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you. It's not happening.
Why isn't it happening?
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And you can really get lost in
that emotion and that feeling.
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But you got to remember, God's
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for what you want in
your life? And I think
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there's things that we want in our life.
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There's things that we're doing right now.
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and we're not getting it yet.
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look back at ourselves and go,
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are we truly ready for that
blessing if it came to us today?
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Because I know there's times in my
life that if I would've received
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certain things that I wouldn't
have been ready for it.
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I think that's everyone's life.
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need to just take a step back and
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look back on your life.
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Were you ready for the blessing
that you were praying for when
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you began to want and to
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invest in that need? I know that
many times when we want something,
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we want it yesterday, we want it asap.
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where it just starts to
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weigh on you. It's not happening.
Why isn't it happening?
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that emotion and that feeling.
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Are you truly ready for what you want,
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for what you're praying for right now?
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I get a lot of moms come to me
and we have this thing in common
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where it is not an easy pregnancy,
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and we're all praying for that. Now,
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the other thing that people
come to us for is business
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advice. Their business isn't booming.
It's not rocking. It's not blowing up yet.
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And that can be very frustrating
too. But you need to,
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are you a hundred percent ready to have
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that business blow up at that time,
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or should you be prepping
and preparing for the
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things that need to be
done when that business is
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ready to blow up?
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Yeah. Are you studying? Do
you have the systems in place?
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What have you received? The truth
is, if you had a thousand orders,
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we experienced this after
the Ultimate Fighter one,
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when we had thousands and thousands of
orders come through and we were not ready
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for it. We had no inventory
system on the backend.
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Anybody who's ever worked
at Shopify knows that
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if you have a certain shirt and you
have a hundred medium, a hundred large,
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a hundred xl and you run out,
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it should stop them from being able
to sell that size anymore. Well,
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we didn't have that in place at the time.
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And so when thousands and thousands
and thousands of orders started coming
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through many years ago,
all of a sudden, yeah,
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because the show wasn't Shopify obviously,
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but thousands of orders are coming
through and it's not stopping the orders.
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We're accepting every single order that
comes through. So at some point we had
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these thousands of orders leaned up
against the walls around the warehouse
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with the one product that they had and
the rest of the products that they didn't
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have.
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We realized at that moment that we needed
to put an inventory system in place.
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That's what happens. How many of you
don't have what you need in place,
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whether that be what you need in your
heart or what you need in your mind,
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the understanding,
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the ability to deal with the
pressure of whatever you might
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be asking for. Are you ready for
it? Are you truly ready for it?
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So there's the preparation season,
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and I think that's what we're hitting on.
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That's just one of the points.
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Just like seeds need time to grow.
You need the time to prepare,
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and God is molding you.
God is shaping you.
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You're getting better at
dealing with your customers.
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You're getting better at
understanding your business.
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So don't feel like you're getting
buried because it can feel like that.
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But just understand that the seeds
are being planted and you're going to
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be so ready for when this thing
blooms in your life finally.
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Happens for you. Ecclesiastes three,
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one says to everything there is a
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season a time for every
purpose. And I wouldn't,
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in my younger self, I'm not sure I
would've understood this as well,
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but when you realize that when I
lost my job as a police officer,
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I thought that my life was over.
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But I think I realized at that
moment that God was closing
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that door for me.
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And maybe because I originally
wanted to start my own business,
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and now I had done whatever
I was meant to do as a police
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officer, it was done.
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I did that and now it was time to move
on and I was in the next season of
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my life.
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And I think that that verse always
hits home with me because I think
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about the seasons of your life,
how there's certain parts. In fact,
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we were having a discussion
a few days ago about
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how these seasons of your
life, I think I believed,
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I think what was our disagreement about
that? I mean, it wasn't a disagreement,
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it was just that I believed
where you were at that time,
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you were supposed to be there
and you're supposed to be doing.
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That right?
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But I also said how if
you are on the wrong path,
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God is very quickly going to reel you
in with that fishing line and pull
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you in a different direction
if it's something that
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feels so right.
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And Proverbs 1921 tells us there are the
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plans in a person's heart,
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but it is the Lord's
purpose that prevails.
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So sometimes God is aligning your
path with his divine purpose,
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and that is, it's in the good
book. And sometimes we feel, yes,
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I'm supposed to be an actress or a model,
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or I'm supposed to start
this big T-shirt brand,
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or I'm supposed to start whatever
it is that you're so caught up
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in the concrete company. I
thought that was my purpose too.
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I'm a woman in a man's world.
Everybody's so proud of me.
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Television companies are coming to me.
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They want to do a reality show.
This must be, this must be my purpose,
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but
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how am I truly changing
the world? It wasn't.
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I believe now when I look back
on all these things that I felt
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were things that I was born to do,
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I think God reeled me
in and just put me on
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track and was trying to show
me what I was truly meant for.
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And I know building a business sometimes
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is, especially when
you're at the top and you,
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you're making millions of dollars and
you're taking care of everyone going on
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all these trips,
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and it feels like the right
thing because it's easy,
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but it may not necessarily be your.
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Purpose. Yeah. But don't
you think that, I mean,
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and we've talked about this before,
don't you think that I believe,
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and this is just me kind of looking
back on my life and even looking at your
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life,
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we talked about this specifically that I
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believe that you were in.
Did I say that three times?
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I believe. I'll say it one
more time, just for good about.
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You meant to be there and I'll talk. Well.
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No, because you learn things while
you were building your business.
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You had to go through those things. You
had to understand how to run a business.
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You were meant to do that. So you
could be sitting here right now,
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but telling people how to do.
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That. But in my life,
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I feel that that was not my purpose.
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But I do believe that God gave me
the lessons as a blessing because.
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Yeah, mean it's your
purpose at that moment.
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Though can bad. I don't
know if it, honestly,
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when I back, I think that.
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Was, did I just say I
believe five times in a row
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when you were taking your acting classes
and you were going through this acting
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part of your life, that is
what brought you, I mean,
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you've coached me on doing some of this,
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the speaking on the podcast.
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But God pulled back the curtain
and let me see the dark side of it,
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the addictions.
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Well, yeah. I mean the big part,
that's why you didn't go too far in it.
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Right? But he gave me the discernment,
thank God, because I was close to him.
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Of course,
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I wasn't as close to him in prayer
and relationship as I am today.
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But something big had to, I don't
know, had to happen in my life.
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I don't want to say that I don't
know, because I'm very, very clear.
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I haven't missed a day of prayer, morning
or night or including my kids, ever,
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ever, ever, ever since the bombshell.
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But I did have the discernment,
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thank God to not follow
the people that were on a
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wrong path of addiction
or just getting so lost in
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just, there was a lot of vanity.
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People were changing their
bodies, cosmetic surgery,
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breast augmentation, which now
we know people are getting so,
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so sick from these things that
they're doing to their body.
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But God sent me, even
my agent, he said, no,
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you don't want to do the augmentation.
You are perfect the way you are.
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And I believe that yes,
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God was talking through him because
everybody else around me was
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changing themselves,
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and I was trying to find different
ways to make myself look good,
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but not go under the
knife and risk my life.
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And now I see that people
that did those things
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are getting really.
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Sick. So don't you think, I mean,
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thinking about why you had started your
first company, why you were enacting,
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I see all those pieces in you,
bringing you to this moment right here,
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right now.
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You sitting in this chair on this
podcast touching people's lives.
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You would not have that voice
to be able to speak to those
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things if you hadn't gone through that.
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So I believe God put you in that
purpose at that moment and then said,
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okay, that season is over and now it's
time to move to How do you not see that?
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I don't feel like.
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That. I do see that. I mean,
I see it in myself, my own.
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I feel the lesson.
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Was a police officer at the time.
I needed to be a police officer,
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and then it was time to move
on. And then Tapout was.
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But even with, I have
police officer friends,
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and there's a very dark side to that too.
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There's a lot of cheating.
There's a dark side.
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There's purpose that's not across
the board's a good and a bad side to
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everything, but I don't.
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Maybe those guys are
supposed to be there. I mean,
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how do you know there's not guys?
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I think this is a very complicated
thing that's way above our
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pay scale. But God puts,
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I feel like this whole world,
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as much as it seems like it's
chaos and it's out of control,
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that it's all or a lot of
it ways is running in a.
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Certain way, a lot of it
is planned for your story.
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I do believe that many things in
my life were planned for my story,
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and I like to look at
everything as a gift.
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But if I look back and I
was still in that thing,
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would I be a hundred percent happy?
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I feel like we are free to make
the right or the wrong decision.
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We have that discernment to do that.
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We can go into something
that is pleasing our
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flesh. But I feel like when you
really step back and you look at it,
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if I look at it today,
whereas before I was like,
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I want to do what makes my heart happy.
I want to do what I'm passionate about.
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Do what makes you happy. Do
what makes your heart be,
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that's kind of my language
at that time. But now,
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how am I honoring God every day?
Is this honoring God, really?
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Am I changing people's lives
in a way where they're,
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I guess doing their inventory of their
life and saying, am I on the right path?
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I think we are looking at
things in the same way.
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But where I am today now,
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I could honestly say I
was doing things because
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I had that as a cop. There's
a rush. You feel like a hero.
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You feel like you're invincible,
but you are. Are you honoring You?
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But you're saving people's
lives? Nobody's invincible.
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I think, well, of course not. But
those guardians, those guys in blue,
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the ones that run into the fire when
everybody's running out or for firemen,
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but running into the gunfire when
everybody else is running out,
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maybe they're there to keep
you alive so that you can live
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on, to do your purpose, to live on,
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to be at the right place that
you're supposed to be in,
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because you might not have survived
certain situations if those guys weren't
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there. Or for other people that, not
necessarily us, but I mean, I know I wish.
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They came in time when my mom got robbed.
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I really wish they didn't take
a half an hour. But anyway.
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But I mean,
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there's guys out there that have saved
people's lives over and over and over and
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over again. Thousands and thousands of
these situations every year. Yeah. Oh,
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absolutely. So you have to
give credit where credit's due.
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And I think that a lot of those things
are all playing out. And in the same way,
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were.
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You in a hundred percent good place
when you were in that line of work?
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Were you a hundred
percent in a good place?
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Well, could you.
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Look back and say, I'm not talking
about someone else's purpose.
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Someone else could look
back and say, listen,
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I really am saving lives every day.
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I feel closer to God than
I've ever felt in my life.
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And when I have that talk with
God, this is where I'm meant to be.
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I am meant to be a firefighter,
or I'm meant to be a marine,
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or whatever it is. I am doing
this for the greater good.
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I'm not just doing this because it makes
me feel good and my flesh feel good.
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I think that's the only difference that
I'm trying to point out is were you
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in a good place? Was
it making you do truly.
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Just like you weren't in the best of
place was when you were building your
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company or when you were acting,
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but I still feel like you were in the
right place that you were supposed to be
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in. You were learning the things
that you were supposed to learn.
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And I don't know how I affected lives.
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I told you about the baby
that I found this triple roll.
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There's kids listening
and well, yeah, the baby,
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the triple rollover and the baby's
car seat gets thrown from the
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car and the baby's found.
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I find the baby still in the car
seat without a scratch on them.
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And who knows what that baby, that
baby might've turned out to change,
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be saving lives in
Africa. Who knows. Knows.
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What a hundred percent.
I totally believe that,
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but I believe that. But do you feel,
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I feel like a part of me, and
I'm just going to be honest here,
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because things in your life that
you're exposed to changes people.
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I feel like you lost a bit of
innocence because you saw a lot of dark
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things.
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And when you see the truth is
you can watch something and
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you're not bothered by it. But
I don't even want to see that.
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I don't want to see
someone lose their life.
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I don't want to see that stuff
because it's not meant to
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it. I don't want to expose, this.
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Is way off subject, expose.
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Myself. But don't you understand, feel,
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when I am in pain or someone
around you is in pain,
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I feel like you have less of a,
just because you've seen bloody,
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gory, scary things.
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Like when the kids get hurt and
I'm like, you're fine. Let's go.
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Yeah. Or something.
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And it's almost don't necessarily.
00:20:38
Do, that's part partly haunting
and scary. I'm like, yeah,
00:20:42
I'm really not feeling well.
00:20:45
And I feel there was when
I was really, really sick,
00:20:49
and I would just ignore
it to the point where
00:20:54
I was dealing with something so
bad. Or even after the C-section,
00:20:59
you're like, it's just whatever.
She's got these wounds all over.
00:21:04
She's fine. She's fine.
00:21:06
I don't think I ever talked to you like
that. But the one thing that, I mean,
00:21:11
I think men overall lose their
00:21:15
innocence and they're
meant to because yes,
00:21:18
because they are meant to be the
people that do that so that they can
00:21:23
protect the other people in their
lives. They have an understanding.
00:21:28
It's like when we walk into a room while
you're admiring the cute flowers on the
00:21:32
wall and.
00:21:33
Oh no, I notice every, I'm a different.
00:21:36
Scene. I'm looking for exits. And no.
00:21:38
I am like that.
00:21:39
Too. How I'm going to kill
everybody in the room.
00:21:41
If I have. No, I wouldn't think
about that. But I'm very hyper,
00:21:45
I think once I've been in
an armed robbery and I've
00:21:49
been in a robbery in another
armed, how does this happen?
00:21:55
I've been in a shoot up in
a restaurant, armed robbery.
00:21:57
So I think the trauma from that,
00:22:02
plus my mom getting robbed at
gunpoint, the trauma from that,
00:22:06
whenever I go into a store,
I'm always looking around me.
00:22:10
I understand what you're talking about.
00:22:11
Most. But in the same way,
00:22:12
remember when we were driving down the
freeway and that motorcycle drove by us
00:22:15
and I said, that guy is going to
die. Okay? And five minutes later,
00:22:20
he had crashed and was all over
the pavement. And I jumped out to,
00:22:25
there's kids listening. I know, but
I'm not saying anything, Gloria.
00:22:27
I'm just saying I jumped
out to save his life.
00:22:30
And who was the first person out of the
car to go save this guy's life? I mean,
00:22:33
those are the things that men.
00:22:35
Get prepared for. There
was a lot of people,
00:22:38
there was like five people out there. Yes.
00:22:41
I was the first person out of the car.
Nobody was out before I was, there.
00:22:43
Was five guys on.
00:22:44
The side of the road. No, but
nobody got to him before me, I.
00:22:47
Think because they were.
00:22:48
Was the first people were
standing around doing nothing.
00:22:51
And I'm down to that guy, talking to him,
00:22:55
telling him he's going to be okay, giving
him some hope. And I, till this day,
00:22:59
Don.
00:22:59
Hope he's okay,
00:23:00
which I think is important because I think
it's hard because a lot of people are
00:23:04
scared because of the lawsuits.
You touched him, and this happened,
00:23:08
and that happened.
00:23:09
Most of the time they say don't touch
someone when they're in a bad s.
00:23:14
Situation. And that's exactly what
I was telling him, not to move,
00:23:16
telling the other people not to touch him.
00:23:18
Somebody wanted to take his helmet
off. I was like, don't touch him. No,
00:23:21
you can't. And those are
the things that, because.
00:23:23
You could, without knowing, do
more harm than good, I think is.
00:23:27
What he's trying for. Sure.
00:23:27
Those are the places that
I believe is not a mistake.
00:23:30
It's not a mistake that we're in that
place, that we've learned these skills,
00:23:34
that we are able to do these things,
00:23:35
and I still don't know where it's
going to save us down the road.
00:23:38
I know you get mad sometimes watching
police videos or something and just
00:23:43
trying to understand. Because if you
don't know that, that can happen.
00:23:47
If you don't know a situation,
if you don't know how that.
00:23:50
Can play out.
00:23:51
You're not ready for.
00:23:51
It. I just don't want
you to get lost in it.
00:23:54
Some people get a rush from
seeing things that they shouldn't
00:23:59
really be watching, and I
don't think you get that,
00:24:02
but I know there's a lot of people that
get rushes from seeing things that are
00:24:07
not meant to be.
00:24:08
Seen. Now we're way off subject, but what
about, so let's just go back to this.
00:24:12
What about the people?
00:24:13
Because it doesn't always play
out the way it's supposed to.
00:24:16
Maybe there's a lesson
to be learned. I mean,
00:24:18
think about the lottery winners
who are probably, oh man,
00:24:22
if I could just win this. They're buying
a lottery ticket for a reason, right?
00:24:25
And then all of a sudden they need.
00:24:26
That.
00:24:27
You just won $30 million.
And they're like, yeah,
00:24:30
I won $30 million and
they got what they wanted,
00:24:34
and then they go and lose $30
million over the next few years.
00:24:37
I think because they're spending it on
their fleshly wants rather than what they
00:24:42
were called.
00:24:43
To do and they weren't ready
for it. I mean, the truth is,
00:24:46
if they would've been working
on themselves and reading and
00:24:51
understanding finance and understanding
how to invest their money,
00:24:56
imagine a guy who is
starting to buy stocks.
00:24:59
Let's just say he's buying some stocks
and he's figuring out how to invest his
00:25:03
money and he's putting his
money in the right places,
00:25:06
and then all of a sudden that
guy wins $30 million. Wow,
00:25:10
that guy's been working on himself for
10 years now. He's won $30 million,
00:25:14
and I promise you that $30
million go to good news.
00:25:17
Compound. He knows how to make more of it,
00:25:20
and then also put part of it into great
00:25:25
causes and help a lot of people out.
00:25:28
I feel like the one thing
that I always pray for is
00:25:32
when we are blessed,
00:25:34
how can we help other
people with our blessings?
00:25:38
How can I be a blessing to others?
00:25:40
And I feel when you start to
change your words and you start to
00:25:45
put it out there that you are not
just asking for this blessing for
00:25:50
yourself, but once you become a blessing,
00:25:53
once you have the platform, how
do you become a blessing to other.
00:25:57
People? Yes.
00:25:58
I think sometimes even things
could happen to you so that
00:26:03
it helps you grow up faster.
00:26:05
Imagine the person who's not ready
for a child but gets a child.
00:26:09
We had a recent post on
our Instagram page on our
00:26:14
pretty punk Instagram page that went to,
00:26:17
it's like at 7 million now because
00:26:21
this couple had just had a
child. And six months later,
00:26:26
she finds out she's pregnant again.
00:26:28
And the guy kind of sigh
about it a little bit,
00:26:31
and people are sitting on both sides
of the fence about his reaction.
00:26:35
But I think overall is was that
given to them for a reason?
00:26:41
We put at the top, not always our timing.
00:26:46
And a lot of people pushed back on that
saying, God had nothing to do with this.
00:26:51
And I argue with that.
00:26:53
I say that maybe they were given
this challenge for a reason.
00:26:57
Maybe it was supposed to play out in their
life for a reason. Maybe they needed,
00:27:02
maybe they're meant to do something in
their older life and they wanted to have
00:27:07
these two kids close together,
and so they became great friends.
00:27:09
Maybe children are supposed to
support themselves later in life.
00:27:13
I don't know what it is,
00:27:15
but I think there's a reason there's
there for everything that's happening
00:27:20
right now.
00:27:20
A hundred percent.
00:27:23
It's funny because I see our
family in that where my mom,
00:27:29
I mean, some people can
say it's a mistake, but my
mom said it was a surprise.
00:27:34
She was not expecting me, and
she always wanted a daughter.
00:27:38
And because it was in a
time where she had really,
00:27:41
really high risk pregnancies
and she had really
00:27:46
hard pregnancies,
00:27:47
the doctors actually told
her that she needed to
00:27:53
not have this baby. And she was just
very outspoken. She said, no way.
00:27:58
No way. I'm having this baby.
It's going to be a girl,
00:28:01
and God needs me to have this baby.
00:28:04
So maybe it puts stress on the
marriage. I don't really, yeah.
00:28:08
There was a big age gap
between you and your brother.
00:28:10
Yeah. But she just, you were.
00:28:12
Surprised.
00:28:13
Yeah, I was a surprised. And she
was just so adamant about it.
00:28:17
And when she became friends with
the doctor and he came running
00:28:22
in when it was the ultrasound, he said,
00:28:25
how did you know were going to have a
daughter? And this was later, of course,
00:28:30
but she said, God told me. I knew
it was going to be a little girl.
00:28:34
And here I am,
00:28:35
and here I am in my life where
I had a very hard time getting
00:28:40
pregnant.
00:28:41
And this is why a lot of mothers
come to me about this infertility or
00:28:45
problems because they understand
that they can lean into me.
00:28:49
And it was hard. It was
hard on my marriage.
00:28:53
It was hard on me.
00:28:55
It just something that I learned to,
00:28:58
I guess I really focused on great
success like you. And I was like, oh,
00:29:03
I'm just going to focus all this energy
into being great and grinding and being
00:29:08
successful.
And all of a sudden we became pregnant.
00:29:12
And then on Daniel's second birthday,
he's asking for a baby sister.
00:29:17
And then I get pregnant again. Again.
00:29:19
And when I sit back and I
look at this movie of my
00:29:24
life, I think,
00:29:26
isn't it amazing how God's timing works?
00:29:30
How my mom,
00:29:33
if she would've listened to
the professionals around her,
00:29:37
I wouldn't be here now. Number two,
00:29:39
if I would've fallen into
the negativity totally
00:29:44
about not having these
babies while I had them.
00:29:48
And I can't tell you that it
was more perfect because of
00:29:53
destiny. My second baby,
I was sick after Daniel,
00:29:57
and I didn't know what this
thing was hiding inside of me.
00:30:00
And we didn't find it until after Destiny.
00:30:02
So these Babies Timing actually saved my
00:30:07
life because this could
have been happening.
00:30:10
The doctor said it could have taken
10 years to get to this point.
00:30:14
And a lot of us, I mean,
00:30:16
the goal is when you have
the C word or anything else,
00:30:20
you want to outlive any kind of disease.
00:30:23
So when you've had a long, long,
long, long, long, long, long life,
00:30:28
you have some things in your body and
hopefully you don't have to deal with it
00:30:33
and it doesn't make you ill.
00:30:34
But we figured out very quickly after
she was born that this thing was
00:30:39
happening and they saved
my life. How beautiful.
00:30:44
God's timing is perfect.
00:30:45
Yeah, it's perfect.
00:30:47
Just to think back of all the
tears and the broken hearts,
00:30:51
if I would've just said,
00:30:53
let it be his timing
and just trust in him.
00:30:57
And I think that's what we got to do.
00:30:59
We got to have that patience
and that faith that what we are
00:31:04
asking for is going to come about,
but we also got to prepare ourselves.
00:31:08
I think that's a lot of the
thing. That's the one thing.
00:31:10
And I think the whole reason for this
podcast is that everybody who's on here
00:31:15
needs to look at themselves and go,
00:31:18
are you prepared for what you're
asking for? And if you're not,
00:31:22
what do you need to do in your own
life to prepare yourself so that you're
00:31:27
ready for these blessings to come to you?
Because if you're not ready for them,
00:31:32
I mean,
00:31:32
I think there's a certain amount of free
will there or something's going on that
00:31:37
allows us to mess that up.
00:31:40
And we may mess it up and may
not get another chance at it,
00:31:44
or maybe we'll get another chance
at it. But we have to be prepared.
00:31:47
And the best thing to do is just be
prepared while we're asking for it.
00:31:51
Before we get it right. And
building your trust in God,
00:31:54
Palm 37 7 encourages us
00:31:59
to be still before the Lord and
wait patiently for him waiting
00:32:04
builds that trust in God.
00:32:06
When you rely on him completely,
00:32:10
that's when we're ready to receive
the blessings. And while we're still,
00:32:15
that's when the work is
done. The lessons are coming,
00:32:17
all the things that you need, so you are
completely ready when it comes along.
00:32:23
So guys,
00:32:24
if you guys are not ready for the
blessings that you're asking for you guys,
00:32:29
get prepared, prepare yourselves.
00:32:32
Start looking inward instead of always
outward for those blessings to come to
00:32:36
you. Prepare yourself first.
00:32:39
And we believe that those
blessings would come your.
00:32:42
Way. Yeah, sometimes it comes in
the blink of an eye. It really does.
00:32:45
But other times it may take many years.
00:32:48
And that's okay because it is building
your character, your resilience,
00:32:52
and all the lessons
that you need to learn.
00:32:55
And even sometimes when you've gone
through the most tragic or hard
00:32:59
obstacles in your life and you're
trying to make sense of it all,
00:33:03
Daniel was crying the other night
because he never got to meet my brother.
00:33:07
And he's just such a beautiful soul.
00:33:10
And he was crying because he wanted
him to play Legos with him like he
00:33:15
played with me.
00:33:16
I always talk about my
family that has passed,
00:33:20
and I said,
00:33:22
sometimes we just will
never truly understand.
00:33:28
But I do know that he doesn't want
you to be sad and he wants you to
00:33:33
have his legacy go on because
he was an amazing young man,
00:33:38
much like yourself, and.
00:33:40
That's why you were giving
a little sister Daniel,
00:33:42
somebody to play with
somebody close to you.
00:33:44
And we were just having that conversation
right before we started this podcast.
00:33:47
Yes.
00:33:48
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00:33:50
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