Optimism Isn’t Optional: It’s the Operating System of Legacy Builders!

[00:00:00] Entrepreneurs have to take action in the absence of evidence. You have your personal beliefs, but it's not necessarily evidence and they have to take action in the absence of having evidence there showing that it's going to work. Something that only an optimistic person would do. And without optimism, an entrepreneur would never start.

[00:00:32] Uh, no. Ooh, that's better, right babe? Yeah! Yeah. She founded an architectural concrete company. He founded a hundred million dollar clothing company. She took the world by storm as a social media star. He took the world by storm as a famous serial entrepreneur. Together we started a business. And had babies. Now we're figuring out the best ways to do both.

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[00:01:31] Welcome to the Entrepreneur Parents Pretty and Punk Podcast. My name is Dan Caldwell. And I'm here with my beautiful co-host. Yldiko Ferenzi. Hi, you guys. And we have a great podcast for you. We're talking about something that I think, I mean, you can argue with me. Somebody can not agree with me. You just like to argue. I'll argue.

[00:01:57] I think it's the most important trait of any entrepreneur. I think without this, you're not an entrepreneur. And it's something you just have to have. And if you don't have it, the likelihood of you being successful is probably not good. So. Before we get into it. Before we jump into that. Hey guys, we hope you're enjoying today's episode of the Pretty and Punk Podcast.

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[00:03:47] And legacy minded parents know how to see the struggle and believe in breakthrough. And you can't. It's impossible to raise powerful kids with a defeated mindset, entitled mindset, or build a business. Leak mindset, follower mindset. What you model, they're going to mirror. You're gossiping. You're talking negative about yourself, your children, people around you.

[00:04:17] They're going to mirror that. This episode isn't about wishful thinking. It's not about, oh, good things are going to happen. It's about building unshakable belief while parenting and building businesses in the chaos and leading through the storm. And building a marriage. Yeah. I mean, you've got to be optimistic about your marriage in some way. Like, it's not always going to be good.

[00:04:41] And if you don't have that optimism in all parts of your life, I think people are going to have a really hard time in those parts of their lives that they don't show optimism. Yeah. And when it comes to marriage, you have to look at it a different way. It's not always to make your life easier. And you can't always just walk out when it doesn't feel comfortable. And I can't handle this.

[00:05:09] This is, this is stressing me out. I can't know. God gives you that because you haven't worked on that part of yourself and you have to stay and you have to work on it and you have to push through it. That's the lesson that you were, you were called to work through so that you could teach your children how to work through those same issues or whatever toxic things that could have happened to you in the past, whatever it is.

[00:05:38] You can't just walk out. That's what the enemy wants. So as he was saying that, yes, you have to have a mindset and it has to be prepared while you're young. A lot of people, their parents hide the, um, they hide what they're going through. So you have these 18, 19 year olds that just aren't prepared. They don't understand how to work through things, how to communicate and how to deal with the true things that are going to come through marriage. That's hard to do.

[00:06:07] You don't just fall in love with someone. You have to have the hard conversations before you start dating and you're not dating for fun. It's not hookup culture that there's something so twistedly wrong about this hookup culture that people are led to think that is correct. That is so you're going to get so lost. That's a whole nother podcast. No, but you're going to get so lost, but you need to have that mindset to understand that

[00:06:37] when you're talking to someone, you're not there to have a fun or get experience for someone else. That's, that's the wrong way of thinking about it. You're talking to people of the opposite gender to see if they have the same mindset. And you should always be thinking one day when I get married, don't waste this person's time. Don't play games with her or him.

[00:07:06] That's, that's the wrong. That is just the wrong mindset period. So you've got to teach your children. If someone's going to come and play with you and waste your time, that person's not for you. They need to see the gift that you have within you and be thinking about who do I want to get married to? Eventually, who do I want to have support me?

[00:07:32] Eventually, who do I want to build a family, a legacy, a kingdom with? I think honestly, being optimistic is it's an attractive feature. I mean, it's probably why you were so attracted to me. But that said, I know it. I know it. I know it. Here's the thing. Like you can't, I mean, it's an attractive feature when you see, I mean, you cannot be an entrepreneur.

[00:08:01] I say you have a hard time raising kids. If kids don't see that in the household, if they don't see you being that person. I mean, everybody's met somebody who is, have you met that person who like is the Debbie Downer of every situation? Yes. I won't even go around people like that. I won't even let my kids around them. Nobody wants to be around that. I'm so protective. Who wants to be around that person? Yeah.

[00:08:28] I sometimes used to put myself in situations and I remember I went to a therapist and he said, why are you around these people? There is not one thing that you have in common with them. They make fun of your health. They make fun of your eating. They make fun of you. Do not go around them for your personal safety.

[00:08:55] Like a rotten apple is going to rot the bunch. Even, even if you don't take on those traits and become like them, you're going to feel incredibly uncomfortable around them. It's going to be that toxic energy. I won't even let my kids around those kind of people. I just learned at that, that point that you really don't need to be around people like that because it's contagious.

[00:09:22] And even if you're too strong, your mindset's too strong, you just, you don't even need to soak in a little bit of that negativity or that. You just don't need to be around it. And as a mother, I'm strongly encouraging you. You don't even take your kids around those kind of people. And how do you be an entrepreneur? How do you, how do you, I mean, there's no way because no, no entrepreneur is really sane at the heart of things.

[00:09:52] They're not sane when they think about who wants to go start a business where you're most likely going to fail and learn a lesson and learn a lesson. I mean, you're going to learn some lessons for sure, but always, but most likely your business is not going to make it. All the percentages are against you. Uh, you're, you know, having a successful relationship while you're running a business is against you.

[00:10:20] The fact that you can build something that's going to be supportive of your, of a bigger lifestyle. If you want to grow something and build something incredible that can, um, you know, that can pay for a growing lifestyle and a family, um, very little chance that that's going to happen. Who's saying that goes out and start something like that? Right. I mean, that you're going to be told that everybody's going to tell you that you're crazy, that you're, you, you don't get to just wake up.

[00:10:50] Every single day and be normal. You have your, you're stressed out constantly. You're thinking about, uh, everything that wrong that can happen and trying to be optimistic about it. Nobody saying does that. You have to be optimistic in everything that you do when, especially when it comes to business, because you will not get through that storm if you aren't. Well, and even just the way that you explain it or think about it, because it's not just about staying positive.

[00:11:20] And when you were mentioning the stressed out part, that's just simply identifying that you're facing some kind of challenge or some kind of problem. Don't let yourself get stressed out about it. I, I, I'm so lucky that I was brought up with mine, people with incredibly strong mindset around me, my mother, my brother. And when things got tough, they didn't let the stress get to them.

[00:11:47] And sometimes that's what I, I appreciate now is that she was not stressed out. She always found a solution or she always had this incredible circle of people around her that she could lean into and quickly ask for advice. And of course, prayer was number one, but as I'm saying, staying, it's not, it's not just about staying positive. It's about developing a legacy driven mindset.

[00:12:15] One that sees the fire, walks through it anyway, and raises world changers. That's once you're a parent while building something that lasts. We're talking about the kind of mindset that doesn't quit when it gets hard. That's got to be, that's my superpower for sure. Yeah. I've been on my back so many times I stopped counting. It's, you have to get back up and keep going. Yeah.

[00:12:42] You can't speak dispute over yourself or the negative, the negative words. Don't even let the stress come through because you can figure out the problem. And listen, if you do the deep dive, you talk to your intelligent friends that have been through it. Don't talk to people that haven't built a business. Okay. They're just, they're just going to stress you out.

[00:13:04] They're telling you, man, like, can you imagine someone telling us that doesn't have the same mindset as us telling us that this podcast isn't going to work because it's, it's talking about families and, and we're not, you know, you got to think about the money. And it's just, it's, if you talk to people that haven't walked the walk, talk the talk and have walked through it with flying colors. Don't even ask them for advice.

[00:13:34] Don't even let them give you advice. If they haven't had the successful family, had the successful business and had been able to juggle it all. And hopefully they have, like you say, failed, learned the lessons because then they have the full insight on how to get where they are. So only talk to those kinds of people because this is not toxic positivity. This is not what we're talking about.

[00:14:04] It is therapist approved and biblically grounded with the backed and backed by data. This type of mindset. Backed by Jesus. Hey, listen, have you, have you heard that story about Elon Musk in 2008? He was when, I mean, I'm going to butcher the year probably. I think it's 2008, but. I know what you're getting at. I'm guessing.

[00:14:28] Well, I remember hearing it a while back and it's, it's, I mean, Elon, I call it an Elon Musk moment because he's had a bunch of these where he was down to like nothing. Yeah. And, but in 2008, I think he was down to 30 or $40 million, which is still a lot of money, but not a lot of money when you're trying to run multiple companies, especially the size of SpaceX and Tesla.

[00:14:51] And, and so he was down to like 30 or $40 million and he had to decide if he was going to put all the money into SpaceX, which was failing. He just had three crashed rockets and, or all the money into Tesla or split the money between both.

[00:15:06] And he's, I mean, he's so optimistic thinking, looking at these two companies, both having so many problems at the time, trying to figure out how he was going to get out of it, that he needed a contract for SpaceX from NASA. And they were, they just had three rockets in a row, in a row. How do you be optimistic after three rockets in a row crash and burn?

[00:15:34] I mean, you have to be strong, strong in your faith, in your belief of where you are going. You have to believe you're on the right path. And he gambled everything, everything, every penny he had. If he put, he split what he had. It was like 30, 40, $50 million. He split it between the two companies so that they could both stay afloat and have a little more runway to keep going.

[00:16:02] And if both of them would have failed, I mean, this guy was, this guy was like living in some house. He was like renting like a five bedroom house. He didn't even have like, you know, it wasn't a mansion. It wasn't some super house or it was this little five, regular five bedroom home that he was renting. And he was, and, and, and he'd put every last penny he had into these two companies.

[00:16:28] And if they both, if just one more rocket would have crashed, if Tesla would have been just a little bit off, they wouldn't have had the sales that they would have got that year. If it wouldn't have turned around at that time with the new models that they had coming out, he'd have been done. We wouldn't be talking about him right now. But he believed so much and he was so optimistic about his belief in his companies and what he was building that he rolled the dice to keep going.

[00:16:58] And that's what you have to have. You have to have that belief and that optimism in your idea, in your purpose, in what you're doing to keep going to, you know, to be an entrepreneur, to be a person who's going to make it. Because if you, if you don't believe you're going to make it, I promise you, you're going to get exactly what you're thinking you're going to get. Oh yeah. I mean, that's exactly what's coming. There's a great article in the Harvard business. You become what you surround yourself with. Oh, a thousand percent.

[00:17:26] You become what you say you are and you become what you think you are. There's this great article in the Harvard Business Review that I read a while back and I was trying to find it for this podcast. But it's called The Case for the Optimistic Entrepreneur. And I didn't have all, I couldn't find the exact article, but I found some pieces of the article.

[00:17:51] But it basically talks about that entrepreneurs have to take action in the absence of evidence. Of evidence that, I mean, you have your personal beliefs, but it's not necessarily evidence. And they have to take action in the absence of having evidence there showing that it's going to work. Something that only an optimistic person would do.

[00:18:19] And without optimism, an entrepreneur would never start. If you don't have at least some optimism in your bones, if it's not a part of you, just a little bit, you'll never start. Because you'll never become an entrepreneur. So all those people that you hear that never start that business, that just talk about it for their entire life, those people usually don't have enough optimism to start. Because there will be no evidence most of the time.

[00:18:46] You might think, you might have a hope, you might feel it in your bones, but there's not going to be that real evidence there. Because when you show people, I remember when we told people we were going to start a t-shirt company based around mixed martial arts, there was no evidence. It was illegal in almost every state in the country. It was not blowing up. They're becoming huge. It was not, it wasn't necessarily ubiquitous around the country. It was only legal in two states.

[00:19:16] And when people watched it, they saw it failing for the most part. That you had Senator McCain going on there calling it human cockfighting. Oh. And it was just not, it just made me think of those boys trips. What's going on? It was going to fail. It was supposed to fail. And so it wasn't, nobody would have said, oh yeah, that's a great idea.

[00:19:45] You should go do that. Go quit your perfectly good cop job to go start a t-shirt company in a failing sport that's never going to happen. That's what they were thinking. That's what anybody would say if I asked them. That's why you don't ask people if it's a good idea. Well, especially if they're, you have this belief inside of you, this optimism inside of you that says, this is a good idea. I see something that nobody else sees.

[00:20:15] I remember when I, early on, there was this guy who had some money and he was going to invest in, in, in the tap out. And we were going to give him a third of the company, a third of the company for $500,000. And he said he was going to do it. And we'd been talking for several months. And I had the contract ready to go.

[00:20:39] I'd given him a business plan, showed him the, the, the road to, to profitability, to how the company was going to explode and become one of the largest clothing companies in the world. And, and I'd given him this business plan. It was basically, you know, all guesses. But I'd showed him this and he said, okay, let's do it. And a couple months later, we were supposed to meet in this restaurant.

[00:21:05] And he met me there with his attorney and his attorney basically, you know, caught me out of left field, just told me that he didn't see any way for, that this was going to be successful. He didn't think that there was any chance that we could make it. And I was, I had went there with the idea in mind that I was coming to pick up a check, a $500,000 check to deposit into our bank account.

[00:21:34] Now, instead, I got this attorney telling me that he thinks there's no chance we're going to make it. And that, and, and that's okay. And it was probably the best thing that ever happened to me. And the only reason that happened is because that dream, that vision wasn't meant for them. They weren't going to see it. They didn't have the optimism that I had. They didn't have the belief that I had in the company. And that's why it didn't work out. And it worked out.

[00:22:00] And I think a lot in many cases that works out for the best. Listen up friends. You don't want to miss this one. It may be a once in a lifetime opportunity. Are you an entrepreneur, a parent, or someone building something that truly matters? Well, then you need to hear this. This is your invitation to step into the spotlight on one of Apple's top 10 podcasts, the entrepreneur, parent, pretty and punk podcast.

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[00:23:29] Apply now. Spots are limited. If you feel that tug on your heart, don't wait. Message us right now at contact at prettyandpunk.com. That's contact at prettyandpunk.com. Yeah, I agree. I agree with the whole mindset of you believing in yourself. And I know that that was like your single journey.

[00:23:56] And then once you become a parent, that comes at you even harder. Because a lot of people talk about how they get lost in motherhood and fatherhood while building business and trying not to lose yourself in the chaos. And I hate that people are talking. I mean, I appreciate it because everybody has a different experience.

[00:24:22] But I feel like if you have that mindset, you don't have to lose yourself in the chaos. You just understand that this is a season. It's going to be hard. Next year is going to be a different season. And you're going to have to just deal with the things that are coming your way.

[00:24:41] And really, truly, don't fall into that woe is me type of attitude that's out there and how hard marriage is. And you have to find the nuggets. You have to find the gold. Because otherwise, you're going to get lost in the wrong mindset when it comes to building that family and building the business at the same time.

[00:25:08] It's going to drag you down to a place where when you're 82, you're going to look back and you're going to be so mad that you got pulled into this idea how bad everything is, how hard everything is. And even husbands get lost in that idea of, I was neglected while the babies were young, so I had to go have an affair because I was lonely. No, you should have been there being with your wife and your children. It wasn't an example of me, just so everybody.

[00:25:38] No, no, no. I'm just saying that this is something. That wasn't me. No, no. That wasn't me. No, I'm just saying that this is what our gentlemen are facing today. They're getting tricked into this two minutes of pleasure or sending out a message they never should send out, especially on social media or Tinder or whatever. You scroll through these videos and you hear this stuff. You hear this stuff. No, I'm talking about what's happening. She's so mad. No, I'm talking about what's happening.

[00:26:06] Why are these guys throwing it all away? Well, wouldn't you be? No, I mean, I get it. It's awesome. I get it. Sure, the women get everything and then they remarry. But these poor guys, these poor guys, I mean, even my brother, I remember. But listen, even my brother, I remember him at his dance recital, okay? And I remember father trying to take a picture with him.

[00:26:36] He pushed him out of the way and he grabbed my mom's hand and he pulled her in and he said, Mommy, I know exactly how hard you worked for me and Ildiko. And you're the one that's going to shine in the pictures. I owe everything to you because you were the one that was here for me. Nobody else. You drove me to every dance lesson. You drove me to karate.

[00:27:05] You drove me to football. You drove me to lacrosse. You drove, plus she ran a business. And I remember thinking this when I got married. I remember thinking like, what am I going to do? Because I know David mentioned something about, he was trying to explain, like, how would you think mommy would feel if you had dad walk you down the aisle? It would be, you know, a stab in the back to her.

[00:27:35] And I didn't really think of it. I was so young. I never really thought about it that way. But when I was getting married, I still asked him to come. Well, divine intervention. You're never going to believe this. It was hard because I was always the one reaching out. And I said, will you walk me down the aisle? And he agreed to it. But then there was a big fire on the farm.

[00:28:00] And he told me, I think the night before, like the night before, I can't because there's a fire. Divine intervention. My brother's angel up there. I don't know. Did he start the fire? But my mom walked me down the aisle. My mom. And anyway, sadly, you know, I didn't do enough research on marriage. And that marriage did fall apart.

[00:28:28] And everything fell into place. And I met my husband now. And I do have all the lessons. I know where things went wrong. But I'm just saying that I'll never forget that conversation with my brother. And I hate it because it was an attorney, a divorce attorney that was talking about that. That sometimes you feel so sorry for yourself when your wife really needs your attention.

[00:28:57] She's got the mom bun. This is just a season. Yes, we have the mom bun. We have the messy clothes. We have all this stuff going on. But as mothers, we're going through stuff now. We need that compassion from our husbands. Yes, you're not getting as much attention. And we have to work back to that. But it doesn't mean throw everything away and lose everything for a little bit of pleasure and attention.

[00:29:26] And that goes both ways. I remember someone sharing the story of the lonely wife that went back to work. And she had an affair. And she had to tell her husband that she's now pregnant with someone else's child. And that was hard. But they had to somehow work through that. But these things are happening. Why? Because potentially the mindset and the conversations weren't had and shared with the kids. It is going to be seasons.

[00:29:56] And don't get pulled into the negativity of it. Find the beauty of it. Find the beauty of we may not be as physical as we were before the children. But we have to find, is it the hand-holding? Is it the eye contact? Is it me giving her attention when I really want to be in my phone but I'm going to fight it? Or vice versa.

[00:30:22] Just her pulling you into the world and say, let's work together. I know you're putting your arms up because you've never changed a diaper in the middle of the night. Which I should have been more persistent. He's like, what are you talking about? But these are the things that women and men go through. We're in the struggle and the juggle. We're bootstrapping parenthood.

[00:30:50] I've made it very easy for you, yes. And if I could go back, you'd be waking up in the middle of the night with me. I'm 100% with you. And look, I was willing to jump up any time in the middle of the night. I couldn't wake you up. And I really know now. Now, just all of a sudden. If you had an electric shocker or something, I would have 100% woke up. All of a sudden, I realized that he wasn't sleeping. He was just pretending because he didn't watch it. If you act like you're asleep, you definitely won't get woke up. Oh, my God.

[00:31:20] I was honestly asleep. Listen, what are some of the things that we can do with our kids? Okay, I'll tell you. To breed optimism. Okay, well, let's start. And what are some things we do with our kids? Let's start where I understood how powerful that mindset was for me growing up. So for me, as soon as I found out I was pregnant, I would speak positively, pray positively, and just share stories with my baby in my belly.

[00:31:50] And you would too, but me more so. I think, I think. I knew the importance of this, too. Don't wait for the babies to come out. One of our first dates was Tony Robbins. I mean, I'm telling you, I'm trying to like, I know it's an important thing. It's an important thing in your relationship. You need your wife thinking like this. If you're going to be battling every conversation. You need to battle together. Yeah, you need to be battling together, not against each other.

[00:32:16] And that is going to be a constant battle if you guys aren't on the same side of history here. Exactly. And so if you don't have, if your wife's not thinking that way, I mean, it's all about picking a partner, too. If your wife's not thinking that way, if your husband's not thinking that way, you guys are not going to work well together. Especially if you're, I mean, granted, if you guys don't have those types of aspirations, then possibly. It works together. You'll figure it out.

[00:32:40] But if you have any aspiration to be an entrepreneur or build something together as entrepreneurs or as a family, you're going to have a lot of friction trying to do that. If one side or the other is too pessimistic, if they don't have an optimistic bone in their body. Not that some of that's not good a little bit. Right. But, you know, I always enjoy having that back and forth.

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[00:34:34] Yeah, a hundred percent. And, and the thing is that the enemy isn't always on the outside of our, of the house. It's sometimes the voice in your own head. So that's why you have to get aligned with your whole family and, and create those changes of the mindset. But here, let's just move on to the top tactical steps that we can start today.

[00:34:58] I think it needs to start with the daily gratitude reset with, and include your children in this. When you wake up in the morning, what are you grateful for? And for us, we just talk about everything that comes to mind because some days it changes. I was just talking to Daniel. We've been doing this all his life, all his life, all destiny's life. We'll talk about the things that we're most grateful for. Some days it's, it's less things.

[00:35:26] Some days it's things we haven't really thought about, but you could be going through the fire. Even when we were going through loss and a really hard time, we would wake up in the morning and we would do our gratitude. Well, obviously our prayers first and gratitude. And affirmations. And then I am who God says I am. We have those affirmations, not woo woo, but it's in the Bible. I am.

[00:35:50] And Jesus talks about it, and then you just declare who you are in the good book. It tells you exactly. And we need our kids to believe they can do anything. And part of that comes from showing them that we're not scared to start something, to create something, to have an idea, to have ideas.

[00:36:13] We have an idea page, I guess you could call it, of just business ideas that we may not start today, but sometime in the future we're going to start. Or we might start or we might not start, but some ideas that we have that we just write down. And we tell Daniel and Destiny that we may never start these businesses, but this one we might, or that one we might, but we write them down because we have dreams like that, and they should too.

[00:36:42] Yeah, and our community, our most important community is our family, the family that we built. So the other tactic that we do is we rewire together with people who speak life. If you're not married and you're just listening to this podcast, because we have a lot of people that aren't quite married yet,

[00:37:05] but they want to understand how to handle the journey once they find the one and they get married, then you are supposed to surround yourself in a community with people who speak life. Do not surround yourself with the negative ones, please, because it will pull you down.

[00:37:27] And the number one mindset habit that changed our parenting and business forever, I think is that habit of getting into prayer. I think that, or I know for our family, that's made the biggest difference, is praying together as a family. And I know sometimes you're really busy, and especially right now, you can't always join us.

[00:37:55] But when we do, I just, I can tell the difference. Well, we definitely don't go a night without praying. I sometimes, I'm not here. No, I'll never miss. I'll pray. I'm praying on my own. I've never missed. I've never not missed. Never not missed a prayer. Yeah, especially after, you know, getting pregnant, I just never missed because,

[00:38:18] number one, I know my duty as a parent, and I know, I just, you can't, you can't miss. Once you understand what it means to become a parent biblically, like you just, you can't. After everything, we just went past, we just passed Easter.

[00:38:42] And understanding all those sacrifices, really prayer in the morning and the night, and sometimes during the day, that is, it's just, it's an honor for me. And I can't, I can't, because I understand that more than anything, more than mindset, more than showing them how to make money. That is the most, most valuable tool that I can show them, that we can show them as parents. Guys. Did you want to?

[00:39:11] No, I just wanted to say that, you know, optimism isn't fluff. It's the stuff, it's the fuel that entrepreneurs, that parents should have in their lives, that kids need. They need that optimism. They have to believe in something bigger. They have to believe in themselves. And we got to, in every way, like I still said at the top of the show, I said, I believe it's the most important ingredient in an entrepreneur and possibly a parent.

[00:39:41] And we have to pass that along. Yeah. So I hope you guys are doing that in your family. I hope that's something that we're, that you're, you're consciously thinking about. Yes. In your life. Because if you don't consciously, if you don't build your life around that, you're, you're not going to be purposeful in your implementation in, in your daily, in your daily life and in your kids' lives and in your marriage.

[00:40:08] So I hope you guys are implementing that into your family, implementing it into your life. And it should be a part of you in everything that you do. Yes. We're built. Yes. Oh, sorry. Keep finishing. And that's it. Yeah. Yeah. That's it. I think I just wanted to end with the thought that came to me that we're not building, or sorry, we're building something deeper than just dollars. We're building generational resilience.

[00:40:36] We're restoring marriages and we're raising leaders, right? Because even when we have those obstacles or those things come into our marriage, we need to restore it. That is our job. How can you figure out how to fix it? How can you figure out how to fix your business? And how can you realign your children when they go off track? We're not there yet.

[00:41:01] But, you know, maybe in the future, there could be moments where they get off track and hopefully not. Hopefully we have all the building blocks while they're young. And that's the thing. That's why it takes two. It takes two to raise these incredible, resilient children with a mindset that can handle anything. God bless you guys. Thank you for joining us. And we just love and appreciate this community.

[00:41:31] And we're so grateful for all of you. God bless you guys. Have the best week. And we can't wait to see you next week, friends. And we'll see you next week. Thank you for listening to this week's Entrepreneur Parents Pretty and Pump Podcast. We hope you got something really good from this podcast. Make sure to like and subscribe. Leave five stars and a kind review. We love you. God bless all of you. And don't forget to be optimistic.

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