:11
Deep breath. I'm dying.
I'm dying. Don't see that.
00:31:13
I'm.
00:31:14
Back.
00:31:14
To my seat. Don't say that you're
living and you're strong and you're.
00:31:17
Powerful. I just need water.
00:31:19
I'm walking back to my seat
and she's negotiating still.
00:31:22
And now our kids have picked that
up. So teacher kids that hey, no,
00:31:27
doesn't always mean no. Do you.
00:31:29
Remember.
00:31:29
When they were not with
us? Not with parents.
00:31:31
Always mean No.
00:31:32
I have to just go back to some
memories when they were really young,
00:31:35
and even now somehow, I don't know how,
00:31:39
but they'll always get free
cute stuff from stores or
00:31:44
people at markets. They'll
walk away away. Free.
00:31:46
Ice cream. We were at the Palisades,
Daniel, every time we'd go,
00:31:49
he'd walk up to this ice cream place
that we, because we liked the ice cream.
00:31:54
It was made. Well, we
looked at the ingredients.
00:31:57
So we'd go up to this ice cream
place and we'd like, oh, Daniel,
00:32:01
you can't have any ice cream right now.
You don't have any money. So we were,
00:32:05
were giving him an excuse why
you couldn't have the ice cream,
00:32:08
and we didn't want to say,
because you didn't eat yet.
00:32:10
We got to have dinner first. We just
said, we don't have any money. Daniel.
00:32:14
And Destiny would come.
00:32:15
He would come out with ice.
00:32:16
Creams. Yeah, they both had cream.
00:32:17
Because he had negotiated himself up free
ice cream. He was three years old. He.
00:32:21
Just said they thought we were really
cute. This is the last time though,
00:32:25
when he was, yeah.
00:32:26
And it wasn't one time. It
was like multiple times. I
don't know how he did it,
00:32:30
but anyways, so I know I am sorry.
We're bragging on our kids so much,
00:32:34
but we're very proud of what.
00:32:36
They do. I don't think it's bragging.
00:32:37
I think it's just being able
to share the experience, and
00:32:43
I want you guys to share your experiences.
00:32:46
What is working for you and
your family? Please share that.
00:32:50
If you have any kind of Instagram reels or
00:32:55
tiktoks or just send it
over to us. Right now,
00:32:57
we're in a phase where we're
sharing other people's content.
00:33:02
People are sending us stuff, and
we're going through tag through it,
00:33:04
tag with the kids, and we're
sharing it on our page.
00:33:07
We're getting over 8 million
mostly from people listening to the
00:33:12
podcast, but we have a lot of eyes
on there, and maybe you guys are,
00:33:16
I don't know what it is, whatever.
00:33:18
Get creative if your kids are
with you at work, whatever it is,
00:33:21
whatever you're feeling that works
for you, make it reel about it.
00:33:26
We'd love to share it.
00:33:28
It's a blessing to have this
platform that has a lot of
00:33:33
eyes right now on our
podcast, on our social media,
00:33:37
and we'd love to share you. Of
course, we'd love to give you.
00:33:39
Your flowers. If you can't, give us a
review, share something in the comments.
00:33:44
Tag us in your Instagrams.
00:33:45
Yes. It means so much to the
podcast that helps us grow,
00:33:49
and I could see you guys are doing that,
00:33:51
and we're just growing and growing
and we're just grateful for you guys.
00:33:54
And the kids are so excited about it too,
00:33:57
because we started this journey with
it. This is our family business,
00:34:01
and when things were so, so hard for us,
00:34:05
this is sharing other Pete. Right now,
00:34:07
our producers are focusing on just Dan
and I right now because it's really
00:34:11
helping the podcast grow. The.
00:34:13
Whole.
00:34:15
Idea of the podcast, and we will
have our interviews back soon,
00:34:19
was interviewing other people that
are going through the same mess and
00:34:24
hard things that we were
going through and winning and
00:34:28
sharing that secret recipe.
00:34:31
Thursday one, we're going to
start. Yeah, kids have homeschool.
00:34:34
In the, yeah, as soon as we get the
green light from the producers, then.
00:34:37
We're good to go. We can have start,
00:34:38
and we're going to come back with a
vengeance as well as interviews. Guys,
00:34:41
we had some great, great people on
there when we were interviewing people,
00:34:46
and soon as we bring that back, we're
going to bring back some of the best.
00:34:49
So look forward to that.
Thank you guys for tuning in.
00:34:52
Yes, thank you. God bless.
00:34:53
You, and we'll see you guys next week.
00:34:56
Thank you for listening to
the Pretty and Punk podcast.
00:34:59
Make sure to subscribe.
Love you. God bless.
00:35:04
Thank you for listening to
the Pretty Punk Podcast.
00:35:09
God bless. See you next week. Royals.
00:35:14
Please.
00:35:16
You can't.
00:35:18
Optimism is the faith, optimism.
00:35:21
Destiny. We can't hear you down
there. You have to be at the mic.
00:35:26
Come on the black.
00:35:30
Oh my gosh.
00:35:32
Come on, sweetie. Please.
00:35:33
Sit on the chair.
00:35:34
Oh, no, don't mix those up.
00:35:36
Oh my. Please sit on the chair, please.
00:35:38
My daddy's having a, he's going to have a.
00:35:44
Yeah, you almost knocked
the mic table down already.
00:35:46
Oh, no. No more. Just sit there.
00:35:48
Sit. I'm.
00:35:49
Going to make your hair pretty so
you see your Bambi eyes, you're big.
00:35:54
Beautiful.
00:35:57
Optimism stop.
00:36:01
Optimism is the faith.
00:36:05
Come on loud and proud, step like a queen.
00:36:09
Optimism is the faith
that leads to achievement.
00:36:13
Optimism.
00:36:15
Hold.
00:36:15
On. No, no. Not like
that. Powerful. Powerful.
00:36:18
Like wonderful.
00:36:20
No, that's not powerful.
00:36:21
Hey, let's show. Hey, come on. Hey,
let's show the world how good you are.
00:36:25
Okay, come on, let's
change somebody's life.
00:36:27
Let's change someone's life. Okay.
00:36:30
Optimism is the faith
that leads to achievement.
00:36:34
Optimism is it's the faith
that leads to achievement.
00:36:40
Quote by Helen Keller.
00:36:42
Quote by Helen Keller.
00:36:46
Do you think it was this? That.
00:36:47
Was awesome. Awesome. That
was so good. Great job. Great.
00:36:51
Work. Would you have done it
better or is that perfect?
00:36:55
Let's do an outro. Oh
yeah. Here we go. Do it.
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