Join hosts Ildiko Ferenczi and Dan Caldwell as they delve deep into the foundation of strong marriages, especially for entrepreneurial couples juggling business and children. In this insightful episode, they highlight the three key pillars essential for marital harmony and longevity and why they were important in their marriage and why it should be important to yours.
Having a Common Purpose - Just like teammates on the court, couples need a united vision. Forging a legacy together, nurturing family dreams, setting your health goals together, charting your life’s journey together, all of these shared objectives fortify your bond together and if they are not aligned it can make it difficult to stay connected and keep that strong relationship.
Aligned Principles - Delve into the heart of shared beliefs and morals. Understanding and respecting each other’s spiritual journey. A journey that probably only works if aligned on the same path. Ensuring the core values imparted to your future children are in sync, this pillar underscores the ethical backbone of a union.
Shared Lifestyle & Hobbies - Having mutual interests and pastimes so that these shared experiences, can bring you closer together and not further apart.
In addition, Ildiko and Dan candidly discuss the challenges couples face when they aren’t aligned in these vital areas, shedding light on potential pitfalls and how to navigate them. Another must-listen for anyone seeking to fortify their marital foundation amidst the whirlwind of entrepreneurship and parenting.
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It was our mindset that
connect and a lot of the
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struggles and obstacles that we overcame,
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they were in alignment different.
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We both grew up in different
countries. We had different lives,
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but a lot of the mindset of what
pulled us through those obstacles.
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I feel like we connected.
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No. Oh, that's better, right, babe? Yeah.
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Yeah. She founded an
architectural concrete company.
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He founded a hundred million
dollars clothing company.
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She took the world by storm
as a social media star.
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He took the world by storm as
a famous serial entrepreneur.
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Together we started a business.
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And had babies.
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Now we're figuring out
the best ways to do both.
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Join us as we learn from other
entrepreneurs going through the same life
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struggles.
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As they share their life. Hacks
about success, love kids, and.
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Everything in between.
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The meaning of life is to find your gift.
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The purpose of life is
to give it away cruel by
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Pablo Picasso. If you play together,
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you pray together, you.
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Stay together. Welcome to
the Pretty Punk podcast.
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My name is Dan Caldwell and I'm
here. You are supposed to say it.
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I'm waiting for you to call me. Beautiful.
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I'm here with my beautiful wife.
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Okay. In case you didn't know,
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and we have another great
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There's a huge dead air at the beginning
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We're horrible at that part.
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But yeah, it's a great podcast.
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I think we had some good discussions
about this before we jumped on.
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Yeah, we had a talk, Dan and I,
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and we were just really thinking
about our relationship and
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we've had a lot of ups and
downs, let's be honest.
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But there are some key things,
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and not just three,
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but we wanted to pull three important
things that bond us together like
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glue and this mindset, these commonality,
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these three pillars were something
that we saw in each other
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from the beginning of our
relationship when we became friends.
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Well, I think it's what attracted
us to each other. It's our beliefs.
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So it's not necessarily what you do
as a couple or the things that you
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incorporate into your marriage.
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It's more of those beliefs
that I feel like you need going
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into marriage so that a marriage
will work so that it works.
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Because if you don't see eye to eye on
certain things on the beliefs that you
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stand on,
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I think you're going to have a really
hard time in a long-term relationship.
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That's right. And what was
the first thing that we.
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Came up with? Thing was
having a common purpose.
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I think that from the beginning,
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I mean obviously we were both
entrepreneurs when we met.
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I think it's what attract you.
Were a strong female entrepreneur.
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You were way out of my
league when I met you.
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Of course you were chasing me around.
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Stop.
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And don't.
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Lie.
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Don't.
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Lie. Now.
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Let's be honest.
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I just thought that this is the
type of person I want to be with.
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I want to be with somebody who I can
have conversations at the dinner table
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with, even though I don't know. I mean,
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we've tried to limit those as much
as we can sometimes and have regular
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conversations too. But I love
talking business with you.
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It was our mindset that
connect and a lot of
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the struggles and
obstacles that we overcame,
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they were in alignment, different.
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We both grew up in different
countries. We had different lives,
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but a lot of the mindset of what
pulled us through those obstacles,
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I feel like we connected very tightly.
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We became best friends, best
friends before anything.
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So I know he says that I was chasing
him around. That's not true. He wanted.
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To meet me, me for the.
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Longest time, but no, but
listen, listen, listen.
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I was not going to go and jump into
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something that I wanted to take my time.
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And I feel like a lot of overachievers,
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high performance businessmen,
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I think they respect that in a
woman. And that's my mindset.
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I'm valuable. I'm going to
wait. I'm going to take it slow.
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I'm not going to jump in bed with anybody.
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I'm not going to be kissing
nobody in the beginning.
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It's not going to happen overnight.
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I want to build a
friendship before anything.
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I thought you were just
playing hard to get.
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No.
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I don't think we're actually boyfriend
and girlfriend for six months. Probably.
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A long, long time.
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Somewhere around there. Well, I know our
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first real date is boyfriend and
girlfriend was the Super Bowl.
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So that's like in what end of January
or February or beginning of February
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there. So yes, and we met in July.
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But we took our.
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Time. You talked in July.
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And you respected me as a
woman, as a business woman,
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and my dreams and my aspirations,
and I did the same for you.
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So mindset was a huge part of that.
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Common and that common purpose.
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And I think having that same
why that we had together,
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why are we doing what we're doing and.
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Our goals together? That
was really important.
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Once we started dating, we realized that
we wanted to build something together.
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We didn't know what it was,
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but we wanted to build something
together that was going to, and.
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We talked about that a lot changed world,
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the world you had had thing not going
to be right. And I had my thing.
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And what was kind of in a weird way,
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in an Erie way, we were both
getting out of our things.
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And so it was almost like
perfect timing, God's will,
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that we had this perfect timing
to meet each other. And because
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we had the opportunity to have a
common purpose together, don't cry.
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You're going to make me, what are
you doing to me? What are you doing?
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Don't look at me like
that. It just makes me.
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Emotional. It all felt together.
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Baseball team or football team, when
you have a common purpose together,
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you're so much stronger.
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What was the analogy you had
for the horses thing you had?
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You were talking about it last week.
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We were so strong on our
own. And those race horses,
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they could pull a lot of weight
by themselves. Don't get me wrong,
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they're powerful.
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But when you set the side by
side and you give them that same
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weight, they could pull
more than that 10 x that.
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Yeah, they can pull seven,
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I think it's seven x their weight or
seven x the weight that they can pull by
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themselves when they pull.
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Together, Hey, but you and I
together, we can 10 x it together.
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Absolutely. And.
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I felt that, and I knew that,
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and everybody saw that within us.
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So we were looking for
something to do together.
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So the goal that was so important,
and now with this podcast,
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it's crazy how it all came
together in the hardest part of our
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lives. It just boom so
easily. God was like,
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here you go. This is it. This is the
thing that you guys can do together.
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Absolutely.
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Other than the businesses we did
together. But I feel like both of us,
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we really enjoy sparking
something in our audience
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all around the world. We love
touching people all around the world,
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bringing people together,
saving marriages, just,
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I don't even know how
to put it into words.
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But I feel like this is the purpose.
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I think that every marriage
needs some version of that.
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It doesn't have to be a podcast,
but you guys got to find that thing,
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that thing, that thing. Whatever it
is. It took us years to figure it out.
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Also, what about health? I mean, we
had that in common as well. Yeah,
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that's true. That.
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Was a common purpose. We both wanted to,
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and I think you even in some ways,
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someone can pull you over to
their side. Maybe I didn't.
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I've always wanted to be healthy
and eat healthy and work out.
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But.
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I think you brought me into that world
even deeper and which was a good thing.
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It's like you can have those things
where your purposes are aligned,
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but you may be deeper
down that rabbit hole
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than I was. And I find my way over
there because I want to be there.
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I want.
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To be there with you. We want to
have our purposes aligned together.
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That was exciting. Building
our health journey together.
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And then the other thing
that is important for us now,
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now we're in a different part of our
lives where we pour into our children.
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And I feel we have a
very same vision for our
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family, for our children,
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and including them on that
health journey being very,
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they don't see it as strict,
but it's how we brought them up.
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And I'm no slipping.
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I just want whole foods healthy.
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And especially dealing with my health
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struggle when I was on the cover of
magazines and you were looking the
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best and just, it could have
been any one of us, Dan,
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it could have been any one of us. And
I see it happening to our friends,
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but I happen to get sick.
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I don't even like to talk about it,
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but it's an eyeopener
and you learn from it.
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And it just made me want to pour into
my children and my family that much
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more.
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I will literally spend so much
more time in the kitchen knowing
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that everybody is going to benefit
from the food that goes the
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body. It's our temple.
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The temple. We're what we eat.
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And I think that's important
that you and I appreciate,
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and I think I tell you,
and I told you today,
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I appreciate when you make food like that
because not only does it taste great,
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but it really, I think we feel
better when you eat better.
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And that's always done, that.
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Our audience can study it a little.
I love it. I love it. I love it.
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I love studying how just
cooking from scratch,
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everything that you can do
as naturally as possible.
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I want to go back to
my grandmother's ways.
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They had a farm and they had a
business together with my grandfather.
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And if you can just study
a little bit about what
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clean whole food does
for you and your body,
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you can literally heal so many things
that are going on that you may be dealing
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with. That's another podcast in itself.
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Bone. Bone broth. Bone marrow.
I'd never had this stuff before.
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First time I ever saw you scooping
that stuff out of the middle of a bone,
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I almost lost my mind. But I just
never seen anything like that before.
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But I get it now.
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And going down that rabbit hole and
studying and looking at some of the things
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you're looking at, watching
some of the videos together,
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I know that we're aligned
in our purpose there.
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And you look so much younger.
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I.
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Made you young.
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I'll take that. I'll take that. Okay,
number two. What was the next one?
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Okay, so number two guys
is aligned principles.
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And this is also something that has
to come up in the beginning. I mean,
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what about your faith?
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You guys have to have somewhat of a
parallel faith. I mean, it has to be,
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if you believe in God,
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it's just going to be easier
if you both believe in God.
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Yes.
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Right. If you have a faith and
you're on that journey together.
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Oh yeah. If you're going different
directions, there's no way that, I mean,
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how are you guys going to stay together
if you're going in different directions
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as far as faith goes? And
there's probably so many. I mean,
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even in if one person's a crook
and the other person's not,
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if one person's doing drugs
and the other person's not,
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it's all those principles
that you hold dear to you.
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If you guys are not
aligned there, you need.
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To identify that in the very beginning,
it's not going to work. I mean,
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it could, but it's going to be a hard,
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if someone's an alcoholic
and the other one's not,
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that's going to be a hard road.
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I can't see it working. I know for us,
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thank God, thank God that we
don't have any of those things.
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But when you or I are
struggling with something,
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it's easier to get back up here.
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Yeah. I mean, I see relationships.
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There's a lot of relationships
out there where one of the
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partners is trying to fix the other side.
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Maybe there's a drug problem or whatever
the problem might be. Or they thinking,
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oh, I know they're not religious, but
I'm going to try to make them religious.
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I mean,
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that's a really hard thing
to tackle in a relationship.
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And not to say that it can't work.
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But they have to be willing to.
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Absolutely. If they're not,
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you're basically gambling whether it's
going to work or not, by beautiful.
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Thank you, mama.
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And you're kind of gambling whether
that's going to work or not.
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You're hoping it's going to work. And
you think because you love each other.
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I mean, maybe it's worth trying,
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but I would try to work those
things out before you get married.
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Because once you get married, it's
really hard to unravel that. I mean,
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I know people just now divorces,
they just check in. Oh,
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go file the paperwork, call the
attorney, get a divorce. But still,
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if you kids, there's other people
involved. There's things involved,
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there's money involved. There's all
kinds of things that are involved.
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And it's just better.
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Working.
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That out before you get married.
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Yeah, a thousand percent. And work
ethic too, right? Don't you think?
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Yeah. That's another one person.
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If one side loves to
watch isn't going to be
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talked out of football every single game
and isn't going to be talked out and
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the other side is hungry
and doesn't watch tv.
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No, I can't be with a lazy, could.
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You imagine if I was a
TV watcher all the time?
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Oh gosh. No. No. I.
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Mean, definitely. You'd be all
over me for sure. No, I couldn't.
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You'd have my head. I think that's
just the way that I grew up.
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My mom was just so go, go, go, go.
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And it has its downsides because
you can overwork yourself,
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but I definitely need someone
very driven. And you too.
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Yeah. I mean, I'd be the same way
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if you didn't Not that.
So don't take this wrong.
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I don't think that you need to take
care of the house, but you do take care.
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Of I to. I.
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Love to. And you take care of the kids.
And I help too. I do that stuff too.
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But I would say that you take on, you.
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Can help more. But I
do. This is something I.
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Want, whatcha trying to say there.
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I want to take this on myself because
I am such a perfectionist that
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I've hired so many people and I clean
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way better. I do the white glove test.
I'm like, you've got to be kidding me.
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I'll do this myself. What is it? Eight.
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$900? No, we can't seem to keep house.
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I'll do it myself. I'll do
it myself. This is not, no.
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I'm.
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Perfectionist. I'll do it
myself. I enjoy doing it. We.
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Found a couple good teams.
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But my mom, what did she do? What was
her first job when she came to Canada?
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She was a housekeeper
for very wealthy people.
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I want to put their names out there,
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but I can't because she worked
for very wealthy people.
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She got beautiful gifts and
she did immaculate work,
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and she taught me how to clean
things. I don't cross contaminate.
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I do everything perfect. And when
you're dealing with that kind of client,
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they watch everything.
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And I think that's why we were so good
with the architectural concrete company.
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Even little things like our crew,
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I would say do not lean on the walls.
How guys like to lean on the walls.
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And.
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The women, the housewives would be like,
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he's leaning on my wall,
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his dirty hand is on my wall. I would
have these discussions. They're like,
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really? Do they care? I'm like, yes. They
care. All these little things. Anyway,
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a totally different topic.
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But I love that just those
little things made us
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the top of the pick in that.
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Industry. And I think in principles too,
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there's other things that we don't
ever have a problem with or anything,
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but I'm not going out to the club or
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I'm not going to strip
clubs or anything like that.
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And I think that there's people out
there that could be dealing with that in
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their marriage. It's like the
husband thinks it's okay to,
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I'm going to go to the bar
every Friday and Saturday night.
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Or the wife thinks that she
wants to go out with her friends.
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And we don't have that problem because
we're definitely see eye to eye on those
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things.
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Or when we do events,
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I feel like we have this agreement
where it's, we're here to network.
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We're here to inspire people.
We're here to touch people.
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We'll do the red carpet. We'll
stay for a certain amount of time,
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30 minutes an hour, but we're
not here to party and get crazy.
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We don't drink.
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We'll switch out the drinks for water.
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Especially.
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After the baby.
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I haven't had a drink
since Daniel was born.
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That's so crazy.
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Yeah. I mean, I'm guilty of a glass
of wine here and there, but drink.
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Yeah, but no, but you're not a.
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Drinker.
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And you're not like, oh, I got to stay.
I got to talk to everybody. I got to.
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No.
00:19:04
No. Yeah, no, I'm good. Those
are our aligned principles.
00:19:07
And that's why I think when
you have aligned principles,
00:19:11
it's an unspoken word. You don't
have to say it to each other.
00:19:15
No, we.
00:19:15
Already know. We just give each other
that look like, let's go. It's time.
00:19:18
To go.
00:19:19
Yeah, let's get out of here. And
I think with our kids, I mean,
00:19:22
there's not much that we don't, I mean,
00:19:27
there may be some things where I am a
little stricter about and there's things
00:19:31
that you're a little stricter about,
but we're on the same page. We're.
00:19:35
On the same page. Yeah.
I feel that's important.
00:19:37
So what was the last
thing we came up with? Hu?
00:19:39
The very last thing.
And I feel like for me,
00:19:44
I feel this is very important.
00:19:45
Was there another thing? Those are
two pretty important things. Yes.
00:19:47
Life. No, it's our lifestyle.
00:19:50
Having shared lifestyle.
00:19:53
And.
00:19:53
Hobbies.
00:19:54
And I feel that that's something
that we enjoy doing things
00:19:59
together. I feel like if you.
00:20:00
Can definitely, I like Star Wars.
And if you didn't like straw wars,
00:20:05
you just wouldn't be marriage material.
00:20:08
Right, exactly.
00:20:09
So if we can do things and things
and be passionate about things
00:20:14
together, that bonds you like glue, right?
00:20:18
Yeah. I mean, I can't think of
anything that we're, I mean,
00:20:24
think there's things that I curved you
into a little bit like you liked going.
00:20:28
I think you loved Comic-Con.
00:20:30
Yeah, I.
00:20:31
Dragged you to ComicCon
too. We have to go to comic.
00:20:34
I like experiencing new things
because that's what life is about.
00:20:38
Trying different things, trying different
foods, trying different cultures,
00:20:42
learning about different
people and things. So I'm very,
00:20:47
something that.
00:20:47
I do that you don't like.
00:20:52
Well, you don't like chess.
00:20:54
No, I do like chess. I do like.
00:20:56
Chess. Chess. But you're not
running to go play chess with.
00:20:59
Me. I'm not obsessed with it,
but I like it. It's challenging.
00:21:03
I like it for you. I just don't
have as much time to do it.
00:21:07
Fighting.
00:21:11
I, I think you like.
00:21:12
Watching Jiujitsu with me.
00:21:13
I like watching it.
00:21:14
I just don't want you coming home
with fungus toes and all that.
00:21:18
It just kind of grosses me.
00:21:19
Fungus toes.
00:21:20
Let me check out the gym, make
sure it's the top of the line.
00:21:23
And then we're okay, but I don't like.
00:21:26
Going, I don't come up with toast.
I don't want you to go to a,
00:21:29
don't put that out there.
We're on a podcast Arizona.
00:21:32
He doesn't have that, but would
be. Thank you for clear that.
00:21:35
Up. Thank you. Would be my worst.
00:21:36
Nightmare if he went to a dodgy
gym and practice there. That would
00:21:41
not be fun. That would not
be in my alignment would.
00:21:44
Okay. But in those types of things. But.
00:21:46
I like watching it mostly.
00:21:47
Aligned. Right?
00:21:48
Listen, I didn't even
know what a tapout was,
00:21:52
so you kind of showed me that world.
And it was weird, this elegant,
00:21:56
classy woman coming in with you.
And I remember Dana White going,
00:22:02
this chick with.
00:22:04
Whatcha are talking about. They were
looking at me right in my alley. All the.
00:22:07
Come on, let's be honest. Okay.
Anyway, his past life is his past life.
00:22:11
So here's the thing. But
you've been to A U F C before.
00:22:15
I.
00:22:15
Met you. I would say in a lot
of ways. We were always, I mean,
00:22:20
the first thing I took when
we went to the Super Bowl,
00:22:24
you enjoyed that when we
went to right out the gate,
00:22:27
I took you to Tony Robbins and
you were super excited about that.
00:22:31
I think you liked it more than I did.
00:22:32
Oh, I loved it. I loved it.
00:22:34
That second Tony Robbins who went to,
00:22:36
I had to leave and you didn't
want to leave. You stayed.
00:22:39
I stayed by myself. It was.
00:22:40
A three day event. I think I went
for two day or four day event,
00:22:44
and I went for two days. And
then I had to go to Afghanistan.
00:22:48
For.
00:22:48
A military thing that
we were doing out there.
00:22:54
We were bringing fighters
out to Afghanistan.
00:22:56
I was actually really upset that
you left because I feel like that
00:23:00
was such a huge, I wish you would've
stayed. I mean, we could do do that.
00:23:05
I wanted.
00:23:06
To stay too.
00:23:06
I wanted to go to Afghanistan
with you. But this was,
00:23:09
I feel it was more important
for what I needed in my life.
00:23:14
I was going through such
a hard time and it was
00:23:18
so incredible. And the
people there were amazing.
00:23:22
It.
00:23:22
Was perfect forever. Were VIP because of.
00:23:25
The, you shoulda saw where we were
sleeping. You probably would not have,
00:23:28
you'd have been very happy you stayed.
00:23:30
We were forever v i p because
Dan did a infomercial with
00:23:35
Tony Robbins. So Tony Robbins
keeps him very dear to his heart.
00:23:39
So we could go to any event. And
we were in V I P. I met Jim Quick,
00:23:43
who is a wonderful friend
of ours. And just so many,
00:23:49
I don't know how to explain it other than
there were just so many amazing people
00:23:54
there. And it really did change my life.
00:23:58
And it challenged me to
pray and wish for something
00:24:03
that was impossible. And they told me
I wasn't ever going to have a baby,
00:24:08
and that it would cost me maybe even
hundreds of thousands of dollars.
00:24:12
And I challenged God,
00:24:16
and I wrote this letter
to my unborn child,
00:24:20
the child that I wished for
the child that was going to
00:24:25
become a part of my life.
Change the world. It's so crazy.
00:24:30
Letter. Then it God sent me.
00:24:31
And then now, no. Yeah, well, yeah.
00:24:34
Hey, I participated in
that whole thing too.
00:24:38
I can't believe it how that played out.
00:24:40
But I mean, I would say that we both love
doing those types of things together.
00:24:45
And I can't really think of
anything that specifically, well.
00:24:50
Like sports, I like any sport
because they're the mindset.
00:24:55
The people that are pushing, that are
fighting for what they believe in,
00:24:59
the fighters, the football players.
00:25:02
And then in Tony,
00:25:05
I was brought up to push myself,
00:25:09
to surround myself with people
that are better than me.
00:25:12
I want to learn from people that
are better than me always and
00:25:17
forever. I'm never going to say,
oh no, that's not how it is.
00:25:21
Let me learn what you have to teach me.
00:25:24
I want to learn as much as I
can. And whatever works for,
00:25:29
and you're like that too. Whatever
works for us will keep that.
00:25:32
What doesn't work. I respect that it
works for you. But I will forever,
00:25:37
forever be learning.
00:25:38
Forever.
00:25:39
I think you too. We love to learn.
00:25:42
And that said, we're going to go to a
fight soon. We're going to the b k Ffc.
00:25:49
We're, see, how do we say this? We.
00:25:51
Can't say too much, much with
the reality show and all that.
00:25:54
Well, we're owners in
the B K C, but that said,
00:25:58
we're just really in join. I'm so.
00:26:01
Excited for you all stuff. It's crazy.
00:26:04
We're working on together.
00:26:05
But can I just say it's crazy how
the stars aligned and brought us
00:26:10
to that journey.
00:26:13
And.
00:26:13
Here you are. And here we are.
00:26:15
And here we are.
00:26:16
And here we are. And here we.
00:26:17
Are. We're married and we're
chugging along. Everything is,
00:26:22
I mean, it's not always perfect.
00:26:24
No.
00:26:24
Please let me be very clear.
00:26:27
But we're fighting for the same goal.
We're fighting for the same purpose.
00:26:30
And we're in this I.
00:26:31
Together. I love to say
we're in this together,
00:26:33
that whenever we have a disagreement,
00:26:36
that one of us are going to say
that we're on the same team.
00:26:41
And that usually kind of puts
us on the same page together.
00:26:45
And if you're not, how do
you build an empire together?
00:26:48
How do you build a beautiful
legacy and how do you teach your
00:26:52
little ones to just live the
best life ever? Their dreams?
00:26:57
Well.
00:26:58
That's your legacy, their dreams. Those
little ones are your legacy. Anyways,
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00:27:33
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00:27:33
I think that that was a great podcast
and I hope that that touched someone out
00:27:37
there and just sparked
something within them.
00:27:41
I love talking these things
out. I mean, we talk about it,
00:27:45
but I think we really get a little
deeper together when we sit down here and
00:27:48
talk on.
00:27:49
The microphone. I feel like it
connects us. And this is our thing.
00:27:52
This is our thing. And I encourage
you guys to find your thing.
00:27:56
Whatever that is, that gets you giddy
inside, that brings you closer together,
00:28:00
that just creates this warmness
and changes the world in some
00:28:05
way. Maybe it's a charity, maybe. I
don't know what it is. Pray for it.
00:28:09
Pray for it. It's going to come
to you guys. God bless you,
00:28:12
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00:28:14
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00:28:16
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00:28:21
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