Don't Call Her Lucky, You Didn't See What It Cost Her!

[00:00:01] Imagine this for a moment, friends. There's a mother in her kitchen, just the same as any one of us. She's opened up her computer for the tenth time during the day trying to accomplish what she had set out to do. And she sits there for a moment, she takes a big deep breath in and she stares at the announcement for several minutes before she posts it.

[00:00:32] She had written the caption six times that day, maybe more. She deleted the paragraph, put it back, changed it in a small way and then whispered a small prayer and pressed share.

[00:00:54] After years of work, something had finally happened. A contract had been signed. The product had been picked up. The show had grown. The business had reached a number she once wrote privately inside her journal. The idea could be different for different moms out there.

[00:01:25] It could be anything. But for the first time, she was allowing people to see the answer to a prayer they had never heard her pray. And the comments began appearing. Some were so beautiful. I knew you could do it, friend. I'm so proud of you. You worked so hard for this.

[00:01:54] And then came another kind. You're so lucky. Must be nice. Everything always works out for you. She read those words. She read those words and she looked around the room. She looked at the side of the kitchen where there was stacks of notes filled with corrections, scribbled out ideas.

[00:02:24] Then she looked at the calendar on the left side of the room covered in crossed out plans. And then she looked at the laptop she had carried from room to room while caring for her babies, for her beautiful family. She looked at the rejected email she had never deleted.

[00:02:48] Her inspiration to keep going. She knew that they could see the announcement, but they could not see the years behind it. They saw the open door. Everybody saw it. But they didn't see how many times she had stood in front of a closed one.

[00:03:14] Maybe she was fortunate. She believed God had blessed her beyond anything she could have created alone. But it wasn't easy. It wasn't sudden. And let's be clear, friends. It was not simply luck.

[00:03:37] Buckle in, guys. We're about to have another valuable conversation. And I just want you to take a deep breath. See yourselves in this conversation.

[00:03:52] I want you to maybe see where this conversation could, like the inspiration, the spark that it can cause for you, this ripple effect. I guess let's be clear. Just don't give up. That's what I'm trying to say here. Don't give up.

[00:04:17] Let's sit together and let's have this conversation. Grab your loved ones or your loved ones. And if this is your time where you get to go for a walk or you get to just sit in some silence while everybody's having a rest or doing their thing, take this time with me. I'm so grateful you're here. Let's go.

[00:04:49] Oh, that's better, right, babe? She founded an architectural concrete company. He founded a hundred million dollar clothing company. She took the world by storm as a social media star. He took the world by storm as a famous serial entrepreneur. Together, we started a business. And had babies. Now we're figuring out the best ways to do both. Join us as we learn from other entrepreneurs going through the same life struggles.

[00:05:19] As they share their life hacks about success, love, kids. And everything in between. Welcome back to the Entrepreneur Parents Podcast. The Becoming Unshakable series. This is another episode of 4 for Mom Supporting Moms. In this series, we have talked about supporting a mother before the world notices her. Helping carry what makes building difficult.

[00:05:49] And honoring the value of her work. Today, we're talking about what happens when the work begins to succeed. Such an exciting conversation because many of us aren't there yet. And we need that hope to keep going. And what does it look like? And we know it's not easy.

[00:06:15] There's so many things that we've had to throw the towel in on because we just felt God whisper, you know, not this one. Or sometimes we're still fighting open doors that perhaps God has closed. But this is going to be a good one. I know it is. Because we had this conversation the other day in our community. And it really hit. And I wanted to bring it here. It was so powerful.

[00:06:45] Supporting a mother is not only standing beside her when nothing is working. And I know some of us don't have that. But if we can be that person, gosh, we are the angels on earth. We are the blessing. And it's knowing how to respond when something finally does start working. It starts becoming successful.

[00:07:14] It is being able to look at another woman's answered prayer without treating it like evidence that God has forgotten you. Success often appears suddenly to the person who has only just begun paying attention. It feels that way.

[00:07:39] I remember back when I was taking my classes with my coaching for some of the roles that I was studying for. I remember my coach said. And then he said he made it overnight. He was talking about an actor. Just made it overnight. He became famous.

[00:08:07] He said that's never the case. Many times it's years and years of no's. This happens in business too. We know this. So many no's. Colonel Chicken, how many no's did he get? Right? Don't give up. Don't give up.

[00:08:27] But then one day, one day, when the yes happens, most of the witnesses don't see what went into it. We discover someone after the audience has grown. We hear about the business once it becomes, let's say, profitable. Wow, they bought, they acquired that for several million?

[00:08:57] Several billion? We notice the mother when her work finally reaches a larger room, a larger audience. From outside, it can look as though everything changed for her overnight. But an overnight success is often a story we entered several years late.

[00:09:21] Before the announcement, there were ordinary days where when she kept going without evidence, it would even matter. Perhaps not even be noticed. There were ideas that failed. Many of them. I can guarantee that. Messages that received no response. They were looked at, but just perhaps not strong enough.

[00:09:52] They didn't pull the trigger for someone to even respond. There was money invested without a guarantee that it would return. Money that they didn't have to invest. There were seasons when she questioned herself. She kept working anyway. She kept creating the product, creating the content, creating the podcast.

[00:10:21] There were family plans that were rearranged. There were moments when the children needed her. The business needed her. And she couldn't imagine how one woman could answer both. But of course, she chose her family first. There was always sacrifice that other people didn't see.

[00:10:49] And we may not have seen that part. Because she may have protected it. She may have smiled when you asked her how things were going. Because she didn't have the strength or the energy to explain how uncertain everything felt. How everything's great. It's going great. It's going great.

[00:11:13] Plus, it is so important, those of us that know the secret, to speak positivity, even when things feel uncertain. We need that. We need that for ourselves. And then one day, the work began producing visible fruit. And people called her what? Lucky. They called her lucky.

[00:11:43] She's so lucky. Sometimes, you are so lucky. It's said with genuine affection. There's nothing wrong with recognizing favorable timing, unexpected opportunity, or the grace of God. None of us succeed entirely alone.

[00:12:10] I truly believe that God's hands are all over success. And then later, he'll watch how we steward it. But I truly believe when the timing is right, God's miracle is evident. Doors open that we couldn't force open. People help us. People come into our lives many times.

[00:12:39] Many times, it is not even our own family. It's like God speaks to other people. Remember, we had the podcast when I was talking about let us be the people that are the angels on earth to help others, to encourage others. Timing matters. God's favor can take us places. Effort alone never could. Never. That's a miracle.

[00:13:08] But sometimes the word lucky can carry a different message. And that's what the community was talking about. It could become a way of avoiding what her success required. It requires us to acknowledge. It kind of throws that fact that mother was so disciplined.

[00:13:36] It wasn't just luck. She was so disciplined. She had to become better. There were so many lessons that she needed to learn before she could elevate herself, before she could take the steps on the ladder towards the top. She survived disappointment that many people don't even want to face because it's so painful.

[00:14:02] She continued when continuing was inconvenient. It didn't feel good. Calling it luck allows us to admire the result without confronting the consistency that helped produce it. And, you know, the saying must be nice. Must be nice. You know the tone. Must be nice.

[00:14:31] Is that what it sounds like? I mean, it can sound harmless. But it often lands as a type of accusation. It suggests that the beautiful moment arrived without a price. And that she was handed something other people were denied. Must be nice. It makes me laugh because I've heard that.

[00:14:59] I've seen people say that. And maybe, you know, maybe it was harmless. Maybe. Maybe. But sometimes there's something else behind it. And it could sound like her success has made her life easy. It was all easy. What if instead we said, I know this didn't happen overnight. Because chances are it didn't.

[00:15:27] I remember how long you've been working towards this. Right? Tell me what it took to reach this moment. Because I know it was hard. I know. I'm still working on it. That kind of celebration does more than notice the achievement. It honors the woman who had to become capable of carrying it.

[00:15:57] Sometimes there's wars behind the success that we didn't see. Perhaps an illness. Perhaps financial restraint. Sometimes I'm serious, guys. Sleeping on mattresses. No water. No power. For a few days. Hopefully praying it's only a few days.

[00:16:25] I hear these stories all the time. And when they share the story in the interview, you remember them. You kind of remember these people that you looked up to and you saw them showing up with smiles. You never would have known what was going on behind the curtain. Never. Perhaps their family knew. And perhaps they didn't even help. Perhaps their friends knew. And they didn't even help.

[00:16:54] But perhaps they kept going. They kept going and they didn't give up. Sometimes another woman's success touches the part of us that is still waiting. So many times, right, it's harmless when others come and they say certain things because it touches that part of them

[00:17:20] that is still in the phase, right, that nobody sees. We could be genuinely happy for this woman, this mother that reached success and still feel sadness for ourselves. Both feelings can exist at the same time. The problem is not the first feeling that appears.

[00:17:48] The question is what we do with it. Do we become distant? Do we search for a reason her success doesn't count? Right? The must-be-nice comment. Or she's just lucky. She's always lucky. Do we decide she had advantages we never had?

[00:18:15] Do we make this up in our heads and say, oh, everything was easy for her. She's so lucky. But we don't realize that there was the behind the scenes until she fully shares her story. And then it's, oh my goodness, what? What? What? They went through that? Right? Listen, do we reduce years of work to timing,

[00:18:44] appearance, connections, or luck? Or can we become honest enough to say, God, I'm grateful. I'm so grateful what you have done in this mother's life or this woman's life or this family's life. But this has revealed something tender in mind. That is a prayer God can work with.

[00:19:16] Jealousy grows strongest in secrecy. But when we bring it into prayer, it could become information for us. It may show us where we feel forgotten. Remember, this is just our perception. This is just our perception. And many times people have a perception of us and we can't take that serious, friends.

[00:19:43] We can't let that dictate who we are. Some people may see us a certain way. There's one side of the family that may see us a certain way. And there's another side of the family that may see us another way. An audience that may see us one way. Audience that may see us another way. Never take the negative to heart because they don't actually know what we've gone through or what you've gone through or what you are going through.

[00:20:14] They don't know where you are exhausted, where we have attached our worth to becoming the woman who succeeds first, going back to the women that feel forgotten when they see someone else's success.

[00:20:42] It can be so innocent. And then you say the prayer, God, this is what I'm feeling. I feel like it's never going to happen for me. I want to trust you, but I'm questioning. Is this what I'm supposed to do? I'm exhausted. It happened for them and hasn't happened for me yet. And they succeeded first, but I've been working longer. Whatever it may be,

[00:21:12] another mother's accomplishment is not the cause of that wound that you have. It just simply touched it. You had a reaction. And we do not heal by asking her to become smaller, by digging at her, talking behind her back, or whatever it may be. We heal by allowing God to meet us

[00:21:41] in the place that still hurts. These are, it's just a thought that I wanted to share with you guys because sometimes it can feel a certain way when someone touches success. And I just want you to don't forget what was behind it all and have a conversation with God. And he'll reveal what he's working on with you.

[00:22:11] Sometimes we need to lose everything to understand the abundance that's about to come our way so we can steward it properly. Right? Sometimes, I was just having this discussion with my husband and some friends too about sometimes when the abundance comes, sometimes we steward it to the wrong people.

[00:22:40] Maybe just because it's family or because it's close. And we forget to look around and say, you know, maybe, maybe that wasn't how I was supposed to steward that. And sometimes you lose everything. And then you see how people actually treat you. And then at the second go around, you really understand how you need to steward things.

[00:23:09] There's another temptation that can appear when someone we supported begins to succeed. This is just another thing to think about. We start telling the story as though her achievement belongs partly to us. I told her to do that. You know, you hear those people that,

[00:23:37] oh, the reason that was successful was because I told him to do that. I told her to do that. I introduced her to that person. That's why she's successful. She wouldn't be there if I had not helped her. Support is not ownership, guys. It's not. If we gave something freely, we should not use it later

[00:24:07] to place our name inside her accomplishment or their accomplishment. Because I know many husbands are listening right now because we have a huge male audience. It is 50-50 because our gentlemen are trying to understand how to support the women. And the women are trying to understand how to support the men. So there are gentlemen listening out there

[00:24:37] to this. And it's relatable. They're seeing themselves in this story. Yeah, I felt that too. I've been there. Oh, I've been there. So we can be grateful that we played a small part without making ourselves the center of their story. We don't need to be in their story. We don't need to be mentioned. We could be humble. Just know.

[00:25:04] Yeah, I had a small part in that. A secure woman can say, or gentlemen, if you were a part of someone's story in the very beginning, I worked incredibly hard. I am proud of her. I'm proud of them. I'm grateful I was able to help. And then allow the celebration to remain hers. That is character.

[00:25:33] Or his or theirs. That's character. Helping another woman reach the light and resisting the need to stand directly inside it with her. Right? Because people could see those people that want to ride someone's coattails. It's really unattractive. And it's so obvious. It's so obvious. It's so obvious.

[00:26:02] We don't want to be like that. Our children are learning how to interpret success by listening to us. They hear every word. When another family experiences something beautiful, do they hear us celebrate? How do we talk about that family? Behind their back. Not when they come over to visit, but behind their back.

[00:26:31] How do we talk about that family? Or do they hear us immediately explain why it was easier for them? Do we honor the discipline behind the achievement or dismiss it with? Well, they know the right people. So that's the only reason that they have success. Children who hear

[00:26:58] every accomplishment reduced to luck may begin believing that effort doesn't matter. Be so careful with your words, friends. We have to be so careful with our words. They may also become afraid to succeed because they have watched success make another person or people uncomfortable.

[00:27:27] They can tell when you're uncomfortable when someone is in the spotlight. They could see that. Children notice that. I want our children to know. I personally want our children to know that they can clap when someone else's name is called. I get very excited when I see another child doing something great.

[00:27:56] I'm ecstatic. I'm through the roof. I'm excited. I want my children to see that. When I see another mother, I'm so excited. When I see a family, I was literally cheering the other day because a company was acquired. And it's not the part because I was really excited when Poppy was, when Poppy came through

[00:28:25] with the billion, the B. Because a lot of people, they try to dumb down. And I know in this environment, we don't have that because families build together. They build together. We're building a legacy. Everyone that's listening here, we're building a legacy. But there are a lot of people that don't have that same vision. It's just one person that succeeds and that's it. So I was very excited, yes, when I saw Poppy succeed,

[00:28:54] her husband, and her building something that everybody else thought was silly. And the oatmeal or the cereal, Elizabeth, Elizabeth, right? Again, I was cheering. I'm like, yes, she saw a problem with what was happening out there. I'm cheering for just ingredient. There's so many disruptors that I genuinely love out there. And I'm so excited when something good happens to them. And I want my children to see that.

[00:29:24] And I want my children to see that as well. I want them to know that they can ask questions, that they can learn from the person, that they can honor what it took. Andy Elliott and his wife sleeping on mattresses with their family. Nobody knew that. Do you think they bragged about it? Our other friends, water stops running. They're fighting to put the water on,

[00:29:52] fighting to put the lights on. They have to make it an excite, oh, we're camping tonight. We're camping tonight. We got all these buckets of water. Later when they shared the story of who was there, who wasn't there for them. They were sleeping on mattresses. Some people out there, they didn't have heat. Everybody has a story. I promise you, everybody has a story.

[00:30:21] To me, struggle. I'm going to be a struggle. Nobody else saw it, but my own family saw me. It's going to be very eye-opening when they finally share the story. And we need to hear these. This is why I get so excited in just a little bit here. We're opening up interviews. You're going to hear those stories that are like, oh my gosh,

[00:30:51] I'm going through exactly that. I feel at home. I didn't know how I was going to put food on the table for my kids. Or we were all hungry. We were all hungry. Few people knew. And not everybody. But now that we've reached this level, I want to tell you guys the true story. I want my children to know that they could celebrate another person

[00:31:20] without interrupting that moment as a verdict on their own future. Someone else's harvest can become evidence that seeds really do grow. I want them to know that. I don't ever want to discredit what someone went through. I know how hard it was growing up. A lot of people saw us in the big five-bedroom home

[00:31:50] and my mom running it on her own. You guys are so rich. You guys are so rich. They didn't know that she was, at times, barely scraping by on a $4,000 mortgage. Barely scraping down or by. And this is long ago. Those are different. But whatever it was. We don't even have to say numbers.

[00:32:20] The day that she broke down in the car because all we could afford was milk and bread. And I could have been, had a bad attitude of, I know this sucks. But my brother quickly looked at her eyes. I saw her eyes watering up in the rear view mirror. I was just a little girl. I didn't know. Do I, am I scared? Am I this? Am I that? My brother, thank you. Thank you, Jesus. Thank God.

[00:32:48] We have money for milk and bread. And this beautiful smile, beautiful white teeth, sparkling eyes, so happy. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, milk and bread. Woo! We got milk and bread. And then he turns on the music and we're singing and it's great. The way he was able to take the torch of pain and turn it into joy. God did that himself. I know. Speaking through him

[00:33:18] to bring joy and gratitude to my mom when she could have broke down. I'm crying because as a mother now, we've had moments. moments. And I see it now. More powerful than before. He was just a young boy. And he saw it. And he saw it and he saved the moment because there could be many times when something like that can spark a negative downfall and just, ah, hurt.

[00:33:46] I want my kids to see that. I want my kids to hear the stories of the behind the scenes. I loved hearing those stories in the jewelry store. These people walk in. They got Rolexes. They got, you know, Cartiers. They got this beautiful suit on. They're looking for an engagement ring for their wife. They talk about the story where she carried everything. My woman owns half.

[00:34:15] My beautiful queen owns half. She carried everything at home. She's my business partner. I ran the practice but I couldn't have done it without her. She could have gone to school too. She was a brilliant woman. Brilliant. Or we built the family business. We were sleeping on mattresses. We had no heat at one point. The babies were hungry.

[00:34:42] I would hear these real life stories and I would sit there, my little chin on the counter, just looking up, going, wow, but you can't tell by looking at him. Looks like a million dollar man. She looks like a million dollar woman. I learned so much in that store. So much. Even as a toddler. In the mechanic shop. In the transmission shop. I learned so much.

[00:35:11] Don't hide that from your children. And don't discredit someone else's story. Don't make fun when they're struggling because you don't know where they're going to land tomorrow. You don't know where they're going to land tomorrow. They may just create a beverage company that makes a billion dollars or more. Okay? That's the point of that. Listen, I want to share something with you.

[00:35:42] The first letter of St. Paul to the Corinthians chapter 12 verse 26 says, If one part suffers, every part suffers with it. If one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. Listen, if one part is honored, every part rejoices. That is a picture

[00:36:10] of Christian community. We do not only gather around one another in suffering. We also know how to rejoice when someone is honored. In another one, Romans chapter 12 verse 15 tells us, Rejoice with those who rejoice. Mourn with those who mourn. Both require what?

[00:36:40] Can you guess? I know a lot of little ones are listening. Can you guys guess? Love. Both require love. Sitting beside someone in sorrow requires compassion. I just told my son a story this morning about about my mother and what it was like when when my brother

[00:37:08] told her what it felt like in the home. The moment she found out when our friend Constable Skrupa came over to the house. He heard the news and he said, let me tell her. I've known her for years. Let me tell her I know her.

[00:37:37] The most gradual scream. And I tried to just, you know, let him know what that would have felt like for Grandma. I was frightened awake from a deep sleep as a little girl and I ran. I ran to find out what is going on. I saw our neighbor there. Neighbor that we see at church every Sunday.

[00:38:07] My mom was broken. David died. I couldn't even wrap my mind around it. I didn't know what drunk looked like but I said, I said, no, mommy, mommy, you're drunk. Something must have been wrong with her. Couldn't say crazy. She must be drunk.

[00:38:37] I ran to the phone. Where's the phone? Where's the phone? Grab the phone. I started calling my brother. He'd answer, right? Right? Anyway, compassion. Compassion. Even when someone's sharing a story with you, my children, my daughter. I could see it

[00:39:06] in her eyes. The compassion she felt putting herself in the moment, putting herself in someone else's shoes. Grandma's of what she went through. No parent should ever bury a child. anyone that's out there that has gone through that. It's the worst. There's no words. I have no words. I have no words. Only God

[00:39:36] can carry someone through that and, of course, the community that surrounds you to carry you through that. May God bring you people that are blessings to you if you're going through that right now. And then also, on that note, there's the opposite. Standing beside someone in success

[00:40:03] when you're not there yet, that requires a sense of security. And God calls us to both to sit with people going through something. I know there was strangers that somehow showed up when I had to bury my

[00:40:31] I was looking after two babies nursing destiny. Daniel was still wanting to be carried. My husband had to go back to work. He had to go out of the country and I was walking holding two babies and just so crazy the way that God works.

[00:41:01] Sending people through their gut feeling, hey, I don't know why I just felt called to pray with you. To pray over you. What? Stranger. That's how God works. I have so many more stories. So many more stories. stories. But yes, God calls us to be earth angels for other people. To stand beside them in pain and mourning. Stand

[00:41:30] beside them in celebration. And sometimes we stand with strangers because we are called to. Sometimes you have a little voice in your head. I've had this so many times happen to me. You know, my brother would call me beautiful. He would call me beautiful growing up. Always beautiful. Sometimes I'm having a little sad day and someone comes to me and there's no reason I'm telling you with that crazy mom

[00:41:59] bun, no makeup on, and not wearing my put-together clothes where maybe you see me put together and not wearing that stuff. And someone says something like, you're so beautiful. My children are there. Call them beautiful. Why are you called? And it's like this little, David used to say that, and it brings me joy. Anyway, God will call strangers and call

[00:42:29] us to both. Right? Listen, her season of rejoicing does not mean your season has been forgotten. God sees it all. God sees what all of us are going through. The same God who opened a door for her is still present in your story. Remember that. Grab something to

[00:42:58] write with in your journal. I want to spark something in you today. If you have your journal nearby now, if you have it in your hands, write this question. If you don't, you can do this later. How do I respond? This is just for us. Nobody needs to read this. I always say, if you want, you can crumble it up, throw it away after. But this is just some work for us.

[00:43:28] How do I respond when another woman receives something I'm still praying for? Do I become quiet when she shares good news? Do I see the post and scroll by? Don't like it? Do I just walk by? How am I? And why maybe? What triggers that? Do I minimize the work behind her success? So really listen. When somebody's

[00:43:57] going through, not going through, but being blessed, they're enjoying their success, do I minimize it to the people around me, my family? Do I pretend it's not happening? Do I say something negative? How am I? Have I ever called something luck because acknowledging her discipline made me uncomfortable?

[00:44:27] Then ask, what is her success revealing inside me? Or them, if it's gentlemen listening, families, what is their success revealing inside me? Is it jealousy? No judgment. Is it grief? Is it exhaustion? God, just don't have it in me. I don't think I have it in me. Ask God. He will

[00:44:57] bless you. Promise, I promise. And sometimes these prayers take time. Is it fear that my opportunity will never come? Bring the honest answer to God. You don't have to pretend the feeling is not there. If it's there, it's there, and it's there for a reason.

[00:45:31] Simply don't have to let it decide the kind of woman you become. It's just a feeling, and it gives you the answer. And also, write down, what do I wish that the people around me would be like when I reach success? what do I wish the people around

[00:46:00] me would be like as I'm climbing this ladder that feels so difficult? I don't want to go higher. Who am I praying for to come into my life? And it may not even, we may not even get the physical person. Maybe we just might hear the story that's similar to ours, and that's all we need. I know many

[00:46:29] times the road is lonely. I know it, friend. The road is lonely, and it's hard, and sometimes all I need is just to see myself in someone else's story to know that it's possible and that I don't have to give up. Let's do, let's go over our legacy move this week. this week, let's celebrate

[00:46:59] one mother specifically. Let's not just offer a quick congratulations and move on. Acknowledge something that you may have witnessed on her growth journey, on her journey. Tell her, I remember when this was only an idea. I remember when you were talking about this three years ago, 10 years or 20 years, whatever, when we were children.

[00:47:29] I saw how hard you worked. I know there were moments when you could have stopped. Relatable, right? I'm proud of the way you carried this. Give her the gift of knowing that someone saw more than the announcement. Many people won't say this. You, very, very, very well might be the only person that tells her this. That's why it may not be an easy

[00:47:59] challenge. Perhaps you're the kind of person where this is super easy. Of course I would say that. Yes, of course I would say that. And sometimes you may even be the person that laughed about it. Podcast, that is so silly. I don't want to say the other word, but that is so silly. Oh my gosh. Maybe you may be that person that acknowledges, oh my gosh, I said

[00:48:29] a lot of negative stuff and my kids saw me talk about this person in such a negative way. I'm going to be the person that reaches out and say congratulations. I know how hard it was. I was actually one of those people that made fun of you. I was one of the people in California that gave your podcast a bad review. That was me. I know you saw it in the algorithm, but that was me. I was a different person back then, but congratulations,

[00:48:59] you worked really hard. Or Alaska or Canada or Spain, wherever it was, wherever it was, wherever they saw the algorithm push a big fat zero stars because I'm angry, whatever it is. Whatever. Whatever it is. You could be that person, right? You could be that person. The mother whose success looks effortless may have cried over

[00:49:28] the very thing you now assume came easily. Let's not forget the things that happened behind the curtain. She may have questioned whether she was good enough. You want me to share my story, Lord? You want me to help other people share their story? You want me to create this product because you think that the ingredients in

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[00:51:28] heard the prayer answered, no, go out there, create this cereal brand. Kids love cereal. It's easy to go to. It helps the moms. If you know how much this is affecting your children, those bad ingredients that many have deemed as poison, there's other moms going through the same thing. Don't give up. I know you're exhausted, but your

[00:51:57] time of rest will come, but these babies out there need it, whatever it may be. She may have prayed for one sign that continuing still made sense. Just give me a sign. I don't know what it is. Just give me a sign that it's worth it to keep going. Suddenly, bing,

[00:52:26] or maybe in the morning or next week, bing, I cannot explain to you, mama, how just changing my child's cereal, changed my son's behavior, or whatever it may be. I'm just putting this out there. Or maybe the podcast. I've had this. Thank you so much for sharing that story. It really helped me. I felt so alone, and when I heard that story, I saw myself in

[00:52:56] your story. I've done this to people because I've seen myself in their story. Sometimes it is so hard to share something, and I have the tactics of how to share something without completely putting yourself or someone else on the line, and that is a learned skill, and I love to help you guys with that, because you don't want to completely hang your dirty laundry out there, but there

[00:53:26] are ways to do it where you can be a blessing through sharing your pain, and that blueprint helps others. It's the beauty of storytelling. It's been around forever. So all these things that moms, families are going through, husbands are going through, wondering, questioning, is this the right thing? God, is this right? Is this the way I'm supposed to go?

[00:53:55] It feels so hard. And then suddenly, the door opens. Let that mother enjoy it. Please don't make her shrink the announcement so that other people remain comfortable. Let her enjoy that. Let the family enjoy that. Don't make her apologize for being proud of what she built. And so many people, they feel like they need to

[00:54:25] pull back and shrink to make other people feel comfortable because they're not there yet. of course, you know, of course, she's not going to brag, but she wants to share this and she needs to share it because there are people out there that need to hear that very story from that family. Don't reduce the harvest because you didn't witness every season of planting. Honor the blessing.

[00:54:55] Honor the discipline. Oh, so much discipline goes into it. Honor the people that helped her honor God's grace over the entire story because there's always a backstory. And if her success awakens something painful inside you, take that pain to God without placing it on her celebration or even the roots of where she's starting.

[00:55:25] That is so silly. Can't believe it. You know what I mean? We have to be so careful with our words and also our children are watching the way we talk about others. And they also see the infant stages and then all of a sudden they see the blessing, the blessing of the healing, the blessing of the financial abundance, the blessing

[00:55:55] of the first, I mean, whenever it hits the first million downloads, she did it. But that's so weird because my mom or my dad, they were talking about how it's never going to make it and it's so silly. She's not lucky because nothing was difficult. She is blessed because difficulty did not get the final word because God kept giving

[00:56:23] her the answers or the signs of how to keep going. Let's come together in prayer. Let us pray. God, thank you for every mother experiencing an answered prayer. Thank you for the doors you opened, the strength you provided to get there and the people you sent to help her continue. Sometimes

[00:56:52] the strangers that you sent into her life or into that family's life. Teach us to celebrate one another with sincere and generous hearts. Forgive us for the moments when insecurity caused us to minimize another woman or family's work. Forgive us when we called discipline luck, when we became quiet around good news, or when we made someone

[00:57:22] feel guilty for sharing what you had done in their life. Heal the places in us that still feel forgotten. When another woman receives something we desire, remind us that her blessing is not proof of our rejection. We're not rejected. Our time will come. Help us rejoice with those who rejoice.

[00:57:53] Teach our children to honor hard work, celebrate answered prayer, and clap when someone else's name is called before ours. May success never make us prideful. Never make us prideful. Help us to know how to steward that blessing, that success. May waiting never make us bitter. And may everything you place in our

[00:58:23] hands be carried with gratitude, humility, and generosity. We say this in Jesus' name. Amen. If a mother came to your mind during this episode, celebrate her, not only for what she achieved, celebrate what it took for her to become the woman who could achieve it. I guarantee it wasn't easy. And send

[00:58:53] her this episode, or send someone that comes to your heart this episode and tell her, I know that this was not simply luck. I saw the work. I see the work. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you for climbing the ladder. And if this conversation encouraged you, follow the Entrepreneur Parents' podcast and share it with another mother, another family who's learning, who

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[01:01:51] I genuinely want to meet you. I want to meet the husbands out there, the families out there building together. I would love to hear her story. I'd love to hear your story because supporting mothers and families, it doesn't end when they succeed. That is when we show whether our support was even there, right? So let me support you. Introduce yourself and

[01:02:21] until next time my friends, protect what matters. Keep building your family's legacy and remember the people in front of you are part of the God given destiny. God bless you. Glory to God always. We love you and I can't wait to talk to you soon. Thank you beautiful friends for listening to this important message from Mama. Share with someone you love and care about.

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