Don't Talk About it, Be About it! It Will Change Your Family's Legacy!

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Your family, your children,

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and I hear about it with
the people that we talk to.

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They're just in this different place in
their life where they're pouring into

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their family and they
understand how precious it is.

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And that we have these young years
where some people just want to

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fly by it because it is
difficult and it is a challenge,

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but you embrace it because
when you can selfishly pour

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into these children and
give them the tools for

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life, I'm talking about yes,
your babies, your toddlers,

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they are capable of so much more and the

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more that we pour into them,

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you just see that you are
really leaving a legacy.

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No. Oh, that's better, right, babe?

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Yeah.

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Yeah. She founded an
architectural concrete company.

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He.

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Founded.

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A hundred million
dollars clothing company.

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She took the world by storm
as a social media star. He.

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Took the world by storm as a
famous serial entrepreneur.

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Together we started a business.

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And had babies.

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Now we're figuring out
the best ways to do both.

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Join us as we learn from other
entrepreneurs going through the same life.

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Struggles as they share their
life. Hacks about success, love.

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Kids, and everything in between. Children.

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Children are the worlds most valuable
resource and it's best hope for the

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future. Quote by John F. Kennedy.

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Children are our future. Teach them well.

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Let them lead the way. Show
them are the beauty they possess

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inside. Quote by Whitney Houston.

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Welcome to this episode of
the Pretty Punk Podcast.

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I am Dan Caldwell and
I'm here with my cohost.

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You the co Stop.

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It. I was going to give you this great
introduction and then you cut me off.

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Well, because I thought you
were going to see my name. No,

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I had this great introduction plan was.

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Okay, what.

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Is it? Share it now. Now it's done.
Well just give it now. It's done.

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No, it's not done.

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No, you messed.

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It. Be positive. Don't be. So what is it?

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No, I was just going to say
all these great things about.

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You. So say it now.

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No, well, I can't say mother's.

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Stay around the corner and let.

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Me hear. That's why I was going
to say all this. So you're.

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Not going to say it.

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Now. I was going to
say amazing mother who,

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they broke the mold
after they made her and

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now she's my beautiful, and I had all
these other great things. But you.

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It's okay. You can stay
here for next time.

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Let's talk about the show.
Okay. So what is this show.

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About? Well,

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we just got back from this great
trip and I think we were just looking

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back on the trip and
just hoping and wishing

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everybody to be able to do some.

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We brought our kids on the trip and I
think what was important was that the

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whole time, Daniel,

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the whole point of the bigger part of
the trip was that Daniel had a speech

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planned. So he had a speech that he
was going to be speaking at an event,

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but bigger than that we also,

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we just happened to have a
fight that was going on, but.

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Before.

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That, in the same place. But
before that, but before that,

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So the truth is,

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Daniel had this big speech
planned and we could have just

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taken Daniel to his speech.

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And then flown home and
then just you and I gone.

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To the, or we could have,
we were in California,

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we could have left the kids with my
parents and then we could have went to the

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fight and enjoyed this night of fights.

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But what we were talking
to Daniel and Destiny

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about how the BKFC,

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how it's building and it's growing
as a combat sports company and

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were owners in the BKFC.

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And so just being a part
of the growth of that.

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I watched how UFC grew when we first

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became a part of that and we became the
longest standing sponsors of the UFC.

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I think we were 14 or 15 years.

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And now I see that same
thing again with the BKFC.

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And we have these conversations
with our kids explaining to them

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these parts, how b KFC's advertising.

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Behind the scenes, and I
don't want to cut you off,

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but I don't want to leave this part
out. So when Daniel and Destiny,

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we have the gift of
being able to work from

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home. So when we have
business phone calls,

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we really like to have the kids around.
Sometimes there's some background noise,

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but most of our friends have kids and
they understand the people that we

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surround ourselves with
have the same mindset.

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Most of them work with their kids and
include their kids in their businesses.

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So I want the kids around for my
phone calls. And this has been hard,

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a little bit of a struggle for Dan
because he gets nervous if the kids

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act up or they're a little bit loud,

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but it really hasn't
been affecting anything.

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I wouldn't say nervous
is the right word, but.

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Well, you want to seem
professional. But the thing.

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We're on conference calls with 10
people on a conference call big deals.

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And I don't want them being too loud
during the conference call when other

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people are.

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Speaking of out of respect. Out
of respect. And I understand that,

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but at the same time,

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I don't want them to miss the
language that goes on because

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whether you think the
children are listening or not,

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they are listening. They're
listening to the background noise.

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So you could have something
that's totally worthless and not

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giving.

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Cartoons. They're not
learning anything from,

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or they're listening to
our words and how we.

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Post.

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Conversations and Negoti.

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Talk about marketing.

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They're listening to the
designing of the T-shirts.

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They're listening to Celebr,

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the marketing conversations being
how we're going to treat them,

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how they are going to be treated,
what the arena, the theater,

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the theater, the negotiations that
are going on in the background,

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the theater, what it's going to look
like, what it's going to be like.

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The picture is painted. So for Dan and I,

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it's very important for
us to bring the kids

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into those conversations so that
they can see what happens behind the

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scenes. And now on,

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we decided to drive and do
a road trip rather than fly.

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And Daniel understands all the
stuff that has been going on,

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and Dan and I are driving,

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he's looking out the window
saying there's A-B-K-F-C

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billboard.

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So he knows all about the
behind the scenes stuff that

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was going on that you
were talking about with.

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Yeah, these billboards are going up.
And he heard that and now he sees it.

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And I think we were just, because
we talk about it on the show,

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that's what this whole
show is about. It's about.

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It's a little bit of a dig.
All pieces working together,

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all don't talk about it, be about it.

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And I'm so grateful that I
was included in this language

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growing up as a child, and I
wanted the same for our children.

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And it took a minute for me to
convince Dan about the story.

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And we did a weird thing with Daniel.

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He didn't know about your
background with Tapout.

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He didn't know that until he older
because I wanted him to understand.

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I really wanted to protect his innocence.
I want to protect his innocence.

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And it's quite a sport. There's
punching, there's blood,

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there's all kinds of stuff going on.

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But I waited till he was old enough
and then he now understands your tapout

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story. But I never want him to
feel entitled. And in this journey,

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he's included. He's a part of it.

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So everything he has

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in his life he works for.
And we don't

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spoil them at Christmas time,
birthdays, we get them four gifts.

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And they're so happy with that
sometimes because we've taught them to

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respect and treat their things
with love and care and so

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special. Sometimes they don't even open
all their presents. Isn't that crazy?

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But anyway, a little bit off topic,

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but I love what we've done with
our family. You can take it,

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you can leave it. I mean,

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I know there's a part of me that just
wants to spoil them rotten at Christmas,

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but I have to pull back because I feel
like that might not be the thing for

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their journey. But.

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I just want to say,

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I think the whole point of
this was is that we were proud

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that we had been talking
about this on our podcast.

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And we tell people, everybody that when
we talk about our podcast or what we do,

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we always tell people about
what the whole experiment is.

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The experiment is we do this as a family.

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We're interjecting our
kids into our business.

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We're interjecting our kids into
these conversations that we're having.

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And we see a lot of people, and
a lot of people talk about that.

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We see other podcasters and
influencers talking about it.

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And we feel like maybe since we kind
of brought this to the forefront two

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years ago, more and more
people are talking about it.

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But many times you don't see
those people actually doing it.

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We see them, we hear them saying it,

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but they're not actually doing it.

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They're not bringing their
kids to their meetings.

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Meetings. It feels risky. It
does. It feels risky. I mean,

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what if our son has never
had a temper tantrum,

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but our little girl, she gets
quite passionate sometimes.

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And that could be a make it or break
it moment. Truthfully. It could be.

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It could be, but it hasn't been.

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And I'm so glad that we have
the courage to push through

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and also truly explain what things go on.

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Because Daniel,

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we could have not shared and brought
him to these fights and he just sees

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the, oh, what is it?
Give him another shot.

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Well, it's just been about the
fight, but he made it more than that.

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We made it more than just the fight. It.

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Was so much more because we explain
even he understands the fighter's

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journeys and he gravitates
towards platinum.

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Mike Perry,

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because he had the opportunity
to speak with him and he

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finds out, he asks questions,
do you have children?

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And he shared with him that he does.

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He has a little child and a baby,

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and he does this for his children.

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This is his way to go out
and put bread on the table.

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And Daniel understands that.
And when it goes to the fights,

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he's yelling, do it for your babies.

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Win for the babies.

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I don't think he identified
with Mike because one,

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Mike was so great with him when he sat
down with him and talked to him. Oh,

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so wonderful. Yes. But on top
of that, that he had kids,

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even though he didn't meet
his kids, he had kids.

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And I think Daniel just identified
with that and that connection.

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And so now whenever he goes to the fights
and Mike happened to be fighting it,

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both fights that he went
to for the BKFC. So he just

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kept asking, where's Mike? Where's Mike?
Is Mike fighting yet? Is Mike fighting?

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Yet? We couldn't find him.
So he had that connection.

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And then I think it was exciting too,
when we were coming through the door,

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one of the execs at the BKFC had,

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there was a big announcement, there was.

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A big surprise.

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Well, Conor McGregor was going to be an
owner, one of the owners that be gifts.

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Right? But nobody in the arena knew it.

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And this exec got down on his
me, nobody anywhere knew it. No,

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it was a big secret.

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He got down on his knees and
came eye level the Daniel,

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because as I said, the people
that we surround ourselves with,

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they have the same mindset
and they treat him with such,

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you don't learn this stuff in
school. And well, just about every.

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Meeting that I'd ever had with that
guy Daniel. Daniel has been there.

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So he knows Daniel intimate.

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So even before us, and
we knew this surprise,

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but before showing us the video, he said,

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everybody's going to see this video
tonight and I want you to be the first one

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to see it. He got down at eye
level and he played the video.

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There was a lead up of Connor McGregor.

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He had a big surprise and there
was a little bit of a hint.

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And then the next video that they showed,

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he had taken ownership in the BKFC,

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which is huge News
Daniel's just so excited.

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But just taking it in like,
wow, that's a great move.

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There's this child so excited about this.

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He understands the business of it
and the reasoning for it, which.

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Is so cool. And we explained
to him what that meant.

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Conor McGregor coming into the
fight, what the bigger picture is,

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not just that he's an owner,

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but the reach that Conor McGregor
has as probably one of the

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most well-known fighters
in combat sports today.

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Seemingly people know Conor McGregor and
they may have never watched him fight.

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That's how big he is. He's got 75
million followers on Instagram.

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I don't know what his other
social media platforms look like,

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but we explained that bigger idea
to Daniel so he would understand

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what the importance of that was, which.

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Is really a cool thing
to understand as a young

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child, to understand
those concepts. So anyway,

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it's just a business lesson.

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He got to see everything in
the painted picture in real

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life.

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We got to go through into the VIP
section that he was hearing about.

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He saw the theater. It
was a beautiful theater.

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Everything thing to see
the things that were

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talked about in real life is just so
special to share that with your little

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ones.

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So I guess basically this
is us sharing our story

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and what happened there so that you
can find a way to incorporate your

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children and maybe you
don't have a business,

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but my mother always
explained the background

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of everything that we did.

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So say you're going to
watch a monster truck show

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and then you explain how
the seats need to be filled.

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And when you get to the
show, whatever it may be,

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it could be a performance or Broadway
show. The seats are full. Well,

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what made that happen?

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Obviously the marketing and you can
explain all the behind the scenes

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stuff and the buildup.

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And then when they attend the
show or the performance or the

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monster truck show or wrestling
or whatever you're going to do,

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you can explain all that stuff.

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And if they see that the
seats are half empty,

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you see that something bad, something.

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Well, they didn't do something
right, something and wasn't right.

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There's a financial piece to all of it.

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And then also marketing marketing's
one of the most important things.

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If you can't market, you're not going
to bring anybody to your business.

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You may not be in business,
maybe you're not an entrepreneur,

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but you can explain. But
maybe I think in the future,

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entrepreneurship is going to be
more important than it is today.

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And it's just getting more and more
important because a lot of these

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AI is taking over so much.

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So many of the jobs that might be
between AI and robotics and other

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things that are out there, computers,

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so many of those jobs are going to
be taken up by those positions or

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by that technology.

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And so those positions won't be available
and people are going to have to find

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other ways to create income and they're
going to create other businesses.

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Maybe it's some new form of
entertainment or maybe it's robots

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fighting. I don't know. Who knows
what it's going to be? Oh my gosh.

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But they're going to
have to be entrepreneurs.

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A lot of 'em are going
to be entrepreneurs.

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And so teaching your kids how
marketing works and how the

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financial piece of
creating a business works,

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all those things are
going to be so important.

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Falling through.

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With. And whether you're
an entrepreneur or not,

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you can still teach those to your kids.

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You can still explain how all
of that works behind the scenes.

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And if you are an entrepreneur,
I challenge you. Just try it.

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I know it's going to feels risky, feel
comfortable. It's going to feel hard.

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It's going to feel like it's
probably not a good idea,

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but people will respect you
and you will love having

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those conversations with your kids.

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And I think that's just this whole kind
of trip was just all those conversations

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put in one between Daniel's
speech that was, oh my gosh,

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absolutely unbelievable. I mean,

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I had an idea of how good it could be,

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and it was better than that just
because lots of concepts you work with.

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When Daniel's speaking, we work with
him a lot, practices every day he.

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Deserves. He deserves the result.
He deserved the connection.

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He deserved all the people
that cried from his message.

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He deserved all the pictures
that were taken after because

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he worked so hard. He worked every day.

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He works on his speeches or some
kind of poem or some kind of

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something. Every day he puts work into it.

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So to get the payoff of,

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I changed some lives today.
And when he was done, he said,

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I can't wait to get on stage again.

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Yeah, I did say that. When
did he say that? What part?

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Were we walking off stage or.

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We were sitting and we were
watching the rest of because Oh.

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That's where we were.

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Because.

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Watching the rest of the conference.

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Yeah, it was great. It was a mastermind.

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It was a high ticket audience mastermind

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type thing of entrepreneurs and really,

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really intelligent people.

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And to have him understand how much

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he moved the room and for these

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high caliber individuals
to come up and tell him

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that his eye contact was phenomenal,

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that his movement was his connection.

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People were posting that
on Instagram, tagging us,

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and I think the whole, he
got total standing ovation.

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Everybody jumped to their feet
all the time. He does it all time.

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And then through the rest of the day,

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everybody just kept running up to him
and giving him knuckles and telling him

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what a great job he did and telling
them how they want that for their kids.

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Just.

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He ignited the fire. Every fire within.

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People. I know he feels.

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That. And that's the thing,

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it's not because he had an agent,

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acting agent at a very
young age. He snuck in,

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he was supposed to be five
or four, I think it was five.

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But at three years old, he
snuck into acting classes.

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He told them that he was five years old,
but he was three. But because of his,

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well.

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We pushed him in there kind of a little
low. I mean, I say we helped him sneak.

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In. I said, if he gets away with
it, they'll probably say no. I said,

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they're probably going to say
no, but if he gets away with it,

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then it was meant to be.

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And he totally got away with it because
he was so good at memorizing the lines

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and just bringing his own
little personality. Do.

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You remember driving him to acting
class? And we'd tell Daniel,

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you're five years old, tell him you're
five years old. No dadda. I'm three.

00:21:52
No, Daniel, you're five years old.
They won't let you go to this class.

00:21:56
If you say you're three,
you're five years old.

00:22:00
No dadda. I'm three. Okay.

00:22:04
But you have to say five for
this when you go into the class,

00:22:08
we'll have to post one. He loved the
class though. He had so much fun.

00:22:12
I still have some recordings from his
classroom and I still watch him here and

00:22:16
there.

00:22:16
I mean, what he turned into, as I say.

00:22:19
What was your favorite
part of the speech though?

00:22:21
Tell me what was your favorite part of
the speech? We were up on stage too.

00:22:25
We came up and introduced,

00:22:28
they spoke to us first and
kind of like in a panel.

00:22:32
And then Daniel got up and
he did his speech later.

00:22:36
And there were different parts of
it that were great for me, but.

00:22:40
Was your favorite. I love them all,

00:22:41
but I don't want to give it away because
this is his talk that he does all over.

00:22:45
I mean, you have to say.

00:22:47
What his words are.

00:22:48
What I love is that he's able to be

00:22:52
his, I can't,

00:22:55
he just has this sparkle
that just lifts my

00:23:00
soul.

00:23:00
But there's this part of the speech
where he has to transform into

00:23:05
this strong and powerful.

00:23:09
And I loved the
transformation and I loved his

00:23:14
movement and his eye connection.

00:23:17
His movement was incredible. That
to me, because we'd worked on that.

00:23:22
But when you don't have an audience,

00:23:24
it's really hard to convey it into words,

00:23:29
how to work with the audience.

00:23:32
How to.

00:23:32
Connect with.

00:23:33
The audience and your
legs. And let's be honest,

00:23:38
I've done a lot of acting,
but I always, sometimes, okay,

00:23:42
there's been moments where it's
been a challenging role and I

00:23:47
wonder,

00:23:48
or I'll imagine I'll have just this
little shoot of a thought or this

00:23:53
thought that shoots in,
what if my legs give out?

00:23:56
What if I get nervous and I
buckle and I fall? And I mean,

00:24:01
it always works out okay
and everything good happens,

00:24:05
but he doesn't get those thoughts.

00:24:08
Which is so.

00:24:08
Cool.

00:24:09
Yeah, he's so comfortable
with it. What if I.

00:24:10
Fall? What if.

00:24:11
I trip? What?

00:24:12
How about when everybody gave him the
standing ovation and he kind of just stood

00:24:16
there and took it all
in? He took it all in,

00:24:18
backs up and kind of like nods
his head a little bit. Like, Hey,

00:24:24
that's how I roll. That's me.
Yes. Yeah, thank you. Thank you.

00:24:29
That's how I roll.

00:24:30
And I asked him later, I said, what
were you thinking? And he goes,

00:24:34
I was just giving everybody love.

00:24:36
I could see he's looking
at everybody and just not a

00:24:39
nonverbal communication of love

00:24:44
and connection can Yeah.

00:24:48
Explain any other way.

00:24:49
We were enforcing that
when you are speaking that

00:24:53
everybody is to help
you through this speech.

00:24:57
When you look at somebody,
you'll see, find the person that.

00:25:01
Needs your.

00:25:01
Message, that talking to
you through their eyes.

00:25:04
They're receiving your message and
they're thanking you with their eyes

00:25:09
and talk to that person. Just look
right at him and talk to them and.

00:25:13
Then let.

00:25:13
Your, I didn't know if he would
grasp that so well, and he did.

00:25:17
You could tell I was watching each
person he was connecting with and I could

00:25:21
kind of see where he was looking at.

00:25:23
And then I looked down in the audience
and I saw that person who was connecting

00:25:28
with him crying, crying. Oh gosh.

00:25:30
And then he starts to walk to the other
side of the stage and he looking at

00:25:34
somebody else and he's
doing the same thing.

00:25:35
And it was so good for me because to
really watch that come through. Yeah.

00:25:40
We worked with them and he's got
great coaches too. But anyway,

00:25:45
I guess that's just something
that you can take for yourself.

00:25:50
Whatever it is, whatever it is,

00:25:53
every child has a different assignment
and you just pour into them.

00:25:57
And we really try to not make it about,

00:26:01
because he makes it very clear.

00:26:02
He doesn't want something
selfish for himself.

00:26:06
He wants to help the world.

00:26:08
And that's just crazy
to me that a little kid

00:26:13
is already thinking like
that. But I do believe, again,

00:26:17
that because we have those
types of friends and we

00:26:22
are at a different time
of our lives right now,

00:26:25
I feel ever since we've
had the children, it's,

00:26:29
it's a different just really family,

00:26:33
your family, your children.

00:26:36
And I hear about it with
the people that we talk to.

00:26:40
They're just in this different place
in their life where they're pouring

00:26:45
into their family and they understand how
precious it is. And that we have these

00:26:50
young years where some
people just want to fly by it

00:26:55
because it is difficult
and it is a challenge,

00:26:58
but you embrace it because
when you can selfishly pour

00:27:02
into these children and
give them the tools for

00:27:07
life, I'm talking about yes,
your babies, your toddlers,

00:27:11
they are capable of so much more.

00:27:16
I heard about it because I had a lot of
older friends that have had children and

00:27:20
the way that they poured into it and
the way that my mom poured into us,

00:27:25
but I couldn't,

00:27:27
I guess imagine it
until it happened to us.

00:27:31
And the more that we pour into them,

00:27:34
you just see that you are
really leaving a legacy

00:27:40
by being unselfish yourself.

00:27:43
I don't know.

00:27:43
How to put it.

00:27:44
Into words.

00:27:45
Your child has a God-given purpose
on this earth and I, they have an.

00:27:49
Assignment.

00:27:50
If what you introduce them to will
actually connect them with that purpose.

00:27:56
But I feel like somehow they
will find that purpose through

00:28:03
your introducing them to
the world and how it works.

00:28:06
So maybe it's not doing
exactly what you're doing.

00:28:10
Maybe they'll find out they want
to be graphic artists. They.

00:28:13
Pivot or.

00:28:13
Maybe they'll find out they
want to be pivot, pivot.

00:28:16
How many times have we pivoted.

00:28:17
Musicians or whatever? Who
knows what that's going to be?

00:28:21
But you have to have those conversations
with your kids. And right now,

00:28:25
I just feel like so many people are
wrapped up staring at their phones,

00:28:29
including ourselves.

00:28:31
We catch ourselves all the time and have
to put ourselves in check all the time.

00:28:35
Especially you being out there,
especially it's a wake up.

00:28:41
Really? Yes, yes. You just threw me.

00:28:44
You just dime me out on our podcast.

00:28:48
But people, what are you talking about?

00:28:50
But other people are struggling with
this. It's a struggle because need to,

00:28:53
it's.

00:28:54
A struggle for.

00:28:54
Everybody. You need to watch your
business. How is your marketing going?

00:28:58
How's the business going?
But then at the same time,

00:29:02
really do that inventory.

00:29:05
Make sure that you are not neglecting your

00:29:09
spouse, that I'm not neglecting
you. I'm not neglecting the kids.

00:29:14
And if I'm doing something
and you'll know, oh,

00:29:18
I've been on this a little too
long. Bring the kids into it.

00:29:23
Our children help.

00:29:24
Right now we're opening
up our podcast page,

00:29:29
the social media where
we're encouraging you guys,

00:29:33
send your stuff that's
doing well on your page

00:29:38
and we will share it
because what are we hitting

00:29:41
4.4 million people per month?

00:29:47
That is the biggest gift.

00:29:48
We're in a different time of our lives
where we want to give back by giving you

00:29:53
guys eyes.

00:29:54
So you guys are sending a bunch of stuff
and we're trying to go through it all.

00:29:57
We're having the kids help
us with what should we post?

00:30:02
Someone sent this, someone sent
that, someone sent this other.

00:30:05
So if it's funny and relatable for

00:30:10
parents, if it's heartfelt,
if it's a lesson,

00:30:13
if it's a business lesson, anything
like that we're going through.

00:30:18
I'm including the kids in it. I
don't want to get lost in it myself.

00:30:22
I'm trying to show them, well, what
do you think is going to go viral?

00:30:26
How can we help ourselves grow?

00:30:28
And also this other person
that sent us this material. So.

00:30:33
I think that's one of the quick hacks
that I have for everybody is that this is

00:30:37
the one thing that just including,
I've had to be mentally aware of.

00:30:43
Sometimes I'll find myself,
and we've had this discussion,

00:30:47
I'm in my phone a lot because
all my business is on my phone.

00:30:51
Every single thing we do is on our phone.

00:30:53
Every person that messages me or calls
me or texts me or whatever is on my

00:30:57
phone.

00:30:58
All the control of all of our Facebook
ads or our businesses or our Shopify's is

00:31:03
on our phone.

00:31:05
But what I've found myself doing
is to try to include the kids or

00:31:10
yourself is that when I'm looking
down and I'm looking at Shopify

00:31:14
and I'm looking at some
things that are going through,

00:31:18
I can look at my kids and I can tell them,

00:31:21
I can explain to 'em
what I'm doing right now.

00:31:22
And Destiny's so good at that. She'll
be like, I want to see. I want to.

00:31:26
See. So she.

00:31:28
Was definitely very interested.
I want to see, I'm just texting,

00:31:33
what did they say? What.

00:31:34
Are they doing? But that's
a great opportunity.

00:31:37
So because lots of times kids won't
ask, so you have to remember yourself.

00:31:42
Why don't I just explain
this whole m on a text

00:31:46
conversation with,

00:31:49
I was on the phone with the
founder of Reebok yesterday,

00:31:53
and this is a guy who founded
this billion dollar brand.

00:31:59
And I'm in this conversation, well,

00:32:02
I'm telling Daniel who I'm on a call with,

00:32:05
and he didn't totally grasp it why I was
on the call because I couldn't explain

00:32:10
everything, but I just told him to listen.

00:32:12
And then later I explained to him exactly
who this guy was and what he had done

00:32:16
and this brand, this amazing
brand that he had created,

00:32:22
and those are the opportunities we have
and that we need to take advantage of.

00:32:27
And it's a good lesson because he
can see the product and he hears this

00:32:32
other human on the other end,

00:32:34
and it just sounds like a normal human,

00:32:37
a normal person, and he
can see the conversations,

00:32:41
and I know he's never nervous
or he is never starstruck or any

00:32:46
of those things. When we
personally walk into a meeting,

00:32:51
he just knows that this person
has done something great. I mean,

00:32:54
I remember being in a place where,

00:32:57
of course I was around
entrepreneurs all my life,

00:32:59
but I remember booking my first
big thing and telling my mom,

00:33:04
I feel a little bit nervous because
I'm going to be working with Matthew

00:33:08
McConaughey and Al Pacino,

00:33:11
and I just felt a little
bit nervous and she's like,

00:33:15
just have a conversation with them.

00:33:17
They're just normal people and she's
not an actor, but she has so much.

00:33:21
Life. That's what I told Daniel when
we sat in with Go to meet Dana White,

00:33:25
and we're with David,
we're meeting Dana White,

00:33:29
and he had seen Dana on different
videos and stuff that we had watched,

00:33:33
and the UFC, obviously it's when
we went to the ufc, he was there.

00:33:38
So sitting down is like,
Dana's just a regular guy,

00:33:41
but ask him a great
question and he recited,

00:33:47
he did what he did, the man in the arena,

00:33:50
he did the man in the arena speech
by theater Roosevelt for Dana,

00:33:53
and it's like he just felt so comfortable
in there because we allowed him to be

00:33:57
that.

00:33:57
We put him in, what is it called?

00:34:00
You put someone in the
atmosphere of uncomfortableness,

00:34:05
but then they end up being comfortable
and exactly what happened to me on set.

00:34:10
We had great conversations. A
lot of these big time actors,

00:34:14
they're introverts and they just,

00:34:16
if you can connect with them
with a good conversation,

00:34:19
it could be about breakfast, about
dinner, a show that you watched,

00:34:24
the way that you were
brought up as a child,

00:34:27
when you have those connections, I'm
telling you, when I went into a boardroom,

00:34:32
my partner, his hands were
shaking because he was so nervous,

00:34:35
and I can't remember what
we started talking about,

00:34:39
but they were Italian, I was European,

00:34:42
and we bonded over the
immigrant story and forevermore,

00:34:47
we had a connection and people
were, what is the secret?

00:34:51
How are you booking these huge jobs?

00:34:55
It's because we had a great connection
in the room. It was fearless because it

00:35:00
ended up turning. You get that
connection and it feels like family.

00:35:04
And Daniel has that. Destiny has
that. You have that. I have that. And

00:35:11
if I could challenge you guys,

00:35:13
put yourself in a situation that's big,

00:35:17
but people that are greater than you.

00:35:20
I love being in a room with
people that are smarter than me,

00:35:24
that have accomplished more than me,

00:35:26
where I should be nervous
because these guys are big deals.

00:35:30
There's multimillionaires
that have done so

00:35:35
much in their lives and billionaires,

00:35:37
but it just puts you in this

00:35:42
feeling of comfort. I don't
know, I should be nervous,

00:35:46
but I feel so comfortable because I
know the lessons. Well, I want to.

00:35:48
Kids in those positions. I want
kids in front of those people so.

00:35:52
They're never nervous.

00:35:54
And who can show them things that I
don't even know that I can't show them

00:35:57
because these people know more than I do.

00:35:59
Or maybe they know more than
I do in a different area, and.

00:36:01
They've been able to be blessed
with bigger mistakes and they

00:36:06
learn from those mistakes. If you
could just learn someone's blueprint,

00:36:11
whatever you're going after,

00:36:14
go and learn from someone that's
done it, someone that's failed,

00:36:19
someone that's won and
overcome those hurdles and

00:36:23
obstacles. I mean, isn't
that the best, Dan?

00:36:28
Yeah. I mean, that's what
you want to put your kids in.

00:36:31
You want your kids to know that
that's the best part of these people's

00:36:36
story is that they failed
over and over and over again.

00:36:40
And that's why they succeed is because
they've learned from those failures to

00:36:45
become who they are. I think that, well,

00:36:50
here's a great stat that I pulled off the
internet that four out of five parents

00:36:54
wish they had learned
more about money as a kid.

00:36:57
And if we're not teaching
our kids about money,

00:37:00
if we're not teaching 'em about business,

00:37:02
if we're not teaching them how to network,

00:37:04
how to have these conversations,
then who's going to teach 'em?

00:37:09
Who's going to teach 'em this stuff
if we don't teach 'em? Nobody,

00:37:12
nobody's going to teach 'em this. They're
not learning this stuff in school.

00:37:15
If your kids are in regular school,

00:37:16
there's nobody teaching 'em
this stuff in school. I mean,

00:37:19
other than having the conversations
that they have in class,

00:37:22
but those probably aren't that great.

00:37:25
The truth is it's probably
they're not that great a.

00:37:27
Hundred percent.

00:37:28
Another stat I found was 59% of
parents are uncomfortable talking to

00:37:33
kids about money. And I don't
understand that one. I mean,

00:37:37
that should be the excitement
of the conversation.

00:37:40
It should be explaining
and keeping money in

00:37:44
perspective. We don't like
to build up money too much,

00:37:47
but in a way that money is a
way to solve problems. Yes,

00:37:51
money is a way to fix
things, to help people,

00:37:55
to create relationships, to create

00:38:02
whatever situations and things
that you might do. Travel.

00:38:06
Well, even, I mean,

00:38:09
there may be pushback
on this one. It may be.

00:38:13
Pushback on.

00:38:14
What may be problematic.

00:38:15
But what I'm about to share
is that when my mom was

00:38:20
having a hard time with the business,

00:38:24
she didn't really keep it
secret maybe a little bit,

00:38:27
but we knew.

00:38:30
We knew because we were there
and we can tell by her mood

00:38:35
and we would obviously ask
her to share what's going on.

00:38:39
But there was times when the business,

00:38:41
obviously after Christmas in January,

00:38:45
there's certain months when the
business isn't doing that well,

00:38:49
but rather than woe is
me and allowing it to

00:38:54
cause fear in the family,

00:38:57
we came up with solutions
and ideas on how to

00:39:01
overcome these periods. And
I feel like that is, I mean,

00:39:06
however comfortable you
feel getting into it,

00:39:10
but if you can show them,

00:39:12
because we're all going to have some
kind of struggle with finances in our

00:39:16
lives, and I mean, even if
you have a lot of money,

00:39:20
sometimes all your money is
invested and you're robbing Peter to

00:39:25
pay Paul whatever. What is.

00:39:27
It robbing Peter to pay.

00:39:29
Paul, right? It's biblical.

00:39:33
You need to be confident in those
moments and allow your children

00:39:38
to also one day when they're
going to have some kind of

00:39:43
struggle, not have a nervous breakdown
because you need to be strong.

00:39:48
I mean, that's the worst case scenario.

00:39:49
But what I mean is don't let
it overcome you and fall into

00:39:54
depression or fear because it's only a
moment. And if you can figure it out,

00:39:59
it's only a moment. And sometimes
it takes a little bit longer.

00:40:03
Maybe it takes a few years,

00:40:04
but if you have that
fearlessness within you,

00:40:09
you will keep going and keep climbing
till you dig yourself out of that

00:40:14
hole.

00:40:15
Yeah.

00:40:15
I think not everybody goes.

00:40:16
Through it, but they have to.

00:40:18
See something.

00:40:19
I think one of my superpowers
is that I thrive under pressure,

00:40:22
and so I need our kids to see

00:40:28
that type of pressure.

00:40:29
And when things are going wrong and
when things aren't going your way need.

00:40:32
To, not everything will go.

00:40:34
Your way, need to know that
you're going to be okay,

00:40:36
that you're going to figure it out,

00:40:37
that if you buckle down
and decide you're going to

00:40:42
fix this problem, that
you can fix this problem,

00:40:45
you'll figure out your way out of it
that it's not going to be the end of the

00:40:48
world. That you will figure out
your way out of this problem.

00:40:52
And I think it's important for
our kids to see that I do too,

00:40:55
and see us play that out.

00:40:58
Even if you either explain it
to 'em in the moment or talk

00:41:03
to them about it later down the road
and tell 'em this is what happened,

00:41:07
and it looked like it was
going to be a bad situation.

00:41:09
We didn't know what we were going to do,

00:41:11
but I knew that we could figure this out
if we just thought about it and I put

00:41:16
my head down to it or we put our heads
to it and we figured out how to get out

00:41:21
of it.

00:41:21
And you see the things that your
parents go through as children,

00:41:26
how do they react in this
situation? Are they moody?

00:41:29
Do they turn to substance abuse?

00:41:33
These are things that I know that
my mom was really conscious about.

00:41:37
We'd see her, I guess her
mood was a little bit lower,

00:41:41
but one thing that she
definitely did was pray,

00:41:44
and those prayers were always
answered. And I feel we do that too.

00:41:49
We include our kids in the prayers,

00:41:52
we include our kids in our journey,

00:41:55
and we include them in
the ups and the downs.

00:41:57
And I feel like when you
do that with your children,

00:42:01
I'm talking to you guys when you do that,

00:42:04
there's just going to be something so it's

00:42:09
just so blessed. They're going
to be unstoppable in life.

00:42:13
I am just getting goosebumps
thinking about it. If you can just,

00:42:16
you probably already
are, but if you're not,

00:42:19
just try to find a way to
incorporate them in your journey

00:42:24
and also let them be a part
of the problem and help you

00:42:30
figure.

00:42:30
Out the.

00:42:30
Solution. You know what? You
can share it with your kids.

00:42:36
I think that's perfectly said. I mean,

00:42:39
I'm sure you can feel our passion
when we talk about this stuff because

00:42:45
there is such a good feeling that comes
from it when you actually do this with

00:42:48
your kids and you feel like, one,

00:42:51
you're being more connected and bonded
with them. Two, they are learning.

00:42:55
They're actually learning
from this. And three,

00:43:00
I think it lessens the guilt of when you

00:43:05
are on your phone or doing these texts
or conversations and feeling like they're

00:43:09
included. You're leaving
everybody out, your family.

00:43:12
If they want to be included. Some kids
want to be included more than others.

00:43:16
Of course, help them
understand the language,

00:43:19
help them to listen to the language,

00:43:21
put on things that are
relatable to your business.

00:43:24
Maybe documentaries,
podcasts, whatever it is.

00:43:28
But yeah, introducing
them to documentaries.

00:43:31
We have Daniel watch a documentary
pretty much every day he watches,

00:43:35
even if it's a five minute documentary
about different things. But yeah,

00:43:40
just if you guys try this out,

00:43:42
let us know how it works for you or if
you have any questions about how you're

00:43:46
using it,

00:43:48
if you don't feel like you have a question
about a certain situation. But yeah,

00:43:52
let us know how it's working for
you guys because love to hear.

00:43:55
It's what we are
passionate about right now.

00:43:58
It's the reason we started this podcast,

00:44:02
and I know it might not be for everybody,

00:44:05
and maybe you have a good
reason why it's not for you,

00:44:08
but we feel like this is something that
every single person can implement on

00:44:12
some level, level, on some level.

00:44:16
So thank you guys for tuning in
today. I feel like we were just like,

00:44:20
a lot of it was we didn't
have a real direction.

00:44:22
We just wanted to tell you guys, we were
so excited about how everything went,

00:44:28
and we want that for you.

00:44:29
Guys. Yeah, we just want
that for you, you guys,

00:44:32
to have your story of whatever
that is, whatever it is.

00:44:36
Maybe you are looking for a
new brick and mortar space.

00:44:41
Bring the kids, help them pick it out.

00:44:44
Talk about why this location is good,

00:44:48
or talk about your marketing. Ask
them questions, hear their input.

00:44:52
Sometimes we get the best
ideas from our little children,

00:44:56
just like my mom did
when I was a little kid,

00:44:59
and she got so much information
from my brother that

00:45:04
passed just so many great ideas
that helped build the business.

00:45:08
She did so many unique
ideas of bringing Hungarian

00:45:13
pastries on a certain
day and wonderful coffee,

00:45:18
and she would have these
great entrepreneurs come in

00:45:23
and just feel comfortable in her.

00:45:27
Just little things that may
seem simple can create a

00:45:31
big momentum in your business and
just share that stuff with your.

00:45:36
Kids.

00:45:36
And you know what else you'll find that
I've found out was kind of like that I

00:45:41
didn't expect.

00:45:41
What is the respect you get from the
people you think that they're going

00:45:46
to push back,

00:45:48
but they actually super
respect you for what you're

00:45:52
doing, for how you're bringing your kids
into these conversations and your kids?

00:45:58
I'm telling you, they get smarter because
of it and they actually have great

00:46:03
conversations. I think our interview,
if you listen to Daniel's interview,

00:46:08
we interviewed him probably
about five or six podcasts ago.

00:46:14
If you look back on it, and it's an
interview with the youngest entrepreneur,

00:46:17
I think it's called, and
you can hear, listen to him,

00:46:21
his conversations. We hadn't heard
a conversation like that before,

00:46:25
but his intelligent
conversation that he has with us

00:46:30
this conversation is because it is 100%

00:46:35
because of him listening
to us have conversations,

00:46:39
business conversations every
single day of his life.

00:46:43
That is why he can have
those conversations.

00:46:46
That is why he can get up on
stage in front of 3000 people

00:46:51
and deliver a speech.

00:46:53
That is why we can put him in front
of any entrepreneur in the world,

00:46:57
and he will ask an intelligent question
and have a conversation with them.

00:47:01
We encourage you guys to try this in
your house. Try this in your family,

00:47:06
and we promise you, you
will not be disappointed.

00:47:10
And always watch the way you speak
to your children because they're

00:47:15
going to, I feel like even destiny,

00:47:19
when I feel a little stressed
or I'm like, oh no, oh no,

00:47:23
just like I'm talking out loud and
she goes, don't worry, you're brave.

00:47:27
You can do this. Do
know what I mean? Where.

00:47:30
Does that come from?

00:47:31
Where does that come from?

00:47:33
It just comes from things when we're not
expecting it because we've been saying

00:47:36
it to them.

00:47:36
Right? And when I was going through the
hardest time in my life and this little

00:47:41
2-year-old, or, well, it was almost three,

00:47:44
but sitting me down and just, you
can do this. You're so strong.

00:47:50
God, you, God loves you, just
the things you need to hear.

00:47:54
So it's just great pour
into those little babies,

00:47:57
and I'm telling you, I'm just
so excited because we're.

00:48:01
All, they'll surprise you.
They will do great things.

00:48:03
They will. They will. God bless you guys.

00:48:06
Thank you guys for tuning in and we
will catch you guys next week. Yes.

00:48:11
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00:48:16
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