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In this informative episode of the Pretty and Punk Podcast, hosts Dan Caldwell and Ildiko Ferenczi jump into the profound topic of life's cyclical nature, emphasizing the importance of not taking good times for granted. As seasoned entrepreneurs and parents, Dan and Ildiko share their personal stories of triumph and tragedy, shedding light on how life's peaks and valleys shape our experiences and growth.
Ildiko opens up about the repetitive nature of tragedy and how it often feels like one is being buried under the weight of continuous hardships. She offers a powerful perspective: what feels like being buried is actually the planting of seeds for future growth. The hosts discuss the importance of being present and grateful during good times, emphasizing the danger of complacency and the need to fully appreciate and celebrate successes, as these moments are fleeting and precious.
Dan shares his experiences of facing unexpected valleys, such as losing his job as a police officer and the tragic passing of his business partner, Charles. These stories highlight the necessity of resilience and preparation to withstand life's inevitable downturns. Both Dan and Ildiko reflect on the invaluable lessons learned from their struggles, discussing how adversities have strengthened them, provided new perspectives, and ultimately led to greater appreciation for the good times.
The episode offers practical strategies for preparing for life's valleys, such as maintaining strong support networks, being financially prudent, and continuously nurturing important relationships. Ildiko and Dan's children, Daniel and Destiny, share inspiring quotes from Winston Churchill and other notable figures, reinforcing the episode's themes of resilience and gratitude.
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When the tragedy does
come, it comes repeatedly.
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Tragedy after tragedy and
you're just begging, God,
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when am I going to get a break here for.
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A minute? When going to come up for air.
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Right? Because I feel
like I'm getting buried.
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But you have to remember,
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you have to step back and look at it
from a different angle so you feel
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like you're getting buried,
but God is planting seeds.
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No. Oh, that's better, right, babe?
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Yeah.
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Yeah. She founded an
architectural concrete company.
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He.
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Founded a hundred million dollars.
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Clothing company.
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She took the world by storm
as a social media star.
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He took the world by storm as
a famous serial entrepreneur.
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Together we started a business.
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And had babies.
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Now we're figuring out
the best ways to do.
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Both. Join us as we learn from other
entrepreneurs going through the same life
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struggles.
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As they share their life,
hacks about success, love kids.
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And everything in between.
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Success is not final.
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Failure is not fatal.
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It is the courage to continue that counts.
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Quote by Winston Church.
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Life is full of peaks and the valleys you
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can enjoy peaks until
you've been in the valleys.
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Welcome to the Pretty and punk podcast.
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I'm Dan Caldwell and I'm
here with my beautiful wife.
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IL. Hi guys.
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And we're ready for another
great podcast. Today,
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we've been talking about all the great
things that are playing out in our life.
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Actually, I forgot to mention that
the podcast is in the top 10 again.
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For so.
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Exciting parenting and relationships
and all the good stuff. Yeah,
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we thank you guys for helping us
do that. We really appreciate it.
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Today's podcast, we wanted to talk.
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There's so many great things happening
in our lives right now that we wanted to
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talk about because this has happened,
and the more that you go through life,
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you start to realize that this
plays out over and over again.
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But don't take the good times for granted
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because I think so many people think,
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I watch a lot of people on
Instagram building their businesses,
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and you see these coaches and different
people that are doing different things
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in the world, entrepreneurs or whatever
they're doing in life, influencers,
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whatever they're doing, and
influencers, and they're probably,
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I've been where they are and it probably
feels like that nothing can go wrong in
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their life, but as we know,
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there's always peaks that life
is made up of peaks and valleys,
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and at some point you're
going to be on a peak,
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and then I guarantee it at some
point the valley is coming.
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Yeah. There's such danger in
taking the good times for granted
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because if you're on your high horse,
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their chances are you're
going to slip off at one.
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Point or another. Well, you're
getting humbled. Exactly. Exactly.
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There's a time that comes, Hey,
this person needs a humbling,
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or you've got comfortable
and you just felt like, oh,
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this money's just going to
keep coming in. And things are,
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there's so much that happens
in people's businesses,
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like the algorithm gets changed right
away and then all of a sudden your
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business crashes. You have to.
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Pivot where they close a certain platform.
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There's just so many obstacles.
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Before we get into that, let's
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Don't take the good times for
granted because at some point
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you are going to hit a
valley. We all hit valleys.
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At some point you're
going to hit a valley,
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and if you're not ready for it,
it's going to devastate you.
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That's right.
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So many of us make the
mistake of thinking that the
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good times are going to last forever,
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that the money is going to keep
flowing and that the people that we
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love are going to be around us forever.
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We take those things for granted,
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and if you don't know how to
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handle the tragedies that may come,
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you can get lost in that.
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Oh, I mean, I've been there. I've
been there and on different ways.
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When I lost my job as a police officer,
I felt like I was on top of the world.
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I'm doing exactly what I love to do,
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and we were about to be taken over
by the sheriff's department and I
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was like, I planning out, oh,
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now I can go anywhere in the county
and this is going to be great.
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And then I lost my job
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when Tapout was at its height
when we were doing a reality
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show, we were on our second,
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we just finished wrapped our
second season of our reality show.
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We're doing hundreds of
millions of dollars in sales.
We're all over the world.
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I'm traveling to these different
countries to set them up for
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licensing so that we're going to be,
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our brand is being all over the world.
We were in Japan,
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and I'm walking by and I see this
huge window and it's tap out and
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pictures of us in this window, and
we're traveling all over the world.
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We're doing these big shows.
We're in the video game.
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All these great things are happening.
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We're coming home.
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And I remember getting off of a
plane and we had to come straight
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to the Tapout headquarters to
do a photo shoot for this big
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magazine, and it was one
of the first magazines,
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the biggest magazine we'd ever been in,
and one of the first magazines that,
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it was a non mixed martial arts magazine.
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It was a regular magazine and we
were going to be on the cover of it,
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and we were going to do
this big photo shoot.
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So we did all this stuff and then
that night, my partner was killed,
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Charles was killed and that, I mean,
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on top of the world,
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we were on top of the world.
And then he's passes away.
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He passes away and it's over.
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It's like we're heading
straight towards the valley
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and you're never prepared for it.
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And if you're not prepared
in some way, at least,
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so that gut check that if you're
prepared for that gut check,
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it's like when you tighten up, have you
ever been punched in the stomach? Well,
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you probably haven't been,
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but us guys do stupid stuff like punch
me in the stomach and see how hard you
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can punch me. We do
stupid stuff like that.
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If you've ever done anything like that,
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you know that if you're not ready for it,
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the wind's going to get knocked out of
you and you'll just fall to your knees
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because you can't take a breath.
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But if you tighten up your stomach and
you're ready for it and they punch you in
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the stomach,
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it almost won't hurt you
because you're ready for it.
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And that's just like life is the
same exact way that if you prepare
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yourself and you're ready
for it, you'll be okay.
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Yeah, and that's the thing.
You have to have that.
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It's like you have to have the
training to prepare you for the
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tragedies that are going to happen in
life because there's going to be some kind
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of tragedy, I guarantee
you some kind of obstacle.
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If you can't handle that, you're
going to feel like you're drowning.
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As we were discussing
before, a brick in the face,
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and sometimes tragedy comes again,
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one after the other. It's weird
because I feel many people,
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even myself, and I'm sure with
you, when the tragedy does come,
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it comes repeatedly tragedy after
tragedy and you're just begging,
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God, when am I going to get
a break here for a minute?
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When can I come up for air?
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Right? Because I feel
like I'm getting buried.
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But you have to remember,
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you have to step back and look at
it from a different angle so you
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feel like you're getting buried,
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but God is planting seeds and with
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those seeds that are planted,
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you going to get a strong tree eventually.
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So while you feel like you're getting
buried, it's actually strengthening you,
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so you just really need to step back
and look at it in a different light.
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Yeah, you're in that season. I mean,
I'm sure you've had some times,
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some struggles, some things that
you've had to go through lately,
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and I felt for you because there's
some of those things I can't, I mean,
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I can try to say some stuff.
I can try to help you,
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but you're living through it.
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You got to figure it out
on your own. Know when.
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Your mom passed away, it
was just something that
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you know,
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those things are going to happen one
day and you can prepare for 'em the best
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you can, but until they happen,
you just are not prepared.
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That was hard. And there's a lot of
stuff growing up that was very hard.
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And I do remember asking the
question, why is this happening to me?
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And I had to look at it
from a different light,
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and I do remember when my brother passed,
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I had to look at things
in a different way. Well,
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if I could have the choice,
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because you have to think of
things that make you okay,
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if I had the choice to never have 'em in
my life or just the certain time that I
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had 'em in my life, what
would I choose? And of course,
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I'm going to choose to have them
in my life as long as I did.
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Then with my mother and
I still am struggling
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with the fact of her dying.
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So suddenly not having the
conversations that we needed to have,
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I really didn't think that that was going
to happen. And then having to have to
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fight for weeks to get an
autopsy and all the other
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things that went up on top of that,
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then they wouldn't give me the
space that was beside my brother.
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And I know that that was her wish.
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I thought we had the plot right
beside David and then them telling me
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that we couldn't have that plot.
I'm just putting this out there,
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not for anybody to feel sorry for me,
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but just the little things that you
have to when you're supposed to be
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breaking down and having a breakdown,
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but you have to be strong and stand
on your feet and talk to these medical
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professionals that are telling you no,
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you're not going to get an autopsy and
you have to write clever letters to fight
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for her, right to get answers.
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Then you need to fight to get
property beside your brother so
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they could be together.
This was negotiation, smart talk,
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just calling and calling and calling.
Do not whatever you're going through,
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don't give up. We got the spot.
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Certain things did not go my way,
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but if you just give up in
those hard times going to
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feel you, you're going to
be very upset with yourself.
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But those things, trust me,
they are building resilience.
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They're building strength within you,
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and when the good times do come, man,
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you're going to appreciate them.
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You're going to just hold onto them
and you're going to cherish them,
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and you're going to cherish
the people in your life.
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Maybe some of you haven't
lost anyone. Well,
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my biggest advice to you is
just hold on to everyone.
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Have the relationships with everyone,
because when the grief comes,
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it's a whole different thing.
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Well, I think that's a part of not
taking the good times for granted because
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exactly,
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if you're checking those boxes
before those things happen,
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you're spending time with your
close loved ones as much as you can.
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You're preparing your finances,
having your finances ready. I mean,
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that's one of the things for people
is that if you are prepared in those
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places,
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that it doesn't make those
valleys so low because
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you don't, I mean, the
valleys are going to be low,
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but sometimes if they're not so low that
you can't recover because you want to
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be able to recover from them's terrible.
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So if you're prepared in
the good times by not taking
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those for granted, if you're
prepare in the good times,
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you're ready for those
valleys when they come.
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You're ready for those times when
they come. And I don't know about you,
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but do you ever get this where
you're almost, there's really,
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really good times where you almost
expect some bad stuff to come,
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something bad.
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To come? No, don't do.
Because that invites.
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Well, I know I tried not to do
it, but there's some part of me.
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I wasn't expected Charles passing. That
wasn't something that I was expecting,
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but I was like, really? Like
this is happening right now.
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We just got that and we're making this
kind of money and all these great things
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are happening. I'm always waiting for,
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and I guess I do some sort of
overcompensation when I start to think
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that bad times are coming. I'm like,
oh, I'm going to fix everything.
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So I'm looking it up. I'm rechecking.
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Do we have all of our i's dotted
and our T's crossed and this
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is ready and this is fixed, and if
that happens, we'll fix it this way.
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And I just.
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Over prepare. I guess I'm like
that. I was raised like that though,
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to always have a backup plan or have
something to lean into if something
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doesn't work out. I mean,
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that is something that
is very smart to do,
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but don't invite the negative.
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Don't predict that something bad is
going to happen. But at the same time,
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I do feel that it's really smart
to be prepared and have some
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kind of plan.
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What was the best time you
think? I mean, of course,
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other than when you got with me,
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what was the best time in your
life where you thought things
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can't get better than
this? This is perfect.
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This is the greatest moment of my life.
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And then of course the hammer
had to drop at some point, right?
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Yeah. Dang.
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I mean, I know we all have a lot
of this. We all have ups and downs.
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I was just thinking
about this the other day,
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but just having Daniel becoming a mother,
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and I was going through so much
with my mom because at the same
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time, right when I had him, I was
supposed to be healing from my C-section
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because I had to have it
because of medical condition.
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I'm so tiny and we can do
a whole podcast about it.
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I know a lot of people ask me about
C-section and I had to have it with
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him. But during that time,
my mom got really sick.
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She got the C word and she
was fighting for her life.
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So basically I had you in
the car with the newborn.
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I didn't want to bring Daniel.
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Hospital. Well, I remember
we were out of the country.
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We had to fly back into the country.
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Well, we were in and out. Well,
I mean we lived in Vancouver,
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but you had your own.
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Stuff. Yeah, we were somewhere. We
flew out of the country or something.
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Or did we go to the States
or something like that?
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No, I couldn't leave. I was in
Vancouver. I had the baby in Vancouver.
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We didn't leave my mom, mom. We
were still there. Okay. Yeah. So.
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You have a better memory than me. Whatcha.
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Talking about I can't fly.
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I just got how many layers do they
cut through? I could barely walk.
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I remember Destiny limping, right?
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I remember limping into the hospital
and trying to be there for her.
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And finally she recovered.
And that was the great part.
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We did everything we could.
We were so empowered.
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We said no to certain
treatments and she was golden.
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Now with the second baby,
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which is crazy because it took me
how many years to get pregnant.
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That was insane. Heartbreaking. And
Daniel for his second birthday says,
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I want to have a baby.
Everything is going so amazing.
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One month after Daniel asks for
a baby sister, I get pregnant.
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I have the best pregnancy in my life.
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And of course I know I'm going
to have to go in for this.
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And I was scared for that,
but excited obviously,
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because going to meet
my baby girl, baby girl,
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he told me I was having a baby girl.
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I never thought in a million years
from male dominant family on your side,
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my side, everything was going
so perfect. I got a little boy.
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I got a little girl. My mom said
nothing could be more perfect.
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This is so amazing. I have the baby.
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Of course, it's harder
for me to heal this time,
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but in divine intervention,
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they find something that's
been hiding in my body.
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We're not going to talk about it,
but it's life, life-threatening plan.
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Well, here's the thing. I think you
skimmed over this a little easily.
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Everything was perfect and
we're going great, and life is.
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Great, but this time, but also, wait,
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I almost forgot this point because
this time I am not going to have to
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deal with my mom being sick.
She's healthy this time.
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So I could really enjoy my,
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because this period goes by, enjoy the
baby. The newborn phase goes by so quick.
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I could do photo shoots this
time, lots of them all the time.
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Soak in the babies, both of them
together. It's going to be great.
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Travel.
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Travel the world. We're going to do
amazing things. Bring my mom everything.
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Look, we have.
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All these things planned and we're
talking about it. Everything planned.
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And then we decide to go to this
doctor's appointment. And it was so.
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Let's not get into that. But I
got hit in the face with the,
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I just hate talking about it. I don't
want to talk about it because honestly,
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it's traumatic and I don't
want to go to that. Well.
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I didn't even go into the doctor dark.
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Yeah.
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That's how great things were going.
Going to the doctors when you get out,
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we're going to go get something to eat.
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We'll go eat. Yeah, we're going
to go for lunch. Don't come in,
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stay with the babies. They look tired.
I don't want to bring them into the,
00:19:40
I hate bringing the babies into
hospitals or doctor's offices.
00:19:45
I don't want them to get sick or
whatever. Supposed to be a quick,
00:19:47
I'm going to run in. I'm going to run
in for two minutes and my life changed.
00:19:52
And that's how it happens.
That's exactly how it happens.
00:19:56
You take life for
granted and God is great.
00:20:02
God is playing out in our lives.
00:20:05
And then you take it for
granted and he has to check you.
00:20:11
You're not appreciating the things,
00:20:13
the blessings that are going
on in your life. Well, I.
00:20:15
Don't know.
00:20:16
I don't know if I was honestly really
00:20:21
grateful for everything. You don't
even know how hard it, because I mean,
00:20:26
I had another relationship
and that was hard for me.
00:20:30
I think we broke up.
00:20:32
One of the biggest reasons was
because we didn't become parents.
00:20:36
It was just awful
divorce. It's just crazy.
00:20:41
So I was just so grateful.
00:20:45
I couldn't understand.
00:20:46
But I understand now because
00:20:52
you don't see it in the moment,
00:20:56
but these things are setting
you up for your purpose.
00:21:00
So I don't want to say that
I was taking it for granted,
00:21:05
but.
00:21:06
Sometimes it's just a different
direction or you're being prepared for
00:21:09
something. Those hard times when they
come, those valleys, when they come,
00:21:12
you learn so much.
00:21:14
From being in there. I learned so
much. I learned so much because.
00:21:17
I've never heard anybody say they
didn't learn from being at a low point.
00:21:21
If nothing else, you just learned
that you don't want to be there.
00:21:23
Again. Yeah. Well, can I just
tell you something that I
00:21:29
would mean? This is scary.
00:21:33
I don't want to do it again,
but just the whole experience.
00:21:38
When I gave myself fully to God,
00:21:41
because as we talked about,
we like to be fully prepared,
00:21:46
have a backup plan, figure everything out.
00:21:49
I didn't have one for this experience,
00:21:53
so I had to fully give myself to God
and the peace and the happiness and the
00:21:58
joy that I felt, yes,
I was getting skinnier.
00:22:03
I didn't look the same. I was dealing
with a lot, but I was so happy.
00:22:07
Nobody would've known
what I was going through.
00:22:12
And it's such a miracle to truly,
00:22:16
I thought I was happy before,
00:22:18
but after this whole thing and the serious
00:22:23
surgeries, I was so happy, so grateful.
00:22:28
Every word, every look.
00:22:31
I remember just trying to memorize
every single thing, every curve,
00:22:36
every the feeling of my baby's
hands, the feeling of it,
00:22:40
because I wasn't allowed to pick
them up for several months after this
00:22:44
surgery. And I remember going,
this is going to be so awful.
00:22:49
But I would improvise. We would lay on
the bed and I would hold them that way.
00:22:54
And I was nursing my baby.
00:22:56
And even just the gratitude of not
taking the medicine in the hospital
00:23:01
because I was nursing and I was so
scared that I was going to dry up and I
00:23:05
wanted my new baby to have the
nutrition that Daniel had because he was
00:23:10
so smart and so strong and never got sick.
00:23:14
I was begging the nurses for a pump.
00:23:17
I was so grateful when
they finally brought one.
00:23:20
But then Dan brought the baby in
and I remember the nurse crying
00:23:25
because I refused to take
my painkillers and stuff.
00:23:29
And they did bypasses and
00:23:33
removed over 80% of my stomach.
00:23:36
And my nurse was crying because
she said Only a mother would
00:23:41
do this. Only a mother
And Destiny was in there.
00:23:45
We were nurse. I was so happy.
00:23:49
What a lesson that God gave me.
00:23:53
And now I can truly talk
to people in the darkest
00:23:58
of dark and say,
00:24:00
I can how They say there's two candles
and sometimes someone loses their light.
00:24:05
I have the trust to be able to
talk to someone that's lost their
00:24:10
light, to be able to light it. And so.
00:24:13
Through.
00:24:13
You have.
00:24:15
Tragedy from going through this.
00:24:16
Right? And you can spark that.
00:24:19
When people don't see that they have
that light and they feel that they're at
00:24:22
the very end, there's nothing else
they can do that they're so scared,
00:24:27
they're so lost that they
feel like they're dying.
00:24:31
And I could see that I
could have gone there,
00:24:34
but I went the other
direction and it, it's like,
00:24:38
what do you get Marines? They get
those badges. It's like, well,
00:24:41
I lost my brother. My dad left me.
All these things. It's like, listen,
00:24:46
I am very capable to help
you out of this hole.
00:24:50
And just really appreciate those moments.
00:24:52
I am so happy talking about it.
00:24:55
Although I know it's
such an emotional thing.
00:25:00
It is. And you were so
powerful at that time. I mean,
00:25:03
I remember you couldn't move,
but I could feel your strength.
00:25:08
I can remember we had a hotel because
we had to stay close to the hospital
00:25:13
and you couldn't move very much.
00:25:14
So I had to take the kids out every
day and I'd leave Destiny with you
00:25:18
sometimes, but sometimes
I'd take destiny. So sleep.
00:25:22
Well, I just felt so bad
because I couldn't play with
Daniel with Destiny. You.
00:25:26
Powered through some stuff.
00:25:28
You were up trying to do it all.
00:25:31
And I would just not
let you because you were
00:25:36
two days from surgery. You.
00:25:38
Just got out of the surgery. I
wasn't taking my painkillers.
00:25:40
Very, do you remember.
00:25:41
The.
00:25:41
Shots was though?
00:25:42
Do you remember those shots? I had
to take, I think it was 30 days.
00:25:46
I had to take stupid shots,
so I didn't get a blood clot.
00:25:50
Dan's afraid of needles. Yeah.
00:25:53
Had nothing to do with it. I'm.
00:25:54
Not doing.
00:25:55
It. I'm like, are nothing
to do with it. Did you.
00:25:56
Just do it.
00:25:57
My, you said you got all those tattoos.
How'd you get those tattoos? I had get.
00:26:01
Had to. I thought these
big old needles every.
00:26:04
Day. Oh my God. I watched the babies.
Oh dear. I gave you shots too. No.
00:26:09
You didn't.
00:26:10
Yes you did. I 1000% dude. No.
00:26:11
You.
00:26:12
Didn't. Yes, I did. I did
give you shots. Yes you did.
00:26:15
You made me give you shots. Yes.
I didn't want to. No. Yes I did.
00:26:20
Not all of them. Why are I gave a few.
00:26:23
Maybe one. Don't give you a
few. It's not in my memory.
00:26:26
Yeah, I remember it because
I didn't want to do it.
00:26:29
Well, when you said you didn't
want to do it, then I remember.
00:26:34
I mean, I don't remember
you giving me a shot,
00:26:36
but if you are so scared of it,
00:26:40
I know how you twitch and stuff.
00:26:42
There's no way you're coming anywhere's
Twitch near me with a needle. Come on.
00:26:46
So I could break off and I had enough
going on it. Little tiny. That was enough.
00:26:50
Enough.
00:26:51
Tiny. Okay. I just don't like needles
for myself. I don't mind needles for you.
00:26:54
No. Okay, guys.
00:26:57
So you guys know that
these times are coming,
00:27:01
and I'm sure many of you guys you're
listening to this have been in those
00:27:05
valleys before. So you
know what that's like too.
00:27:08
So we just learn so much from
being in those valleys. I mean,
00:27:12
we all get lessons and we come
out stronger and better because
00:27:16
of it.
00:27:17
And that's why we get to
that next peak when we're in
00:27:22
that valley and we have all our
tools are being forged in fire,
00:27:27
and we get to that next
peak because of that
00:27:32
valley that sharpened us.
00:27:35
And so if you're in one of
those valleys right now,
00:27:37
and just know that the peak
is coming, there is a peak.
00:27:42
That's coming. Yeah. It
can't rain forever, the sun.
00:27:47
It's just the way it is. It's on
the horizon. You're in that season.
00:27:49
Sun is coming. It doesn't rain forever.
00:27:51
Yeah, you're in that season. Doesn't.
00:27:52
Snow forever.
00:27:54
Spring is coming, summer is coming.
00:27:55
I promise you spring is coming
and you're going to be okay.
00:27:59
So if you need to talk to
somebody, go talk to somebody.
00:28:03
You are powerful. You can do
anything. If nothing else,
00:28:06
listen to these stories of some of the
people that we interview or some of our
00:28:10
stories that you have it in
you to get out of that valley.
00:28:14
That's right. And I need to add
one thing that really helped me
00:28:19
and the people around us.
00:28:22
When you pray and stand on
the promises of the good
00:28:26
book, because there are promises
in there. And when you pray,
00:28:30
pray bold prayers like
it's already happened
00:28:35
that you will get through this
financial crisis. You will get through
00:28:42
the illness.
00:28:45
The doctor's words are not
final. And thank you God,
00:28:50
that I was able to see
that with my mom. They said
00:28:55
if she didn't do chemo,
00:28:58
she's going to be dead in a couple
weeks. Well, she didn't do it.
00:29:02
And I'm not advising anybody to do that
because I was a little scared for her.
00:29:07
I said, they're saying you need to do
this. And she said, no, I'm not doing it.
00:29:12
And then we talked to her
doctor, Dr. Scott, and he said,
00:29:17
I see a lot of things go both
ways. And he was an old doctor.
00:29:20
He was ready to retire.
00:29:22
So he really had some strong thoughts
and feelings that possibly a young
00:29:27
doctor wouldn't talk about,
00:29:29
but I love that we were
all able to support her
00:29:34
a decision. And anyway,
00:29:39
just pray bold prayers and those things
00:29:43
really help you. Whatever it is
that helps you to be stronger.
00:29:48
But I know with me in my circle,
00:29:51
it's the bold prayers and
standing on the word of
00:29:56
God.
00:29:57
Thank you guys for tuning in
to the Pretty and Punk podcast.
00:30:01
You guys are going to get out of
that valley if you're in that valley.
00:30:04
And be sure if you're not in that
valley and you're in good times,
00:30:08
don't take them for
granted. Thank you guys for.
00:30:11
Tuning in, and I pray that
they last forever for you.
00:30:13
Absolutely. We'll see you guys
next week and thank you guys again.
00:30:18
God bless.
00:30:18
God bless. Take care.
00:30:21
Thank you for listening to this
episode of the Pretty and Punk podcast.
00:30:26
Just remember, those bad times
aren't always going to stay,
00:30:30
and those good times aren't
always going to stay.
00:30:33
So keep your head up and keep
trying. God bless. Love you.
00:30:38
Thank you. I hope that your life,
00:30:43
God bless. See.
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