Halfway There: Are You Who You Said You'd Be?

[00:00:00] Is this the life I'm living that God actually called me to build? Is this the dream we have together? Or is it my dream that I'm pushing through? Or is it that I'm living day to day and I'm not fulfilling my calling? I'm not the light in the dark with my family included side by side living my legacy?

[00:00:31] Uh, no. Ooh, that's better, right babe? Yeah!

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[00:01:33] Destiny. Welcome back to the Entrepreneur Parents Pretty and Punk Podcast. My name is Dan Caldwell. I'm here with my beautiful co-host. Il di Coferenzi. That was your cue. I know, it just went so fast. You had one thing to do. Mm-hmm. One thing to do. Okay, okay. So, welcome back to the Entrepreneur Parents Pretty and Punk Podcast.

[00:02:01] We are, we're halfway through the year 2025. Where are you guys on your goals? Where are you guys on the things that you set out to do this year? Are you guys creating a legacy? That's what we want to talk about today in today's podcast. Do you have anything to happen? I was just saying, are you living your bad, I was saying in my head. I was talking in my head. I was trying to think, how am I going to come into this really powerful? And I guess, here's the thing.

[00:02:29] Are you living your best life or barely surviving it? We're hitting July. And because right now, listen to this. Someone is in their hospital right now praying for one more day. But you've been gifted six more months. What are you going to do with it? What have you been doing with it? But before we get into that. Before we get into that. Hey guys, we hope you're enjoying today's episode of the Pretty and Punk Podcast.

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[00:03:53] So don't forget, all the links are below in the show notes. And thank you again. And let's get back to the show. Listen, friends. And if that sounded heavy, I'm going to push a little harder. If you died tonight, would your kids inherit a house full of stuff or a legacy full of memories? Because mid-year isn't about progress. It's about alignment. And we're halfway through the year.

[00:04:23] Six months behind us. Six months ahead of us. And this episode isn't about motivation. It's about accountability. And you need to be so crystal clear, honest with yourself. Because so many parents are busy, exhausted, and silently aching. But no one stopped to ask, is this the life I'm living that God actually called me to build?

[00:04:51] Is this the dream we have together? Or is it my dream that I'm pushing through? Or is it that I'm living day to day and I'm not fulfilling my calling? I'm not the light in the dark with my family included, side by side, living my legacy. These are the questions that we need to look at today and see, is it...

[00:05:20] How far have we come? We don't want to look at it in January and December. We want to have a mid-year check-in. And we're not saying that you have to have completed these goals. We just want to know where are you in that process. Are you on track? Are you where you want to be? Are you doing the things that you need to do to get yourself there? And this is just, you know, I know it's hard to do accountability all the time.

[00:05:50] But we... I think self-accountability is probably the best accountability. Yes. Because you can tell people whatever. People can ask you the question, are you doing what you're supposed to be doing? Are you where you want to be? And you can say whatever you want to say, but you know. You know where you are. You know if you're doing the things that you need to be doing.

[00:06:11] You know if you're giving 150% in all the areas that you want to be attacking, all those areas that you want to be giving that effort to. So this is just a six-month check-in, an accountability check-in. Ooh, did I almost not get that word out? Accountability check-in that we should all be doing. Yeah. And it's not a bad thing if you're not where you want to be.

[00:06:41] But we're not just asking about how's the business. It's time to ask how's your home, how's your heart, and what story are your kids watching you write this year? Because they're taking note of it more than you think they are. And being halfway through 2025 or whatever year you're in, because this is going to go into the archives and someone may listen to this in another year, but you're halfway through this year. And maybe this year hasn't gone the way that you planned.

[00:07:11] And the truth is legacy isn't built on a perfect plan, but you can't just ignore it and keep going the way that you're going. It's time to make little pivots and put little spins on the things that you're doing or altogether stop things that shouldn't be happening in your life. And just so you know, we're not 100% where we want to be six months into this year. No, there's always pivots. We're all going through this.

[00:07:40] We're dealing with it too. And when we self-check in, and the whole reason we're even doing this podcast is because we, we were doing that for ourselves. And we thought, you know, we should, this should be a podcast. Like we need to, other people need to be doing this, the same thing. They need to be self-reflecting, looking at where they are right now, six months into 2025. Are they where they want to be? Are they doing the things they want to be doing? And we realized we weren't exactly where we wanted to be.

[00:08:10] We're not doing the things that we should be doing right now. And so we're taking accountability for that. And we want you guys to self-reflect and do the same. Right. Because legacy, it's, it's, it's built in the pivot. So don't be ashamed of the pivot. And it's also built in the consistency. So the things that you like or want to do, it's time to start now. And it's a decision to begin again. If you're not where you want to be, there's no shame in that. And that's something that we came together.

[00:08:40] Yeah. Beginning again, starting over again. Let's do that, that gut check, that six month gut check. And we could do another one in three months. It doesn't have to just be every six months. You can do it sooner. And I think it's a good idea to do that. Personally, they should, you know, I, I think we're constantly doing that, but, um, it's nice to go the year. When you think about the year of 2025, you think. Well, you have your weekly check-ins and you have your monthly check-ins. Halfway through the year.

[00:09:09] Are we already halfway through the year? Are we serious? It's so crazy. Yes. It's going so fast. We just started this year, like yesterday. Now the year's halfway through. And the, right. And then these, these questions are the ones that we're asking ourselves. Have we been present at home or just available? Have our kids seen our hustle, but missed our heart, right? That, that's a big one. And have you pursued your spouse or just assumed that they're surviving with you?

[00:09:39] Have you checked in on them? Have you checked in on, on, are you guys together? Or has someone been left behind in this, in this daily hustle that we're trying not to do the hustle. We're trying not to do the hustle culture, but let's be honest that sometimes it just turns into that. And, um, if that hits, then great. This isn't shame.

[00:10:02] It's an invitation to realign, reset, and just to return to what truly matters in building your legacy. And just think long-term. What is the legacy that I want to live, leave behind? And how do I have to live my day, days, day to day to get that result? Where we're not just planning on, okay, you know, we'll catch up on summer vacation or we'll

[00:10:30] catch up on the holidays in December. You have to be making a deposit every single day. And what are you doing to get that? Not just in your business, but in your family life at home and with your children, with your spouse. Yeah. Because, uh, you know, here's the thing. We, we all the time in our businesses and whatever we're doing, we should be riding the ship.

[00:10:54] Uh, we talk about getting, you know, when, when a plane takes off from Los Angeles to go to New York, it's constantly riding its ship. It's constantly off target and it gets back on. It's off target. It gets back on. Wind blows it out to the left. It gets back on. It has to go around bad weather. It gets back on. Sometimes we have to go around bad weather. Sometimes we're dealing with things and, and, and something comes into our life and we have to deal with it.

[00:11:23] It takes us out of our element for a second. It takes us out off of our goals, off of the things that we're, that we're meant to do, the things that we're trying to do. And we have to get back on target again. We're on our way and we have to get back on target. So riding the ship, don't be afraid to ride that ship. If you're off target right now. Before you reach for that coffee, consider this. What if the energy boost you're looking for isn't in your cup, but in your cells?

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[00:12:44] Click the link below down in the bio and get your Sheila J today. Yeah, so tonight I would suggest take 15 minutes with your spouse and ask, what do we want our home to feel like this next half of the year? Because it's been so chaotic or we've been arguing a lot or maybe everything's going perfect. Don't get me wrong. Maybe you've been on the right track and that's wonderful.

[00:13:12] How do we continue to do what's been so successful and so amazing for us as a family? Let's continue to do that. So take that 15 minutes and be honest. I think it's great when you're honest in front of your kids and they see you work these things out and see you trying. And I think that's right too. Like we didn't even talk about it. A lot of people might be on track right now. They might be doing exactly what they want to do. They're exactly where they need to be right now. But you also have to have a schedule. Right.

[00:13:42] You also have to have a plan to keep going. How are we going to keep filling what we're doing? That's so wonderful. And then number two, I want you to ask your children a legacy question. So what do you think mommy and daddy do all day and why? This is an interesting question because you're going to get all kinds of different answers. Their answer will tell you what you're modeling. So that's going to be an aha moment for you.

[00:14:12] It's going to be so valuable. If you're on the right track, you're going to learn. If you're not on the right track, children are very honest. Now, number three, pick one habit that honors your marriage. Which weekly at home dates? Because I know a lot of times most of us can't get out. Right now, a lot of people in our community are facing some financial difficulties. So what are you doing at home that is making your time special?

[00:14:40] And it's not just sitting beside each other watching Netflix. We don't really have TV, but we do watch shows occasionally. Well, I don't really. Actually, I don't watch movies. But for me, I don't even like to do that because what I'm trying to invite you to do is not just sit beside each other and watch a movie because you're not really learning and connecting. But I want you to do at least or I challenge you. Not I want you to do.

[00:15:09] I'm challenging you do something one weekly at home date thing where you're having a conversation and connecting. That's what I'm inviting you to do. Because when you're deep into a series, it's great. You're sitting beside each other and maybe cuddling. But I want you to open up. And maybe we're not even talking about business. Maybe just talking about other things. Do the rule. We have that rule. Well, of course, you bounce the business off each other. But the rule, no business.

[00:15:38] Let's get to know each other in that non-business way. And then daily 30, I know this sounds crazy, but that 30-second hug and eye contact. Please look up at your spouse when you're on the phone or just give them the eye contact. These little ones are watching and they're going to understand, are they important? Or is mommy important? Or is daddy important? They're watching all these little signals.

[00:16:06] And this is all mental notes on how they want to be or are going to accept being treated when they're older. Another one is an honest check-in. How can I love you better this week? And I know that this is kind of just a... It doesn't have to be worded that way. You can word it in your own way. In your own language. But what can I do to support you better? How can we... Basically, how can we connect better this week? I think that that's my language.

[00:16:35] And then write one impossible goal down as a family. Let the kids be in on this dream with you. Let them feel included. Because a lot of times, mommy and daddy are working or maybe mommy's just working on her own thing. Or daddy's working on his own thing. Let's get everybody included in this dream to dream together. That is so important for legacy building.

[00:17:01] Yes, I know a lot of people, there's a trend of if I don't fulfill my own dreams, then they're not going to fulfill their dreams. But we also don't want to be selfish and just go after something on our own by ourselves and leave our family out the whole time. Well, the thing is, it could be your dream. Include them. But if you include them, it becomes all of your dreams. Yeah, that's right.

[00:17:26] So you find the little gifts and the talents that everybody's good at or enjoys doing. They're God-given destiny. They're God-given gift. And you pull all that in. And that creates something so beautiful. So invite them to pray over this vision, this family vision of who you guys are, where you want to be.

[00:17:54] I invite everybody to pray over it. There's nothing more powerful. And that also puts the weight on this thing that you guys are building for your legacy. And I would invite you, just light a candle, hold your spouse's hand, and ask, and this is the most important thing, is how is our legacy looking halfway through this year? Did you just say light a candle? Yeah.

[00:18:24] It's just a nice vibe. Light a candle. Okay. Set up the table. Let's light a candle. We'll do that. And this is just an honest. And you know what? Emotions may be there. Listen, she's dealing with postpartum. Her emotions, her brain, her hormones, everything has changed. Remember, yours haven't.

[00:18:55] You're the one that's going to lead. You're the one that's going to guide. She might get a little emotional. These are heavy questions. And I know that sometimes we may feel triggered to run out or whatever it is that you feel triggered to do. Just challenge yourself. I'm going to sit in this moment. It's uncomfortable. She's seeing a lot of things that I didn't expect. And I know I fell out in love with this carefree woman that didn't have children. And now she's in a different place.

[00:19:23] Just be careful because the enemy wants you to think, oh, gosh, she's changed. And she's this. She's gone crazy. She's gone crazy. What's going on? Well, you know, the enemy wants you to, oh, the grass is greener on the other side. And I'm just done with this. But listen, the grass is greener on the other side. It's a little. Maybe it's a little sunburned and dry and crispy over here.

[00:19:50] But the grass on the other side has to be fertilized. It has to be taken. You have to take care of that, too. So would you rather not, while this grass here over here is going through its stuff, bring it back to life. Bring it back to life. And I'm not saying that he doesn't need to be brought back to life.

[00:20:14] But I'm just reminding the guys that we're going through big changes here as mamas. And we don't, we don't, some of us don't even know who this new person is. Let us fall into the, or not let, well, let the women fall into this new blessing and just push her, guide her through this new journey. Because it's a new journey for you, too. You're a father now.

[00:20:40] And it's not just, oh, you know, I'm, everything's different for all of us. But if she sees you hold her and guide her, she's going to be able to guide you as soon as that pink starts coming back. Very well said. Anyway, we got to love each other's, we got to love each other's. We got to love each other and guide each other. And do this six-month check-in. It's going to be different in another six months.

[00:21:09] And it's exciting. Even if there's challenges and it's hard right now, just know every day is an opportunity for growth and change. And we know this because mindset is more important than anything. Don't you agree? Absolutely. And six months from now, it's going to be a new year again. Is that true? That's insane. It is. We're going through this so quick, guys. Hope you guys are doing your check-in.

[00:21:37] I mean, we don't have to tell you to do this. But you're, I mean, it should be, we wanted to do this because we wanted you guys to take accountability. Do this every six months. Or, you know, do it every month. Do it with your family. And I think, honestly, you have to do it by yourself, too, sometimes. Yeah, 100%. You have to put yourself in the right mental space. Yeah, because you have to take accountability for the things that you're doing in your life. Yes.

[00:22:06] And the things that are going on around you. We all make mistakes. And I would call them lessons in our family. We don't like to call them mistakes. They're lessons. And then we have those buckets of water for other people that are in the fire. You don't need to do everything this year. But you do need to do the right things. So you need to take note of those. And these are the things that are eternal, eternal things.

[00:22:32] And success at the cost of connection is, it's still failure. So take it as a lesson. My daughter just walked in. She's so cute. I just want to grab her. But yes. And when your marriage is strong, when your kids are secure, your business becomes a vehicle for generational impact. And this is the light. Are you serious? You're not going to come to bed. She's so hard to get. Okay.

[00:23:02] Well, thank you guys for joining us for this week's Entrepreneur Parents Pretty Punk Podcast. And this year isn't over. And neither is the story God's writing through your family. You're not behind. You're just getting ready for the part that matters most. So take it as that. You're getting ready for what matters most. So keep being amazing. We love you. And we'll get you guys next week. We love you.

[00:23:31] Want to say something? Bye. Okay. Have a good week. We appreciate you guys so much for listening to this episode of the Entrepreneur Parents Pretty and Punk Podcast. We really hope you got something from this episode today. And always remember to spend time with your family. God bless. We love you.

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