EP 162 These Things Still Work! Back in Time for Some Old Fashioned Bonding
In this fun episode of the Pretty and Punk Podcast, hosts Dan Caldwell and his wife, Ildiko Ferenczi, dive into the nostalgic world of "9 Old Fashioned Ways for Couples to Bond today."
Amidst the light-hearted banter and playful interruptions by their children, the couple explores various activities that promise to strengthen relationships in our modern, digital age.
From the simplicity of writing love letters and enjoying picnics to the romantic gestures of stargazing and dancing, Dan and Ildiko share personal anecdotes and encourage listeners to rediscover these timeless practices.
This episode is a delightful reminder of the joy found in connecting with our partners in new creative ways. Changing things up and keeping things exciting.
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and we're talking about
nine old fashioned ways for
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couples to bond. We want to bring it back.
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We're going to bring back
the old step pre iPhone.
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The reason they're saying there's not,
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there's nine. We came up with nine things,
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but they're the old fashioned things
that people used to do in the olden
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days. Why.
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The olden days? It's like
not that long ago, okay?
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It is not that long ago. Back.
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In the day before we had
devices, before cell had devices,
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Phones before iPhones.
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that we should do these things.
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So it's just a fun episode,
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and if you're not doing these things,
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give it a try and see what happens for
your marriage. Does it cause a spark?
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And I'm already looking at these. I'm
like, this is like a warning letter,
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like a shot across the bow for
me, I think, isn't it? Isn't it?
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Because I'm looking at
it, I'm like, okay, well,
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it's been a while since I did that one.
Yep. Don't think I ever did that one.
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I don't know about that one. Well, yeah.
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Did this one actually recently,
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Nine old fashioned Ways
couples used to Bond
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that we.
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Should bring that bring back.
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We're going to bring them back.
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We're going to take a trip down memory.
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Lane. Somehow. I think I'm
going to take heat over this.
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I'm looking at why are you
looking at me like that?
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Because you're romantic.
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Well, yeah, but I can already tell
you number two, I haven't done.
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I know,
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and that sucks because that's one of
my favorite things that I came up with.
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Well, okay. Well, okay.
Well, I love it. Like I said,
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it's a shot across the bow. It's
something I got to get better.
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At. Okay, so number one, love letters.
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Yeah, I've written a few of those.
I always write nice cards. Okay.
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Right.
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Okay. But nice.
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I have a friend whose
dad always wrote their
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mom love letters. Always.
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You know what writing is?
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We've lost the art of writing because
now we write emails and we write
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texts, and we do all these,
there's other ways to write.
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So we haven't taken a pen to paper in
so long that people just don't do it
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anymore. I mean, I know it makes.
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Me cry when the kids's.
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Been a while since I've
done a nice letter.
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Draw letters for me or write
Danielle's writing now. So
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yeah, it gets me emotional.
I had have to say I like it.
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And also send them to your,
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just because you guys live together,
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send mail it for special occasions,
have something come in the mail.
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We don't get things in the mail that
often, I mean, from each other. Yeah,
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that's.
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Changing.
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So it's a nice little surprise.
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That's changing because now again,
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everything is by email. So people aren't
sending things in the mail anymore.
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If you notice,
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you used to go out in your mail
and there'd be literally a handful,
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a full hand of junk mail and regular
mail and bills and whatever else.
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But now nothing comes in the mail.
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Anymore, and businesses
take advantage of that.
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I know this is a relationship
episode, but if you have business,
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bring back the mailers. Why not?
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It's a lost art. Okay. Love letters.
So I'll get better at that. Number one.
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There's something romantic about that.
I You're right. Receiving a love letter.
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Also,
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if you're not great at
communicating verbally,
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some people aren't. I'm a better
writer. That's their way to,
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there's this gentleman that I know
that writes his feelings down every
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morning to his wife because he has
a hard time putting it into words.
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And another thing that I saw
that was really touching,
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we just watch this on the news.
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There was a gentleman that passed away and
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not wrote well, he wrote little
messages, but he sent his wife,
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what was it, flowers, her seventh
year of receiving roses in the mail.
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Yeah, I guess before he passed away, he
knew he was going to pass, I believe.
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Yeah. And he had the sea.
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He paid the florist for they
don't know how many years,
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but at least seven years because she's
been getting flowers for the past seven
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years after his passing that other couple.
But that was really sweet, I thought,
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man, that guy,
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he put into it and picnics.
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So there's number two. There's
the one I haven't done. I.
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Love picnics. I have such
great memories of picnics.
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When I was a little girl, my mom
loved picnics. We'd go to the beach,
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but we'd always, my mom hated sand,
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so we would always find a
nice grassy area with a tree.
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And she would always prepare.
I love, love, loved picnics.
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And actually for Destiny one year,
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it is all the rage right
now where you hire these
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companies and they set up
the most beautiful spread.
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And they have little
teepees like lace teepees,
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and they have beautiful blankets,
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and they do these
beautiful arrangements for
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parties and birthdays and
dates and engagements.
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A lot of this stuff goes viral. So
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sorry. Somehow the kids
are out of bed. Guys,
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you've got to get back into bed. You.
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Have to. I think the last time we threw
picnic, picnic, picnic was in love.
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Guys, you got to go to Vancouver.
What's the big park out there?
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By the big park?
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Stanley. Park. Park. But we
did it for Destiny at Laguna.
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Oh yeah, that's right.
We did do it in Laguna.
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Okay. I actually hired someone
and they made the most.
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You.
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Were on.
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It. You were on it. It was your birthday.
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Silly girl. It was your birthday. Remember
we had the picnic. People come out,
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we cup.
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Cakes and a cake.
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I'll show you pictures you'll remember.
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Aw, she don't.
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Remember. It was beautiful. You.
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Remember? Right?
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As soon as she sees it, she'll remember.
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Okay, we'll do it again. I love
it too. You should never brought,
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if daddy doesn't want to come,
then we'll just go ourselves.
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Of course, I'm coming. We had the best
stuff there. All the stuff was great.
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We had a picnic before that,
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but the one that we had on her
second birthday was at the beach.
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You're right. And then before that, daddy,
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we had a picnic with
Erwan stuff. Remember?
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I don't remember. Oh, yeah. In remember
that. Okay. You're right. Okay.
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So we did a few picnics.
I remember that picnic.
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It.
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Wasn't very, I'm thinking of
picnic basket. I'm trying to find,
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I don't own a picnic basket, so I
must not have had, but you're right.
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You're right. We did get stuff together
and we had a picnic. Yes. Okay. Okay.
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So I'm not so bad after all, so at
least, okay. Dancing in the night way.
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Here we go. Here's another one.
Here's another one I haven't done.
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What are we doing? Shoot,
across the bell again.
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I love dancing. Dancing's my favorite.
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So dust off those dancing
shoes and hit the dance floor.
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What's that? Dust off those dancing
shoes. And hit the dance floor. Right?
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What do you want? Say? Well,
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I don't know if that's going
to happen anytime soon.
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Why not? Because.
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I don't, I mean, we can go dancing,
but are we bringing the kids with us?
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No, it's talking about
dancing around at home.
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Oh, we do that all the time though.
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I know, but it's special. It's romantic.
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Well, I don't know. A good pose.
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Yeah, it's a great pose. You look amazing.
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But you would look even
better cuddled up in bed.
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Yes.
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You got to go into.
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Bed. Yes. It's late guys. You
got to go to bed. Oh my goodness.
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The struggle is real people.
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The struggle is real. Daniel wants
to say something to the podcast.
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We had remember that picnic that you had?
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The blackish picnic blanket?
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Yes. The leopard print one.
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And we brought a sandwich.
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Yes.
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That was in Malibu, right?
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That's right. It was at a
park. Yes. We did it by a tree.
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Yes. Just like grandma used to be.
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The perfect picnic.
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That was, okay, can you do.
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Me a favor? But now we're
on dancing. Can you be the,
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and now we're past dancing.
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And mommy loves to dance with you guys.
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If you guys aren't great dancers, if do
this in your house and nobody sees it,
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doesn't count. It doesn't.
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Matter. It's just a way to.
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Be. It's just having.
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Slow. I love dancing. Okay, sweet.
Angel, can you go take your.
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Sister to bed? I'll slow dance
with you any day of the week.
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Okay, let's go. Let's do.
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It. I'll take you up on that. You.
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Just need to do it more. That's
all. It brings out your playful.
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Side. What is it? Is number
four, mind stargazing.
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This one, I don't. Okay. I mean,
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I love stargazing, but I'm
afraid of wild animals.
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I always think something is lurking.
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In the dark. Well, I always got a
gun. I don't even, it doesn't matter.
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Scared.
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But we will be stargazing
because we are going to go,
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there's this luxury cabin
that we're booked at
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for,
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we're probably going to
do it for your birthday,
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but we're also, there.
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Goes the surprise.
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But we're also going to do,
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I think a night or two giveaway
for one of our audience.
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So this is almost like
almost a setup. It's.
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Reminding me, oh yeah, I saw the
pictures of it. This place was.
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Awesome. It's a stunning.
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That was beautiful.
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It's a stunning place. It's
in a guarded community,
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but it's out in the wilderness
and it's gorgeous. It has a.
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We're going to give away two
nights or something, right?
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Yeah. And it's a luxury
property. You don't miss this,
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but it is actually the ladies that
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have this property,
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it's a place to go to heal.
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They don't use toxic
chemicals to clean it.
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Everything is so well
thought out the way that they
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designed this luxury home.
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So I think we'll be doing
some stargazing there,
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maybe on the patio where
it's nice and safe.
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That's one thing when
you're in places like that,
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you can see shooting stars that you can't
see when we're in the middle. I mean,
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Malibu is nice and granted.
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Still.
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You can't see any shooting scratch.
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Out there.
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I took you guys for Daniel's
birthday to that ranch place,
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that luxury ranch place in Malibu
that was just up the street from.
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Us. Well, that's deep Malibu. So that's.
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A little further. Right. But we were
still star gazing there in Seafer.
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But yeah, there was definitely
wild animals out there.
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But I just loved how when
you drove up to this ranch,
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there's these chandeliers hanging
from the tree. Just so, so.
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Stunning. Remember they had lookout for
mountain lions up there and bears that?
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Yeah, exactly. That lines.
That's why I'm nervous to just,
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I don't want to tell you.
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Go. It's okay. I'm not
going to let any mel.
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Lions get you go. Some go get a
blanket and lay out in the dark.
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I'm always afraid of
stuff lurking in the dark.
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But my mom had tons of
properties when we were
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growing up, and there
was lots of, I guess,
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forests to explore, but I was always.
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Nervous. All those things are in the
middle of, well, not middle of nowhere,
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but just out in the wilderness.
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So I could see where you guys could be
a little worried if you don't have time
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to.
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Protect yourself.
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There was one property that she
had in a place called Seashell.
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She bought a beautiful property
there right next to the ocean.
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And there was a river
right beside the house.
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And I used to play in that
river until a neighbor said,
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listen, I think it was around nine years
old. The neighbor came and she said,
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listen, your daughter
should not be playing.
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And the river was right next to the house,
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but they said that they saw
a cougar drinking from that
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berry river. And my mom just, I,
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I couldn't imagine someone telling me
that my kids are playing in the river
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where the cougar drinks the
local cougar. So anyway, yeah.
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I wouldn't be.
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Careful star gazing, but do it on a bell.
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But it sounds like fun. I'd like to
go see one of the shuttle or shuttles,
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one of Elon Musk's rockets take off
out there. Yeah, that'd be cool.
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Yeah. That might be fun. Right?
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This is yours, number five.
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Board game, board game nights. We
do that. We do that with the family.
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We have a bunch of board games and.
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We've got young kids'.
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Kids.
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We like to play. We've together.
Yes, we are. Not just you and I.
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Well, yeah, we got two little
minions attached at our hips.
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But we can let them go to bed and then
we could play a board game, so, oh my.
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Gosh. You think people will stay in bed
if they know we're about to play a game?
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We can't even keep 'em in
bed. We're doing a podcast.
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Like this was the whole
plan. We'll put 'em to bed.
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How long did it take 'em to get to
bed? They knew we were doing a podcast.
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They were not going to go to bed.
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Time. And I promised
myself, because I said,
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I'm not going to go to bed
before we do this podcast.
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So we're here doing the podcast
and I love a good board game.
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I'd love to play a board game with you.
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Okay, let's.
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Do it. Yeah. Well, let's
play chess or let's.
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Do it.
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Let's play adult game
like Uno or something.
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Monopoly.
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Oh,
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you leave Monopoly early
because I smash you every time.
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Stop. Okay, okay, okay. I just want the.
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Kids to win.
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Oh my gosh. I can't believe this is mine.
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Hand in hand walks.
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We do that.
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Yeah, I know we do that, but I
didn't want to have to say it. Why?
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I'm to say drive in theater
something. Where's that one?
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Oh, that's a good idea.
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Like an old drive-in theater. That's
the one I was thinking it's not on here.
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Seriously.
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No, we forgot to put it.
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On there. So let's make it 10. My
thought was let's find, there's still,
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there's limited numbers
of drive-in theaters.
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You probably count the number of drive-in.
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Theaters on two hands in the
United States now when we drive,
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the kids fall asleep, so it's perfect.
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Yeah, you get 'em in the car,
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you start up the car and keep it
nice and warm in there and watch it.
00:18:16
Yeah. They fall.
00:18:16
Asleep every time they pass
out in the backseat. And then.
00:18:19
We get the day.
00:18:20
Then we get to hugs and knuckles.
00:18:23
But I do like the walks. I
love, I love taking walks. Yeah.
00:18:27
We do walks a lot. Yeah. Especially
around here. It's so beautiful.
00:18:31
Yeah, it's simple. Well, wherever
we are, yeah, wherever we are.
00:18:36
Different.
00:18:37
Places. You can't go wrong
with a hand in hand walk. So.
00:18:39
Guys, get out there and go on a walk.
00:18:41
And you can make your own coffee.
I have my own little coffee cups.
00:18:45
And you make your healthy. Well, I don
one of my kids. Well, don't drink coffee,
00:18:48
but my husband likes coffee, so I try
to make them the healthiest coffees,
00:18:53
mushroom coffees, raw milk and all the
protein in there. I love those coffees.
00:18:58
And for me, I do matcha.
I like matcha. Matcha.
00:19:02
Cooking together. This is
another shot across the bow.
00:19:06
For sure. I think we need to do this.
00:19:08
Okay.
00:19:09
I know.
00:19:10
Dan.
00:19:11
I'm not the cook. Well,
I think he had this,
00:19:13
I'm a barbecue idea of
maybe it's a girl thing,
00:19:18
but the more I talk about it,
because my European family,
00:19:23
you can't get more manly
than the men in Europe.
00:19:26
They've been through hard
times. I'm not joking now,
00:19:31
but I'm talking about
they've been through the war.
00:19:34
They're the manliest men
that you will ever meet,
00:19:37
but they know how to make
a fierce paprika. Goulash.
00:19:43
They can make it in the kitchen,
but they also have these,
00:19:46
what are those big outdoor pots?
00:19:48
And they cook the goulash and they
brag about who makes a better paprika
00:19:54
or goulash, and they cook with their wine.
00:19:58
I know,
00:19:59
but I feel like because
my grandfather and my
00:20:04
grandmother,
00:20:05
they had their butcher shop and
they did everything together.
00:20:10
They cooked together. So
that rubbed off on the kids.
00:20:13
And basically everybody in
our family, friends in Europe,
00:20:17
they cook together.
00:20:18
And it's a very loving atmosphere
where they're nourishing their
00:20:23
children and they make the healthy
food from scratch. And I love,
00:20:28
those are some of my best
memories when I go to Europe.
00:20:31
And I still remember my mom and
dad used to cook together when
00:20:36
he was a great family man to our family.
00:20:40
So I just want to bring that into our
00:20:44
life. And I have such a great
time cooking with the kids.
00:20:47
Maybe we'll take a cooking class.
00:20:49
Or I could teach you, let me teach you
how to cook the food for my country.
00:20:53
That's fine. I mean, I'm.
00:20:57
Bringing.
00:20:57
Barbecue back.
00:20:59
Paprika.
00:21:00
If you want me to barbecue you.
00:21:02
I can handle.
00:21:02
That. I'm not the best cook inside
the kitchen. Okay. I'll teach you.
00:21:07
I don't have it.
00:21:08
You'll be spectacular.
00:21:09
Okay, we'll do that. Take me
through it. I am willing to learn.
00:21:14
I'm willing to learn
anything. Surprise dates.
00:21:20
Last time I.
00:21:21
Surprise. I feel like I'm more of
the surprise date person than you.
00:21:25
Yeah.
00:21:26
We can work.
00:21:26
On that. I surprised you
going to the UFCA few months.
00:21:30
Ago. Yeah, you did
actually. Actually that's.
00:21:32
True. But that was kind a date. That is
true. That was kind of a date for me.
00:21:35
I take a little feel a guilty
calling that a date. Surprise.
00:21:39
We're going to the UFC fight for your
birthday. It wasn't your birthday.
00:21:43
I'm just kidding. Stop.
But I get it. I get it.
00:21:47
But it's hard because
00:21:50
we were out in Utah at the
time and I couldn't leave it.
00:21:55
It's okay. We didn't have
any place to leave the kids,
00:21:57
so it was just a little
harder at that time. No, but.
00:22:00
It's the one thing I do really love,
00:22:04
and I know a lot of my friends,
00:22:06
because they're kind of
in the same situation
00:22:11
as I am and was where their parents
are older and they're in a spot where
00:22:16
they're taking care of their parents.
So when they go on the getaways,
00:22:20
they're bringing their kids with
them. And because they're so young,
00:22:25
it's just what we do.
00:22:28
I don't think I could feel
comfortable being in a foreign,
00:22:31
if I'm visiting a place and
I don't know anyone there,
00:22:34
I'm not going to just
call up a babysitter.
00:22:37
Just especially with all the darkness
and stuff that's going on in the world.
00:22:42
I would not relax one time
00:22:47
on that day. I just wouldn't
relax. I'd have anxiety.
00:22:51
I'd be thinking about them all the
time. If I left them with a stranger,
00:22:54
if I had family, someone
that I trust and know,
00:22:58
that's a different story.
But not in this time day.
00:23:02
I think it's between too much cell phones
00:23:07
and the craziness,
00:23:10
weirdness that's going on in the
world between those two things.
00:23:13
You either got a babysitter who's got
her face the phone and isn't paying
00:23:17
attention.
00:23:19
You got somebody who's just drunk.
00:23:22
You hear about these babysitters who go
running off of kids or selling your kids
00:23:25
and doing weird things with your kids.
00:23:27
Especially through our podcast with a
lot of gentlemen and a lot of women that
00:23:32
are healing from things.
00:23:33
Things have happened in the
past when they've been babysat.
00:23:38
And a lot of times, here's the scary part.
00:23:40
A lot of times it's family.
00:23:43
And I hate hearing something like that.
00:23:47
So do what's comfortable for
your family. Bring the kids.
00:23:51
Who cares what people say? We
always have a really great time.
00:23:55
We have children. I hate saying the word,
00:23:58
I don't even know why I'm saying
maybe it's a, I dunno. Anyway,
00:24:03
bring the kids. If it
makes you feel comfortable.
00:24:06
Our kids are used to
going to fancy places.
00:24:10
Plus time is so short. Okay.
00:24:15
Dan and I will be together
for the rest of our lives.
00:24:18
And their childhood is so limited and
00:24:23
it is going to go by in a blink of an eye.
00:24:27
When everybody tells you they
are going to grow up fast,
00:24:32
believe them. Because this is
something that everybody says.
00:24:36
So you bring them with you on vacations
and stuff while they're young.
00:24:41
I will forever cherish those moments.
00:24:44
I don't think when Dan and I
are the only ones in the house
00:24:49
and I'm in the shower washing my hair,
00:24:52
I don't think I'm going
to look back and say,
00:24:56
I spent way too much time with
the kids during their childhood.
00:25:01
I just don't think that
that's going to be my reality.
00:25:04
I'm going to be thanking God for those
moments because I know how precious it
00:25:09
is. Okay. My brother died in a
freak accident. Healthy as an ox.
00:25:14
Smart had the mare wanting
to have him become a
00:25:18
politician. Brilliant.
00:25:20
Actually way smarter than me. Way smarter.
00:25:26
He memorized everything
so quickly. His homework.
00:25:30
He didn't have homework because he was
that smart. Me to get my A's in my honor.
00:25:35
Roll. I had to study for a long time and
he was just taken away just like that.
00:25:39
Boom. He died suddenly. So for me,
00:25:44
I will never look back and say, dang, I
spent too much time with my kids. Never.
00:25:48
Never, never, and never. I think.
00:25:49
That's the fun of it most
of the time, is that I love.
00:25:52
Being around, seeing their.
00:25:53
Reaction to everything that.
00:25:54
We do.
00:25:54
And it's almost like I get to
relive my childhood again. Little.
00:25:59
It's not just us. We're
together too little.
00:26:01
We're together.
00:26:02
So we're enjoying ourselves, but.
00:26:04
We love being, we're.
00:26:05
In that. As much as I remember
being on big roller coasters a long,
00:26:09
long time ago. Hey,
00:26:13
I love the little kitty ride too.
00:26:16
I do. I do too. It's.
00:26:17
Okay.
00:26:18
I have fun on it because I see my kids
are having fun and we're all having fun
00:26:22
together. I think.
00:26:22
We're in that era where we just
really appreciate and love being
00:26:27
parents. I don't know. That's
just me. That's just me.
00:26:31
Yeah. Who don't love Mr. Toad's Wild Ride.
00:26:36
What's the other one that
I had so much fun on? Who.
00:26:38
Don't love the teacups?
00:26:40
What was the other ride? Anybody can
have fun on. The Tes one takes forever,
00:26:43
but I had so much fun.
00:26:45
Which one? At Disneyland.
00:26:49
It's a small world who don't love.
It's a small world. You'll be singing.
00:26:53
I was just reading an article with
Streaker running through Mr. Got up on the
00:26:57
middle of the boat. No, jumped up on top.
00:27:00
The thing up where the little kids
are and took off all of his clothes.
00:27:03
Stop. There are children
listening. That would be trauma.
00:27:08
Oh, I was like, somebody got so tired of
that ride moving so slow. They lost it.
00:27:12
I love that ride. I love it. I
love it. Next one, reading aloud.
00:27:17
We don't do this to each other.
And this reminds me of with.
00:27:22
The kids all the time.
00:27:23
Little house on the prayer, but to each
other. Yeah, that's true. We'll do this.
00:27:27
I dunno. I think we should
try it. We read our own books.
00:27:31
Or we listen to books.
00:27:32
Together.
00:27:33
And the way that we indulge
in a book together is
00:27:37
we'll listen to it on audio.
00:27:39
And we dissect it together.
00:27:41
Right. But.
00:27:43
Positive, but.
00:27:43
We've never read to each other.
I think that that would be cool.
00:27:46
Yeah. I guess we'd,
because you know why? Well,
00:27:51
I get that back. We own books.
00:27:53
They're all in storage at that
other storage now. Yeah. Yeah.
00:27:58
So we don't have any books. We.
00:27:59
Have a lot. Lot of books. No, I don't
think that's the reason. I mean,
00:28:03
we have a ton of books,
00:28:04
but I feel like when I'm cooking,
00:28:08
I'll put on an audio book
and you'll be doing your,
00:28:12
it's not that you are
not around, you're there.
00:28:16
And then we'll listen to the book.
I'll be cooking. The kids are there.
00:28:19
The kids are listening to it too.
00:28:21
But I think it'll be a different
experience because they say there's
00:28:26
an intimate feeling about
reading to each other
00:28:31
and you
00:28:34
get to experience a deep connection.
So we'll see how that goes.
00:28:38
Okay. We'll try it and we'll
let you guys know how it goes.
00:28:41
And it's going to spark meaningful
conversations, which we already have.
00:28:45
Yeah, we do that with our audio.
00:28:46
Books from audios. But.
00:28:47
I get it. I get it. We'll see.
00:28:48
Let's.
00:28:48
Try. Let's try something.
We'll try something new.
00:28:52
Yeah. And I think that's
it. I mean, we did have,
00:28:55
you had your drive in and I love going
00:29:00
for drives. We used to do
this when I was little. And.
00:29:03
I think I like the pinned letters too.
That's something that's interesting.
00:29:07
Yeah. That's cool. It's
probably something,
00:29:08
those things you kind of forget
about and just you haven't done.
00:29:12
You forget because it's a lost art
and people aren't doing it anymore.
00:29:16
They don't pin letters and
write. Imagine all those letters.
00:29:20
We're a collector of letters. So
we have George Washington letters,
00:29:24
in case you guys didn't know that. We
are a collector of letters, old letters,
00:29:27
and we have Lincoln Letters and George
Washington letters and letters from all
00:29:32
these great people, Theodore Roosevelt.
00:29:34
And we save those and collect those.
00:29:39
And it really is kind of something
that you have to think about that
00:29:44
people don't pin letters anymore,
00:29:47
so people aren't going to be able to
collect things like that a hundred years
00:29:50
from now from today's people, because
not many of them have written anything.
00:29:55
They'll write emails and you
might see an email here or there.
00:29:58
Well, you're even forgetting
about cards lately.
00:30:02
Cards. What are you talking
about? I don't forget about cards.
00:30:07
The other day I used to get such
hurt feelings. He'd get so busy.
00:30:10
And then he'd do the gift, but
then sometimes he'd forget a card.
00:30:14
So what was it, Valentine's
Day or something? I'm like,
00:30:17
I bought a card for myself.
I didn't really look at it,
00:30:21
but I just bought it that
way. I won't have a room.
00:30:25
So I'll buy the chocolates and the cards.
Or sorry, chocolates and the presents.
00:30:30
But I'm like, I want a card.
00:30:32
Well, you always get
something with your flowers.
00:30:35
A card with your flowers
or something. Yeah.
00:30:38
That's true.
00:30:40
I guess you're right. You're right.
But I got your A card last time
00:30:44
and I always write you
a nice card. You do.
00:30:45
And I did write you a nice
letter this time. Yes.
00:30:47
You did. You did. It was.
00:30:48
Just on.
00:30:48
Paper. I love it. I love it.
00:30:52
And then there was the mix tape,
00:30:54
but we didn't write that one
in because it's not really.
00:30:58
Well, because nobody has, it's nice.
How do you make a mix tape anymore?
00:31:02
I don't know. I saw that and I
was like, oh, that's a good idea.
00:31:05
It is a great idea. But how do you
even make, maybe you could do one on,
00:31:09
maybe Spotify allows,
you'd have to send a link,
00:31:15
a link to somebody. Like here's, hey,
00:31:17
we're going to make an old fashioned
mixtape. Here's the link to the Spotify.
00:31:23
It's all, download this. It's my mixtape.
00:31:27
Oh, it's so late at night.
We have the giggles. It's.
00:31:31
So.
00:31:32
Fun. But then, hey, if
you have the mix tape,
00:31:35
you can pick all your favorite
songs and then we can dance to that.
00:31:39
Well, yeah. Okay. Go What that said.
00:31:43
Do you have any.
00:31:44
Ideas? Send us some ideas.
Have fun with these things.
00:31:48
Yeah. If you have any ideas for old
things that have been lost to the test of
00:31:53
time and people just don't do anymore,
00:31:55
that really could spark
something in your relationship,
00:32:01
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