Can You Combine Your Family's Gifts to Create a Legacy?

[00:00:01] Imagine this for a moment. The kitchen table is covered. There's so much stuff. Left to right, it's completely full. There's notebooks, colored pencils, two cups of coffee, maybe one of them's a matcha. I love matcha. A bowl of fresh watermelon that children have been reaching for all morning.

[00:00:26] And one large piece of paper in the center. The father has been sketching out an idea and he knows how it could work. He understands what needs to happen first, what it might cost and what could potentially go wrong.

[00:00:46] The mother has been listing and she's been making notes while she's listening. And then she reaches across the table, turns the paper toward herself and says, I understand what we're building. But do you know why someone would care?

[00:01:12] The mother has been doing this for a moment. And he looks at the paper again. She's right. He's been thinking about how exactly this idea could work. And she's been thinking about how it'll make someone feel. And their son has been listening the entire time at the other side of the table.

[00:01:35] And he takes his little finger. And he takes his little finger, points toward the drawing. Who does it help? He says, the room becomes quiet. It's such a simple question. But neither parent has answered it clearly enough.

[00:01:58] Then their little baby girl is sitting nearby with a purple colored pencil in her hand, waving it around like it's a wand. And she's been drawing something in the corner of the paper with her pretty pencils, as she calls them.

[00:02:18] And there's the pinks and purples. And she's just drawing that little thing that's so beautiful in the corner of her paper while everyone else talks. And she looks up. And she looks up. She looks her mama in the eyes and says, what's my job? Her father smiles. And mama says, well, what would you like your job to be?

[00:02:47] She holds up two pencils, waves them very elegantly and beautifully and softly in the air. And she says, I can make it beautiful. Nobody sitting at that table has the same gift. One sees the plan. One sees the person, their needs, their wants, what they're going to feel like.

[00:03:13] One person asks the question that brings everyone back to the purpose. And one sees a blank corner that imagines what could live there. Four different people, four different ways of seeing, but one table, one family, one shared desire to build something meaningful.

[00:03:39] The youngest person in the room may, may never know what the word collaboration means yet. But she understands something that, that many adults spend years trying to learn. She does not want to stand outside of the dream and watch everyone else build it. She wants to know the most important question to her.

[00:04:09] Is there room for what God placed inside me too? But is there room for me in this plan too? Get comfortable, my friends. I'm about to, to open up this beautiful conversation that you don't want to miss.

[00:04:34] So get comfortable, grab your favorite snack, grab your favorite people and let's go.

[00:05:16] Entrepreneurs going through the same life struggles. As they share their life hacks about success, love, kids. And everything in between. Hello, my friend, and welcome back to Becoming Unshakeable, the Legacy Conversations bonus series brought to you by the Entrepreneur Parents Podcast, a community of strong families building lives of faith, courage, purpose, and lasting legacy.

[00:05:45] We're coming, we're, we're becoming unshakable here. I'm your host, Ildiko Ferenczi. And in our last conversation, we celebrated why the world roots for couples who build together. I feel like everywhere we turn, we're seeing these couples and families building together. I looked at my chicken the other day. I saw the picture of the family.

[00:06:13] I saw, I saw the fries, right? We have these fries are all natural, a family building together. We have chips, the root chips. I turned to the back of the package. Beautiful family standing together. And that's what we celebrated in our last conversation. It was beautiful. Because listen, anyone can find a business partner. That's easy.

[00:06:41] You can, you can find anybody and you could build anything, but there's something deeply meaningful that is tugging at heartstrings right now about building with the person you chose to build a life with, and it's so much more meaningful because when the, when the business

[00:07:06] ends or, or God forbid someone, someone falls off or passes away or something, the legacy ends there. It's over. But when you choose to build something with the person and the people that you choose to build a life with, it's, it's, I'm barely able to put it into words, but everybody has

[00:07:35] a different experience and it is so powerful. It is so powerful because that is how God created us to build. Truly read the Bible. Who do they build with? Their family. They leave legacies. Today, I want to take, I want to take that vision of, of the couples building together

[00:07:58] to one step further because building together is not simply one person pursuing a dream. Well, everyone else learns how to accommodate it. Sometimes that's very, very sad. Okay. Sometimes everybody's left behind. They grow apart. They grow apart. There's so many older couples. And we listen to their story of how they've fallen apart and sometimes they're not able

[00:08:27] to mend, but it's because they, they went off and they built themselves and, and things fell apart. And, and that's not what we're talking about today. It's not, it's not about, I'll help you become successful. And perhaps, maybe, maybe one day there will be room for, for us.

[00:08:54] It's, it's not two people building separate lives under the same roof and calling it partnership. Because if we're honest, that's, that's not truly partnership. Building together asks a different question. And that's what we do in this community, right? What, what, what are we ultimately looking to do? So here's this question.

[00:09:24] What could happen if we brought all our gifts to the same table? Not to compete, not that anybody's competing, but I mean, may as well put that in there because sometimes it feels like it or, or not, not to decide whose calling matters most.

[00:09:48] And that's the person that's going to run off, but to discover what God may be able to build through a family that refuses to leave anyone out. And listen, friends, support is beautiful. Every dream, every vision, it needs encouragement, but building together goes deeper than standing

[00:10:15] at the edge of someone else's vision and cheering. Building together says, I deeply want to understand what you see. Show me the part that, that can matter to our family. What are you, what are you noticing that I might, that I might be missing?

[00:10:43] It is a husband recognizing that his wife is not merely helping him execute an idea or vice versa, but she may be the heart of it in a way that, that he cannot be. It is a wife recognizing that her husband's gift may bring structure to something she's carried

[00:11:12] only as a feeling. You hear this so many times. Sometimes I had the idea and he brought it to life and somehow it blessed our family in a way where our family has never seen this kind of, this kind of, um, this kind of financial freedom. We broke chains together.

[00:11:35] It's two people realizing that neither gift has to become smaller for the other one to matter. That one person may begin the idea, but the idea can become greater when another person is trusted enough to shape it and knows how something beautiful becomes of it. That's the difference.

[00:12:05] The family is not waiting for, for one important person who considers them to be the most important to finish becoming successful. And then maybe there's time for everything else. Now they're becoming together. Sometimes we mistake unity for, for, let's call it sameness.

[00:12:33] We believe building together means everyone must be interested in the exact same tasks, have the, maybe even have the same personality or, or contribute the same way. But this sameness, this idea of sameness is not the source of a family's strength.

[00:12:57] The differences may be the very reason that this God-given calling, this vision works. One person perhaps moves quickly. Another notices what, what speed overlooked the details. I love details. I love details. I love details. I love, I love imagining how, how someone feels, what this will do for not only themselves, but future generations. I like to dig deep.

[00:13:27] I like to dig deep. Or one person can walk into a room and speak to anyone. Somehow they have that gift. I remember that was so useful to me in the architectural concrete company. It was useful to me in the, in the podcast that we're doing to, to be able to connect. Some people may have that gift.

[00:13:53] Others listen long enough to understand what people actually need. One, one knows exactly what needs to be done to begin, right? How to actually build the business. Another knows how to, to, to make something last, to make something better. Even our children reveal gifts early. One child, one child asks questions.

[00:14:22] Another creates. One notices the person sitting alone. Another, another wants to organize everything into, into a team. These are not, these are not necessarily job descriptions. They're, they're glimpses, small clues about what may be growing inside them.

[00:14:52] And, and when a family pays attention, a child begins learning. I love this. I love this. I grew up like that. My whole family, they built together. And I believe that much of this came from my grandparents. My grandparents had 12 children. They had 14. They lost two. They built together. They built together.

[00:15:20] So I really, truly believe that that, that vision of building together was so effortlessly brought to life by, by my mother. That way, including us always, even as young babies. My basket was there in the office. I was, it was childproofed because I was there in the office. I grew up in the business atmosphere.

[00:15:50] I heard the conversations. I saw the struggles. I saw the losses. I saw the wins. It's children understanding. My way of seeing has value. My voice is welcome here. I do not have to be exactly like mom or dad to belong to, to what our family is building.

[00:16:16] I could bring my own blessings that God gave me, my own gifts. A family does not, it doesn't become powerful because everyone learns to do the same thing. It was never that. My brother was so talented at things he would bring to the table, my mother and myself.

[00:16:39] It becomes, our families become powerful when everyone's gift has somewhere to belong. When we include our children in the family story, I'm not talking about handing them adult pressures or having to have to worry about whether the company will survive or having a feeling responsible

[00:17:06] in any way for the family income. They shouldn't have to believe mom or dad's emotional stability depends on their performance in the business. None of that. Children deserve to have the freedom to be children. And I feel like that's a big reason a lot of parents, they may worry about those things

[00:17:31] and more, and they may not include the children in the vision or even the wife. But that protection, it's a good thought and consideration, but it doesn't require exclusion. Because the exclusion, that's what's painful. I remember finding a video of Daniel crying.

[00:18:01] He was crying. He was just a teeny tiny little toddler and he was crying because we had to stop the podcast for a moment. And he was so involved. He was so invested as a baby, as this little tiny boy. He'd come up with the quotes. We'd come up with the quotes together. I would sit down with him. We'd come up with the quotes. He would do the opening with his little sister when she was older and then by himself at one point.

[00:18:31] And then when he was older and he was always there included in every podcast and they would do the closing. And he was incredibly upset. And I recognized myself in him of how I loved building with my family. And out of this belonging and this sense of building together as a family came the idea

[00:19:00] of starting their own podcast. They understood the problem of screen addictions in children. They saw it in people close to them. Sometimes at like say family event or an event, they can see kids with these big headphones on and they got these iPads in front of them or devices.

[00:19:22] And they said children need something to listen to that gets that part of their brain going. And they started their podcast. And then now they had another idea. They want to start an app, which is a safe place for kids to go. And they're building these things. And I feel that never would have happened if we didn't include them in the vision and what we were building.

[00:19:50] So I feel like there's something there for each child with the special direction that their family is going in. There's a beautiful space between including your child with the family business, with the

[00:20:11] mission, making the child feel that the most meaningful part of the parent's life happens with them, with them while they're building, being included. Not that, I mean, otherwise it could be quite painful.

[00:20:38] They see that the parents, and this is just a different example, if they see that the parent's most meaningful part of their life, say it's the mom or say it's the dad, that it happens behind a door that they're never allowed to enter. I mean, that's sad. They're missing out on something beautiful.

[00:21:09] And when building, when building with the family, without the burdens that we talked about or the stress, inclusion may look very simple. It starts young. It could be something as simple as, which color do you like? And just lay out some colors. You can start with just two colors. What color do you like for this?

[00:21:35] Maybe you're creating a product, but let them be a part of that decision. Or you're coming out with a new sample for something. It could be clothing. It could be, I don't know, health, whatever you guys are creating. I don't know what you guys are creating, but some of you have shared you guys are creating a vitamin, or maybe you guys are creating a new chip for the market.

[00:22:03] A lot of you guys have these great ideas that you're sharing. Well, let them choose the packaging. Let them be a part of that. Or what would you place on this thank you letter? We're going to send something. What would you like to include? What would you say?

[00:22:27] Or even something simple like placing that thank you card in the box. Super simple, but they could be included. They could be included as soon as they start to realize that they're a part of the mission. What do you think would make this more helpful, this product more helpful? You'd be surprised by the answers that your children give you.

[00:22:57] Their answer does not have to control the adult decision, but you can definitely make sure that they have purpose. That the purpose is connecting with the mission. It's allowing the child to experience the joy of contributing without carrying a deep responsibility for the outcome.

[00:23:27] Because that's not what we want to do. We want it to be, we do want to have some challenges. The older that they get, they can be included in that. But let it be fun. Let them know that they're considered and that they're being included at a very young age.

[00:23:47] They can know that I'm not responsible for holding this together, but I belong to the family building something amazing. As a family, we're building this together. That's what I'm trying to say. It's easy to tell someone, it's easy to tell someone that your gifts matter.

[00:24:13] People learn whether there's room for them by watching what the family actually does. So you could say, yeah, we're all included. We're all building this together. But they're not actually there for the little things that could be important to them. That can make a difference. A wife may be told that her voice matters.

[00:24:41] But is she invited into the conversation before decisions are made? Or is she finding out things, these decisions are being made? And let me tell you that this is scary. Many of us have given up careers, identities. And then we find out about ideas that sometimes bankrupt the family. They're not good decisions.

[00:25:11] And loss after loss after loss. This is emotional stress on especially someone that had something massive going on. They had a great career. They had a great identity. And they walked away from it because they believed. They believed in becoming a mother and giving everything and sacrificing.

[00:25:39] But to find out that you weren't included in those decisions that bankrupted. Or you're in a place that you've never been in where you can't pay a water bill. Or you can't pay for the bills. You can't pay for the groceries. And you're freaking out. It's terrifying. So include her somehow. Maybe she can be a blessing.

[00:26:11] And see some. Women are very intuitive. Let me tell you, they're very intuitive. They can see through people. It's like a gift, I'm telling you. Tell me I'm wrong. DM me and tell me if you think I'm wrong. But we could see danger a mile away. We could see family or not family. We could see the true intentions of that person. We know before it happens. And then our husband has to be like, you're right about that person.

[00:26:41] You're right about them. You're right. You're right. But it's hard. It's hard for us to see that hurt because it's like, well, why didn't you just tell me what you were building? I could have helped. A husband may be told that the family believes in him, but then there's no room for him to admit when he doesn't know what to do next. Right?

[00:27:09] Sometimes there's people that don't want to hear it. That's not me. I want to hear everything because I want to help. I'm a builder. I've been bred to build. I've been bred to build. So I want to be included. I love it. I love building things. I have great ideas. I just love it. I love my kids being a part of it. I love building this podcast.

[00:27:35] I love praying to God about how I could bring value to people before I even get a penny. You know? It has, it's, it's not easy. I gave up. I, I was one of the ones that gave up everything because I believed in being a mother so much. And the only reason we did this podcast that I committed to it was because of a prayer, an answered prayer.

[00:28:03] That there's other parents out there living, having, that want to create something different and they need a community where they could talk about the struggles and the juggles and the wins or the, the lessons. I don't want to say losses, but just to have that community because we're in a different place. As soon as that baby takes its first breath on its own, we become different people. I hope, I sure hope so anyway.

[00:28:33] Hope you're not running off and living the single life because you can't, you can't want to wife and still want to live a bachelor life or you can't want a husband and want to still live this bachelorette life. Things have to change. Things have to change the order of things. You're now in a holy covenant and now you're raising the most important purpose that God

[00:29:02] has entrusted to you. Now a child, even a child may be called creative, but does anyone even stop long enough to look at what they created or what they could bring to the family mission? Making room is more than just praising someone. It's offering a space for curiosity.

[00:29:32] It's, it's allowing them to, to pour into the time of building this thing that you guys are, are creating together. God given vision. It's, it's moving something on your calendar. We hear about this all the time. Someone didn't move the calendar and there was something important. There was something important. There was a birthday, an anniversary.

[00:30:02] I don't know. It could have been some kind of milestone. You have to keep those things. Don't, don't let, because you couldn't push something or you were afraid or timid to push something, create a lifelong pain or hurt. Right? You have to still prioritize your family. I know you're busy, but, and we hear, we hear about the pains, but then we also hear

[00:30:29] about those stories where I was listening to this gentleman the other day. He was talking about, oh, he was driving in the car and he got a call and he looked at his child. They were on their way to, I don't know, something really, really important. I can't remember what. Maybe it was, maybe it was, maybe it was a child's birthday. I can't, I don't know what it was.

[00:30:56] It was, they had some kind of commitment and he knew that that moment that he decided it would leave a lifelong impact. And they decided to commit to the plan that they had because it was simple. All you had to do was push, push. It was an important meeting, but he just pushed it. And the child heard that happen. Now they're building together. They have a business, but this was something that he was reminiscing.

[00:31:26] About, um, yeah. So it's all allowing, it's also allowing someone else's idea. So listen to this, listen to this. It's also letting someone else's idea to change the original plan. Many times this can help grow the vision into something magnificent.

[00:31:50] So just a small example for, for us, there was the podcast, right? The entrepreneur parents. And then the kids had the idea. Now it's the entrepreneur kids. It's, it's what, I mean, honestly, it's, it's just grown into something else because of someone else's vision. So now there's more branches, I guess is what I'm trying to say.

[00:32:20] And you, we also have to be secure enough to say that this is better, that this mission, this vision is better because you're a part of it. That sentence alone can strengthen the family.

[00:32:42] It could change something inside the family in a way that, that brings everyone closer together in a way that's almost indescribable, right? I mean, just think of it. Just think of it. This is better because you're a part of it. That inclusion. You helped me with, with something important.

[00:33:09] You helped the family do something important, right? You helped create this thing. It's not, it's not, maybe I worded that wrong. So listen, I guess, I guess the comparison is, is not that they're just, they're supporting you to do something important. They're being, they're being included. We created something.

[00:33:40] None of us would have created alone. That's the point that we created something together that we couldn't have done by ourselves because we had all these rich blessings sewn together. Research has, has begun studying something called a family purpose, family purpose.

[00:34:05] And one, one extraordinary study interviewed 87 people from 25 multi-generational families with shared enterprises, including family businesses, foundations, nonprofits, and family offices. The researchers described family purpose as an active and sustained commitment shared across generations.

[00:34:34] A commitment to using the family's collective gifts and resources to contribute to the world beyond the family. The study found that families, a family's purpose can take different forms.

[00:34:56] Among the families that demonstrated a clear shared purpose, several patterns appeared to support it, including shared moral values, a strong family identity, family closeness, humble leadership, family members who championed the purpose and kept it alive. And for many of these families, foundational religious beliefs.

[00:35:27] Not every family in the study had developed a clear shared purpose. In fact, fewer than half met all the researchers criteria. So if your family is not there yet, you're not behind, you can begin by asking what meaningful purpose your family might carry together. What do we value? How could we, how could we use these gifts and resources?

[00:36:03] Faith can become more than something a family says it believes. Faith can shape what they commit to building, how they treat one another while building, right? Who are they becoming? How do they treat each other? Are they included? Are they respected?

[00:36:27] And, and who they hope, the, who they hope will be blessed because they built this thing. That's a family purpose. It's not merely asking what do I want to accomplish or how much money do I want to make or, and it's none of those questions.

[00:36:52] It's, it's looking around the family table and asking what has God placed among us that, that could become a blessing through us? I wanted to share this. First Peter chapter four, verse 10 says, as each one has received a gift, use it to serve one another as good stewards of God's varied grace.

[00:37:23] So listen, God's varied grace. I love, I love those words. The grace is not identical. The gifts aren't identical. They were never intended to be. The scripture is speaking to the Christian community, but the print, the principle gives families something, something beautiful to consider.

[00:37:51] What if the differences inside your home are not interrupting to the vision? What if they're part of how God intends the vision to be built? Perhaps one person carries this courage. Maybe another carries discernment. Another brings compassion. Another brings joy back into the room when, when everybody's been too serious.

[00:38:23] None of them possess the whole picture alone. Each has, each has received something. And scripture doesn't say to, to use that gift only to become impressive. It says, use it to serve. That's the difference.

[00:38:50] Many people build things to be impressive or, or just make money. How do we make money? Make money, make money. You hear this all the time. And that's the mistake a lot of people forget when they build a business. It says to use it to serve. That changes the meaning of success. Your gift is not only about what it can do for you.

[00:39:17] It's also about what God can do through you for someone else. When a family understands that, there would never be any competition because it becomes a stewardship, right? A building together. How amazing is that to help others, to serve others?

[00:39:47] That's where the good feeling comes from. You hear of so many people reaching success, making millions, maybe even billions, and they're, they're empty in their heart. They're empty in their heart and they've lost their family. Many entrepreneur parents say, I'm building this for my family and they mean it. They want greater freedom, security. What else? Opportunity.

[00:40:16] Different futures for their children. Futures that they didn't have. They dream of these things. But sometimes the family can become the reason given for the work or the purpose or the business while feeling completely separate from the life being built.

[00:40:42] The invitation is to move from building only for them to build with an awareness of them. The family, it doesn't always need to participate in every meeting. It doesn't, they don't need to be for, they don't need to, let me, let me take a breath. They don't need to be there for every meeting.

[00:41:10] In the concrete company, in the infant days, I was there for every meeting. And then later, I didn't even have to go to the meetings if I didn't want to, unless we were locking down a contract. But there was many meetings I didn't have to go to anymore. I had people that could do that for me. And the children, they don't need to appear in every single project.

[00:41:37] Again, the business, I didn't have to go to every project. But in the beginning I did, but after a while you don't need to. And not every private moment should become content. I just wanted to add that because there's a popular trend right now where, and it's been going on for a while. But I feel like it's more popular now.

[00:42:02] But it's been going on for a while where people are sharing their behind the scenes. And I'm starting to see something interesting. Some people are saying, this will be my last post. Because it sucked so much out of the family. I did that too. I got off social media. I'm only now considering showing up. And it's not necessarily...

[00:42:31] I'm not really sure exactly how I'm going to show up there. Because this is my priority. This is where I have the community. This is where... This is what I'm focusing on. This is the promise to God. But could I show up in a way of joy just to create, just to encourage others on the other platforms? If it doesn't take too much out of me, sure.

[00:43:00] The family should be able to recognize itself inside the vision that they're building together. That's the important thing. That's the important thing. That's why this right now makes sense to me. Because we're all included in it. That's... I don't know. I'm getting emotional.

[00:43:27] And your family should feel the values. They should feel them. Did you discuss them? What is the values? What do you have for your values? What do you have for your values? They should experience togetherness when building. And they should know that success is not... It's not being built in a way that requires them to disappear, be shooed out of the room. Nobody wants to feel invisible.

[00:43:57] The greatest family businesses... It's not just... It's not just the idea of or seeing every member's name on the paperwork. It's the journey where every person can say, what God placed inside me matters here.

[00:44:25] Because we all have special gifts. As we said, building together, it doesn't mean equal visibility at every moment. Maybe there's a pregnancy where someone needs more rest during that phase. It's exhausting building a baby. It's exhausting when the baby gets here at first. It's the biggest blessing. But maybe you have to step back a little.

[00:44:54] And everybody else can hold the torch. And there... It may not be... It may not be equal business responsibility in every season. And we talked about this as well. That every family member, they don't have to build the same thing. They can be branches. Right?

[00:45:21] They can be branches where they may... I don't know. Maybe it's a development company. And then there's the real estate agents. So there's different branches with the different talents. But you're still building together. Right? So it depends on what your family is doing. Each family member had gifts that will grow and change. That's true too.

[00:45:50] Gifts are going to... They're going to grow as you get older. They're going to change. And family can remain curious about who each person is becoming as they grow. As they get more gifts and talents. And pour into that. And include that. And success is measured by more than what the family produces.

[00:46:18] Success is measured by what the family becomes. The strength. The growth journey. Did we become more generous? Did we learn to listen? Did we recognize gifts that might otherwise have remained hidden? Did we uncover those? Did we pour into each other?

[00:46:43] Did our children learn that their voice matters without believing that the world revolves around them? Because just because they're building something great, we got to make sure that none of us have ego. Did we build something that served others? Most importantly, right? Did the way we worked bring glory to God?

[00:47:13] Did what we build bring glory to God? And even a clean environment where the men and women we employ become better family people? You hear about businesses. I know some couples have a family business. They include their children in their own way.

[00:47:42] But they've built these family businesses. And when they find out that there's a cheater, for example, they want to protect the families. Right? They want to protect the families. They want these people to be better business people, better family people. That cheater is gone when they find out about it.

[00:48:14] It's important for them to build that in their work, to protect that safety in their workspace. And they're not afraid to talk about it. They're gone. In some workspaces, they pray together. Some pray together. And that's beautiful. I know in our family, I'm talking about some bigger, bigger businesses.

[00:48:44] I mean, hopefully there's no cheating going on in your family. But I'm talking about the actual business. I don't know if I was clear or not. But the business, once it gets bigger and you have the teams and they've admitted that when they find out about that, that person's gone. And they make it very clear. They interview people. Are you a good, dedicated family person? Family, mother, wife, husband?

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[00:50:42] They're the simple good things that help build the greater dream or the greater vision, the greater God-given destiny. It's, it's not just one person becoming important. It's what a family discovering that when their God-given gifts are brought together in love and service, they know they're becoming a blessing. None of them could have created alone.

[00:51:12] Grab your journals, grab a pen, and let's, let's really think about these questions that are coming up. Don't judge them. Just write them down. Just let it spill out. Do the people in my family know what gifts I see in them?

[00:51:39] Is there someone whose ideas are heard less often? That's a good question. Does our family vision have room for both husband and wife to contribute meaningfully? And the children? Are our children safely included without carrying adult pressure?

[00:52:08] So, and that's that, that's having those guardrails in place. We don't want to, we don't want to, and it's age appropriate because we don't want to block all pressure or challenges, I should say. Because you learn a lot when you see your family figure something out, when you see your father figure something out, or your mother, or together as a team,

[00:52:36] come together to figure something out, what values do we want people to experience through everything our family builds? And finally, what might God be inviting us to create, serve, or, or strengthening together in this season? And that's it. Think about it.

[00:53:04] If you have more questions, include those. And then let's come together in prayer. Where two or more come together, beautiful things happen. Heavenly Father, thank you for the gifts you have placed inside our families. Thank you that your grace is on us.

[00:53:28] And that we're never meant, let us understand that we were never meant to become identical. Teach us to recognize what you placed inside one another in our family. Give husbands and wives the humility to listen, the courage to contribute, and the wisdom to build as one.

[00:53:55] Help us include our children without burdening them. Let them feel protected, known, and welcomed into the beautiful story of what our family values. May the way we build and honor our covenant help make it stronger, solid.

[00:54:23] Provide protection from temptation. May our work reflect integrity. May our home remain filled with peace. And may no one inside our family believe they must disappear for someone else to shine. Take what you've placed inside each of us, bring it together according to your will,

[00:54:50] and use our family to become a blessing. In Jesus' name, amen. My friends, perhaps your families shared a vision that doesn't yet feel impressive or look impressive. Perhaps it's only a conversation at the kitchen table still.

[00:55:17] Just a little note on that pad of paper. Perhaps it's a prayer, a question your child asked that you can't stop thinking about. Don't dismiss small beginnings. You may believe that you're only discussing an idea,

[00:55:44] but something else is perhaps being built in the room during that time. Maybe it's identity, courage, belonging. The understanding that this family, it doesn't need to leave people behind. Your child's drawing me. Maybe it won't become the company logo.

[00:56:13] Their question, maybe it's not going to change the final plan like we talked about earlier. But when you stop and you get down to their level and you look in their eyes and let them know that their thoughts have value, that you're building something far greater than a business, much greater than just a business or company.

[00:56:42] You're building a family where your voices are welcomed, where people learn to create without competing. It's together. That's where everyone understands there's room for what God placed inside me too. I belong here too. If this conversation reminded you of a family that's building,

[00:57:11] share this with them and ask one question around your own table. What could we build? How can we serve or what can we do to strengthen together? When you see a family creating something meaningful, encourage them. If you see someone in a coffee shop, their family's together building something, encourage them.

[00:57:38] When you see a mother finding the courage to use her voice again, support her. None of this is easy, friends. Don't judge the beginner. You have no idea what it cost her to press record. Share the idea. Try again.

[00:58:04] Let us become the kind of community that makes it easier for good things to keep growing. Friends, if Becoming Unshakeable has become part of your week, follow the show and leave us a five-star rating and a kind review. And for the children in your life, come listen to Destiny and Daniel on the Entrepreneur Kids Legacy show, the screen-free learning podcast for young, courageous leaders.

[00:58:33] And you can always leave a gift, a little present and help sponsor the children's show through buymeacoffee.com backslash entrepreneur kids. And those of you that asked, you could buy me a coffee there too. Just leave me a message so I could get to know you or reach out on the links below. Get to know me. I really love hearing your stories.

[00:59:02] Every follow, every share, every review, every gift. It helps us continue building something. We pray strengthen generations. Thank you for building with us. We're so grateful for you. Friends, I want to leave you with this final thought. May your home become a place where gifts are discovered

[00:59:28] and voices are welcomed, included. Ideas are nourished and your family doesn't have to disappear for someone else to shine. That they don't feel like a burden. May wives and husbands recognize the strength God placed in one another. May children feel protected from any kind of pressure.

[00:59:57] And may they be included in the family story. May your differences become wisdom. May your work become service for others to help them. And may your success become a blessing. I hope that happens for everyone. I really do. I truly do.

[01:00:21] And I hope that God takes what he placed inside each of you. Bring it together. And so that you guys can build something that none of you could have done alone. I keep saying that because that's where the beauty happens. When you all come together and create something so magnificent.

[01:00:49] And you realize, my gosh, I could never have done this alone. The dream was never meant to belong to one person. Because there's room for all of you at the table. God bless you. Glory to God always. We love you. Keep building strong families. Strong futures and unshakable legacies. This is becoming unshakable. I'm your friend, Ildiko Ferenczi.

[01:01:18] And I can't wait to talk to you again soon. God bless. Beautiful friends for listening to this important message from Mama. There is someone you love and care about. Oh, and we'd love to personally invite you to listen to our podcast. It's for young future leaders ready to change the world and be a light in the dark. Listen to that.

[01:01:48] It's God. Or the hero of your story.

[01:02:18] Because every legacy begins with a hero. And that hero is you. This podcast is for inspirational and educational purposes only. And it is not intended to replace professional advice, legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views expressed are based on personal experience and faith-based insight and are meant to encourage reflection and growth.

[01:02:48] Always seek the guidance of qualified professionals regarding any questions or concerns you may have about your health, relationships, or business.